Choose Your Battle Wisely

This snake crawled over a sharp saw and was cut. In anger, the snake wrapped the Saw with its thick body and squeezed the life out of the Saw.

With each angry squeeze, it felt more pain but continued because it wouldn’t let the Saw get away with the pain it caused. The snake, refusing to let go of the Saw, eventually died;

Not knowing the whole time, it needed to let go of the initial pain and focus on its future; where it was going.
Unfortunately, the snake eventually lost its life in anger and vengeance.

PLEASE NOTE:
Not all battles are worth fighting. At times letting go is actually winning.
Control your anger. Forgive those that hurt you and move on.
Never give people or things power over you.

WHAT YOU HAVE IS ALWAYS MORE VALUABLE THAN WHAT YOU SEEK.

Quotation of the day

Life is like a coin, you can spend it on anything you want, but you can only spend it once.

Quote of the Day

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“It is better to debate a question without settling it than to stelle a question without debating it.”

Joseph Joubert

Question

Daily I see people go through life blindly, and they do that wilfully. Wilfully because they are scared or don’t want to ask question for fear of been seen as uninformed or weak, but the reality you uninformed if you don’t ask questions.

Questions can mean:

1. a sentence worded or expressed so as to elicit information.
2. a matter requiring resolution or discussion.

I love the first definition of question; you asked question to as to gain more information, to remove any ambiguity in order to gain more clarity.

To be successful or to learn more, you can run away from questions (and not silly questions) don’t be scared to ask questions.

I love this quote “When you know better, you do better” Maya Angelou.

Asking helps you gain clarity; it helps you shorten your journey, and it helps straighten your path to the top.

Jesus speaking in Matthew 7:7 charged his followers to always ASK, SEEK and KNOCK. I love to break the about as A(ask) S(seek) K(knock). This means asking is not something you do casually seeking and knocking requires conscious deliberate action.

Be intentional in living and all you, so learn to always ASK, a simple how can I do this can give almost 50% clarity.

Learn to ask WHY five (5).

My charge for you today is to always ASK.

Dismount The Dead Horse

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Are you still forcing yourself get to keep doing what is not working?

If you are looking to achieve more by prioritizing your time, then you need to learn to dismount the dead horse.

If it is no more working, then stop forcing it, learn to know when to stop doing somethings and move move on.

Programming Can Be Learned

Programming languages are difficult but not hard to learn.

With discipline, commitment, diligence and dedication it can be learned.

Be True To Yourself

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I saw this post on my sister’s Facebook page and I would like to share with you all.

“SALT has no need to look like other Ingredients, sends out no Aroma like other Seasonings, but without it the Soup is Tasteless.

Men/women of True Impact don’t Fight for Position, Visibility or Appearance.

Their Results Speak for them not their Propaganda.

You don’t need to Shout to be heard, People keep quiet to listen to Intelligent People.

Salt Maintains its Integrity Amidst Pollution.

Have you seen where a Salt buyer demands to taste it before buying

because Salt has proved its Integrity over the Ages.

If you will need to Swear before People can believe you, you lack Integrity.

Is your Life like Salt to the Earth or an Insult?

The Easiest and only way Salt can lose its Taste is when it mixes with too much of anything. So Watch your Associations with people without noble values.. Salt is very precious and should not be wasted.. STAY PURE.

“MAINTAIN YOUR DIGNITY”

If one day, we all are allowed to put our problems on a table and exchange them, I’m sure that after few minutes, everyone would silently take back their own & leave the table.

There is no such thing like a perfect life, nobody has it all together.

Just as our faces are different, so are our problems.

Never be envious of what someone else has. You don’t know the price they paid to get it and the price they are paying to keep it.

You don’t own half of the problems in this world.

While you are discreetly wishing to be like the other person, Someone else is seriously praying for that life you take for granted.

Sometimes the people you envy, are actually wishing they could have the life you live.

Be contented and cherish what you have.

You can be anything you want, just don’t be ungrateful”.

You are the best

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Career Day: Cohort 8 (The Rise of The Phoenix) Graduation

CAREER DAY

To mark the graduation ceremony Cohort 8 (Phoenix) of Semicolon Africa tag “the rise of the Phoenix” was a career day talk with Richard Amafonye [FBCS] the Head IT Resources of Access Bank Plc. the session was so informative and impactful.

Key lesson I toke away from the session was the Three(3) attribute of a great programmer.

1. Laziness: Not being lazy in the sense of not doing anything, but not doing what you can automate. Why do things that you can automate, you should be so lazy to push you to learn to automate activities and actions.
2. Impatience: Not being impatience that you can not wait, but being inpatient to push you to get things done and make things happen quickly.
3. Hubris: Not be prideful but to take pride being able to effectively and efficiently doing your work with joy and pride.

PHD (Passion Hunger Determination) this is need along side competence, character and chemistry with this your set to take leverage advantage that technology has given us.

As a software engineer you are a solution provider and a value adding individual.

#techpreneurs #SotfwareEngineers #semicolonAfrica

Decision

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People usually do not realize how important decisions can be, until the make the wrong one.

The outcome of life is decisions, the right ones set us on the right path, the wrong ones set us on the wrong parth.

Everyday we make decisions, it is important to we think through each decision we make.

Reflection!

Listening to Camo speaks

Reflection! Reflection!! Reflection!!!

Something incredible happened to me this year and I want to take this time to reflect over the last six (6) months.

Closing last year coming to this year, I have this serious desire to rally make a mark in the tech space and I was so consume by it that it became a longing and prayer. I began this search for how to be better the search leads to an unquenchable hunger for like minds and enabling environment that tech thrives (to be precise programming).

I paid for the entire bundle on and paid for courses on http://www.pirple.com and http://www.udemy.com, toke course at http://www.alison.com, http://www.freedom.com, http://www.codeacademy.com I cant even mention all the YouTube videos I download to watch. I had a discussion with a friend Isaac and Lagos seems to be the location that I can have like minds and the environment. The greatest challenge was how?

I had a conversation about relocating to Jigawa to learn robotic which all did not work out.

This year start with same hunger and drive. I was on face book one faithful day and I saw the post of a dear friend Kelvin Okoro on how in one year he became a software Engineer it seem too good to be true so I chat him up.

Luck is when opportunity meets preparation, mentally I was ready, Kelvin told me about Semicolon and I applied, did the test and I moved on with doing what I was doing. Then I got the call for the interview, and I was told info session will hold and I click on the link and could not connect and the rescheduled info session I missed it again, I got the offer.

Joining Semicolon was a tough decision to make, moving from one end of Nigeria to the other was not easy, having to leave your comfort zone, your family, it was not easy because I was discouraged by few but a few encourage met to take the step, the greatest encouragement came from my family (wife and kids). I was skeptical even till when the onboarding as a native of semicolon began.

Listening to chief Sam Immanuel speak was just more than just and an orientation but life changing for me, his passion and desire for young Nigerians becoming an influence cannot be hidden.

Onboarding

The design thinking and critical thinking have shown a bright ne light on my life and point me to the right path. I have new perspective of who a software engineer is and it not what I taught it was. Ashley Immanuel also continued from where Sam stopped to make the light shin brighter.

I am glad am a native of semicolon Africa, I can’t wish for a better community of tech to be in than this. Listing to Chibuzo Ekejiuba and Grace teach Java and software engineering so gracefully was just wonderful, having to listen to others like Natives, Ancestors and Elders of Semicolon speaking have really fired me up. I am glad I made the decision I know the scarifies is worthwhile.

Reading Desiderata and The Equipment

# #community #tech #Semicolon #Innovation #Java #Programming #softwareengineering

GOD’S ETERNAL PURPOSE

It doesn’t readily come to people’s mind that God has a Programme, a Plan and an over-riding Purpose for his Creation. God didn’t create by random choice. Creation was I Reasoned. It came forth from God’s Heart and it is very purposeful.

We have become so accustomed to evil, pains, sufferings, tears and sorrow that it hardly ever occurred to us that these are not part of the life God intends for us. How all these things became part of human existence is a sad story to tell. But that is not the issue here! What has happened has happened. What is of more importance to us is how God has planned to sort out these unwanted conditions of our Earth-life!

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

What is God’s Eternal Purpose, especially with respect to Man and the Earth? Isaiah tells us, “O LORD, thou art my God; I will exalt thee, I will praise thy name; for thou hast done wonderful things; thy counsel of old are faithfulness and truth.” Isaiah 25:1

If we ask God, Sir, what is your eternal purpose for man and for the Earth? He will tell us: My purpose for you and the Earth has to do with what has been in my mind all along; how I want things to be for you; what I have planned for you which sin disrupted; what my heart has ever yearned to bestow upon
you of my goodness; All that I desire that you be and have in order to give my meaning to your being.

Before we were created God has all these in mind for us. But sin has limited our capacity to enter into them. And also, by reason of Death, we are limited on Time. In the present age Death has limited us! Sin brought Death. Then Death has created for us a Time Problem. We are not here long enough to have all that His love planned for us. Secondly, sin has also limited us and limited our capacity to enjoy what God has so freely given us.

God’s eternal purpose is the counsel of His heart, His good pleasures, His will, the Desires of His heart, the conceptions of His heart which He has put into a blueprint. As such, it has become immutable and irrevocable. God’s eternal purpose is His love-desires, His Love-thoughts and the plans to make them be!
And ultimately, neither sin nor Death would be able to stop it from fulfillment.

These things have always been His thought for us; He has ever planned to make them good to us. And He has not changed His mind on that. When all these are executed, the condition of eternal pleasure results for all Creation; all of Creation enjoying God forever.

How long do we need to get all of God’s goodness soaked into us? It is going to take eternity! What is eternity? It is from the Greek word “aion”. It literally means ages rolling upon ages! Yes, ages rolling upon ages, and the dimensions of creature’s pleasure in the Creator will keep unfolding in heightening degree for all eternity! Eternity also goes beyond mere length of time. It carries with it the sense of the other dimensions of existence that sin took away from us.

“But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us, Even when we were dead in sins, hath made us alive together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;)And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus: THAT IN THE AGES TO COME HE MIGHT SHEW THE EXCEEDING RICHES OF HIS GRACE IN HIS KINDNESS TOWARD US THROUGH CHRIST JESUS.” Ephesians 2:4-7

Now, Time is a limit upon us to enjoy all of God. Death doesn’t allow that! We live and die so quickly. Also, sin is a limit upon our capacity to fully soak in God. Sin restricts and constricts and weakens our capacity for Spirit things. But in eternity, when ages roll on upon ages non-stop, and in the Dimensions of existence that we hardly know exist, our capacity to enjoy God will be limitless. For when we shall rise in Him and mortality would have been swallowed up by life, and corruption eliminated by incorruption, the sin restriction problem would be no more! Death would be no more!

And in the midst of eternity, the Time available for God to unfold and unbundle His Heart of Love to us will also be limitless; with ages rolling upon ages indefinitely, Time constraint will be no more! The ages to come provide the infinite arena for the boundless Love of God to find expression and play out upon Creation in all the dimensions of God’s greatness

“Having made known unto us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure which he hath purposed in himself: That in the dispensation of the fullness of times he might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him..…That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus.”
Ephesians 1:9, 10 & 2:7

No one should miss out on such indescribable joy and eternal bliss! Yet we hear from Holy Scripture that some people would not be a part of this by their own choosing. So, who will be part of Eternity with God? Who will be there as ages roll on upon ages and God lavishes His Love upon His Creatures? Note the
following Points:

·All have sinned and are disqualified from such future – Romans 3:23.
·The wages of sin is death (Eternal separation from God and the future state Creation.)– Romans 6:23.
·But the gift of God is Eternal Life – Romans 6:23.
·This Life is a free gift, but is only available in Christ Jesus and obtainable through faith in Him – Romans
6:23, John 5:26, Ephesians 2:8.
·The Book of Romans 10:9,10 tells us how to receive this gift which God has so freely and graciously
offered.

What is the alternative to this great offer of God? That is, if you fail to receive this gift what then happens?

“And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He that hath the
Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life.” 1John 5:11, 12

He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life;
but the wrath of God abideth on him. John 3:36

“Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire
prepared for the devil and his angels” Matthew 25:41

“And I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God; and the books were opened: and another book was opened, which is the book of life: And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.” Revelation 20:12,15

“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” Revelation 21:8

If you think this cannot happen, please, I plead with you that you think again!
The Time is short!

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It’s Sealed

“And the vision of all is become unto

You as the words of a book that is

Sealed, which men deliver to one that is

learned, saying, Read this, I pray thee: and

he saith, I CANNOT; FOR IT IS SEALED”

Isaiah 29:11

Yes, it is sealed!

It cannot be cracked!

Unbreakable, invincible,

My life is a Mystery to Satan!

Sealed and Preserved; a wonder to the

realm of darkness!

Invisible, untouchable, unkillable!

Tell the foxes:

Prophets don’t perish out of Jerusalem!

I am a Christian!

In Covenant with Jehovah: the God of

Abraham, Isaac and Jacob!

That is my Root! My fruit cannot be

plucked!

“Hurt not the oil and the wine”

No hell dare go against such high

Commandment!

“Thus far shall your waves come, and no

further”

The Keepers at the gate have set the bound!

Death and Destruction are locked out!

The Blood stands His Guard. His Ground no

hell can take.

By His voice the fire splinters and

smothers!

I am a Christian

I am Light

And I do not run from Darkness

I am seated above with Christ;

Crawlers at night are under my feet;

crushed!

Fear has no place here

My Dominion is by a High Birth!

By Him who labored at Gethsemane

And Calvary was my spirit begotten

Indestructible by Hell’s

Beggarly elements!

Case Closed

Sealed

Let all adversaries back off!

Jesus is my LORD

And my Life!

Remember The Battle

REMEMBER THE BATTLE… AND THAT IS IT!

I assume you know that before His work of creation, God the Creator had given the whole thing a good thought. And what He made was the product of His thought and intentions. That should be expected. No rational Builder would commence the construction of a master-piece without the blue-print. It is unthinkable.

Even with a casual study of the Bible, it is difficult not to see that Divine intention was for an Earth that is full of God’s goodness; an Earth that fully supports man in his destiny-assignment. And that
was the Earth God created.

“In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth…And God saw everything that He had made, and, behold, it was VERY GOOD” Genesis 1:1,31

Both the mind and the character of the Maker are revealed in His original handiwork. “BEHOLD, IT WAS VERY GOOD”. That was the Earth as He thought it and made it. And in those few words,
the Creator eternally separates Himself from any evil we may see on earth.

It is true that evil has become a part of our very existence and reality. The problem it presents lie hard upon our consciousness. But what God made and what we now have are two different things. He had no evil in mind. He made no evil for man. Where evil exists, we can simply label it with the words of the Lord in Matthew 19: “FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO”
We should ask then, “How did it become so now if from the beginning it wasn’t so”? We should also ask, “Now that it has become so, what steps has God taken to address the situation on
Earth”? But first,

How Did We Come to This?

History is a wonderful subject. It will interest you to know that God has history. Man has history. Even the devil and his demons have history. A lot of mysteries are locked up in our history. Our present is born from our past. To open the doors into our past is to unravel the riddles of our present. How did God’s good intentions for man become current nightmare? How did we come to this?

“In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth… and God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, IT WAS VERY GOOD” Genesis 1:1, 31

“The kingdom of heaven is likened unto a man which sowed GOOD SEED in his field” Matthew 13:24

This was God, the Creator-farmer. What He planted in His field was GOOD SEED.
“Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, yea, hath God said….” Genesis 3:1-3

“But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went his way” Matthew 13:25

The serpent, the enemy entered the equation and introduced into it a new factor. The coming of the serpent marked the beginning of evil as a human experience. What had never been before started being, what was not so from the beginning began to be so for man.

“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned” Romans 5:12

“From the beginning it was not so…” Matthew 19:8

We live in a grossly disordered world. But the disorders are not God made. They are the products of human choices and behaviours under the influence of forces opposed to God’s goodness and just rule.
Societal ills are not part of our creation make-up. They are outcomes of faulty choices. Poverty on earth is not God-made. It is the result of the system we operate. The super-rich plus the super-poor give a balance equation. What the poor lacks is in the surplus and excesses of the rich. Lacks on earth do not result from scarcity of resources. They are products of imbalance distribution and mismanagement. And we can’t blame God for either! The order of things as revealed in the opening chapters of Genesis testifies against any thought that makes God the author of human sufferings and predicaments.

“Behold, it was very good” is a valid post-script to what God intended and subsequently created. How did we come to our present state of pains, ruins, sufferings and confusion?

An enemy has done this, and it was while men slept
(Matt. 13:25, 28)

How Bad Is Our Case?
The depth of what the serpent did to man in the garden is only known to God. Something changed. Something fundamental to man’s relationship with God changed almost irreparably.

“God sowed good seed in his field. But while Adam slept, the enemy, the serpent came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went away. But when God’s seed sprung and put forth fruits, the enemy’s intention and input also showed forth as contamination”
(Genesis 1:1, 31; 3:1-3 and Matthew 13:24-26)

And how bad was the situation?
“Angels came to God and asked him, Sir, was it not good seed you sowed in your field? Where did it get these contaminations from”? (Matthew 13:27)

God replied them, “What you see is the work of the enemy”. Then the angels said, “Wilt thou then that we go and destroy this work of the enemy”? But God replied, “No! Lest while you gather up
the tares, you root up the wheat with them” (Matthew 13:27-29).
That is a fearful comment!
What was it that the enemy touched that caused this kind of irreparable damage! Even Angel’s couldn’t help.

“For we must needs die; we are as water spilt on the ground, which cannot be gathered up again…” 2 Samuel 14:14

The situation was dire! The enemy’s intention was cruel to the core. Evil rushed in like a mighty flood. The Heavens stood aghast. Humanity had let God down. The unimaginable had occurred. The
aids of angels were completely useless. The Eternal One was left alone to sort out the dramatic complexity into which man had put Him. What was He going to do?

The Devise!

In the heat of the satanic invasion that turned the Earth into a dark arena of miseries, the Almighty took a glance at the enemy and uttered these words which have haunted the adversary down the
age!

The seed of the woman: it shall bruise your head – Genesis 3:15

This is a radical approach to the very root of human sufferings. This was God addressing the fundamental principle of evil. This was the Axe laid on the root of evil. This was God’s devise against all that satan is, all that he has done and all that he can ever do!

“God devised means” (2 Samuel 14:14) to solve and dissolve the problem of evil to its very foundation. The seed of the woman came. He took on the serpent in a mortal combat. Calvary witnessed the duel unto the death! God’s Holy Son entered into the chambers of death and took hell and death by the throat! The enemy of God and man stood judged and condemned. The seals that he set upon the cage of humanity were shattered by the Son of God.

On Calvary tree, God died that man may live. He bore our pains and our sorrows in His own body. He paid the price for the souls of men.

And Now, What seems to be The Problem?

God took liability for man’s failure. He devised means to solve the riddles of our collective miseries. The work of Redemption that Jesus under-took at Calvary was radical and complete. Heaven recognizes no obstacle to the freedom of man. God sees no reason why anyone should remain in chains to satan. The entire issue of man’s subjection to demonic oppressions and afflictions has been
settled forever in the mind of God.

Where then is the problem? Why do men still lie prostrate to the impostor called satan?

What You Should Know and What You Should Do!

What needed to be done concerning the devil and his bunch of lawless terrorist demons has already been done. When our dying substitute cried: “IT IS FINISHED”, we stood free from everything we might have owed the adversary!

That brings us to Job 41. What is it that you need to know? You do not have to struggle with the enemy. You do not need to fight him. See Job 41,
“Can you draw out leviathan with an hook? Or his tongue with a cord”?
The answer is, No! I can’t. “Can you put an hook into his nose? Or bore his jaw
through with a thorn? Will he make a covenant with you?

Can you fill his skin with barbed irons? Or his head with fish spears?

No! I can’t do any of that. I do not need to do any of it. Leviathan, the old serpent has been dealt a mortal blow by the Son of the living God! Satan is no longer a major issue! I need not struggle with him any longer.

What Then?

“LAY YOUR HAND UPON HIM, REMEMBER THE BATTLE, DO NO MORE” Job 41:8

That is it! Remember the battle at Calvary! Remember the three days in the belly of the earth. And that is it! Remember that the keys are no longer in the hands of the enemy:

“…Jesus Christ our Saviour has abolished death and has brought life and immortality to light” 2 Timothy 1:10

“Having spoiled principalities and powers, He made an open show of them, triumphing over them in it” Colossians 2:15

“He destroyed him that had the power of death, that is the devil; (to) deliver them who through the fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage” Hebrews 2:14, 15

Remember the Battle! Remember the Blood of Jesus. Remember the Name that is above all names. Remember that He took your place and fought your fight and won for you a victory that no devil can
challenge or contest! Hear Him:

“I am he that liveth, and was dead; and, behold, I am alive forevermore, Amen; and have the keys of hell and of death” Revelation 1:18

This is our ground for total freedom. This is our resurrection response to all of satan’s death programmes. When we have remembered the battle, there is no more to be done, for there is
no foe, no enemy, no serpent or dragon or leviathan that does not know what the cross of Calvary stands for! “It is Finished” means “it is finished”. What is FINISHED is Finished! In case any lying devil wants to confuse you on this, you just Remember the battle, do no more, for there is no more to be done!

Your future is so much more important than your now. Eternity is waiting for you, and it is just one
breath away…. You must be sure where you will live eternally. God made Provision for that. If you
want to have eternal life and live in God’s coming kingdom then Pray this:
Lord Jesus, I repent of my sinful life and I ask You to forgive me my sins. Save me. I open my heart
to the Life that you have offered me. Here and now I receive this Life, and I thank You for it.
Please Lord, give me the Holy Spirit too, and I will live for Your glory.
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Shake It Off (The Donkey and Farmers Story)

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One of my favorite stories is about a farmer’s donkey that fell into a dry well. The animal cried pitifully for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do for his poor donkey.

Finally, he concluded that the well was too deep, and it really needed to be covered up anyway. Besides, the donkey was old, and it would be a lot of trouble to get him out of the pit. The farmer decided that it was not worth trying to retrieve the animal, so he asked his neighbors to help him fill in the well and bury the donkey. They all grabbed shovels and began to toss dirt into the well. The donkey immediately realized what was happening, and he began to bray horribly. Crying would be our normal response if somebody was mistreating us this badly, so this donkey was responding the same way we would at first, but then he got real quiet. A few shovel loads of dirt later, the farmer looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw. With every shovel of dirt that hit the donkey’s back, the donkey would shake it off and step on top of it. As the neighbors and the farmer continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he continued to shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon the donkey shook off the last shovel full of dirt, took a step up, and walked right out of the well.

We can learn so much from this story. When trouble comes, if we will get still and listen, God will tell us what to do. By the grace and mercy of God, I was able to shake off a lot of things in my life, a lot of hurt feelings, a lot of mistreatment, a lot of abuse, a lot of unfair, unjust, unkind things. Just like the donkey, in order to keep pressing on and have victory in our lives, we are going to have to learn to shake off the troubles that come our way.

This story is so inspiring and that is why I decided to share with you.

This is a Touching Story

I saw this write up and I will love to share with you.

Two Different Men

Two pictures, both Teachers, both Muslims, both Northerners, both entrusted with the studies, care and guardianship of our little kids.The one in white is a Teacher in F.G.C Birnin yauri, Kebbi State.The one in black is the Proprietor and a Teacher of Noble Kids Primary school, Nasarawa Kano stateThe one in White, asked the Kidnappers who took away Students of F.G.C Birnin Yauri last year, to either release the kids, take Him in their place, or kidnap him as well. The kidnappers kidnapped Him as well.He knew He stood the risk of being killed by the vicious bandits, but He chose to stay with His students in captivity and suffer with them, watch over them or even die with them.The one in Black Kidnapped His own pupil, knowing fully well she’s an only child, took the Mother’s contact from the School parents contact book, requested for Ransom, got the Ransom and eventually killed 5year old Hanifa.The one in White is a hero and should be celebrated The one in Black is clearly a villain who should face the full wrath of the law.There are good and bad people in every Profession, in every tribe & in every religion.The evil acts of Abubakar Tanko(in black) may make the Public see all Teachers, Hausa’s and Muslims as evil, but then the heroic acts of the Teacher in white who shares the same tribe, religion and job as Abubakar, definitely counters such perceptions.The name of the Teacher in white is Muktar Abdullahi and He needs to be Nationally celebrated. God bless Him.

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January

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As you’re preparing to receive your first salary for the year 2022

January Wisdom

J-oin contribution if you are a salary earner it will help you a lot.

A-void unnecessary expenses because things may slow down for the next two months.

N-egotiate for something moderate don’t copy others who pay heavily for same quality and quantity. No competition In life.

U-nderstand the economy and plan ahead of time because you can’t predict another economic meltdown in a country where almost everybody want to steal.

A-void the temptation of women, friends, relatives, who have the habit of lavishing your resources.

R-educe the number of days you fuel your generator. At least feel the pains of others who don’t have one. It makes you appreciate God’s blessings and his supply.

Y-ou should be wise/careful the way you take loan, always learn to be contented with what you have.

I hope this will help someone.
God bless all of us

TALENT

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TALENT

Talent is another word for desire. Our focus becomes centered on what we wish to do practicing again and again, until we master the needed skills.

Talent can be developed. We need not compare ourselves to others, who seem “better” for each of us can enjoy to the extent of our ability the dreams of our heart.

Tasking what God gives us with gratitude

Allowing ourselves to succeed

Living life to its fullest

Enjoying what makes our hearts sing

Never let other people’s talent discourage you

Taking time each day for your passion

This write up has inspired me so I decide to share it too.

What Is Stopping You?

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I saw this story about an 11 year old girl, I will like to share to motivate you.

Rhea Bullos, an 11-year-old track athlete from the Philippines, went viral after competing in a local inter-school running. Bullos won three gold medals in the 400-meter, 800-meter, and 1,500-meter competitions.

The girl went viral not only because she won but because she didn’t have running shoes and decided to use bandages as shoes.

I always say and I will reiterate that at any point in your life, Know that you have everything you need to succeed. The girl did not focus at what those who had shoes had, she focused of using what she had and has further opened many other opportunities. Many of us wouldn’t have participated for fear of what other runners or spectators where going to say about us and would have missed an opportunity that would have improved our lives.

How many opportunities have passed you because you are not using what you have? Stop focusing on how other people started and start using what you have. You are enough.

Hope this inspired you, then share with others .

RAISING A GENERATION OF WEAK CHILDREN

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A friend of mind shared this touching post and I will love to share with you too.

It’s your fault. You started this. You started it long time ago when you resolved that your children would not pass through the difficulties you went through. Your love for them made them weak.

Your parents prepared you for the challenges ahead. They allowed you to solve many of your problems. They only guarded and guided. They allowed you to go to WAEC office to check your WASSCE result. You even travelled to Ikoyi to check UME and PCE results. But you consider your children too young and inexperienced to do anything for themselves. The same children that you put in school at age 2 have suddenly become too young.

You rushed them through childhood thinking cognitive achievements would see them through. They can’t even keep their own records. When they register for exams, you keep photo cards and slips. You will keep result checkers too. When results are out, you rush to cafes to check and print them. You followed them everywhere and show them everything as if they were blind. You follow them to register for JAMB, your phone number is on the registration form, you stayed in the car on the exam day, immediately after exam, you zoom them home.

They never get the chance to socialize. They can’t even discuss contents and conduct of the exam with fellow candidates. You won’t let them stay back a second but you stayed back on the day of your own exam. You made new friends and all of you, strangers to one another, went to buy snacks together. You were all talking and smiling as if you had known one another for years but your children can’t do this. “What else are you waiting for?” is the question from your raised voice.

When results are out, you will receive the notification. You will be the one to go and print the result and start thinking of how to get admission processed. Finally when admission is secured, you will still be the one to go to banks and pay all fees. You will also travel down to look for their accommodation. Unfortunately, you can’t follow them to campus, you would have preferred to attend every lecture with them. You inevitably, relax the apron string at this stage and allow them to face life by themselves for the first time.

They now have to, for the first time in their entire life, do things by themselves and for themselves. There’s no more mom and dad to think, act, predict, assume and foresee events any more. Then the vicissitudes of life come knocking. They fail four courses out of nine in 100 level but struggle to move on. When it happens again in 200L and 300L, they consider all the hardships of the last two years, the suffering is magnified in their weak minds, they find no one to talk to, they blame themselves and you for creating the hardship, thus they resolve to opt out of life.

Dear parents, allow your children to grow up. Allow them make their mistakes, build a level of dependence on themselves and chart their own course. I know you are quite rich, but allow them experience a level of hardship. You should even induce a degree of hardwork around the home to check how they can survive outside the canopy of your feathers. Stop raising weak children because the world out there is for the strong. When you are over protective of a child they lose confidence in themselves. There is no sweet without sweat

Greetings parents!
I found this interesting,

Evidence of Pride

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20 WAYS TO KNOW IF YOU ARE PROUD

(1) If you can not submit yourself to higher authority

(2) If you find it difficult to accept correction

(3) If you are too big to say sorry

(4) If you think that your success or achievements are based on your efforts

(5) If you don’t have respect for people

(6) If you are always feeling Superior to others

(7) If you always want to control or dominate others

(8) If you are always angry at those who correct you

(9) If you cannot work under those with lesser qualifications

(10) If you think that you are better than others

(11) If you avoid those who criticize you

(12) If you feel too big to learn

(13) If you feel ashamed to ask questions about what you don’t know

(14) If you are always bragging about your achievement /connections

(15) If you don’t consider it necessary to say thank you to those who helped you

(16) If you think that you cannot make mistakes

(17) If you think that you know everything in life

(18) If you think that nobody knows more than you

(19 ) When you look at those who helped you to get to the top as nothing

(20) When you refused to appreciate those who have been a blessing to your life even when you have over enough to do so.

Let’s kill pride before it kills something good in us.

Remember
“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18)

“A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit”.(Proverbs 29:23)

Don’t Give Up

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What ever the challenge don’t give up.

Hard work pays

I JUST NEED A MAN

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I JUST NEED A MAN
(The Kingdom First)

Eight (8) relationships in one year with men who were simply after my body and had no plan for a future with me.
I thought dating a married man would bring me happiness because I felt a level of security and comfort with him… The moral view of this was useless to me as all I wanted was A MAN TO LOVE & CARE FOR ME… which he did.
I lacked nothing as long as I graced his bed and met his manly needs more than the wife could do for the moment…
But into our relationship, reality dawned on me that he could never be MINE…

Dating guys in the same age group as mine was a big mess cause all we did was have sex, party, chat away the time and get temporal fun.
At least, the older married men impacted my life one way or the other but these small boys… All they do is waste one’s time and at the end give you nothing but unfaithfulness.

A point came in my life where I thought I had found the ONE, he was sweet, nice and caring… He was everything I needed in a man… We had a meaningful relationship but for sure there was a high demand for sex and other fruitless demands, but aside this he helped me grow in my business and supported my career with his intelligent business ideas.
Finally, I have found a husband, I was really hopeful…

I thought satisfying him sexually would keep him, I gave him my whole regardless of the consequences to my body… He would come up with crazy sex ideas and I would agree.
Thinking I was KEEPING MY MAN who would be my husband soon… I introduced him to my family members and everyone knew him as my husband to be.
Only for him to post PRE WEDDING PICTURES ON FACEBOOK after 2 weeks of being distant from each other…
He used me for his pleasure and spurned me after 4 months of relationship and several abortions…

It wasn’t the first so I overcame the pain soon enough…
Despite all, I wondered, why is it so hard to find my MAN because all I needed was a MAN…


Could this be your story?
If it is, please sit let us talk…

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you including AN AMAZING HUSBAND.

You cannot love a man or enjoy his love without knowing or loving the Giver of Love…
You cannot search for love outside the Giver of Love…
GOD IS LOVE and only HE can satisfy YOU…

Stop looking for satisfaction outside CHRIST because at the end all it will bring you are
> Heart pains
> Regrets
> And a waste of your time
Seek GOD first before MAN
Find your wholeness in Christ and do not get entangled with people who would only
> Make you CRY
> Make you live a FRUITLESS life
> DISREGARD you
> DEVALUE you
> DESTROY you
> CHEAT on you
And make you feel WORTHLESS….

You know the deception of Satan, at first it’s sweet and enjoyable but the END is PAINFUL…
You must get angry with this fruitless living and seek God and His kingdom to be made whole…
Don’t settle for less, you are a QUEEN👸 and you deserve nothing but the BEST…
Don’t settle for the lies of SATAN that says
> You are not good enough
> No man can love you
> You are too dirty to be saved
These are all LIES because NO matter who you are or what you have done, Jesus will forgive your SINS and keep no record of your WRONGS…
All you need do is allow Him into your life and watch Him BEAUTIFY your life.
He will clean the mess and make you whole again, giving you A BRAND NEW LIFE.

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Home Truth “Origin of Underemployment in Nigeria.

I always wonder why A country like Nigeria blessed with human and natural resources yet has a high level of under employment.

I saw this post shared in a whatsapp group I belong and it so on point that I will like to share with you.

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I run a manufacturing business and a trading business.

The biggest challenge in my manufacturing business is not power, or infrastructure, the biggest challenge is getting honest staff.

Everyone we hire appears to be on a mission to steal as much as possible. Inflated invoices, recording less than the actual number of units produced. The worst part of it all is that all the fraud we’ve uncovered is not done by a single person, it’s usually many staff who collude with each other, from production, to sales, to finance, even top management. There was a year I overhauled management 3 times in a year…

But me, I’ve found a solution sha, I now use Indian management. So competent, so honest and so straightforward. I thought they were expensive at first with all the visa fees, accommodation, house staff, but now that losses due to staff theft have been reduced to a minimum, and efficiency increased, the Indian management has turned out to be cheaper than the previous Nigerian management. Now, all sensitive positions involving money go to Indians. Nigerians are only allowed in non-sensitive positions. I used to criticize companies like Dangote Group that hire so many Indians when there are many unemployed Nigerians, but now, I understand their decision.

My biggest challenge in the trading business is the same, getting honest staff. The form of trading occurs in the open market, and involves staff having access to huge sums of money running into a few millions. I know how much I pay to security companies to provide escorts for the staff, not to prevent robbery, but to ensure that the staff go straight to the bank to deposit the money after the day’s sales and not disappear with my money. This money spent on security companies is even enough to be declared as profit. We have to spend on CCTV, biometric scanners and other things that wouldn’t be needed if staff weren’t looking for the slightest opportunity to steal.

It got so bad at a point that my main criteria for employing staff was no longer competency but honesty. At least, competency and skills can be learnt, but once you’re dishonest, you’re dishonest.

We always complain of the economy and how there are no jobs. I know people abroad who would have loved to set up job creating businesses in Nigeria but they can’t because they can’t get any trustworthy person to run it.

I know people in Nigeria with so much money, they want to start factories and other job-creating businesses but they can’t because they are occupied elsewhere and can’t get any trustworthy person to run the business. So instead of investing in the real sector and creating jobs, they’ll just buy treasury bills, while the thieves are shouting no jobs.

Many big businesses would have been born in Nigeria if we could engage in partnerships, but we cant because you can’t trust anyone. This is one advantage the Indians and Lebanese have over us in Nigeria.

They can pull resources together and do mega-business, unlike Nigerians that because only one person must do everything since we can’t partner, end up with small, tiny businesses.

Start a poultry and they will be stealing your eggs. Some will even go ahead to be killing the chickens so that they’ll be allowed to take them home.

Start an entertainment/viewing/game center and they’ll be pocketing your money. On the days you’re around at the business, the money realized will be x10 of the money realized when you’re not around….. Because they’re eating your money.

Lease out a vehicle to a driver to use and watch as he’ll finish you.

Start a restaurant, the same thing will happen. More than half of the total food ingredients will end up in their personal kitchens.

Even ordinary provisions shop, they will find a way to steal.

You’ll see them with that their evil, wicked saying “na where person dey work, na there e dey chop, na e make dem dey callam workchop/workshop”…Just imagine, justifying theft at work.

And you’ll see these people point their crooked fingers at politicians when they’re not any different. I usually say the reason most Nigerians haven’t stolen billions of government money, is simply lack of opportunity.

On every level, Nigerians are the problem of Nigeria.

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Don’t be a Lone Wolf in 2021

A man, who regularly attended family meetings suddenly without any notice stopped participating.

After a few weeks, one very cold night the leader of that group decided to visit him.
He found the man at home, alone, sitting in front of a fireplace where a bright fire burned.

The man welcomed the leader. There was a great silence.
The two men only watched the dancing flames around the logs that crackled in the fireplace.

After a few minutes the leader, without saying a word, examined the woods that formed the fire and selected one of them, glowing most brightly of all, removing it to the side with a pair of tongs. Then he sat down again.

The host was paying attention to everything, fascinated. Before long, the lone member flame subsided, until there was only a momentary glow & the fire soon went out.

In a short time what was previously bright light and heat had become nothing more than a black & dead piece of wood.
Very few words had been spoken since the greeting.

Before preparing to leave, the leader with the tongs picked up the useless piece of wood & placed it again in the middle of the fire. Immediately, the member piece of wood was rekindled, fueled by the light & heat of the burning coals around him.

When the leader reached the door to leave, the host said: Thank you for your visit and for your beautiful lesson. I’ll return to the group soon.

Why is a group important? Very simple:

Because each member that withdraws takes fire & heat from the rest.

It’s worth reminding group members that they are a part of the flame.

It’s also good to remind us that we are all responsible for keeping each other’s flame burning

And we must promote the union among us so that the fire is really strong, effective and lasting.

THE GROUP IS A FAMILY
It doesn’t matter if sometimes we are bothered by so many messages, etc.

What matters is to be connected. We are here to meet, learn, exchange ideas, check in on each other or simply to know that we are not alone.

Let’s keep the flame alive.

Life is beautiful with good family members like you all.

THOSE WHO CROWN KINGS 🤴🏽 DO NOT LOOK LIKE KINGS

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THOSE WHO CROWN KINGS 🤴🏽 DO NOT LOOK LIKE KINGS; BEWARE!!!
(Pls let this message sink into you as you journey into the new decade 2021-2030)

There was this poor man who wrote a book at the age of 40 and decided to launch it on his Birthday.

He had no money to fund the launching and so, he decided to seek help from a millionaire in his community.

He made a visit to the Millionaires home and after they exchanged pleasantries, he told his host what brought him.

The Millionaire told him to take out a piece of paper and pen.
He said, ” I will give you a test. If you pass it, I will give you the money you need and if you fail, I will still give you the money”

He then told him to write down the names of 10 people who could give him 10k each for his book during the launch.

Surprisingly, the man could not write even 3 names. 😢

Now, take a glass of water 🥃 and let me tell you something..

It is not enough to have talent and skills. You must understand the power of building valuable relationship.

It was a wise man that said, your network is directly proportional to your net worth.

Relationship is a currency

Relationship is a stream of income. Everything in this life actually reproduces on the basis of relationship.

See eh bah, Who likes you in this life matters. 👌🏾

Men are lifted through men.

Many of us are talented but we lack a cup bearer to tell the King that there is a Joseph that can interpret dreams. 😞

Who you know matters a lot in this life. Don’t say it doesn’t matter. It does. 😨

There are heights and opportunities you will never attain if you don’t understand the power of Keeping Valuable Relationships .

When they say, turn and greet your neighbour at times in the church, you don’t even know who you are talking to… 🤔

That might be the CEO of a company. But sometimes, we despise people based on their outward looks and judge them wrongly.

Have this wisdom am sharing with you.

That person you sit with in class, or the colleagues at work that you look down on, may be the ones that will lead you to your destiny helper because you have no idea who they know. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Sometimes, it takes just a recommendation to change your story. (Just like that 🙃)

Don’t despise men in Life. You will need them one day.

Sometimes those who crown Kings don’t look like kings 🤔 and may never become kings but they can help you wear the crown. Haayaayaaaaahh..😃

Again,

Shut the door of relationship gently you may need to use it tomorrow.

Please value even the least person, because, that person might be the one to wear you the crown! 👑

LETS NOT FORGET…

EVERY ONE IS A PLUS!!

👌🏾😇

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Little Act of Kindness Can Save A Soul

I want to share two old stories with you, and see how you would choose !

” Story One“
A certain company has a tradition of holding a party and a lottery every Christmas Eve.

The rules of the lottery draw are as follows: each employee pays ten dollars as a fund. There are three hundred people in the company. In other words, a total of three thousand dollars can be raised. The winner takes all the money home.

On the day of the lottery draw, the office was filled with a lively atmosphere. Everyone wrote their names on a slip of paper and put them in the lottery box.

However, a young man by name Karl, hesitated when he wrote. Because he thought that the company’s cleaner has a frail and sickly son who was going to have an operation recently, but she did not have the money to pay for the operation. This made her very troubled.

So, even though he knew that the chance of winning was slim, with only a three percent chance, Karl wrote the name of the cleaner on the note.

The tense moment came. The boss stirred the slips in the lottery box, and finally drew out a note. Karl also kept praying in his heart: I hope the Cleaner can win the prize…Then the boss carefully announced the winner’s name. A miracle has happened!

The winner turned out to be the Cleaner! Cheers broke out in the office, and the Cleaner hurriedly came to the stage to accept the award. She burst into tears and said movedly: I am so lucky! With this money, my son has hope to live !

As the party was in progress, while thinking about this “Christmas miracle”, Karl paced to the lottery box. He took out another piece of paper and opened it casually. The name on it was also the name of the Cleaner ! Karl was sincerely surprised. He took out several pieces of the slip of papers one after another. Although the handwriting on them were different, the names were all the same. All of them were the names of the Cleaner ! Then Karl’s eyes were red with tears of joy. He clearly understood that there is a Christmas miracle in the world, but the miracle will not fall from the sky. People are required to create it by themselves!

” Story Two “
One afternoon, I went for a walk with a friend in the suburbs. Suddenly, an old man in tattered clothes approached with a bag of green vegetables in his hand. The sales of those vegetables are very poor, the leaves were dehydrated and yellow, and there were holes in them that are bitten by insects. But my friend bought three bags without saying a word. The old man embarrassedly explained: “I grew this vegetable myself. It rained a while ago, and the vegetable were soaked. They look ugly. I’m sorry.

After the old man left, I asked my friend: Will you really eat these vegetables when you go home?

He said no. These vegetables can no longer be eaten.

Then why are you buying?

Because it is impossible for anyone to buy those vegetables. If I don’t buy it, the old man will probably have no income.

I admire my friend’s good deeds, so I caught up with the old man and bought some vegetables from him too. The old man said very happily, “I been trying to sell them all day, and only you are willing to buy it. Thank you so much. You have put food on the table for me and my family.

Several handfuls of green vegetables that I can’t eat at all taught me a valuable lesson. When l heard the old man, I was almost move to tears.

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When we are in a low ebb, we all hope that miracles will happen to us; but when we are capable, are we willing to be the one who creates miracles for others ?

When reading this article, everyone has two choices: 

1) You can spread it, spread some positive messages, and make the world know more love.

2) You can also ignore it at all, as if you never saw it.

However, your little sharing action may illuminate the destiny of countless people and inspire them to show a little more kindness.

Don’t Support Evil Today Because It Doesn’t Affect You Directly, Tomorrow It Could Be Your Turn

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Long-time ago in the Animal Kingdom, a sheep was passing and saw a lion crying inside a cage trapped and the lion begged the sheep to save him with a promise not to kill and eat it but the sheep refused. After much persuasion and for the sheep’s gullibility it opened the cage for the lion.

Now the lion was very hungry having stayed in the cage for days without food. It quickly grabbed the sheep to kill and eat but the sheep reminded him of his promise. They were still there arguing when other animals came passing and they sought to know what happened.

Both the lion and the sheep narrated their own side of the story but because of fear and in trying to gain Favour in the sight of the lion, all the animals took side with the lion except the Tortoise who claim not to understand the whole scenario.

Now the Tortoise asked the lion to show them where he was before the sheep rescued him, he pointed at the cage. He asked again, “were you inside or outside when the sheep arrived”? The lion said he was inside. The tortoise again said, “ok, enter let’s see how difficult it could be inside”. The lion entered and the tortoise locked him back inside.

In amazement, the other animals asked tortoise “why” and he replied “if we allow him to eat the sheep today, he will still go hungry tomorrow and we don’t know the next amongst us to be eaten tomorrow.

The Moral of this tale
Don’t support evil today because it doesn’t affect you directly, tomorrow it could be your turn

SHARE UNTIL IT GET TO THOSE SUPPORTED AND ARE STILL SUPPORTING EVIL, MOSTLY IN NIGERIA 😡.

Why We Shout When Angry

A Professor was teaching.
He asked his students, ‘why do we shout in anger?
Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’
The students thought for awhile.
One said, because we lose our calm.
But why shout when the other person is just next to you?
Asked the professor.
Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?
Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?
The students gave some answers but none satisfied the Professor.

Finally he explained,
‘when two people are angry at each other, there is a distance in their hearts psychologically.
To cover the distance,
they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are,
the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance.
Then the Professor asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love?
They don’t shout at each other but talk softly.
Why? This is because their hearts are psychologically close.
The distance between them is very close.

The Professor continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens?
They don’t speak, only whisper and they even get closer to each other in their love.
Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all…..

So next time you shout on a loved one, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person’s heart. Experience says a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

PLS SHARE with as many friends as you can. You may be healing a hot tempered person today… Enjoy every moment. “Life is easy” Don’t make it complex.

Who Shake The Jar?

If you collect 100 black ants and 100 red ants and put them in a glass jar nothing will happen, but if you take the jar, shake it violently and leave it on the table, the ants will start killing each other. Reds believe that black is the enemy while black believes that red is the enemy, when the real enemy is the person who shook the jar. The same is true in our society.

Men vs Women
Left vs Right
Rich vs poor
Faith vs Science
Gossip, rumors, etc …

Before we fight each other, we must ask ourselves: Who rocked the jar?

THE SPEECH DELIVERED BY BRIGADIER JOSHUA NIMYEL DOGONYARO AFTER BUHARI’S DETHRONEMENT ON AUGUST 27, 1985

STATE OF THE NATION

FLASHBACK:

THE SPEECH DELIVERED BY BRIGADIER JOSHUA NIMYEL DOGONYARO AFTER BUHARI’S DETHRONEMENT ON AUGUST 27, 1985

I, Brigadier Joshua Nimyel Dogonyaro, of the Nigerian Army, hereby make the following declaration on behalf of my colleagues and members of the Nigerian Armed Forces.

Fellow country men, the intervention of the military at the end of 1983 was welcomed by the nation with unprecedented enthusiasm. Nigerians were unified in accepting the intervention and looked forward hopefully to progressive changes for the better. Almost two years later, it has become clear that the fulfillment of expectations is not forthcoming.

Because this generation of Nigerians and indeed future generations have no other country but Nigeria, we could not stay passive and watch a small group of individuals misuse power to the detriment of our national aspirations and interest.

No nation can ever achieve meaningful strides in its development where there is an absence of cohesion in the hierarchy of government; where it has become clear that positive action by the policy makers is hindered because as a body it lacks a unity of purpose.

It is evident that the nation would be endangered with the risk of continuous misdirection. We are presently confronted with that danger. In such a situation, if action can be taken to arrest further damage, it should and must be taken. This is precisely what we have done.

The Nigerian public has been made to believe that the slow pace of action of the Federal Government headed by Major-General Muhammadu Buhari was due to the enormity of the problems left by the last civilian administration.

Although it is true that a lot of problems were left behind by the last civilian government, the real reason, however, for the very slow pace of action is due to lack of unanimity of purpose among the ruling body; subsequently, the business of governance has gradually been subjected to ill-motivated power play considerations. The ruling body, the Supreme Military Council, has, therefore, progressively been made redundant by the actions of a select few members charged with the day-to-day implementation of the SMC’s policies and decision.

The concept of collective leadership has been substituted by stubborn and ill advised unilateral actions, thereby destroying the principles upon which the government came to power. Any effort made to advise the leadership, met with stubborn resistance and was viewed as a challenge to authority or disloyalty.

Thus, the scene was being set for systematic elimination of what, was termed oppositions. All the energies of the rulership were directed at this imaginary opposition rather than to effective leadership.

The result of this misdirected effort is now very evident in the country as a whole. The government has started to drift. The economy does not seem to be getting any better as we witness daily increased inflation.

The nation’s meager resources are once again being wasted on unproductive ventures. Government has distanced itself from the people and the yearnings and aspirations of the people as constantly reflected in the media have been ignored.

This is because a few people have arrogated to themselves the right to make the decisions for the larger part of the ruling body. All these events have shown that the present composition of our country’s leadership cannot, therefore, justify its continued occupation of that position.

Furthermore, the initial objectives and programmes of action which were meant to have been implemented since the ascension to power of the Buhari Administration in January 1984 have been betrayed and discarded. The present state of uncertainty and stagnation cannot be permitted to degenerate into suppression and retrogression.

We feel duty bound to use the resources and means at our disposal to restore hope in the minds of Nigerians and renew aspirations for a better future. We are no prophets of doom for our beloved country, Nigeria. We, therefore, count on everyone’s cooperation and assistance.

I appeal to you, fellow countrymen, particularly my colleagues in arms to refrain from any act that will lead to unnecessary violence and bloodshed among us. Rest assured that our action is in the interest of the nation and the armed forces.

In order to enable a new order to be introduced, the following bodies are dissolved forthwith pending further announcements:

(a) The Supreme Military Council

(b) The Federal Executive Council

(c) The National Council of States.

All seaports and airports are closed, all borders remain closed.

Finally, a dusk to dawn curfew is hereby imposed in Lagos and all state capitals until further notice. All military commanders will ensure effective maintenance of law and order. Further announcements will be made in due course. God bless Nigeria.

CAN ANY NIGERIAN TELL US THE DIFFERENCE THEN AND NOW?

Do Not Support Evil: Even If It Does Not Affect You

Long time ago in the Animal Kingdom, a sheep was passing and saw a lion crying inside a cage trap and the lion begged the sheep to save him with a promise not to kill and eat it but the sheep refused.

After much persuasion and for the sheep’s gullibility it opened the cage for the lion.
Now the lion was very hungry having stayed in the cage for days without food.
It quickly grabbed the sheep to kill and eat but the sheep reminded him of his promise.
They were still there arguing when other animals came passing and they sought to know what happened.

Both the lion and the sheep narrated their own side of the story but because of fear and in trying to gain Favour in the sight of the lion, all the animals took side with the lion except the Tortoise who claim not to understand the whole scenario.

Now the Tortoise asked the lion to show them where he was before the sheep rescued him, he pointed at the cage.
He asked again, “were you inside or outside when the sheep arrived”? The lion said he was inside.
The tortoise again said “ok, enter lets see how difficult it could be inside”.
The lion entered and the tortoise locked him back inside.

In amazement the other animals asked tortoise “why” and he replied “if we allow him eat the sheep today, he will still go hungry tomorrow and we don’t know the next amongst us to be eaten tomorrow.

Moral:

Don’t support evil today because it doesn’t affect you directly, tomorrow it could be your turn.

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Intelligence

IQ , EQ , SQ , AQ

…..According to psychologists, there are four types of intelligence:

1) Intelligence Quotient 0(IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)

1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your comprehension ability”, solve maths; memorize things and recall subject matters.
2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others; keep to time; be responsible; be honest; respect boundaries; be humble, genuine and considerate.
3. Social Quotient (SQ):
   This is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.

People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go farther in life than those with high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize in improving IQ level while EQ and SQ are played down.

A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.

Your EQ represents your character; your SQ represents your charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs but more especially your EQ and SQ.

EQ and SQ make one manage better than the other.

Pls don’t teach children only to have higher IQ , but also to have higher EQ and SQ.

Now there is a 4th one :
A new paradigm

4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ):
   The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life and come out without losing your mind.
   AQ determines who will give up in face of troubles and may abandon their families.

To parents:
Expose children to other areas of life than academic. They should adore manual work (never use work as a form of punishment), sport and art .

Develop their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of the parents.

Finally, do not prepare the road for the children. Prepare the children for the road

Moral lesson

A MESSAGE FROM MY ENTREPRENEUR FATHER🔥

Listen SON, your antagonist will increase at every seconds of your progress. My entrepreneur father said some few years ago.

As he walked through the environment, he said, walk with me. I have something to show you.

He went to the mango tree at the backyard, and requested I plug a fruit from the tree. Actually the riped one.

I looked carefully and replied; Sir, I can’t see any ripe one here. He stared at me for few seconds, this time, my heartbeat increased.

He has actually warned me to be prudent like King Solomon anytime I come close to him because the race is not for the ignorant anymore.

I adjusted my breath for another few seconds, I said again, Sir, I can’t find any riped MANGO. Beautiful, he said, with a confident tone. Then he continued,

Nobody will know you when you are not ripe. Nobody will attack you when your glory isn’t showing. At this stage, you are like the unripe fruit. Ignored, deserted, overlooked because your fruit is not nutritional.

Here is your first lesson Son, don’t fight to be seen or noticed, rather work on your fruit to be riped. It’s the nature of human to ignore people that are not productive. To be noticed, work more on your seed.

Come with me, this time, he took me to another tree, full with ripen fruit. Look around here and plug me two fruit. I look critically at the coconut tree, it was tall and uneasy to get, so I carefully took a big stick and hit it from afar, it fell to the ground so loud. Then I gave the two fruit to him. Then he said,

Here is it Son, the more ripe you become, the more enemies you attract just like the coconut tree. It’s the nature of human to come for you because you are ripe. They attack you just like you attack the coconut tree.

Don’t be moved, it’s your right to fulfill destiny no matter the attack on you. Keep growing. You are growing for two purpose.

One, as a shade for those that are helpless to hide and two, as a fruit for those that are hungry to eat from.

Understand this, your COURSE is beyond the attacker. Grow your lens of reasoning if you will last long as a fruitful tree.

You see that coconut tree, no matter how many you plug, it won’t dry up because of you. It will keep producing more coconut. It is because it produces more that makes it relevant in my compound. If not, I would have uprooted it a long time ago.

Just because your partner betray your love doesn’t stop you from loving someone else. You are productive, and you need to show your commitments as a tree that is fruitful not as a tree that dries up because of one person that plugs from it.

Just because someone fraud you is not enough reason not to trust. Trust is part of what makes your tree productive. Keep trusting till it get you to your breakthrough.

Just because a business partner betray your school doesn’t mean your school should close down.

Just because people don’t like what you do is not enough reason not to like yourself. Be your first admirer. Treat yourself with so much love and respect.

Nature will command people to take the course of likeness on you.

See Son, look at that bitter leaf at the other side of the compound, go and taste it. I moved a bit and I said, Sir, I don’t really like it. He smiled and said, Son,

This shows it’s not everyone that will like what you do, but you must never allow that determines how you grow.

That bitterleaf is never scared of growing no matter the hatred you have towards (him) because ‘he’ knows, one day, you will come looking for ‘him’ and ‘he’ will be your only saviour at that time. You will give ‘him’ all the attention you thought you couldn’t give.

Don’t stop growing Son. When your enemy increases for no reason, pay attention, your success is taking another dimension they can’t handle, the effect is dimensional.

The bitterleaf will attract enemies because of the kind of projection and growth it takes but sooner, it will be the ultimate search for many in few months to come. You are an ultimate search for someone tomorrow, so learn to improve your skills of growth today.

You are not growing to compete with the next person.

Coconut tree doesn’t compete with Apple tree, there seasons of growth and cycle is different. Learn to apply this in your journey as you move into the HALF session of the year.

Your competition is not with someone else. God who kept you on this Journey knows when your fruit will be ripe, so don’t envy others when their fruit is ripe. Seasons of growth is what matters. Move and grow in your own space.

Slowly but surely, your SEASON WILL COME.

Always remember,

The bloodline of your ancestors were DIFFERENT.

Let’s be inspired

NO ONE WAS BORN A RACIST

Racism is what the mind of the man taught us.

People Choose to be racist.

I Wish More People Would Understand….

Story of the wacth

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A young man saw his primary school teacher at a wedding ceremony.

He went to greet him with all respect and admiration!!

He said to him:
“Can you still recognize me Sir?’

‘I don’t think so!!’, said the Teacher, ‘could you please remind me how we met?’

The student recounted:
“I was your Student in the 3rd Grade, I stole a Wrist watch belonging to my then classmate because it was unique and fascinating.

My Classmate came to you crying that his Wrist Watch had been stolen and you ordered all Students in the class to stand on a straight line, facing the wall with our hands up and our eyes closed so you could check our pockets.

At this point, I became jittery and terrified of the outcome of the search. The shame I will face after other Students discovered that I stole the Watch, the opinions my Teachers will form about me, the thought of being named a ‘ thief’ till I leave the School and my Parents’ reaction when they get to know about my action.

All these thoughts flowing across my heart, when suddenly it was my turn to be checked. I felt your hand slipped into my pocket and you brought out the Watch. I was gripped with fear, expecting the worse to be announced. I was surprised I didn’t hear anything, but Sir, you continued searching other Students’ pockets till you got to the last person.

When the search was over, you asked us to open our eyes and sit on our Chairs. I was afraid to sit because I was thinking you will call me out soon after everyone was seated.

But to my amazement, you showed the watch to the class, gave it to the owner and you never mentioned the name of the one who stole the watch. You didn’t say a word to me, and you never mentioned the story to anyone.

Throughout my stay in the school, no Teacher or Student knew what happened. This incident naturally taught me a great lesson and I resolved in my heart never to get myself involved in taking whatever is not mine.
I thought to myself, you saved my dignity.”

“Do you remember the story now Sir? You can’t simply forget this story Sir!!”

The teacher replied, ‘ I vividly remember the story that I found the Watch in a pocket but i did not know in whose pocket the stolen Watch was found that day because I searched your pockets while I also had my eyes closed.”

In life, we need wisdom for everything we do. As Parents, Teachers, Leaders etc… We should be able to close our eyes to some things. Not all misbehaviour require punishment. Some will need encouragement, some mentoring and some monitoring. Be a Leader who impacts, not one who shatters.

THE INTERVIEWEE WHO HATED ME

6 years ago a guy looked at me face to face, and boldly told me; “I don’t like you!”

I immediately fired a response, I asked him that day; “Thank you for the honest feedback, but those that you like, how has it made their life better? How does your liking people pay their bills or take a bank loan? My brother keep your like, I need God’s like And that’s what guarantees my future.

Today I joined a CEO friend of mine in an interview Panel to recruit some new staff, it was a long session, as we returned from a coffee break to continue the hectic interview session, here was this same guy walked in with his grey jacket and CV coming for the interview.

Our eyes kissed by fluke, we immediately recognised eachother; “the world is indeed spherical”, I soliloquized.
He felt very uncomfortable through out the interview, one could clearly see the volcanic eruption ongoing in his whole nervous system, he even mistook his date of birth for his last date of employment. It wasn’t yet my turn to ask him questions so I allowed everyone to take their turns with him and deliberately opted to interview him last.

When it got to my turn, the first thing I said was, “I LIKE YOU so much, you look to me like a brilliant and intelligent person, but it seems you are not doing well now because something bothers you, true?”

“That’s very correct Ma!” He responded.

“Ok look at me straight in the eye, I was never offended that day, it is very normal that sometimes as humans you just don’t like certain people, but I wasn’t bothered either, because whether you liked me or not, it was inconsequential to my life and my success path – as you can see, fate has brought you to my lair”

I stood up and beckoned him to come and embrace me, everyone on the panel at this point were at sea – wondering if we had expeditiously recast an interview session to a Hollywood movie scene.

He hugged me so long and deeply that I felt it. Then I told him, “now get your confidence back bro and answer the questions like a Pro Shark that you are, we all burst into laughter, everyone suddenly liked him and the room became livelier – the interview became more like a discussion, well to cut the long story short, he got the job!

Lessons:

1. Be careful how you treat people when they appear to be in their vulnerable state, your next level may be hanging in their balance; somewhere in the future.

2. If you dislike someone, it is not their fault, it is YOUR FAULT, work on yourself to find good in people and reinvent your Mind to see everyone as likeable.

3. Don’t spew hatred vocally just because it came into your heart, you may say it to someone who will keep it forever and use it against you when you find yourself in your own low moments and need them.

4. Learn to forgive, overlook people’s dislike and hatred for you, dont punish people just because you have the position and privilege to do so, bless them rather – that’s how you court God’s blessings, favour and protection.

Credit: Chioma Nnamdi

How To Choose The Right Partner

When you step into the world of dating, many may come along and claim that they are perfect for you. Then how do you distinguish the genuinely good ones from the bad ones? Listed below are some traits that you must look out for in a perfect partner.

1. Loyalty
If they can’t stay loyal, they will not be able to love you enough. You will never be happy with a person like that. No matter what happens, never date a philanderer.

2. Maturity
Maturity refers to knowing how to behave in a particular place and a particular time. Maturity does not depend upon the age of a person. It is attained through sufficient experience.

3. Independence
This refers to someone who has the potential to keep you happy. Don’t date someone who will only depend on you for every single thing.

4. Commitment
Commitment is very important in a relationship. Look out for someone who wishes to have a long term relationship with you. Run away from a person who keeps changing his mind

5. Security.
Go for someone who can make you feel secured both physically, emotionally and financially.

6. Respect.
Go for someone who will not only respect you but also respect those who are important to you.

7. Good sense of humor.
Go for someone who will make life lively for you. Laughter heals wounds & act as catalyst in r/s.

8. Similarities.
Go for someone who shares similar hobbies, taste, preferences like you to avoid clash of interest.

9. Smartness.
Go for someone who is more intelligent and wiser than you.

10. Romantic & affectionate.
Go for someone who can make you feel special.

11. Easy to understand.
Go for someone who you can easily blend with.

12. Sensitivity.
Go for someone who is sensitive to your feelings and needs.

IF YOU HAVE GOTTEN ONE, PLEASE DON’T LET HIM GO.
By Paul M. Wakawa

Make Your Choice Wisely

CO-INCIDENCE OF LIFE:

1. CHURCH has 6 letters so does MOSQUE.
2. BIBLE has 5 letters so does QURAN.
3. DEAD has 4 letters so does LIFE.
4. HATE has 4 letters, so does LOVE.
5. ENEMIES has 7, so does FRIENDS.
6. LYING has 5, so does TRUTH.
7. HURT has 4, so does HEAL.
8. NEGATIVE has 8, so does POSITIVE.
9. FAILURE has 7, so does SUCCESS.
10. BELOW has 5, but so does ABOVE.
11. CRY has 3 letters so does JOY.
12. ANGER has 5 so does HAPPY.
13. WRONG has 5 so does RIGHT.
14. POOR has 4 so does RICH.
15. FAIL has 4 so does PASS
16. IGNORANCE has 9 so does KNOWLEDGE.

Are they all by Co-incidence? We should Choose wisely, this means LIFE is like a Double-Edged Sword.

Do you Agree???

Things I Wish They Teach Me In School

I saw this post online a few year ago, i can relate to must of what the writer said, I will Love to share with you too.

I don’t think about the past or regret things much these days. But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was.
Because some of the things in this article a teacher probably spoke about in class. But I forgot about them or didn’t pay attention.
Some of it would probably not have stuck in my mind anyway. Or just been too far outside my reality at the time for me to accept and use.
But I still think that taking a few hours from all those classes and use them for some personal development classes would have been a good idea. Perhaps for just an hour a week in high school. It would probably be useful for many students and on a larger scale quite helpful for society in general.
So here are 16 things I wish they had taught me in school (or I just would like to have known about earlier).
1. The 80/20 rule.
This is one of the best ways to make better use of your time. The 80/20 rule – also known as The Pareto Principle – basically says that 80 percent of the value you will receive will come from 20 percent of your activities.
So a lot of what you do is probably not as useful or even necessary to do as you may think.
You can just drop – or vastly decrease the time you spend on – a whole bunch of things.
And if you do that you will have more time and energy to spend on those things that really brings your value, happiness, fulfillment and so on.
2. Parkinson’s Law.
You can do things quicker than you think. This law says that a task will expand in time and seeming complexity depending on the time you set aside for it. For instance, if you say to yourself that you’ll come up with a solution within a week then the problem will seem to grow more difficult and you’ll spend more and more time trying to come up with a solution.
So focus your time on finding solutions. Then just give yourself an hour (instead of the whole day) or the day (instead of the whole week) to solve the problem. This will force your mind to focus on solutions and action.
The result may not be exactly as perfect as if you had spent a week on the task, but as mentioned in the previous point, 80 percent of the value will come from 20 percent of the activities anyway. Or you may wind up with a better result because you haven’t overcomplicated or overpolished things. This will help you to get things done faster, to improve your ability to focus and give you more free time where you can totally focus on what’s in front of you instead of having some looming task creating stress in the back of your mind.
3. Batching.
Boring or routine tasks can create a lot of procrastination and low-level anxiety. One good way to get these things done quickly is to batch them. This means that you do them all in row. You will be able to do them quicker because there is less start-up time compared to if you spread them out. And when you are batching you become fully engaged in the tasks and more focused.
A batch of things to do in an hour today may look like this: Clean your desk / answer today’s emails / do the dishes / make three calls / write a grocery shopping list for tomorrow.
4. First, give value. Then, get value. Not the other way around.
This is a bit of a counter-intuitive thing. There is often an idea that someone should give us something or do something for us before we give back. The problem is just that a lot of people think that way. And so far less than possible is given either way.
If you want to increase the value you receive (money, love, kindness, opportunities etc.) you have to increase the value you give. Because over time you pretty much get what you give. It would perhaps be nice to get something for nothing. But that seldom happens.
5. Be proactive. Not reactive.
This one ties into the last point. If everyone is reactive then very little will get done. You could sit and wait and hope for someone else to do something. And that happens pretty often, but it can take a lot of time before it happens.
A more useful and beneficial way is to be proactive, to simply be the one to take the first practical action and get the ball rolling. This not only saves you a lot of waiting, but is also more pleasurable since you feel like you have the power over your life. Instead of feeling like you are run by a bunch of random outside forces.
6. Mistakes and failures are good.
When you are young you just try things and fail until you learn. As you grow a bit older, you learn from – for example – school to not make mistakes. And you try less and less things.
This may cause you to stop being proactive and to fall into a habit of being reactive, of waiting for someone else to do something. I mean, what if you actually tried something and failed? Perhaps people would laugh at you?
Perhaps they would. But when you experience that you soon realize that it is seldom the end of the world. And a lot of the time people don’t care that much. They have their own challenges and lives to worry about.
And success in life often comes from not giving up despite mistakes and failure. It comes from being persistent.
When you first learn to ride your bike you may fall over and over. Bruise a knee and cry a bit. But you get up, brush yourself off and get on the saddle again. And eventually you learn how to ride a bike. If you can just reconnect to your 5-year-old self and do things that way – instead of giving up after a try/failure or two as grown-ups often do you would probably experience a lot more interesting things, learn valuable lessons and have quite a bit more success.
7. Don’t beat yourself up.
Why do people give up after just few mistakes or failures? Well, I think one big reason is because they beat themselves up way too much. But it’s a kinda pointless habit. It only creates additional and unnecessary pain inside you and wastes your precious time. It’s best to try to drop this habit as much as you can.
8. Assume rapport.
Meeting new people is fun. But it can also induce nervousness. We all want to make a good first impression and not get stuck in an awkward conversation.
The best way to do this that I have found so far is to assume rapport. This means that you simply pretend that you are meeting one of your best friends. Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind instead of the nervous one.
This works surprisingly well. You can read more about it in How to Have Less Awkward Conversations: Assuming Rapport.
9. Use your reticular activation system to your advantage.
I learned about the organs and the inner workings of the body in class but nobody told me about the reticular activation system. And that’s a shame, because this is one of the most powerful things you can learn about. What this focus system, this R.A.S, in your mind does is to allow you to see in your surroundings what you focus your thoughts on. It pretty much always helps you to find what you are looking for.
So you really need to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. And keep that focus steady.
Setting goals and reviewing them frequently is one way to keep your focus on what’s important and to help you take action that will move your closer to toward where you want to go. Another way is just to use external reminders such as pieces of paper where you can, for instance, write down a few things from this post like “Give value” or “Assume rapport”. And then you can put those pieces of paper on your fridge, bathroom mirror etc.
10. Your attitude changes your reality.
We have all heard that you should keep a positive attitude or perhaps that “you need to change your attitude!”. That is a nice piece of advice I suppose, but without any more reasons to do it is very easy to just brush such suggestions off and continue using your old attitude.
But the thing that I’ve discovered the last few years is that if you change your attitude, you actually change your reality. When you for instance use a positive attitude instead of a negative one you start to see things and viewpoints that were invisible to you before. You may think to yourself “why haven’t I thought about things this way before?”.
When you change your attitude you change what you focus on. And all things in your world can now be seen in a different light.
This is of course very similar to the previous tip but I wanted to give this one some space. Because changing your attitude can create an insane change in your world. It might not look like it if you just think about it though. Pessimism might seem like realism. But that is mostly because your R.A.S is tuned into seeing all the negative things you want to see. And that makes you “right” a lot of the time. And perhaps that is what you want. On the other hand, there are more fun things than being right all the time.
If you try changing your attitude for real – instead of analysing such a concept in your mind – you’ll be surprised.
You may want to read more about this topic in Take the Positivity Challenge!
11. Gratitude is a simple way to make yourself feel happy.
Sure, I was probably told that I should be grateful. Perhaps because it was the right thing to do or just something I should do. But if someone had said that feeling grateful about things for minute or two is a great way to turn a negative mood into a happy one I would probably have practiced gratitude more. It is also a good tool for keeping your attitude up and focusing on the right things. And to make other people happy. Which tends to make you even happier, since emotions are contagious.
12. Don’t compare yourself to others.
The ego wants to compare. It wants to find reasons for you to feel good about yourself (“I’ve got a new bike!”). But by doing that it also becomes very hard to not compare yourself to others who have more than you (“Oh no, Bill has bought an even nicer bike!”). And so you don’t feel so good about yourself once again. If you compare yourself to others you let the world around control how you feel about yourself. It always becomes a roller coaster of emotions.
A more useful way is to compare yourself to yourself. To look at how far you have come, what you have accomplished and how you have grown. It may not sound like that much fun but in the long run it brings a lot more inner stillness, personal power and positive feelings.
13. 80-90% of what you fear will happen never really come into reality.
This is a big one. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of time.
This is of course easy to say. But if you remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more of that worry from your thoughts.
14. Don’t take things too seriously.
It’s very easy to get wrapped up in things. But most of the things you worry about never come into reality. And what may seem like a big problem right now you may not even remember in three years.
Taking yourself, your thoughts and your emotions too seriously often just seems to lead to more unnecessary suffering. So relax a little more and lighten up a bit. It can do wonders for your mood and as an extension of that; your life.
15. Write everything down.
If your memory is anything like mine then it’s like a leaking bucket. Many of your good or great ideas may be lost forever if you don’t make a habit of writing things down. This is also a good way to keep your focus on what you want. Read more about it in Why You Should Write Things Down.
16. There are opportunities in just about every experience.
In pretty much any experience there are always things that you can learn from it and things within the experience that can help you to grow. Negative experiences, mistakes and failure can sometimes be even better than a success because it teaches you something totally new, something that another success could never teach you.
Whenever you have a “negative experience” ask yourself: where is the opportunity in this? What is good about this situation? One negative experience can – with time – help you create many very positive experiences.
What do you wish someone had told you in school or you had just learned earlier in life?

11 Ways to Eliminate Bad Habbits

Being able to eliminate bad habits can have a profound effect on your life. But habits can be challenging to change since they aren’t based on thoughtful choice, so it’s difficult to use logic to change your behavior. They require a multi-facet approach.

If you can’t shake your bad habits, try these tips to get you on the road to freedom:

1. Give it a month. In 30 days you can eliminate a bad habit and create a new, positive habit. Do your very best for a month. If you backslide after a month, it’s likely that your strategy is lacking.

2. Replace your bad habit. It’s almost impossible to just drop it and not replace what you’ve lost. So think about what your bad habit gives you and find a replacement that provides the same benefit. Replace the benefit or it will be a constant battle.

3. Deal with one challenge at a time. For example, avoid trying to overhaul your diet, exercise, spending, and smoking habits all at once. Pick one; give it a month. Then add another one once you’re used to not having the first bad habit.

You don’t have to be in a hurry. Consider what it would mean if you could just get rid of your 4 worst habits. That’s only 4 months away. Comparatively, that’s quick, considering that you’ve probably had them for a long time.

4. Be a scientist. Leave the big emotional struggle for someone else and approach the process like a scientist. Have an attitude of wondering if you can replace the habit. Hypothesize on how it might turn out. Be curious and have a perspective of doing an experiment. There’s less drama and bias that way.

5. Remove your triggers. For example, get the junk food out of the house. If you smoke, stay away from the places you always smoke. Avoid the places that tempt you to spend a lot of money. Habits don’t have a lot of thought behind them – they’re almost like reflexes. Don’t put yourself in harm’s way.

6. Avoid being too hard on yourself. It might take a couple of tries to get the new habit to stick. Just improve your approach and keep on going.

7. Remind yourself. It’s easy to forget to perform your new habit. If you’re going to start exercising every day, set up some reminders. If you’re going to floss, leave the floss out where you can see it.

8. Tell your friends. Your friends can help you reach your goal. They’ll say something if they see you eating a hot fudge sundae or smoking on your lunch breaks. Get all the help you can.

9. Be consistent. If you’re going to start exercising regularly, try to do it each day at the same time. This is much easier than trying to exercise 3 times a week. Try to do your replacement habit daily.

10. Remember the pain. Each day, ask yourself what it will mean if you don’t stop indulging in your bad habit. Visualize the likely outcome.

11. Focus on the pleasure. Every day, ask yourself what it will mean if you eliminate or replace your bad habit. Visualize the likely outcome of this scenario.

Bad habits really put the brakes on your progress.

Use the tips above and give yourself a great opportunity to eliminate your bad habits and replace them with useful habits. There’s no better feeling than knowing you have control over your life.

To Our Success,
Randy Mundt
http://unlimitedlifestyles.tk

Monday 4 May 2020 as Nigerians go out.

All of us are looking forward to Monday, 4th of May to dash out to our business and other engagements. Please read this, digest and practice it:

We have to Change Our Way Of Life and Help ourselves by PRACTICING PERSONAL HYGIENE.

We Will Be Dealing With A Lot Of People. Danfo Drivers, Hawkers, Customers, Road users, Food Vendors, Marwa/Keke, Taxi and Bike Men etc. We Won’t Know Who Has The Virus. Hence, We Need PERSONAL HYGIENE.

1. We Can No More Use Our Teeth To Tear “Pure Water”. Sellers Hands Had Touched It. You Get My Drift.
2. Don’t Allow Seller To Peel and Blow Your Groundnuts (or Buy Already Peeled Ones). Remember, Corona Thrive On Droplets.
3. Eat Only At Hygienic Places. Clean Environment and Where Seller Uses Clean Protective Equipments.
4. Hugging May Be Suspended. Social Distancing Advised.
5. Once you torch currencies and coins, hand-washing with soap is key because currencies travel a lot.
   When You Touch Naira Notes Given As Change By Conductors, Sellers Etc, Ensure You Don’t Put Same Hand In Mouth, Eyes or Nose. Wash Your Hands Appropriately. Or Use Sanitizer Before Hand.
6. You Can’t Place Your Mouth on Bottle of Coke of Another Person (Pour In Cups if You Must Share)..etc.
7. You Must Clean Surfaces Always Especially Where Many People Make Use of.
8. Carry Your Bag(s) Yourself. Era of Oga Sir Is Over. Except You Are Comfortable With Coro…
9. Stop Touching People When You Talk. Bad Habit. Now It’s Time To Stop It.
10. Whenever We Buy Something And It Is Put In A Nylon, Have It In Mind That The Nylon May Be Contaminated. Get Home and Wash Your Hands.
11. Always Close The Toilet Seat After Flushing. Bacteria, Viruses etc Goes On Air With Uncovered Toilet Seat.
12. Take proper care of your kids don’t allow them open snacks by themselves especially those in sachets like biscuits, sweets etc. * in other not to put it in their mouth trying to open it.
13. Teach your kids how to maintain proper hygiene like simple hand washing.
14. Finally, But Not The Least, Whenever You Get Home. Don’t Hug Your Kids or Spouse. First Pull Off Your Clothes For Washing, Go To The Bathroom and Either Take A Bath With Soap (It Will Make Some of Us Even Lighter In Complexion) or Wash Our Hands Before You Hug Your Kids and or Spouse.
15. If possible drive your own car until things get much better, cook and carry your own food and drinking water.

Stay safe.
Please let us be careful, try and avoid crowded places.

May God mercy help us 🙏🙏

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If a dog was your teacher,these are some of the lessons you might learn…

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If a dog was your teacher,these are some of the lessons you might learn…

When loved ones come home, always run to greet them
Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride
Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face,to be pure ecstasy

When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience
Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory
Take naps and stretch before rising
Run romp and play daily

Thrive on attention and let people touch you
Avoid biting, when a simple growl will do
On warm days stop to lie on your back on the grass
On hot days drink lots of water and lay under a shady tree
When you’re happy dance around and wag your entire body

No matter how often you’re scolded,
don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout,
run right back and make friends

Delight in the simple joy of a long walk
Eat with gusto and enthusiasm
Stop when you have had enough
Be loyal
Never pretend to be something you’re not

If what you want lies buried,
dig until you find it
When someone is having a bad day,
be silent….
…sit close by
…and nuzzle them gently.

Now That Your Indoors What Are You Doing

When you wake up and see this, I want you to remember that you are a Nigerian in Nigeria. When your rent is due, your landlord will ask for his money whether you are in quarantine or not.
You do not have the luxury to Netflix and chill.
Netflix with sense. You are even paying money to watch the film. You pay rent on Netflix. What is your plan after covid 19? Come back and answer me

You can post all the quotes that satisfy your laziness or massage your ego. When you are done with quotes, you come and face real life. You better not be busy doing all the challenge online and forget to challenge yourself to come out of this phase better if not brand new. The real challenge is the one you give yourself, by yourself for yourself.
Stop comparing, focus on you. You do not have all the time.

I’m praying about it is not a solution dear. Faith without works is what? DEAD.
Pray ,plan and execute. Bills do not answer to prayer, they answer to money! Johnnymontage said it.

There are families who cannot afford to buy food. Some bought and right now, everything has finished. Hold on. Have you thought about the market after covid 19? The way things are right now? Some offices will owe salary for some months, some businesses will phase out, some will stall. What is your plan? When the excuse for staying indoors is taking away, what will be your reason for going out?

Life is balance. Right in your room or wherever you are quarantined, look for avenues to improve yourself. Work on YOU. Right where you are. I’m not going to narrow it down to you, it’s up to you to figure it out. Everything is vanity ba, tell your children when they are driven from school to sit at home. Tell them when there is nothing to eat to sleep that food is vanity. Tell your debtor to forget the money that it is vanity. You are a Nigerian in Nigeria. What you cast and bind for, other countries get for free.

HELP YOURSELF. EVOLVE.

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7 Lessons to Happiness

With this 7 lessons you will find answer to this questions.
What is good life? What is happiness? What is success? What is pleasure? How should I treat other people? How should I cope with unfortunate events? How can I get rid off unnecessary worry? How should I handle liberty?

1. Examine life, engage life with vengeance; always search for new pleasures and new destines to reach with your mind. This rule isn’t new. It echoes the verses of ancient Greek philosophers and most notably those of Plato through the voice of his hero, Socrates.  Living life is about examining life through reason, nature’s greatest gift to humanity. The importance of reason in sensing and examining life is evident in all phases of life– from the infant who strains to explore its new surroundings to the grandparent who actively reads and assesses the headlines of the daily paper.  Reason lets human beings participate in life, to be human is to think, appraise, and explore the world, discovering new sources of material and spiritual pleasure

2. Worry only about the things that are in your control, the things that can be influenced and changed by your actions, not about the things that are beyond your capacity to direct or alter. This rule summarizes several important features of ancient Stoic wisdom — features that remain powerfully suggestive for modern times. Most notably the belief in an ultimately rational order operating in the universe reflecting a benign providence that ensures proper outcomes in life.  Thinkers such as Epictetus did not simply prescribe “faith” as an abstract philosophical principle; they offered a concrete strategy based on intellectual and spiritual discipline.  The key to resisting the hardship and discord that intrude upon every human life, is to cultivate a certain attitude toward adversity based on the critical distinction between those things we are able to control versus those which are beyond our capacity to manage.  The misguided investor may not be able to recover his fortune but he can resist the tendency to engage in self-torment. The victims of a natural disaster, a major illness or an accident may not be able to recover and live their lives the way they used to, but they too can save themselves the self-torment.   In other words, while we cannot control all of the outcomes we seek in life, we certainly can control our responses to these outcomes and herein lies our potential for a life that is both happy and fulfilled.

3. Treasure Friendship, the reciprocal attachment that fills the need for affiliation. Friendship cannot be acquired in the market place, but must be nurtured and treasured in relations imbued with trust and amity. According to Greek philosophy, one of the defining characteristics of humanity that distinguishes it from other forms of existence is a deeply engrained social instinct, the need for association and affiliation with others, a need for friendship. Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle viewed the formation of society as a reflection of the profound need for human affiliation rather than simply a contractual arrangement between otherwise detached individuals. Gods and animals do not have this kind of need but for humans it is an indispensable aspect of the life worth living because one cannot speak of a completed human identity, or of true happiness, without the associative bonds called “friendship.” No amount of wealth, status, or power can adequately compensate for a life devoid of genuine friends.

4. Experience True Pleasure. Avoid shallow and transient pleasures. Keep your life simple. Seek calming pleasures that contribute to peace of mind. True pleasure is disciplined and restrained. In its many shapes and forms, pleasure is what every human being is after. It is the chief good of life. Yet not all pleasures are alike. Some pleasures are kinetic—shallow, and transient, fading way as soon as the act that creates the pleasure ends. Often they are succeeded by a feeling of emptiness and psychological pain and suffering. Other pleasures arecatastematic—deep, and prolonged, and continue even after the act that creates them ends; and it is these pleasures that secure the well-lived life. That’s the message of the Epicurean philosophers that have been maligned and misunderstood for centuries, particularly in the modern era where their theories of the good life have been confused with doctrines advocating gross hedonism.

5. Master Yourself. Resist any external force that might delimit thought and action; stop deceiving yourself, believing only what is personally useful and convenient; complete liberty necessitates a struggle within, a battle to subdue negative psychological and spiritual forces that preclude a healthy existence; self mastery requires ruthless cador. One of the more concrete ties between ancient and modern times is the idea that personal freedom is a highly desirable state and one of life’s great blessings. Today, freedom tends to be associated, above all, with political liberty. Therefore, freedom is often perceived as a reward for political struggle, measured in terms of one’s ability to exercise individual “rights.”

The ancients argued long before Sigmund Freud and the advent of modern psychology that the acquisition of genuine freedom involved a dual battle. First, a battle without, against any external force that might delimit thought and action. Second, a battle within, a struggle to subdue psychological and spiritual forces that preclude a healthy self-reliance. The ancient wisdom clearly recognized that humankind has an infinite capacity for self-deception, to believe what is personally useful and convenient at the expense of truth and reality, all with catastrophic consequences. Individual investors often deceive themselves by holding on to shady stocks, believing what they want to believe. They often end up blaming stock analysts and stockbrokers when the truth of the matter is they are the ones who eventually made the decision to buy them in the first place. Students also deceive themselves believing that they can pass a course without studying, and end up blaming their professors for their eventual failure. Patients also deceive themselves that they can be cured with convenient “alternative medicines,” which do not involve the restrictive lifestyle of conventional methods.

6. Avoid Excess. Live life in harmony and balance. Avoid excesses. Even good things, pursued or attained without moderation, can become a source of misery and suffering. This rule is echoed in the writings of ancient Greek thinkers who viewed moderation as nothing less than a solution to life’s riddle. The idea of avoiding the many opportunities for excess was a prime ingredient in a life properly lived, as summarized in Solon’s prescription “Nothing in Excess” (6th Century B.C.).  The Greeks fully grasped the high costs of passionate excess. They correctly understood that when people violate the limits of a reasonable mean, they pay penalties ranging from countervailing frustrations to utter catastrophe. It is for this reason that they prized ideals such as measure, balance, harmony, and proportion as much as they did, the parameters within which productive living can proceed. If, however, excess is allowed to destroy harmony and balance, then the life worth living becomes impossible to obtain.

7. Be a Responsible Human Being. Approach yourself with honesty and thoroughness; maintain a kind of spiritual hygiene; stop the blame-shifting for your errors and shortcomings. Be honest with yourself and be prepared to assume responsibility and accept consequences. This rule comes from Pythagoras, the famous mathematician and mystic, and has special relevance for all of us because of the common human tendency to reject responsibility for wrongdoing. Very few individuals are willing to hold themselves accountable for the errors and mishaps that inevitably occur in life.  Instead, they tend to foist these situations off on others complaining of circumstances “beyond their control.” There are, of course, situations that occasionally sweep us along, against which we have little or no recourse. But the far more typical tendency is to find ourselves in dilemmas of our own creation — dilemmas for which we refuse to be held accountable. How many times does the average person say something like, “It really wasn’t my fault. If only John or Mary had acted differently then I would not have responded as I did.” Cop-outs like these are the standard reaction for most people. They reflect an infinite human capacity for rationalization, finger-pointing, and denial of responsibility. Unfortunately, this penchant for excuses and self-exemption has negative consequences. People who feed themselves a steady diet of exonerating fiction are in danger of living life in bad faith — more, they risk corrupting their very essence as a human being.

Hope your motivated by this.

10 Principles Of Life

(1) Never think or speak negatively about yourself; that
puts you in disagreement with God.

(2) Meditate on your God-given strengths and learn to
encourage yourself, for much of the time nobody else will.

(3) Don’t compare yourself to anybody else. You’re unique,
one of a kind, an original. So don’t settle for being a copy.

(4) Focus on your potential, not your limitations.
Remember, God lives in you!

(5) Find what you like to do, do well, and strive to do it
with excellence.

(6) Have the courage to be different. Be a God pleasure,
not a people pleasure .

(7) Learn to handle criticism. Let it develop you instead of
discourage you.

(8) Determine your own worth instead of letting others do
it for you. They’ll short-change you!

(9) Keep your shortcomings in perspective – you’re still a
work in progress.

(10) Focus daily on your greatest source of confidence –
the God Who lives in you .. !!

Are You Always The Focus?

Take time to understand someone’s truth, before forming your own opinion, Know their story before you gossip about their name, Know their path, before you criticize their walk.

You don’t know how far they have come, nor what they have been through, so stop judging them like you do. Their lives may not be perfect, but their lives sure and indeed is worth it.

Someone can face the same situation as you and handle it completely differently; Someone can go through the same situation as you went through and come out differently.

Your molehill could be someone else’s mountain, so don’t judge their process, rather encourage them, pray for them, support them.

Just because their road seem rocky doesn’t mean it won’t lead them to a beautiful place! Just because they made a few mistakes in the past doesn’t mean they can’t eventually get it right.

Everyone has a struggle; Just because someone else’s struggle is more public than yours doesn’t make you a better person, You probably just hide yours well.

Its time to Focus on “you” and ask yourself Is your life actually better? Are you making the desired progress in your daily walk? We often focus on other peoples flaws that we fail to see ours; Your life can actually be better if you choose to focus your effort on you rather than spotlighting other peoples flaws; You can’t become who you want to be by remaining who you are; It’s time to stop acting like you are perfect and start making your life better! You can’t change your tomorrow’s by having your today’s look like your yesterday’s.

So before you criticize others, don’t forget to check the mirror. It’s a great place to start passing judgement; #smiles

Social Distancing and Total Lockdown Cannot Work Well In some African Countries

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According to European Centre for Disease prevention and control definition of social distancing,
“It refers to efforts that aim, through a variety of means, to decrease or interrupt transmission of covid19 in a population (sub-)group by minimizing physical contact between potentially infected individuals and healthy individuals, or between population groups with high rates of transmission and population groups with no or low level of transmission.”

Knowing the certainty on the ground, it is inquisitive that WHO and ministries of health in different African countries are recommending social distance and self-quarantine (self isolation) as a way of reducing the spread of the corona virus. Africa can’t employ the idea of social distancing and total lock down such times to curb covid19.

Lots of South African youth are trapped in poverty from early age. 43.5% of the citizens under the age of 17 live in households that earned below middle income ($60) per month. France 24 said “ Its hard to maintain social distancing in Cameroon.”
Looking at how people shared accommodation, slums and informal settlement are also part of the physical infrastructure of many African cities/town. They live in overcrowded area and lack basic social amenities and other essential services even before the threat of global health crisis emerged (covid19 pandemic).

Thinking of it, Johannesburg in South Africa, has about 700,000 people who are estimated to be living in less than 5 square kilometers (1.9 square miles) and Makoko in Lagos state Nigeria has over 300,000 whose homes are built on stilts in a lagoon. Not only are these overcrowded, but also they commute and queue to use social amenities and spend significant amount of time together, which could potentially expose more people to the virus. Change is constant but is difficult to change in such environment.

Working from home is not part of Africa, but those that work in big offices can change to work from home. If your only means of livelihood is to sell tomato or second-hand clothe (popularly known as Okrika in Nigeria) at an informal market in a big city or a town, how do you begin to do this online work from home thing.

The choice before you is often to stay home and fail to provide evening meal for your family. If I was that person selling at a market, I know the choice I would make. It is not staying at home or maintaining any social distance.

World Health Organization (WHO) also recommended self-quarantine for those who are concerned about the risk of exposure. In adhering to self-quarantine, it included not shearing bathroom, living space and even bedroom (Another form of distancing). If they can, in a house like mine where the bedroom doubles as kitchen and living space all shared with family and sometimes extended family, how do I practice self-quarantine?

WHO recommendation is so absurd if your community borehole or toilet is one shared by dozens of people. This is so unfortunate for many of people living in such reality. Even our health system support queuing to get health-care services. In Sunyani Regional hospital in Ghana, the chairs available are not enough to enable patients and visitor to sit and wait for their turn to be attended to… Even with proper education, Africans are used to close contacting through the act of shaking and hugging, all as part of their culture. Social distancing is not for Africa.
Social distance could probably work for other western world but this is just a privilege to few Africans. Though WHO has done great work for the recommendation but they need to look at Africa differently. Social distancing is easily said than done.
I will suggest, in handling shared accommodation, government should provide tents and mattress to space people who are living in a congested are. In handling queuing for services, security forces must be deployed by government to ensure proper chair spacing. France is using police force for this. Government should force all landlords/landladies to create or provide adequate washrooms for their tenants, so that washroom sharing will be minimal.

In conclusion, the question still stands, “what should African countries that have this kind of settlement do in this era of corona virus pandemic? “

This is my take home on that question.
Samuel Oke.

EUNICE QUARSHIE

George Kwarteng

Desmond Osei

COVID-19 HOW TO AVOID PANICKING

I saw this by Council of _Psychologists and I will want to share with the world.

1. Isolate yourself from news about the virus. (Everything we need to know, we already know).
2. Do not look for additional information on the Internet, it would weaken your mental state and could cause somatization.
3. Avoid sending fatalistic strings and messages. Some people do not have the same mental strength as you (instead of helping you, you could activate pathologies such as depression).
4. If possible, listen to music at home at a pleasant volume.
5. Look for board games to entertain children, tell anecdotes and future projects.

1. Maintain discipline at home by washing your hands, installing a sign or an alarm for all the occupants of the house.
2. Your positive mood will help protect your immune system, while negative thoughts have been shown to depress your immune system and make it weak against viruses.
3. Most importantly, Believe firmly that this will pass and that the universe is created by a higher being called God who is a God of love and not of punishment.

Be your very best always.

COVID-19

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Infectious vibes of Ramadhan

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With alot of unpreparedness we bid farewell to Ramadhan, it has been the slowing down for me ,the social media break ,the grounding myself without the fear of missing out. The level of intimacy that God has enabled me to have with him during Ramadhan that is so deep rooted into evaluating my spiritual growth as “people” an individual will always keep me on tiptoes to retain. It’s so easy to get so caught up in chasing life that we forget what real matters at the end of it all. So i take the “break ” to sermon myself to a period of self reflection, oh boy to say it’s worth all the effort is an understatement

Its no secret that fasting is my most beloved Islamic practice , for me it comes so easy because it resonates with my values as an individual. Everything about selfcare revolves around taking…

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