Ladies Your Body Is A Precious Gem

Two young ladies arrived at a meeting wearing clothes which were very revealing.
The chairman took a good look at them and made them sit down. He looked at them straight in the eyes and said; “ladies, everything that God made valuable in this world is well covered and hardly to see, find or get.
1. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected.
2. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell.
3. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers of rock and to get them, you have to work hard & dig deep down to get them.
He looked at them with serious eyes and said; “Your body is sacred & unique” You are far more precious than gold, diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”
So he added that, if you keep your treasured mineral just like gold, diamond and pearls, deeply covered up, a reputable mining organization with the requisite machinery will fly down and conduct years of extensive exploration.
First, they will contact your government (family), sign professional contracts (wedding) and mine you professionally (legal marriage).
But if you leave your precious minerals uncovered on the surface of the earth, you will attract a lot of illegal miners to come and mine you illegally. Everybody will just pick up their crude instruments and just have a dig on you.
Keep your bodies deeply covered so that you only invite professional miners to chase you.
SHARE THIS and let us all encourage our wives, friends and daughters to dress well and decent!

Wealth Is Not Measured Monetary

No matter how rich you are or your status, there’s a lack in you that is a blessing in the other man’s life. Check out this simple story
A rich dad took his son on a trip, he wanted to show him how poor people live. They spent time on the farm of a poor family. On the way home,
Dad asked, “Did you see how poor they are? What did you learn?”.
Son said,
We have one dog,
They have four,
We have a pool,
They have rivers,
We have chandeliers as light at night,
They have stars,
We buy our food,
They grow theirs,
We have walls to protect us,
They have friends,
We don’t know our neighbour,
They know everyone in the village,
We eat frozen fruits,
They pluck theirs fresh from the fruit trees,
We pay to see animals abused in cages they call zoos,
They play with these animals everyday, freely roaming in the wild.
DAD, did you see how that boy my age could milk a cow effortlessly, I don’t have a clue how to do that.
The son continued, “Thanks dad for showing me how poor we are.”
MORAL LESSON: It’s not money that make us rich, BUT it’s the simplicity and satisfaction of knowing that God created us for His pleasure.

Don’t Be Quick To Judge

A lovely little girl was holding two apples with both hands.
Her mum came in and softly asked her little daughter with a smile: my sweetie, could you give your mum one of your two apples?
The girl looked up at her mum for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other.
The mum felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her disappointment.
Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mum,and said: mummy, here you are. This is the sweeter one.

No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgement. Give others the privilege to explain themselves. What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others.
Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.
One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… One day our children will see our pictures and ask ‘Who are these people?’ And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: ‘IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH’.

Kings And Queens

ORDINARY KINGS AND QUEENS
I am unstoppable!
They broke our wings to prevent us from flying to our destiny
They had no idea we are like termites –
Until we remove our wings we do not become kings and queens to start a new colony

The family can be a rough place to survive. The street can be a harsh place to survive. The marketplace can be a tough place to survive. The corporate world can be a difficult place to survive. The corridors of politics can be a brutal place to survive. There is no where you turn to in life that is not rough.
The secret of succeeding in rough and tough places is ensuring that when “they” take something from you, you immediately use what you have left to start a new venture, or dream a new dream. There is always another battle to fight, and losing today does not mean you have lost forever.
That is the wisdom that termites showed us. Every time the termite loses its wings, it becomes obvious that it cannot fly anymore. But termites don’t sit down and cry about the loss of their wings. They crawl into a hole, and there begin to raise a new generation of termites.
Look at Joseph. His family disbelieved his dreams. It didn’t stop him from dreaming. His brothers took away his garment. It didn’t stop him from traveling to Egypt. Portipher’s wife took away his dignity. It didn’t stop him from acting dignified. Portipher took away his freedom and sent him to jail. But you can only jail a man’s body not his spirit. Joseph allowed his spirit to soar and never stopped hoping like most of us would. The people he helped forgot to keep their words, but Joseph will keep his integrity. Imagine a slave and a condemned prisoner becoming a prime minister. He was unstoppable and so are you – no matter what life and people may have taken from you.
 And his brethren said to him, Shalt thou indeed reign over us? or shalt thou indeed have dominion over us? And they hated him yet the more for his dreams, and for his words. And he dreamed yet another dream, and told it his brethren, and said, Behold, I have dreamed a dream more; and, behold, the sun and the moon and the eleven stars made obeisance to me. Gen 37:8-9 (KJV)
This is not the end of you. You are coming back stronger! Yes, you may look ordinary like the termite, but there is a king or a queen inside. Unveil him/her.
© UNSTOPPABLE!
DeepWords Devotional 2015

Make this week count!

The Bathtub Test

Did you ever know that there is actually a test that can be given to you in a bathtub to see how sane you are?

During a recent visit to a mental asylum, I asked the director, “How do you determine whether or not a patient should be institutionalized?”

“Well”, said the director, “We fill up a bathtub, then we offer a teaspoon, a tea cup and a bucket to the patient and ask them to empty the bathtub.”

“Oh, I see, so a normal person would use the bucket because it’s bigger than the spoon or tea cup” I replied.

“No”, said the director, “a normal person would pull the plug. Do you want a bed near the window?”

Hope you enjoyed the smile and the laugh. Spread the joy with others today!!

5 PACKING TIPS FOR THE ULTIMATE ROAD TRIP ADVENTURE CALLS. PACK LIGHT

1. ONLY TAKE THE ESSENTIALS
It’s all too easy to pack things you just don’t need. Think back to your last couple of trips; which items never once left your bag between packing and arriving back home? Remember that mix-and-match layers offer flexibility—and don’t forget to pack for the weather.

2. USE SPACE WISELY
Packing a spare pair of shoes? Then use them to store your socks and underwear. You might even have space to cram a watch or belt in there too.

3. ROLL YOUR CLOTHES
Get out of the folding habit. Rolling clothes rather than folding stops them creasing and creates more space. Try wrapping your gear around a central core object, such as a pouch or wash bag. And try to roll everything as tightly as possible to stop things from wrinkling.

4. DITCH THE CASE
Hard rigid cases are a no-no. A soft bag will slot easily into your trunk and mold around other items without eating up precious space.

5. TRY NOT TO FILL YOUR BAG
It’s tempting to use every spare inch of your packing space, but leave a little space for that ‘I ❤ Chicago’ tee and a few bottles of the local brew; you’ll be glad you did on the return leg.

cr: Timberland

Learn to Respond

When people throw you stones it’s because you are a good tree full of fruits, they see a lot of harvest in you, don’t go down to their level by throwing them back the stones, but throw them your FRUITS so that the seeds of yourseif may inspire them to change their ways…

Jesus Makes Our Life Complete

Interesting read !

Mathematicians say LIFE is like a line segment drawn from point B to point D.
What is point B to point D?
It’s from point of Birth(B) to point of Death(D).
So life starts from the moment we are Born(B) until the day we Die(D).

But in the middle of B(Birth) and D(Death) is a mysterious C.
What is C then?It is CHRIST.
If we put Christ in the middle of our life(Birth—>Christ—>Death) our life will not end at D but extend to E.
What is E? It’s Eternal Life.
So all those who put Christ in the middle of their life hav Eternal life after Death
But those who do not put Christ in the middle of their life don’t have Eternal life after Death but they hav F(Fire).

Definition of Life For Christians:

B——->C——->D——->E
Birth Christ Death Eternal Life

Definition Of Life For Unbelievers:

B——->D——->F
Birth Death Fire

Any one that avoids C must surely lose E

For references, please check the reff:

1John 5:11-13 Acts 4:12 John 5:34 Rom 10:1 John 3:16&17 Rev 20:11-15

There’s always blessing in sharing….so share with others

Always Wear Undewear In Public

A good story can always brighten up your day…..

Always wear underwear in public, especially when working under your vehicle. A story was posted in a newspaper a while ago of a Brisbane couple who drove their car to a shopping center, only to have their car break down in the parking lot. The man told his wife to carry on with her shopping while he fixed the car.

The wife returned a while later to see a small group of people gathered near her car. On closer inspection, she saw a pair of hairy legs protruding from under the chassis.

Unfortunately, although the man was in shorts, his lack of underpants turned his private parts into glaringly public ones. Unable to stand the embarrassment, she dutifully stepped forward and quickly put her hand up his shorts, and tucked everything back into place.

On regaining her feet, she looked across the roof of he car and found herself staring at her husband who was standing idly by watching.

The car mechanic however, had to have three stitches in his forehead.

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WHY WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL . . . . . . (Tribute To My Mother)

Bst mum ever

This is a dedication to my mother, it’s a combination of what most mothers pass through and do everyday just to keep the home running. I have never remember when I don’t have what I need, she is always up early and sleep late. Here is a short story and is a combination of what most mothers pass through.

Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, “I’m tired, and it’s getting late. I think I’ll go to bed.”

She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next days. Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.

She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.

She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer.

She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to dry. She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.

She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick list for the groceries. She put both near her bag. Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails.

Dad called out, “I thought you were going to bed.”

“I’m on my way,” she said. She put some water into the dog’s dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with one of the kids who was still up doing homework.

In her own room, mom set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added 3 things to her 6-most-important-things-to-do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. “I’m going to bed.” And he did…without another thought. Yet she wakes up early in the morning to set breakfast and wake the children and make them ready for school and she herself get ready for work, go to work and go back home to repeat the above circle.

Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer…? ‘CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL……. and they can’t die sooner, they still have things to do!!! (my mother live longer than my father {missing them both})

You are a phenomenal women…….God Bless ALL WOMEN!

Two Perspections To The Same Situation

Two Women chatting in the office.

Woman 1: I had a fine evening, how was yours?

Woman 2: It was a disaster.. My husband came home, ate his dinner in 3 minutes and fell asleep. How was yours ?

Woman 1: Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out for a romantic dinner. After dinner we walked for an hour.. When we came home he lit the candles around the house. It was like a fairy tale!

At the same time, their husbands are talking at work.

Husband 1: How was your evening ?

Husband 2: Great… I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. What about you ?

Husband 1: It was horrible. I came home, there’s no dinner, they cut the electricity because I forgot to pay the bill; so I took her out for dinner which was so expensive that i didn’t had money left for a cab. We walked home which took an hour and when we got home I remembered there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house!!

Moral: Presentation does matter… No matter what the reality is.

Read and Reflect

Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family.
The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion’s guest room.
Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement.
As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a hole in the wall and repaired it.
When the younger angel asked why, the older angel replied,
“Things aren’t always what they seem”
The next night the pair came to rest at the house of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his wife.
After sharing what little food they had the couple let the angels sleep in their bed where they could have a good night’s rest.
When the sun came up the next morning the angels found the farmer and his wife in tears. Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole income, lay dead in the field.
The younger angel was infuriated and asked the older angel how could
you have let this happen?
The first man had everything, yet you helped him, she accused.
The second family had little but was willing to share everything, and you let the cow die..
“Things aren’t always what they seem,” the older angel replied.
“When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the wall.
Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the wall so he wouldn’t find it.”
“Then last night as we slept in the farmers bed, the angel of death came for his wife I gave him the cow instead.
Things aren’t always what they seem.”
Sometimes that is exactly what happens when things don’t turn out the way they should. If you have faith, you just need to trust that every out come is always to your advantage. You just might not know it until some time later…
Some people come into our lives and quickly go..
Some people become friends and stay awhile…
leaving beautiful footprints on our hearts… and we are never quite the same because we have made a good friend!!

Quite Scolding

The late John Wanamaker was the king of retail.

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One day while walking through his store in Philadelphia, he noticed a customer waiting for assistance. No one was paying the least bit of attention to her.

Looking around, he saw his salespeople huddled together laughing and talking among themselves. Without a word, he quietly slipped behind the counter and waited on the customer himself. Then he quietly handed the purchase to the salespeople to be wrapped as he went on his way.

Later, Wanamaker was quoted as saying, “I learned thirty years ago that it is foolish to scold. I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence.”

Credit: Madam Sabi’s Blog

Don’t Let Others Hold You Down

Don’t let someone else’s dishonesty ruin your character. Your reputation doesn’t just depend on you, but on the people you call your friends. Everything they do will always reflect in the way you are perceived. You can’t move in the company of people with defective ideals expecting to be branded differently.

You are the company you keep and that company will ultimately determine how far you will go in life…….ever wondered why you have not made significant progress with your life, ever wondered why your life is not moving in the direction of your dreams. A lot of folks are where they are today because the failed to break away from certain kind people, there’s no point holding on to people who aren’t making your life better; there’s no point holding on to people who aren’t moving your life forward….Your circle has the power to make you or break you; you can’t move in the company of people doing nothing with their lives expecting to be different; you can’t move in the company of people sitting down on their dreams and expect to do differently. The people around you can influence your life more than you know….mindsets are contagious…. You will eventually become like the company you keep. Its time to subtract from your life, those people that don’t make you better… You are not “selfish” for deciding to cut some people off; There comes a point when you have to stop being UNFAIR to yourself, Sometimes subtraction is the only way for things to add up.

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Life is About Patience

vividly Recall the story of a man who became popular for engaging in money rituals just to buy the 80’s edition of the Honda Prelude. You wouldn’t buy that car for 50k today. Some other guy brutally murdered his brother ( whom their father gave cash 2 travel 4 the purpose of re- stocking their warehouse), just’cos he wanted to acquire the rave of the moment – Pathfinder Jeep. That same vehicle is now better described as a coffin. I Remember as a kid, my whole street gathered to watch a truck deliver a very large satellite dish to my neighbour’s house. Today a dish one tenth that size delivers 5 times the value and is in almost every student’s room. What about the Volkswagen Santana, Mercedes Benz V boot, 505Evolution, Toyota Crown, all overtaken by latest models of Camry, Honda, Bugatti, Bentley, X6, Acura and Infinity…. Vanity! Some ladies left their true loves cos some rich guy then persuaded them with a Benz 190, which turned out to be the only car they ever owned till date. They found out too late that true love is invaluable. A friend declared drinks because he launched the Nokia Communicator for over hundred grand in 2002. Today that phone would embarrass the owner and is a joke compared to the low cost and everyday phones. What about the MTN SIM card that many people went extra miles before they bought for over 30k, today you will not buy it at N100 bcos all networks are begging people to even take it for free. People are still making the most horrific sacrifices over ‘vanity’ and make enemies over worthless material things. What can I Say? Look back at that one thing you want to kill or die for today and see what becomes of it tomorrow. There is absolutely nothing you can’t achieve. All you need is a little time and PATIENCE and you would thank God without regrets. There is actually nothing in this world that is worth going to Hell for, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!Meditate on this.

MARRIAGE COUNSE

MARRIAGE COUNSEL…

1. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

2. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

3. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

4. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

5. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

6. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Bianca rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Enlightenment

Ignorance is the deadliest disease they say, but most people take it to be a popular nonsense. But in reality interplay, its one such true word and explicit phenomena. We engage in doctrines, practices, traditions and rituals without a proper understanding of there supernatural implications to our souls. Adherants or disciples of such dieties use cunning ways and methods to mask the actual ceremony or worship. Its a pitty that we allow ourselves to be played by people that are of no value. It is imperative to that we stay on our guard, support our intellect and question any strange phenomena we deem un-understandable to us and seek enlightenment, for knowledge guides our conception and acceptance of the unknown nonsense been popularized. We shouldn’t allow ourselves to fall fo an unjust course, we should be agents of change and affect our society both physically and intellectually, for its our duty to protect, promot and encourage truth. Pama linus

The Crow,The Swan, The Parrot and The Peacock

A crow lived in the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan. “This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so black. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.” He expressed his thoughts to  swan.

“Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.”

The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, “I lived a very happy life—until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors.”

The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shoo me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”

The peacock replied, “I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage.So for past few days I have been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam everywhere.”

This story summarizes our problem in this world: The crow thinks the swan is happy, the swan thinks the parrot is happy, the parrot thinks the peacock is happy, and the peacock thinks the crow is happy.

Midas’ Greed

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

We all know the story of the greedy king named Midas.

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He had a lot of gold and the more he had the more he wanted. He stored all the gold in his vaults and used to spend time every day counting it. One day while he was counting a stranger came from nowhere and said he would grant him a wish. The king was delighted and said, I would like everything I touch to turn to gold.

The stranger asked the king, Are you sure? The king replied, Yes. So the stranger said, Starting tomorrow morning with the sun rays you will get the golden touch. The king thought he must be dreaming, this couldn’t be true. But the next day when he woke up, he touched the bed, his clothes, and everything turned to gold. He looked out of the window and saw his daughter playing in the…

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God’s Perfection.

God’s Perfection

Nature is God’s perfection.
It does not need to be improved.
We do not know all the checks and balances so tampering blindly leads to our own destruction.

Let your life unfold within its own natural rhythms. It, too, is part of perfection Divine. Breathe out, breathe in sometimes ahead, other times behind today right, tomorrow wrong good decisions, bad ones both teach us if we care to learn.

Life is meant to be lived simply one day at a time flow with the rhythms of life and discover that you are one with all perfection. Life is good. Yes, it is.

Credit: Pat

Irresistible Qualities Of A WOMAN…

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

Every man has certain qualities they find irresistible in a woman. Whether you are an unmarried man in need of discovering what you should look for in a wife, or a unmarried woman curious to know what qualities a responsible man is searching for…this is for you!

1. A woman who values honor.
A woman who fearlessly honors others, values herself. To honor someone means to esteem them or show high respect. A woman who demonstrates this reveals her heart for people. Honoring up, down, and around is the rule to follow.

Honoring up means respecting those who are in authority over you, being able to accept their role and submit to their leadership. Honoring those below you includes those that look up to you, or work underneath you. Honoring those around you is respecting your friends, family, and colleagues. You know a woman who honors by the words she…

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The Story Of Three Travellers – An Hindu, A Jew And A Politician

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

An Hindu, a Jew and a Politician were travelling together  and their car broke down at night close to a farmer’s abode. They then decided to approach the farmer for a place to lay their heads till morning.

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On approaching the farmer, he said “well, I have two beds, but the third person would have to go and sleep in the barn. And then the Hindi volunteered  to sleep in the barn. Soon he came and said “sorry I can’t sleep in the barn because there is a cow there and the cow is our god and I can’t sleep with my god”.

“So, the Jew said I can go and sleep there because cow is not my god. But very soon, he came back and said “oh, I didnt know there is a pig there, a pig is an unclean animal to us. I can’t sleep with the pig.”

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Focusing on Matters Arising….

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

The doorway to a new year – 2015 is finally opened unto us with great opportunities and prospects beckoning.

I like to share a few simple questions that have helped me a lot to focus on what truly matters in the past; and I know will be just as valuable this year.

I hope these questions will be very helpful for you too during 2015.

1. Is this useful?

I have found that it is very easy to spend a lot of time on things that do not really matter much. To spend hours or days or even weeks on being angry at someone, replaying a mistake or failure in one’s mind or to dwell on something negative and feeling more and more like a victim.

You can waste a big chunk of a year on that.

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Thankfulness: Secret of Expansion

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.”G.K. Chesterton

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”
Robert Brault

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thanksgiving is an attitude of all times and season, yet one of the laziest things to do…..

So I thought it would be a good time to share a handful of my favorite tips for making thankfulness a daily part of life.

Because being thankful for what you have is one of the simplest and easiest ways to lift your mood. To give your motivation a jolt. And to live…

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MARRIAGE COUNSEL…

1. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

2. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

3. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

4. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

5. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

6. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Bianca rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Credit: Sammie Abah’s Blog

The Lion And The Cougar

A pointed fable is told about a young lion and a cougar.

Both thirsty, the animals arrived at their usual water hole at the same time. They immediately began to argue about who should satisfy their thirst first.

The argument became heated, and each decided he would rather die than give up the privilege of being first to quench his thirst. As they stubbornly confronted each other, their emotions turned to rage. Their cruel attacks on each other were suddenly interrupted. They both looked up.

Circling overhead was a flock of vultures waiting for the loser to fall. Quietly, the two beasts turned and walked away. The thought of being devoured was all they needed to end their quarrel.

2014 in review

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The Pregnant Deer Scenario

In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth to a baby. It finds a remote grass field nearby a river and slowly goes there thinking it would be safe. As she moves slowly, she gets labour pain.

At the same moment, dark clouds gather around that area and lightning starts a forest fire. Turning left, she sees a hunter who is aiming an arrow from a distance. As she tries to move towards right, she spots a hungry lion approaching towards her.

STOCHASTIC PROBABILITY THEORY
What can the pregnant deer do, as she is already under labour pain..?
What do you think will happen..?
Will the deer survive..?
Will it give birth to a fawn..?
Will the fawn survive..?

OR

Will everything be burnt by the forest fire…?
Can the deer go left..? No, the hunter’s arrow is pointing at her.
Can she go right…? No, the hungry male lion is approaching her.
Can she move up..? No, there the forest is on fire.
Can she move down..? No, that is where the fierce river is.

Answer: She does nothing. She just focuses on giving birth to a new LIFE..

The sequence of events that happens at that fraction of a second (moment) are as follows:

In a spur of MOMENT, a lightning strikes and blinds the eyes of the hunter…!
At that MOMENT, he releases the arrow missing and zipping past the deer…!
At that MOMENT, the arrow hits and injures the lion badly…!
At that MOMENT, it starts to rain heavily and puts out the forest fire…!
At that next MOMENT, the deer gives birth to a healthy fawn…!

In our life too, there are MOMENTS of CHOICE when we all have to deal with negative thoughts from all sides. Some thoughts are so powerful they overcome us and make us clueless.

Anything can happen in a MOMENT in this life. If you are religious, superstitious,atheist, agnostic or whatever, you can attribute this MOMENT to divine intervention, faith, sudden luck, serendipity,
coincidence, karma or a simple ‘I just don’t know’…!

The priority of the deer, in that given moment, was simply giving birth to a baby because LIFE IS PRECIOUS…!

In future, may you always be inspired to have a focused positive insight, oblivious of all imaginary, negative probabilities.

“LIFE is Flowing Like a River With Unexpected TURNS, May be GOOD,
May be BAD…Learn to enjoy Each Turn because these Turns… Never RE-TURN.”

The House’s Fire

A couple, whom we shall call John and Mary, had a nice home and two lovely children, a boy and a girl. John had a good job and had just been asked to go on a business trip to another city and would be gone for several days. It was decided that Mary needed an outing and would go along too. They hired a reliable woman to care for the children and made the trip, returning home a little earlier than they had planned.
As they drove into their home town feeling glad to be back, they noticed smoke, and they went off their usual route to see what it was. They found a home in flames. Mary said, “Oh well it isn’t our fire, let’s go home.”

But John drove closer and exclaimed, “That home belongs to Fred Jones who works at the plant. He wouldn’t be off work yet, maybe there is something we could do.” “It has nothing to do with us.” Protested Mary. “You have your good clothes on, let’s not get any closer.”

But John drove up and stopped and they were both horror stricken to see the whole house in flames. A woman on the lawn was in hysterics screaming, “The children! Get the children!” John grabbed her by the shoulder saying, “Get a hold of yourself and tell us where the children are!” “In the basement,” sobbed the woman, “down the hall and to the left.”

In spite of Mary’s protests John grabbed the water hose and soaked his clothes, put his wet handkerchief on his head and bolted for the basement which was full of smoke and scorching hot. He found the door and grabbed two children, holding one under each arm like the football player he was. As he left he could hear some more whimpering. He delivered the two badly frightened and nearly suffocated children into waiting arms and filled his lungs with fresh air and started back asking how many more children were down there. They told him two more and Mary grabbed his arm and screamed, “John! Don’t go back! It’s suicide! That house will cave in any second!”

But he shook her off and went back by feeling his way down the smoke filled hallway and into the room. It seemed an eternity before he found both children and started back. They were all three coughing and he stooped low to get what available air he could. As he stumbled up the endless steps the thought went through his mind that there was something strangely familiar about the little bodies clinging to him, and at last when they came out into the sunlight and fresh air, he found that he had just rescued his own children.

The baby-sitter had left them at this home while she did some shopping.

The Power of Our Words

Today before you think of saying an unkind word –
think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food –
think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband, wife, or friend –
think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion.

Today before you complain about life –
think of someone who left this life ahead of you.

Before you complain about your children –
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep –
think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive –
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job –
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another person –
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down –
put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around.

Life is a gift.

Live it.

Enjoy it.

Celebrate it.

Love it.

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Author Unknown

Education Does Not Mean Good Judgement

THere is a story about a man who sold hot dogs by the roadside. He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers . He was hard of hearing, so he never listened to the radio. His eyes were weak, so he never watched television. But enthusiastically, he sold lots of hot dogs. His sales and profit went up. He ordered more meat and got himself a bigger and a better stove.

As his business was growing, the son, who had recently graduated from college, joined his father. Then something strange happened. The son asked, “Dad, aren’t you aware of the great recession that is coming our way?” The father replied, “No, but tell me about it.” The son said, “The international situation is terrible. The domestic is even worse. We should be prepared for the coming bad time.”

The man thought that since his son had been to college, read the papers, and listened to the radio, he ought to know and his advice should not be taken lightly. So the next day, the father cut down his order for the meat and buns, took down the sign and was no longer enthusiastic.

Very soon, fewer and fewer people bothered to stop at his hot dog stand. And his sales started coming down rapidly. The father said to his son, “Son, you were right. We are in the middle of a recession. I am glad you warned me ahead of time.”

What is the moral of the story?
1. Many times we confuse intelligence with good judgment.
2. A person may have high intelligence but poor judgment.
3. Choose your advisers carefully and use your judgment.
4. A person can and will be successful with or without formal education if they have the 5 Cs:
-character
-commitment
-conviction
-courtesy
-courage
5. The tragedy is that there are many walking encyclopedias who are living failures.

Living in Optimism

We all face tough days or times. It’s a part of life.

But how you react, think and act during these tough times makes a big difference. With a helpful set of habits the outlook on life can change in a huge and remarkable way. I know from experience………..

So I’d like to simply share five of my favorite timeless tips on optimism. Fundamentals that the wise people that came before us have lived by for hundreds and thousands of years.

1. Remember: It is not too late to change your life.

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
Maria Robinson

It may feel like you have been on the same path and stuck in the same habits for so long that you are stuck permanently on your current route. It doesn’t have to be that way though. You may not be able to change your life in any way you want right now. But work with what you have where you are right now.

Make just a small change if that is what is possible. That small change and success will give you confidence and optimism and you can build upon that to make more and perhaps even bigger changes over the year.

2. Don’t make mountains out of molehills.

“If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you’ve got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience.”
Robert Fulghum

It is easy to let thoughts spin out of control. To let them grow from just one thought or one situation into a big thing in your mind.

So what can you do about it?

One thought combination that has helped me with this habit is to:

Step 1: Say stop right away.  This works well for optimism.In this case it simply means that as soon as you become aware of that you are starting to make a mountain out of a molehill you say or shout STOP! or something similar in your mind.
Step 2: Broaden the perspective. After I have used my stop-phrase, I ask myself this about the perceived problem: Will this issue be of significance in 5 years? Or even 5 weeks? The answer is almost always no. And my mind is once again more chill, calm and level-headed.
3. Find a more helpful way to view your troubles.

“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.”
Oscar Wilde

“If you will call your troubles experiences, and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you, you will grow vigorous and happy, however adverse your circumstances may seem to be.”
John Heywood

Not all troubles in life are molehills (or simply made out of air).

And these more substantial challenges can easily get to drag you down.

But if you view them in a helpful and optimistic way then, yes, they may still hurt. But they tend to often hurt a lot less and can even be a source of optimistic excitement.

For example, I did not like making mistakes or failing at all. I often chose to stand still and not do anything so as not to not risk anything.

But nowadays I have learned that these things tend to truly be a blessing in disguise.

What has changed?

I view them differently and act upon them differently than I used to. I ask myself:

What is one opportunity in this situation?
How will this experience help me in the long run?
These questions help me to make good use of a situation that may seem negative at first.

And after having gone through this process over and over again I am a lot less afraid of making mistakes or failing. Because by now I know from experience that by handling challenges in this way, I have gained many benefits and grown as a person over the past years.

4. Focus on the small steps you can take.

“Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can’t be done.”
Bo Bennett

Focus on what you can do about your situation and take action on. Not on asking yourself over and over why something happened to you or why you failed. That will only lead to pessimism and feeling powerless.

Instead, ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling and improve this situation?

Just take that one small step today. Then another tomorrow. The small steps tend to add up quickly and, as I mentioned above, will breed confidence and optimism that allow you to take more and bigger steps.

5. Learn to reduce and handle worries.

“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his death bed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
Winston Churchill

Worries can be very destructive.

But most of the things you fear will happen never happens. They are just nightmares or monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of the time you have here.

I know, this is easy to say. But what can you do about it?

What has worked for me is a similar combination to the one that I mentioned above.

Say stop. I first use my stop phrase
Look back into the past. Then I ask myself a question based on Churchill’s quote: how many of my worries and things I feared came into my reality in the past? The answer is always the same for me: very few.
These two steps help me to calm down and to think more clearly about things once again.

Cr: Sam Abah

Two Perspections To The Same Situation

Two Women chatting in the office.

Woman 1: I had a fine evening, how was yours?

Woman 2: It was a disaster.. My husband came home, ate his dinner in 3 minutes and fell asleep. How was yours ?

Woman 1: Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out for a romantic dinner. After dinner we walked for an hour.. When we came home he lit the candles around the house. It was like a fairy tale!

At the same time, their husbands are talking at work.

Husband 1: How was your evening ?

Husband 2: Great… I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. What about you ?

Husband 1: It was horrible. I came home, there’s no dinner, they cut the electricity because I forgot to pay the bill; so I took her out for dinner which was so expensive that i didn’t had money left for a cab. We walked home which took an hour and when we got home I remembered there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house!!

Moral: Presentation does matter… No matter what the reality is.

Why You Should Get Marry

FOR SINGLES: Why You Should Marry.

Don’t marry for SEX,

Don’t marry because you are of AGE,

Don’t marry because you are getting OLD,

Don’t marry because you are LONELY,

Don’t marry because you need someone to support you FINANCIALLY,

Don’t marry because you MISTAKENLY got PREGNANT for him,

Don’t marry because you don’t want to LOSE the person,

Don’t marry because of your family PRESSURE,

Don’t marry because you like the idea of MARRIAGE and admire every WEDDING GOWN you see,

Don’t marry because all your FRIENDS are getting married,

Don’t marry for COMPENSATION for all he/she has done for you,
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.
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But get married because you want to fulfill DESTINY,
Get married because you want to be a suitable HELPMEET to an imperfect person, who LOVES and accepts you for who you are, not who you pretend to be,
Get married because you want to fulfill your PROMISE.

Education

At the national hospital intensive care unit, patients always die on the same bed at 7am every morning regardless of their condition. This puzzled medical staff so a group of medical doctors decided to observe the bed in secret and decided to wait for the fateful hour. Some held crosses and prayer books to ward off evil influence. While the less superstitious held cameras, tablets, smart phones, to capture every moment of this hour.
At exactly 7am, the door to the ward opened slowly. Marshal the cleaner disconnected the life support from the mains and plugged his Nokia phone charger.

IF YOU THINK EDUCATION IS EXPENSIVE, TRY IGNORANCE.

LADIES DON’T TRY THIS.

LADIES DON’T TRY THIS.

One day a woman wanted to know how the
husband would react if she left without telling him
where she had gone. So she decided to write him a
letter saying she is tired of him and didn’t want to
live with him anymore and after writing she put the letter on the table in the bedroom and then hid
under the bed… When the husband came back
home, saw the letter and read it, he replied on the
same paper and then began to sing and dance
changing his clothes. He got his phone, dialed
someone then said: “Hey babe, am just changing clothes then will join you, as for the other fool it has
finally dawned on her that I was fooling around
with her and has left. I was wrong..really wrong to
have married her, I wish I had known you earlier.
See you soon honey!” The husband walked out of
the room and left. In tears and very upset, the woman got up from under the bed and decided to
go and read what the husband wrote on the letter.
When she got the letter, it said: “I COULD see your
feet under the bed, I didn’t make any phone call.. I
am going to buy bread. Stand up, stop your silly
games and prepare me a meal… I LOVE U.

21 Things You Can Do To Change Your Life Forever

Last night I had a dream.
It was Christmas Eve. And I was receiving presents.
At that time, all I could think of was “I don’t want these. It’s just more stuff I won’t use.”
Looking back, I can see how much I’ve changed. I almost haven’t noticed the change, because it sneaks up on you, until it’s impossible to ignore.
It’s like when you were a kid. You got taller, but you didn’t notice until you stood up against the wall with the marks.
The same holds true for life changes.
You are constantly changing, but it’s hard to notice until it pokes you in the ribs.
It’s not even a question of if you’re changing; it’s a question of in which direction are you changing.
Most people want change because they want to escape. But it doesn’t work.
It is by facing your inner demons that you heal yourself, and change your life for the better.
Below are the 21 things you can do to change your life. It’s a hefty and spicy read, so grab your beverage of choice and enjoy.
1. Take Tiny Steps
A baby learns to crawl before it can walk, and it learns to walk before it can run.
Most people expect rapid life changes. If they’re wasting their time at a soul-sucking job, they expect success and fame within six months.
I’m not saying it isn’t possible, because it is, but in most cases it’s not going to happen.
People who need life changes right away don’t realize that it’s not going to make them happy anyway.
All they want is their dream of a problem-free future. When they get there, reality sets in, and another goal is set.
And the wheel keeps turning.
So realize that there will always be problems in life. It’s not our job to eliminate them, but to do our best, take tiny steps, and see where life takes us.
2. Take Quantum Leaps
Something I’ve learned in working with people is that changes can happen in an instant. Old pains, fears, and negative emotions can vanish and be replaced by something more useful.
This may seem contradictory to what I said above, but it isn’t. It’s not either/or, it’s both/and.
We don’t live in a black and white world.
Quantum leaps are tipping points (as Malcolm Gladwell, the author likes to call them).
As you keep taking one step at a time, you will eventually reach a tipping point where your thinking shifts.
The problem is that most people never get to those shifts. They stop drilling when they are about to hit gold.
3. Accept Where You Are
When I was 18, I started playing poker professionally. I wasn’t going to work at a regular job, because there was no way I would survive doing that. I couldn’t stand it.
Poker helped me realize many things, and one of them was that if I wanted to be happy, I had to accept where I was.
Things come and go. People live and die. Your life feels good, and it feels bad. The more you accept this, the easier it is to change your life.
In fact, it seems as if life changes itself when I stop pushing so hard.
Here’s a video I recorded on being in the present moment:

4. Be Patient
I’ve been building my online business since 2009. I say building, but what I really mean is learning.
I stumbled a lot in the beginning. I made mistakes, I failed, and I gave up in frustration more times than I’d care to admit.
I began seeing results when I became absolutely determined to succeed.
It was a big lesson in patience. It doesn’t matter what’s going on. There will always be problems. But they don’t have to clutter up your whole life.
Be patient with your progress. Stay true to your heart.
You can change your life. Sometimes it just happens in its own time.
5. Forgive
We all have memories—painful memories.
What you may not realize is that the person hurting you with those memories is you.
You are the director of your mind. While the event may have happened in the past, it’s you who keeps playing them over and over again.
Reliving the past will get you nowhere. That’s why it’s essential to forgive and forget all those people in your memories.
You don’t even have to forgive. All you have to do is pay less attention to those thoughts and memories.
Once you see that the only one suffering is you, the grip tends to loosen.
6. Heal
Healing yourself goes hand in hand with point #5. When you know that you can let go of past memories, fears, and obstacles, your self-confidence grows.
Most people aren’t ready for life changes. They avoid any and all solutions, because they are comfortable where they are.
And that’s fine with me, but if you make that choice, you have no right to complain or make excuses.
You either choose to be where you are, or you choose to change your life. The choice is yours.
Healing starts with seeing that you are not your thoughts; you are the awareness behind them. Thoughts come and go, but your true nature never changes.
7. Face Your Fears
When you face your fears, possibilities open up. Even now, there are time when I’m scared.
Fears don’t disappear, they simply become less important.
And remember, this is not about comparing yourself to someone else. This is about following your inner GPS, and living the life you were meant to live.
Here’s a short video on how to stop comparing yourself to others:
8. Kill Your Excuses
Your excuses are mere illusions.
You may have excuses about why you can’t follow your passion and build an online business, but are they really true?
If you really wanted to, you could take one tiny step forward.
That’s all it takes.
One tiny step.
Then see what happens, re-assess, and take another step.
9. Take Responsibility
Since talking with more and more readers, clients, and people in general, I’ve started to notice a scary pattern.
That pattern is the lack of responsibility. I see people wanting to change their life, but they aren’t willing to take responsibility.
They wait for a white knight (or black, depending on your preference) to sweep in to save the day and make change effortless and comfortable.
I hate to burst your bubble, but it’s not going to happen. When you take responsibility for the life you’ve created, you can begin to move forward.
If you’re blaming someone else for your situation, you’re stuck.
Learn to make decisions from your inner authority. Here’s a video where I share how I do this:

10. Follow Your Heart
And what would an article of mine be without me telling you to follow your heart?
If you’ve been reading my articles, you know that I keep writing about following your heart, and there’s a reason for it.
As I’ve been living my life, I’ve started listening to my heart more and more.
And when I say following and listening to your heart, I mean it in the broadest sense of the word. It can mean anything, such as following your gut, intuition, feelings, or going with the flow of life.
When you begin putting the pieces together, and taking responsibility, and healing yourself, you naturally begin to follow your heart, your inner GPS.
11. Follow Your Passion
If you drive to a gas station, and fill your car with the wrong kind of fuel, it won’t run very well, if at all.
That’s what most people are trying to do in life. They are listening to outside influences, and that’s when all the “shoulds” come in.
It’s the belief that you have to focus on money in order to build a successful business. I did this in the beginning, so I know what it’s like.
You want to do your research and know whether or not your idea is viable, but if you don’t do something you’re passionate about, your car will run out of fuel sooner or later.
It is your passion that will fuel your journey for the rest of your life.
The problem is that you may not know how to even start finding and following your passion. I had the same problem when I was starting out, but eventually things clicked.
I share my whole story and how you can find and follow your passion in Passionate Living.
And here’s a video on how I follow my heart and passion:

12. Meditate
Ever had the experience of your mind racing out of control? It almost feels like you’re going crazy, doesn’t it?
A great way to calm yourself (and your mind) down is to meditate. Even five minutes of meditation can do wonders.
Meditation has taught me to see through the dance of thought. I have thoughts. I have worries. And I have fears.
But I can observe them without getting too involved. It’s not always so simple, but knowing that I am not my thoughts is a tremendous help.
What’s important is not to just know it intellectually, but to see how you create your experience of life.
13. Express Yourself
I find writing therapeutic. It’s something I love to do. It calms me. It’s inspiring, and it infuses my life with serenity.
I highly recommend you try journaling or just writing down your thoughts after every day. If you’ve tried to solve problems in your head, you know it doesn’t work.
You can have a conversation on paper, freewrite, and solve problems easily. It has the ability to change your life completely.
A great book on freewriting is Accidental Genius by Mark Levy.
14. Kill Your Comfort Zone
If you want to change your life in the most positive sense, get comfortable with being out of your comfort zone.
When you’re learning something new, you’ll bump into the walls of your comfort zone.
Your spirit yearns for freedom. It’s when you put yourself into a little box that your spirit feels the need to rebel. You start feeling bored, and restless.
You don’t have to suddenly infuse your life with discomfort. All you have to do is dip your toes from time to time.
15. Flow
Let’s face it. You don’t know what you want.
Most people think they know what they want. They make five and ten year plans, acting as if they know all the variables of life.
I’m on board with making plans and setting goals. But I don’t rigidly stick to them. You will miss opportunities if you disregard the whispers of your heart, if you trade the present moment for the future.
You miss life.
It’s like driving with all the windows painted black except the front window. You see where you’re going, but you miss everything else.
Accept that life brings you possibilities. You don’t always know where your life will go. But go with the flow, and you will be where you need to be.
16. Focus
In order to change your life, you have to change your focus.
If you don’t take control of your mind, it will run amok. You will focus on the negative. You will imagine the worst possible scenarios.
What works for me is to focus on who is aware of the thoughts swirling in my head.
There’s an awareness there.
When I focus on it, I almost immediately relax. I see how my thoughts take me on a roller coaster ride of emotions. One day I can feel fine, and one day I can feel miserable.
The only difference is thought.
But there’s one thing most people miss when I share this: I’m not talking about changing my thoughts. I don’t try to change anything. Instead, I observe my thoughts, and let them be. I’m mindful of what’s going on.
Here’s a quick video on how I went from miserable to loving life:

17. Read
I love reading.
We live and die by stories. My life has changed several times by reading a book.
The stories you read have a profound effect on how you view the world. You can be stuck on a problem, and the solution can pop into your mind while you’re reading.
Your mind does not work sequentially. You can be reading something, then something goes click, and your life changes forever.
And as you’re reading these very words, it causes you to think, doesn’t it?
In order for you to make sense out of the funny letters you see here, you have to go inside, and make sense out of it from your own map of the world.

Change is inevitable. It’s all about in what direction you’re changing.
If you’re looking for something to read, you might want to check out my books: Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself and Do What You Love: Essays on Uncovering Your Path in Life.
Just a friendly suggestion
18. Befriend the Unknown
You never know what you need. Remember point #15, going with the flow?
When you’re open to the unknown, which is a synonym for possibility, you accept that life may bring you something negative to teach you a positive lesson.
I had some horrible days when I played poker. It can murder you psychologically, especially if you’re playing it for a living like I was.
At one point I was looking up at the sky and asking “Why?”
I’m not religious. But it helped me realize what’s truly important in life. It isn’t money, or material wealth, although those things can be nice.
You just never know what life will bring, so you might as well become curious.
How will the seemingly negative turn to positive in your life? What are you learning?
19. Reclaim Your Personal Power
Stop looking to others for approval. Just like taking responsibility (#9), you have to reclaim your personal power.
You know what to do. You can feel it. You just haven’t been listening to that inner voice until now.
It’s easy to give the decision to someone else, but it’s your life. The sooner you realize that, the more fun you will have.
What do you want to do right now?
If you don’t know, then start somewhere, because action will bring clarity.
20. Accept Failure
You will make mistakes.
And you won’t even know if they are mistakes when you make them, because mistakes and failures have a tendency to transform into blessings.
You only fail if you give up, so if you never give up, you can never fail, only learn, and grow.
21. Remember Who You Are
And above all, remember that you are always more than you think you are.
You are more than your problems, more than your fears, and more than your body.
I learned this from an excellent NLP trainer called John Overdurf.
It’s only when you focus on your problems and believe them to be you that you get into trouble.
So, remember to relax, because life is way too important to take seriously

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Be Thankful For Faliuer

1. Accept failure as part of life.Even when we try to insulate ourselves from the possibility of failure and live “safe” lives, failure can still find its way to us. Bad things happen in spite of our best efforts. Just accepting that fact can bring some peace. It happens to you. It happens to everyone.

2. Failure means you have the courage to try.If you are determined to succeed at everything, then please don’t try anything new. Stick with the status quo and the safety zone. But if you want to have a big, exciting, fulfilling life, embrace failure as a stepping stone leading you out of mediocrity. It’s just one stone on the path.

3. Failure teaches you something.There is always, always a lesson in failing. If it isn’t obvious right away, then choose to figure it out. You will learn a better way, a different direction, a new perspective. Think back on past failures and how you have grown from them. Don’t leave this precious gift behind in your efforts to reject and forget your failures.

4. Failure strengthens character.When you fail, you learn more than just how to do something differently. You learn about yourself. You might learn about humility, forgiveness, friendship, judgment, priorities, and values. Take advantage of the opportunity to grow in these areas and build your emotional intelligence and maturity.

5. You can become a mentor.When you strengthen your character and rise above a failure, you model for others how to cope and even thrive when something bad happens. You become a mentor for resilience and fortitude, teaching those around you how to behave in similar situations. You are serving others in a profound and meaningful way.

6. Failure stretches you.When the worst happens, you don’t have to fear it anymore. It’s happened and you are living it. Hey, it’s not as bad as you thought. You’re still alive. So maybe since falling on your face didn’t kill you, you might go ahead and try that other bold move you’ve been considering but have been too afraid to try. You already know what will happen if you fail, so what’s to lose?

7. Real friends emerge during failure.So you’ve lost your business, your marriage is falling apart, you blew that presentation, or you have a drinking problem. You’re friends and associates are scattering like startled cockroaches. Except for your real friends — the ones who love you for who you are. The ones who have faith in your inner wisdom and intelligence. If there is ever a time to really nurture your friends, this is it. These folks are the keepers.

8. Failures are often opportunities in disguise.Has this ever happened to you? You weren’t offered that promotion you’ve been wishing for, only to get a better job offer with more money a few weeks later. You lose a bunch of money with a bad investment, but your loss focuses you on more solid and profitable investment strategies. A relationship ends painfully, but you eventually meet your soul mate. Failures sometimes produce results that are better than the original plan.

9. Failure is sometimes intentional.There are times when our subconscious mind knows more about what we want or need than we are aware of. Sometimes we fail because it’s an escape route. Perhaps we are doing something because we feel trapped or obligated. If we sabotage the situation, then we can get out of it. Failure forces us to look this thing in the eye and ask the question, “Did I really want you to begin with?” The answer is often “no”. The truth can hurt, but it also can set us free.

10. Failure fosters creativity.Thomas Edison made 1000 unsuccessful attempts before inventing the light bulb. Winston Churchill was defeated in every public office until he became prime minister at age 62. Henry Ford failed and went broke five times before he succeeded. If you don’t allow failure to crush you, it will force you to develop creative solutions, building off what you learned through failure. Thomas Edison didn’t believe he failed 1000 times. He said, “The light bulb was an invention with 1000 steps.”
Like death and taxes, failure is going to happen. It may be hard initially to accept it as just another neutral life experience. However, by shifting your perspective, failure can be an experience that has much to offer, leading you to personal growth and eventual success.

TIME YOUR TIME!

TIME YOUR TIME!
Ecc. 3:1
“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

My Source Says:
Sometimes, I wonder if youths back then, as in Bible times, had TEMPTING DISTRACTIONS like us. Maybe attending the party of the Canaanites and getting raped (Dinah), watching a naked woman take her bath (David) instead of being at the warfront or when a beautiful Delilah lured (Samson) and cut his hair was just about it. Right now, EVERYTHING is a distraction. TV, fashion, music, parties, ipads, BB. . .everything is ‘designed’ to ‘steal’ our attention from the relevant and important things we should do.

Let’s be true to ourselves; we spend most of our time on less-important things. The time you spend pinging, whatsappING, editing your pics, surfing the net is more than any time you give to something else.

Learn to control and coordinate your activities daily. Give all things time according to their PRIORITY. Understand WHEN to do WHAT and WHY. You are not as busy as God and so, don’t hide behind the “busy schedule” thing. When was the last time you went for BIBLE STUDY? When last did you VISIT a SICK friend or relative? Have you seen your GRANDPARENTS this year? Have you CALLED them since you didn’t go? You can even send a part of your pocket money to them. See the little important things we FORGET TO REMEMBER! Yet, we tap our phones and laptops for God-knows-how-long.

Don’t just be busy for busy sake! Jesus visited Martha and Mary. Martha was all excited and was going to cook all the kinds of food in the world. Jesus came, but she was so engrossed with her cooking. The “REASON” she was busy (Jesus) was in her house and she didn’t even stop to say “Welcome”. Rather, she was calling on Mary to help out. Mary? Help out? Who would attend to the guest? There was no tv or picture album to entertain him but Mary recognized “oh, He’s here. Let me give him my time and attention for now. I can’t just leave him alone while he’s waiting for us to finish up.”

There’s a time to be busy, a time to rest, a time you should go to bed, a time to visit a friend, a time to read, a time to play, a time to ping and whatsapp. . .everything.
Everything has its priority. Give important things and people time.

To-Do: Call your grandparents. They won’t be here forever. When they die, we spend heaven and earth for a befitting burial but while they lived, they never tasted a dime in your name.
If you can, visit them with food stuff, no matter how little. Just let them know you know they EXIST and you have them in mind. Whatsapp will be outdated, BBM will fade with time, new technologies will keep being invented.
Don’t be distracted. Focus on what’s important.

The Easier Way May Actually Be the Tougher Way

Once there was a lark singing in the forest. The lark stopped a farmer and asked, “What do you have in the box and where are you going?” The farmer replied that he had worms and that he was going to the market to trade them for some feathers.

The lark said, “I have many feathers. I will pluck one and give it to you and that will save me looking for worms.” The farmer gave the worms to the lark and the lark plucked a feather and gave it in return. The next day the same thing happened and the day after and on and on until a day came that the lark had no more feathers.

Now it couldn’t fly and hunt for worms. It started looking ugly and stopped singing and very soon it died.

What is the moral of the story?
The moral is quite clear what the lark thought was an easy way to get food turned out to be the tougher way after all. Isn’t the same thing true in our lives?

Many times we look for the easier way, which really ends up being the tougher way.

Madam Sabi

Stand Up For The North

The NORTH!!! A region once dominated by economic viability. A region once crowned with leadership. A region once living under security buoyancy. A region once controlled by selfless men and worth the name. A region that once served as the economic nerve centre of west Africa. Selflessness & love were its foundation. Security & peaceful co -existence were its pillars.Trust & honesty were its walls. Leadership & military might were its roof and godliness was its house.Our past heroes will never forgive us; the region they built on equity, justice & accountability is on fire. We have rulers today but no single leader! Selfishness & greed is their lot; Public theft & social recognition has blinded them. We are literally responsible for our own destruction!Our rulers have worn a large price tag on their chests. They are easily bought; don’t even talk of the royal houses! We are simply on a sinking ship without a captain. The northern youths are nothing but bunch of drug addicts. The educated ones are all waiting for their turn to steal so that they can live in mansions & drive in exclusive cars. And the common slogan is, “there’s nothing we can do”!He who stands for the truth is mocked at. Our roof is on fire with incessant bombs. Our foundation is sinking in ignorance & drug addiction. Our walls are falling apart because nobody cares. Our concern for an immediate & drastic solution is a fiasco. Our neighbor’s house is on fire but I care not because I’m enjoying the luxury of my ill-gotten mansion. Everyday someone dies as a result of injustice, prepare for the day you will die because of injustice Talk to your parents, your uncles, your friends. Let them provide a lasting solution for us. This insecurity will soon consume the north & like prophecies, we will become the underdogs. The time for attitudinal change is now,
#StandUpNortherners! if u are a true son or daughter of the north please pass this on………..

Lesson From The Tea Set

There once was a young girl who got married. On the day of her wedding her mother gave her a tea set. The daughter loved the tea set and put it up on a shelf so that it would not get broken. Shortly after the wedding her mother died.

The tea set was all the daughter had to remind her of her mother. Only on very special occasions did she take it down and look at it, but she never used it.

As she grew older and had children of her own she wrapped it up and put it away to keep it safe for her own daughter’s wedding. Eventually the day of the wedding approached and the mother went to find the tea set. When she unwrapped it she was shocked to find it had a large crack in it. How had it happened? When she examined it she saw a piece of paper was inside the tea pot. She picked it up and read it. It was from her mother.

“Use this tea set every day or it will not last. Like love, it is only through use that it survives. If you do not use it then you will lose it. But if you use it every day it will last you a lifetime. Every time you use this tea set, think of how fragile love is.”

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BEAUTIFUL STORY

An old man lived alone at home. He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and told him the situation. “Dear Son, I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my potato garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden, because your mother always loved planting time. I’m just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot.If you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren’t in prison … Your Father.”
Shortly, the old man received the reply from his son: “For heaven’s sake, Dad, don’t dig up the garden! That’s where I buried the Guns!” The next morning, A dozen FBI agents and local police officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns. Confused old man wrote another note to his son telling him what have happened, and asked him what to do next. His son’s reply was:
“Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad, It’s the best I could do for you from here.”
Moral of the Story: No matter where you are in
the world, if you have decided to do something
deep from your heart, you can do it!

The Crazy Co-pilot

Co-pilot was welcoming the passengers on the plane shortly after take off.

Thank you for flying with us this morning. The weather is…..

When suddenly he starts screaming while he is still on the loud speakers.

Oh my God! OMG!!! OMG!!! This is going to hurt….Its burning

A ghostly silence reigned, he gets back on the microphone talking to the passengers.

I sincerely apologise for the incident but the air hostess just dropped a very hot cup of coffee on my lap… you should see my pants from the front

A passenger replies, Why don’t you come here and see our PANTS FROM BEHIND!

Majority And Minority

An interesting insight into decision making

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Let’s take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make…

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally. But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train’s sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few ignorant kids.

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one.

“Remember that what’s right isn’t always popular and what’s popular isn’t always right.”

Everybody makes mistakes; that’s why they put erasers on pencils.

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Women: Men Now Are Not After Sexiness

Are black women sexy? No doubt! When it comes to sexiness sisters have no equal. But can I be honest with you? I’m actually TIRED of sexy black women. Now hear me out on this, please.

Sexiness don’t mean jack snot. Not in the grand scheme of things. Visually appealing, yes. But I can’t eat sexiness. Sexiness won’t help pay these bills or pay off our student loans. Sexiness won’t qualify for a mortgage, or get people to respect you, sexiness wont allow me set my next big business move.

Sexiness won’t help me raise these kids. Neither will it teach my daughters their true worth and value in this world.

We got way too many ‘Sexy’ sisters out here with nothing else to bring to the table. Sexiness is the totality of their package. And that’s WACK!

Most black men looking for a relationship want a USEFUL woman. Visual appeal alone won’t cut it. Besides: there are so many black women competing to be the sexiest, it’s not even a race worth entering.

Can you cook? Do you clean? Do you have mothering skills Do you love your father? Respect him? Respect other black men in general? Have you divested yourself of prior relationship baggage? Can you hold a conversation about REAL world events? And no: Love and Hip Hop doesn’t count!

Do you have a REAL relationship with a REAL God: or do you follow the fake one many Christians have invented for themselves because he’s more tolerable than the actual Truth?

These are the kind of questions discerning men are asking nowadays.

So if sexiness is all you bring to the table, you can keep it. I’d rather have a woman of pure unadulterated SUBSTANCE. And I’m sure I speak for most conscious-thinking brothers out there on this one.

There’s a new breed of black men out there ladies. And we ain’t settling for second best or taking any shorts. Either come correct or go get with the jacks and harries. That’s all many of you are use to dealing with anyway…

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

LADIES WORLD

*When a Girl Cries — The World
Consoles her
*But when a boy cries — They say
Come on man don’t be A Girl.
*If A Girl slaps a Boy — Definitely the Boy
would have
done something wrong.
*If a Boy Slaps a
girl — ppl will say: the Idiot doesn’t
know how to Respect Ladies.
*If a Girl is talking to Boys– She is
Very Friendly
*If a Boy talks to a Girl — He is
flirting.
*If a Girl meets with accident –
Then its mistake!!!
*If a Boy meets with same accident,
Don’t you know how to Drive?
What a Ladies World

Never give up on your dreams!!!

I just read this and it inspired me,you too should read!!

I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in San Ysidro. He has let
me use his house to put on fund-raising events to raise money for youth at risk programs. The last time I was there he introduced me by saying, “I want to tell you why I let Jack use my horse. It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, the boy’s high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior, he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up. “That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200-acre ranch, showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track. Then he drew a detailed floor plan fora 4,000-square-fo ot house that would sit on a
200-acre dream ranch. He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher. Two days later he received his paper back. On the front page was a large red F with a note that read, `See me after class.’ “The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, `Why did I receive an F?’ “The teacher said, `This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you. You have no money. You come from an itinerant family. You have no resources. Owning a horse
ranch requires a lot of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you’ll have to pay large stud fees. There’s no way you could ever do it.’ Then the teacher added, `If you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal, I will reconsider your grade.’
“The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, `Look, son, you have to make up your own mind on this. However, I think it is a very important decision for you.’ “Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same
paper, making no changes at all. He stated, “You can keep the F and I’ll keep my dream.”
Monty then turned to the assembled group and said, “I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch. I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace.” He added, “The best part of the story is that two summers ago that same
schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.” When the teacher was leaving, he said, “Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher, I was something of a dream stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids’ dreams. Fortunately you had enough gumption not to give up on yours.” “Don’t let anyone steal your dreams. Follow your heart, no matter what.”

The Amazing Healing Powers of Animals: Caleb’s Story

Originally posted on Good Time Stories:

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This is a story of a young boy, Caleb, who was involved on a horrible accident which left him with various broken bones and a severe brain injury. Doctors said that he would probably never recover…or live at all.

Along came a therapy dog, named Colonel, that would change this little boys life, and his family forever.

It is fascinating to me how God can sometimes work His miracles through animals. It really does remind me of the true reason why God made animals and allowed them to live with us side by side.

This story is an amazing one…one that will touch your heart in a special way and warm your heart and, hopefully, remind you that there is always hope for a miracle when a situation may seem impossible.

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Little Lessons Of Life

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

I’ve learned …That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of
an elderly person.
I’ve learned …. That when you’re in love, it shows.
I’ve learned …. That just one person saying to me, ‘You’ve made my
day!’ Really makes my day.
I’ve learned …. That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of
the most peaceful feelings in the world.
I’ve learned …. That being kind is more important than being right.
I’ve learned …. That u should never say no to a gift from a child.
I’ve learned …. That I can always pray for someone when I don’t
have the strength to help him in some other ways.
I’ve learned …. That no matter how serious your life requires u to
be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.
I’ve learned …. That sometimes all a person needs is a…

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Are You REALLY Thankful?

Originally posted on Good Time Stories:

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Every once in a while, I come across a short story or illustration that reminds me of things that I may have forgotten…such was the case when I found this brief tale. It made me remember really how fortunate that I am and how important it is to always give thanks and be thankful!

I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels.

My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, ‘This Is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are Received.’

I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.

Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the…

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