Four Big Mistakes Women Make In Relationships

I read this some years ago and i feel its time i share it with others to help them fix issues of relationship.

Mistake #1: Focusing On Events, Not Feelings

We women are taught to believe that events, and the time we “put in,” MEAN SOMETHING to a man. If he’s introduced us to his family or friends at work we’re on cloud nine. We think of these as “milestones” moving us closer to commitment and marriage. And we couldn’t be more wrong.

Time means NOTHING to a man. Sometimes, being in a comfortable HOLDING PATTERN with us is EXACTLY what he has in mind! They spend time with us, but then they go and commit to someone else.

Unless we can get into our man’s heart, and let him into ours to create a deep emotional bond, we DOOM ourselves to a superficial level that will never lead to a lifelong commitment.

Mistake #2: Thinking Exclusive = Committed

…women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed…
How many of you have been comfortable in a relationship, only to have the man you are with meet someone else, or tell you he’s “found someone who really gets me.” How can it be that a man who is exclusive with you can “fall for” someone else so easily? It’s because he was not committed to you.

Oftentimes, women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed to you. When that happens, he’ll be exclusive AND won’t “fall for” another woman ever again!

Mistake #3: Talking About Your Relationship, Not Creating It

Often when women feel their man becoming distant, they decide to TALK to him about it. To ask how he’s feeling, why he’s acting this way, or where the relationship is going.

When you talk to a man about your relationship, you have the OPPOSITE effect on him than you intend. Though we often hear men say how much they hate how “emotional” women are – this is exactly the part they CRAVE. They are so stuck in their brains, so much of the time, that if we’re stuck in ours, they can’t connect to us.

Every time we TALK about the relationship, it feels to him like a laundry list of to do items instead of INSPIRING a man to want to be with us.

Mistake #4: You Panic… He Leaves

Because we know that “Lifelong-Commitment” is a frightening thing to a man, we’re often afraid to say or do anything that might scare him more.

It’s easy to get paralyzed by fear and anger and stop being ourselves. We stop being the fun, relaxed women who he originally fell for who made him great before.

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You Don’t Need Approval From Social Media?

Every day I log online into my social media accounts I see people desperately trying get peoples approval for their lives, they want their friends and family to approve their choice of clothing, their choice of food, their choice of friends etc.
So the struggle to dress like other, to get what others have, to look and be like another has been the fuel behind many of the social problems affecting our youth, low self-esteem has now become a common thing among our youths. Most of our youth feel inadequate because of lack of like or comments on their post on social media.
We are all unique in out different ways, our differences should be our strength and not source of weakness. Don’t let the pictures/post posted by your friends to drive you to a point of mental breakdown just to get what they have or be like them.
There is power in being unique, there is strength in self-realization, dear friends do no wait for other to approve how beautiful you look, how gorgeous you are, how creative or perfect you are.
Who you are and who you can be is not dependent on what others say or think but on what you made yourself to be. Be yourself and enjoy the power of self-realization.

Steps to Speed Up Your Computer’s Performance


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With constant usage over time system performance tends to slow down.
Here are few steps to speed up the system performance.
Steps to Speed Up Your Computer’s Performance

1. Make Sure Your Hardware is Sufficient
Above and beyond everything you can do with software to optimize the function of your computer, making sure you have the proper hardware to support Windows is critical.

2. Clean Your Desktop
Is your Windows Desktop dotted with files? Have you noticed that your computer has been running slower and slower? Do you see the hard drive light often flashing while you wait for the computer to respond to an action? There are steps you can take to fix it. Read this article.

3. Scan Your Windows System for Errors
An operating system is a collection of files that perform different functions. It is possible, over time, that one or more of these system files has changed or become corrupted.
If this happens, the speed of your system may decrease. By using a utility called “System File Checking”, it will inspect these files and correct any problem it finds.

4. Scan for Viruses, Spyware and Adware
Every Windows computer is vulnerable to viruses. Viruses are nasty little programs that cause both major and minor problems for users.
Spyware and Adware are programs created by companies to find out more information about customers, so they can better market products to them. Usually these programs are not created for malicious purposes. Spyware and Adware can load into computer memory and slow it down.
Periodically scanning and removal of Viruses, Spyware and Adware is a great way to improve computer performance.

5. Uninstall Unused Programs
Over time, you may have accumulated programs on your computer that you do not use. When a program is installed, it creates connections between the program and the operating system. Even if you don’t use these programs, they can slow down your system. If you have the original program’s installation disk or file, removing programs will free up space on your computer and may speed up your system’s performance.

6. Adjust Visual Effects for Better Performance
Windows provides a number of interesting visual effects including animated windows and fading menus. If you do not have enough operating memory (see above number 1), these effects can slow down your computer. Adjusting or reducing visual effects can make a difference.

7. Don’t Automatically Start Programs
Programs use operating memory (RAM, also called system resources). Unless you always use these programs, you can keep them from loading at Windows startup and speed both the booting of your computer and its performance.

8. Defragment Your Hard Drive (After you have tried everything else)
The more information and programs you have on your computer, the more it is likely that Windows has placed parts of the same file in different locations on your hard drive. It may do this for hundreds of files and programs, depending on how much space is available. Defragmenting the hard drive places all information for each file in one place. The result can be a faster computer experience.

9. Reinstall the Operating System and Programs
If you have done all the above steps and your computer does not become more responsive, you might consider reinstalling the operating system and programs. This is a scorched earth option – basically you backup all your data and user settings, wipe your hard drive clean and re-install the operating system with your original disks. Next, install all your favorite programs and restore all your data and user settings.

Secret Of A Happy Home

There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.

During one of the fights a wife asked her husband:

“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!

So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”

The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing. The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing. The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.

On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.

The man said to his wife:

“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”

The wife replied:

“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.”
They kissed, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.

The man who watched them returned to his wife. She wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was.

What he said was fantastic:

“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”

That’s the secret of family happiness!

Food for thought.

The “trick” isn’t in not wanting to take responsibility, but rather in not claiming right.

There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most.

This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also at work and in all relationships.

Pls don’t just read it. share it. You never can tell how many people this post will bless.

Two minute management course.

Lesson One …

An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing.

A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, “Can I also sit like you and do nothing?”

The eagle answered: “Sure, why not.”

So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit, and ate it.

Management Lesson – To be sitting doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Lesson Two …

A turkey was chatting with a bull. “I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree,” sighed the turkey, “but I haven’t got the energy.”

“Well, why don’t you nibble on some of my droppings?” replied the bull. “They’re packed with nutrients.”

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.

He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.

Management Lesson – Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won’t keep you there.

Lesson Three …

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold; the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field.

While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realise how warm he was.

The dung was actually thawing him out!

He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.

A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Management Lessons –
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.
(3) And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut!

This ends your two-minute
Management course …
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#iamspeaking
#keeplearning
#successmindset

Tribute To A Woman

“You know baby I know alot of people are against you all the ladies in the world but you can do whatever you set your mind to do can’t no one stop you believe that it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, it’s your world

Don’t be scared, its your world, don’t trip, shout it out You’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world I can’t begin to feel the agony I know you feel I’m tryin’ to break you out of that mold that once was real but you’re grown up and now it’s time to let go all your fears it’s time for you to go,its time for you to live you’ve been under your parents,but they can’t live for you

You got to go and do what’s best for you make your decisions and live by them and sweat and bleed You must struggle to be you even when you’re in need it’s time, now’s the place, (now’s the place)do your thing, it’s your world

Don’t be scared, its your world, don’t trip, shout it out You’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world I know you expecting help but get out there on your own then you’ll appreciate all that you have and all you own and that no one out there can never ever take from you do you and all that’s expected and you will break right through this world this crazy crazy world, (this crazy world)this cold and harsh world, (this cold and harsh world)this cruel and foul world

And now you’re proud and all grown up and sure a woman now then you’ll stand uplooking ahead, feeling so proud it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out you’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out you’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world You can’t be held down, (You can’t be you can’t be held down no you can’t)no one can stop you know(I know the struggle’s hard but you gotta keep fighting gotta keep going on)I know you get tired of the bull(I know you get tired of the bull you wake up everyday and it seems like you can’t go on all you gotta do is sticking there, everything will be ok)

It’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out You’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out you’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your worldIt’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world

HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY TO THE REAL WOMEN…

Do Unto Others As You Want Them To Do Unto You

Respect my mum just as you Respect yours;

“*One Afternoon A Husband Arrived Home With Sad News.

HUBBY: Baby, I just received a call: mother is not feeling well. Shall we go to town and get some necessities for the Visit? Please write a list and then we can go.

WIFE: A list won’t be necessary, we’ll just get 2 cabbages and 2 litres of cooking oil.

HUBBY: Is it going to be enough really?

WIFE: Yes Sweetie, No need to waste money,of course it’s gonna be enough.

(They Left For Town & After Getting 2 Cabbages & 2litres Of Cooking Oil, During the purchase The Hubby Asked His Wife Again If that Was All.
She Emphasized the Issue of Not Wasting Money On an impromptu Visit.
They Then Hit The Road Towards The Village & Where The Road Branches To Different Villages, The
Hubby Driving, Took A Turn To His Wife’s Home.)

WIFE: ( Shocked) where are we going honey? I thought you said we’re going to visit your mother.

HUBBY: Yes, we are. It’s your mother(our mother) who is not feeling well.

WIFE: ( Shocked & crying) But the things we bought are not enough! Let’s go back and get some more stuff.

HUBBY: No! I asked you over and over if it was all that you
needed & you said “YES”. We ain’t going back……

MORAL OF THE STORY:

Do unto others, what you want others to do unto you!”.If you like it, just share it with others.👬

It’s Too Late To Give Up

Biology says that after sexual intercourse, about 200 to 300 million sperms are deposited by d man, they all begin to swim upwards within the tract to meet with the ovum. Of the over 200 million that are deposited, only 300 to 500 actually reach the site( others get tired on the way because it is not a small race). And of the 300 that manage to reach the ovum(egg), only one fertilizes the egg, and in this case the Winning One was YOU. Have u ever thought about this? You ran a race without your eyes and you won, you ran without education and you won, you ran without a certificate and you won, you ran without help…..and you won. What makes you think you will lose now? Now that you have both eyes and legs, now that you have the knowledge of God’s word, now that you have a plan, a dream and a vision. Beloved, you didnt give up on day one, you can’t give up now, giving up now is an insult to your creator. It doesn’t matter what you see now, take it as a challenge, always remember that you WON from the womb. Always be Grateful to God no matter what. Better days ahead…. You’ll all smile soon, let’s keep hope alive.
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Always Think Out Of The Box

“In a “Mental Hospital” a journalist asks the Doctor: How do you determine whether to admit a mental patient or not to?

Dr: “Well, we fill a bathtub with water and then give the patient;
(a). a teaspoon,
(b). a glass,
(c). a bucket,
and ask them to empty the bathtub.”

Journalist: “Oh, obviously a normal person would use the bucket because its bigger.”

Dr: “No, a normal person would pull the drain plug! Please go to bed No.39. We will start further investigations on you!”
………………………………….
You also thought of the bucket, didn’t you? Please go to bed No. 40 !

5 Security Mistakes That Could Put You in Harm’s Way

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We all make mistakes when it comes to our online security. Some security mistakes can be simple ones that might not get you in big trouble but some mistakes may actually be dangerous to your personal safety. Let’s take a look at several security mistakes that might put you in harm’s way:

  1. Giving Out Your Location (Intentionally or Unintentionally)

Your location is a very important tidbit of data, especially when it comes to your safety.

Not only does your location tell people where you are, it also tells them where you aren’t. This could become a factor when you post your location on social media, whether in a status post, location “check-in”, or via a geotagged picture.

Say you post that you are “home alone and bored”. Depending on your privacy settings (and those of your friends), you have just told potential strangers, stalkers, etc, that you are now a vulnerable target. That may just be the green light they were looking for.

Telling them that you’re not at home can be just as bad because then they know that your house is empty and that this might be an opportune time to come and rob you.

Consider avoiding giving out location information via status updates, photos, check-ins, etc, it can do more harm than good. The one exception to this rule might be the Send Last Location Information feature of your cell phone that might be used by loved ones to help locate you in the event you are lost or kidnapped.

 

  1. Giving Out Your Personal Information

Whether you fell for a phishing attack, or provided your social security number to a legitimate website, anytime you provide personal information online, you run the risk that that information may be going to an identity thief, either directly or via the black market if it ends up stolen in a data breach.

It’s impossible to say who’s systems are going to get hacked and if your information will be part of a data breach. Here are some tips to help you avoid being part of a data breach along with steps to take if you’re data has been already involved in one.

 

  1. Allowing The Public to View Your Social Media Content

When you post something on social media sites such as Facebook and set its privacy to “public” you are opening it up for the world to see. You might as well be writing it on the proverbial bathroom wall, except this bathroom is pretty much every single bathroom in the world (at least the ones with Internet access).

Check out our Facebook Privacy Makeover article to learn what you need to do to make your privacy settings safer.

 

  1. Posting Status Updates or Pictures to Social Media While on Vacation

Sure you want to brag about what a good time you’re having while away on your vacation, but you really should consider waiting until you return from your trip before you start posting all about it. Why? The main reason is that you are obviously not at home if your posting vacation selfies from the Bahamas.

 

You may think that you’re just sharing this information with friends, but what about your friend’s delinquent brother who might be looking over their shoulder while they’re using their phone. He and his delinquent friends might just use this information and go rob your house while you’re away on your trip.

 

  1. Putting Too Much info in an Out-of-Office Message

You may not have thought about it before but your out-of-office auto reply message can reveal a lot of personal information. This information could be potentially sent to anyone who happens upon your email address and sends you a message when your auto-reply is active, such as when you are on vacation.

Combine this information with your status updates and selfies while on vacation and you have most likely confirmed your out-of-town status as well as possibly providing your travel itinerary (depending on how detailed your out-of-office message is).

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We are all Unique

“The RAZOR blade is SHARP but can’t cut a TREE; the AXE is STRONG but can’t cut the HAIR.” – – – Anonymous

For EVERYTHING in the universe, there is PLACE, a PURPOSE and a STRENGTH. Everyone is IMPORTANT according to his/her own unique MISSION. In this jigsaw called LIFE, we’re all TINY PIECES that depend on one another. No matter the Colour of your SKIN, RELIGION or LANGUAGE, we all belong to one race and that’s The Human Race. If we recognise our DIFFERENCES and appreciate DIVERSITY, this world will be a great place for ALL of us. #YouHaveARightToBeMotivated #OneManCanMakeTheDifference #iamavoice #ihaveavoice #iamspeakingout

Communication Problem

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One of the greatest communication problem is that people listen to reply instead of listening to understand.
understanding is far better than the reply you will give.
Next time your talking with someone try and understand the person before responding.

7 Ways Entrepreneurs Think Differently

In any traditional business, there’s a certain way of doing things so that operations flow in a predictable and orderly way.
Entrepreneurship is so far from that. It’s a fast-paced and highly uncertain environment.
So what do you do if you’re interested in becoming an entrepreneur? How do you make the switch?
You adopt an entrepreneurial mindset.
All entrepreneurs have a different mindset that contributes to their success. When figuring out what will work best for you as you face the challenges of entrepreneurship, it can help to learn from the experiences of others.
So today, I want to share seven ways I adapted my mindset to become a successful entrepreneur.
1) Forget About Rules.
Everything is new when you’re an entrepreneur. So, there are no precedents, or right or wrong ways to do things.
To enjoy the phenomenal freedom and the high that come from creating your own destiny, forget about rules. Instead, make the best decisions you can in each moment and always look for a better way to do it the next time.
2) Do the Illogical.
We are creatures of habit, and we’re used to doing things a certain way—the logical way. However, you can’t use the same logic when you’re in a totally different environment and you need different results.
As an entrepreneur, you’ve got to change your paradigm. Develop a mantra, “Do the illogical,” to help you step outside of your box to do things in a bigger, better and faster way.
3) Go with Your Gut.
You will often have to make decisions with very limited information, sometimes with as little as 10% of what you need to know. You can’t just sit there and wait until you have enough information—that will never happen. You’ve got to keep things moving so you’ve got to act now, and you do that by trusting your gut.
4) Be Willing to Lose It All.
Most everyone is afraid of failing and losing what they have. However, as an entrepreneur, if you’re not willing to go out there and fail, you’re probably not going to do much of anything. So, realize that, at one point or another, you will fail.
Develop the mindset of, “If I fail, I’m going to get up and I’m going to get stronger. If I created it once, I can create it again.” It’s a very freeing idea that leads to more creativity and often unexpected results.
5) Act with Fear.
Fear and growth go hand in hand. Don’t ever let fear stop you—embrace it and move through it. When you face the fear, you automatically experience the growth.
6) Don’t Second Guess Yourself.
You’re constantly coming up with new ideas and developing concepts when you’re an entrepreneur. Once you’ve decided something, don’t debate it in your head. Go with it.
7) Strive for Excellence.
Set and maintain a standard of excellence—be obsessed with quality. The pursuit of excellence brings the very best of you to whatever you are doing.

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Can You Sacrifice For Others?


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In life we must reach a point we can sacrifice our liberty for the freedom of others. Here is a story with a great moral.

🌹 A man married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much.

One day she developed a skin disease. Slowly she started to lose her beauty.

It so happened that one day her husband left for a tour.

While returning he met with an accident and lost his eyesight.

However their married life continued as usual. But as days passed she lost her beauty gradually.

Blind husband did not know this and there was not any difference in their married life.

He continued to love her and she also loved him very much.

One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow.

He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave that town.

A man from behind called and said, now how will you be able to walk all alone?

All these days your wife used to help you.
He replied, I am not blind.

I was acting, because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease.

So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.

Moral:- *Some times it is good for us to act blind and ignore one another’s short comings, in order to be happy*

Who is Jesus? (The age long question)

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The debate of who Jesus is or was (as others point) has been debate for as long as 2000+ years. There has been many conversations, interview, debate, argument as to the identity of Jesus. Most of such has ended in more confusion than answer to the question.

This post is an eye opener to those who are curious as to the identity of Jesus. This post will expose the reason the question has not been answered. (This post Is About the Identity of Jesus which as viewed by different people)

We will look at few class of humanity who are burden with the challenge of answering the question.

  1. Christians: In Christianity Jesus is part of the Trinity (Father, Son and Spirit) and he is the Son who is called Emmanuel (God with us). He came to this world and became the saviour of man-kind.
  2. Jews: In Judaism Jesus is there brother, the son of Joseph the carpenter, who grow up among them. They know his brothers and sisters. To them Jesus is there brother.
  3. Muslims: In Islam Jesus is a prophet sent by God. Islam believe God send Jesus as he sent other prophet thou Jesus was giving more grace and ability to perform special miracle. To them Jesus is a prophet.
  4. Atheists: To the atheist Jesus is another historic figure, who once lived on the planet earth. They regard not as a deity but as a historic personality.
  5. Other religions: In other religion Jesus is a great moral teacher.

Back to the question, WHO IS JESUS? The question that has plaque the human race for long. This the question that has gave others hope, others it results in wars, battles, disputed etc.

To successfully answer this question then the questioner and the provider of the answer must agree on which of the Jesus they want to know and they are explaining respectably.

When a Muslim ask an atheist or a Christian who is Jesus? Then for clarity and for easy answer is to explain to him as a Muslim you will tell him about JESUS THE PROPHET AND A CHRISTIAN YOU TALK TO HIM ABOUT JESUS THE SAVIOUR etc.

So to put an end to the long debate is to identify which Jesus you are asked. To know about:

Jesus the saviour THEN study the holy bible.

Jesus our brother THEN study the Jewish history.

Jesus the prophet THEN study the Quran.

Jesus the historic figure THEN study ancient history.

Jesus the great moral teacher THEN study other religious materials.

I hope this post will help bring an end to the misconception and understanding arising from the question WHO IS JESUS?

It Takes More Than Love

I have discovered that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn’t always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you’ll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you’re committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don’t see better people than the ones they married? You think they don’t feel funny sometimes? You think they don’t catch feelings? They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you’ll realise that the feelings have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it’s never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it’s not just love that keeps them together forever, it’s determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That’s why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it’s like building a career, It’s like pursuing a dream. It’s always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined!.

Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same school of thought..

The Power Of Choice (A duck or an Eagle)

Brilliant article, just couldn’t resist sharing..

*Ducks Quack, Eagles Soar*

I was waiting in line for a ride at the airport in Dubai. When a cab pulled up, the first thing I noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie, and freshly pressed black slacks, the cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for me.

He handed me a laminated card and said: ‘I’m Abdul, your driver. While I’m loading your bags in the trunk I’d like you to read my mission statement.’

Taken aback, I read the card. It said: Abdul’s Mission Statement:
To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.

This blew me away. Especially when I noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!

As he slid behind the wheel, Abdul said, ‘Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one of decaf.’

I said jokingly, ‘No, I’d prefer a soft drink.’

Abdul smiled and said, ‘No problem. I have a cooler up front with regular and Diet Coke, lassi, water and orange juice.’

Almost stuttering, I said, ‘I’ll take a Lassi.’

Handing me my drink, Abdul said, ‘If you’d like something to read, I have The NST , Star and Sun Today.’

As they were pulling away, Abdul handed me another laminated card, ‘These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you’d like to listen to the radio.’

And as if that weren’t enough, Abdul told me that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable for me.

Then he advised me of the best route to my destination for that time of day. He also let me know that he’d be happy to chat and tell me about some of the sights or, if I preferred, to leave me with my own thoughts.

‘Tell me, Abdul ,’ I was amazed and asked him, ‘have you always served customers like this?’

Abdul smiled into the rear view mirror. “No, not always. In fact, it’s only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard about POWER OF CHOICE one day.”

Power of choice is that you can be a duck or an eagle.

‘If you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’ll rarely disappoint yourself. Stop complaining!’

‘Don’t be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.’

‘That hit me. really hard’ said Abdul.

‘It is about me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle. I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy. So I decided to make some changes, slowly … a few at a time. When my customers responded well, I did more.’

‘I take it that it has paid off for you,’ I said.

‘It sure has,’ Abdul replied. ‘My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year. This year I’ll probably quadruple it. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on it.’

Abdul made a different choice. He decided to stop quacking like a duck and start soaring like an eagle.

Start becoming an eagle today … one small step every week..next week… And next…And….

A great Thought..

“You don’t die if you fall in water, you die only if you don’t swim.

Thats the Real Meaning of Life.

Improve yourself and your skills in a different way.
Be an eagle. .not a Duck.

Just Turn The Page Over

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Flip the page of your life

In life you might feel stuck in one spot but that is not your end point.

Some of you all just got to turn the pages of your life over to realize that there’s more to your book than the page you been stuck on all these years; You got to close the chapter of hurts, you got to close this chapter of disappointments and move on to a new chapter where you get the opportunity to start all over again; A bad chapter doesn’t mean you can’t have a beautiful story. God is not through with you yet. Just because the road seems rocky doesn’t mean it won’t lead you to a beautiful place! Don’t hold on to your history at the expense of your destiny; Don’t try to fix what’s been broken in your past, let your future create something better. It’s time to get your life’s worth, its time to get what your life deserves and move on from the things that don’t deserve you. Every new day is a gift to start all over; You got to take advantage of your today; Today is the tomorrow you talked about yesterday; So stop being afraid to move on, Stop been afraid to make progress with your life. You weren’t supposed to get hurt! Yes I know! but it happened! All you got to do right now is turn that page over; I know you lost your job, that’s so sad but listen you got to pick yourself up and turn that page over, I know you messed up your life, but honey your life is not over, you still got to turn the page over!!! You cannot let your scars scare you from having a future; You cannot let your pains stop you from moving forward…..It might be easy to stay bitter, but staying bitter does nothing but hold you back! Its not over until you win!

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

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Mental Slavery

As you know I share stories with morals and here is one.

A man was passing the elephants, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg, no chains, no cage. Obvious the elephants could at anytime break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they were very young and much smaller, we use the same size rope to tie them and at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grew up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free”

These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but they couldn’t, not because they lack the strength but because they lack the mental capacity.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto old belief that we CAN’T do certain things.

I thought I should share!!!

Learn To Support Each Other

Enjoy!

A woman went shopping. At the cash counter, she opened her purse to pay. The cashier noticed a TV remote in her purse. He could not control his curiosity and asked,
“Do you always carry your TV remote with you?”
She replied ” No, not always, but my husband refused to accompany me shopping today because of football match, so I took the remote.
*Moral :Accompany and support your wife in her hobbies…..*

The story continues….The cashier laughed and then returned all the items that lady had purchased. Shocked at this act, she asked the cashier what he was doing. He said, “your husband has blocked your credit card……….”
*MORAL : Always respect the hobbies of your husband.*

Story continues….Wife took out her husband’s credit card from purse and swiped it. Unfortunately he didn’t block his own card.
*Moral: Don’t underestimate the power and wisdom of your WIFE..*

Story continues…After swiping, the machine indicated, ‘ENTER THE PIN SENT TO YOUR MOBILE PHONE’…….
*Moral: When a man tends to lose, the machine is smart enough to save him!*

Story continues….She smiled to herself and reached out for the mobile which rang in her purse. It was her husband’s phone showing the forwarded SMS. She had taken it with the remote control so he doesn’t call her during her shopping. She bought her items and returned home happily.
*Moral: Don’t underestimate a desperate woman!*

On getting home, his car was gone. A note was lying on the table, “Couldn’t find the remote. Gone out with the boys to watch the premiership match. Will be home late. Call me on my phone if you need something”.
*Moral: Don’t try to control your spouse. You will always lose!*

Be Observant

First year University medical students were attending their 1st Anatomy Class. They all gathered around the table and there was a real dead body on the table.
The Professor, started the class by telling them two important qualities of a DOCTOR. He said, “The 1st is that never be DISGUSTED about anything in the body.” For example, he inserted his FINGER in the dead body’s ANUS & put the finger in his own mouth & TASTED it.
Then he told the students to do what he did. The students hesitated for several minutes, but eventually everyone inserted their fingers in the body’s ANUS & tasted it. When everyone finished tasting their fingers, they were all frowning.
Then the professor looked at them & said: “The more important 2nd quality is “Observation”. I inserted my MIDDLE finger but tasted the 2nd finger…Now learn to pay attention!!! Most of the students fainted!!

Lesson learnt: always learn to pay attention.

Again my best wishes for you in 2017 and please be very observant 😏😜😘

Thank You For 2016

I want to say a big thank you to all my Ellohim
followers
My pastors
friends and family who have made this year 2016 I memorable one.
Thank you for all the likes and comments.
Thank you for all the advice and encouragement.
Thank you for all the support.
I pray we all met in 2017.

Inspiration Friday

Words of INSPIRATION!!!

1. The most selfish one letter word.
” I ”
Avoid it.

2. The most satisfying two letter word.
“We”
Use it.

3. The most poisonous three letter word.
“Ego”
Kill it.

4. The most used four letter word.
“LOVE”
Value it.

5. The most pleasing five letter word.
“Smile”
Keep it .

6. The fastest spreading six letter word.
“Rumour”
Ignore it.

7. The hard working seven letter word.
“Success”
Achieve it.

8. The most enviable eight letter word.
“Jealousy”
↔Distance it.↔

9. The most powerful nine letter word.
“Knowledge
Acquire it.

10. The most divine ten letter word.
“Friendship”.
Maintain it…. to all my buddies in the house (even those that just read my post and pass) I love you all, I wish you a merry Christmas and a prosperous new year,2017 will be better positively than 2016 for all of us here.

The Content Not The Container

WOW!! GREAT STORY !!!

A group of alumni (past students), highly established in their careers, agreed together to visit their old university Professor.
Conversations soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and brought a large pot of coffee with an assortment of cups. (porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite). Then, he told them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said:

“If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.
What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
They are just tools to hold and contain life. The type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us.”

God “brews” the coffee, not the cups………. Enjoy your coffee!

MORAL TO BE LEARNT
“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.” Live simply and be generous. Care deeply. Speak truthfully and kindly, work hard. Be yourself. Be wise. Pray and leave the rest to GOD…. He is sufficient for us.

TEN (10) GOLDEN SECRETS OF MARRIAGE:*

To all married couple. And those preparing for marriage.

1. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS*

Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorns. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/her strength.

2. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY*

No one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be changed. So focus on the present and the future!

3. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES*

Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!

4. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS*

Don’t compare your marriage with anyone else’s! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.

5. *TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR*

When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgivingness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, bitterness, Laziness, Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

6. *THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE*

There is no ready made- marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with Gear oil, gear box, back axles, etc and If these parts are not properly maintained, the car will break down somewhere along the road and exposing the occupants to unhealthy circumstances. – Many of us are careless about our marriages … Are you? If you are, pls pay attention to your marriage.

7. *GOD DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE*

He (God) gives you, him or her in the form of raw materials in order for you to mold into what you desire. You may desire a man/woman who can pray for 1 hour but your husband/ wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve and vise versa.

8. *TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK*

You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situations may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she’s slim but she becomes 100% fatter after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.

9. *MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT*

Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce

10. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY*

Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdraw. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

May God Give us The Grace And Wisdom To Build A Heaven on Earth Marriage.

GIVE IT TIME

When someone comes and tells you, “I can’t sleep without you, I love you the way you are and I can put up with your good and bad attitude”, before you commit your heart please, *GIVE IT TIME*.

When You just met someone today and feel like marrying him/her tomorrow, before you do remember you need to *GIVE IT TIME*.

When you visit your uncle and you will stay there for two months holiday, don’t be carried away that they serve you your preferred food and give you hot water to bath during your first two days and you start making arrangement to relocate to their house, *GIVE IT TIME*.

When a brother visits you and wakes you up by his shouting of prayer from 12 am to 6 am, please don’t shut him down, first *GIVE IT TIME*.

When someone joins your fellowship in the first year and he is in every group/wing, please don’t rush and make him a leader rather *GIVE IT TIME*.

When you enter a new environment and everybody worships you and eat your mess don’t be carried away just *GIVE IT TIME*.

When someone comes with a new business with unbelievable promises, please before you involve your money, first *GIVE IT TIME*.

When you see a new church in town and you hear their waves, before you conclude about how hot they are, first *GIVE IT TIME*.

Finally, when you are in a cross road of decisions, you don’t know what to do, ask the people or person involved to please *GIVE YOU TIME*.

The wise priest in the Bible in Acts told them to leave Peter and John, rather, give them time.

You can be good in giving people tests and trying out who they are.

Some people know how to pass them all but the test of time they fail.

_Time tests Love and proves it._

_Time tests businesses and authenticates it._

_Time tests spirituality and reveals it._

_Time tests friendship and uncover true friend_

Time, a good tester.

Don’t say that the utilities in your area is now the best until you have *GIVEN IT TIME*.

Your uncle or Father told You that you are useless and worthless and can’t amount to anything, just laugh it away and ask them to *GIVE YOU TIME*.

*_Quote me…_*

Consistency with time is the true test of Efficiency.

*Time is a TESTER*.

*Time is an AUTHENTICATOR*.

*Time is a REVEALER.*

*TIME IS STILL A MATTER*.

Thanks for giving this long post TIME…

A painful moment brings quietness & quietness gives inspiration for good thinking, when all is well you don’t think of “what next”… Just *”Give It Time”*

When you pass it around and no one comments, don’t assume it was ignored, *GIVE IT TIME*.

THE PREGNANT DEER – such a beautiful story and a story difficult to come by!!

In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth. She finds a remote grass field near a strong-flowing river.
This seems a safe place.
Suddenly labour pains begin.

At the same moment, dark clouds gather around above and lightning starts a forest fire.

She looks to her left and sees a hunter with his bow extended pointing at her. To her right, she spots a hungry lion approaching her.

What can the pregnant deer do? Remember she is in labour!!

What will happen?
Will the deer survive?
Will she give birth to a fawn?
Will the fawn survive?
Or will everything be burnt by the forest fire?
Will she perish to the hunters’ arrow?
Will she die a horrible death at the hands of the hungry lion approaching her?

She is constrained by the fire on the one side and the flowing river on the other and boxed in by her natural predators.

What does she do?
She focuses on giving birth to a new life.

The sequence of events that follows are:

– lightning strikes and blinds the hunter.
– he (the hunter) releases the arrow which zips past the deer and strikes the hungry lion.
– it starts to rain heavily and the forest fire is slowly doused by the rain.
– the deer gives birth to a healthy fawn.

Check the circumstances that took place above and ask yourself whether the deer has any influence in the chain of reactions that took place to her enemies right in front of her very eyes.

In our life too, there are moments of choice when we are confronted on αll sides with negative thoughts and possibilities. What we must not do is take our eyes off the ball. We must remain focused on the issue at hand.

Some thoughts are so powerful that they overcome us and overwhelm us.

Maybe we can learn something from the deer.
The priority of the deer, in that given moment was simply to give birth to a baby.The rest was not in her hands and any action or reaction that changed her focus would have likely resulted in death or disaster.

Ask yourself:
Where is my focus?
Where is my faith and hope?

In the midst of any storm, do keep faith in the Creator always. He will never ever dissapoint you. NEVER.

Remember, He neither slumbers nor sleeps!! The strong person knows how to keep their life in order. Even with tears in their eyes, they still manage to say “I’m ok” with a smile.

I send this to you because you are a strong person. That was why God heard your prayers and said hard times are over. If you believe in Him share this to all the people that matter in your life.

Be honest and send this to anyone who makes you smile. I like you and I’m sending this to you because you make me smile!!

Have a blessed day.

What Do Women Really Want?


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This is a very interesting story and a lesson for men.

(To men) Please take time to ponder. 😕

(To women) Just enjoy the story. 😋

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom.

The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was:
*What do women really want?*

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur’s closest friend. Young Arthur was horrified.

She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.

He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.

But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.

Arthur’s question thus:
“What a woman really wants?”

She said, “A woman wants to be in charge of her own life.”

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was. The neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him.

The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.

The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

“Which would you prefer?” She asked him. “BEAUTIFUL during the DAY… OR at NIGHT?”

Lancelot pondered the predicament.

During the day, he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!

OR,

would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day? But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with?

(If you are a man reading this) What would YOUR choice be?

(If you are a woman reading this) What would YOUR MAN’S choice be?

And Lancelot’s choice is given below…

BUT, please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below!

OKAY?

Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question, Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now, what is the moral to this

The moral is…

1. There is a ‘witch’ in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is. It’s how a man manages it

2. If you let a woman decide on her own she gives u d best. but if u force her with ur decisions she becomes a witch.

Hmmmm
What do you think ?

So, be careful how you treat a woman.

Happy Sunday

OPEN LETTER TO YOUNG LADIES

Dear young lady,

Why do you think your calling is to be a model just because you are slim and some randy brothers in your neighborhood told you how ‘pretty’ you are? And you aunty, why do you think you must be a makeup artist and tie gele? Are you sure it’s not because of your laziness?
Please why do these girls scatter their legs while taking pictures? And your mouth, why is it twisted to one side?
Sincerely, if you can’t answer any of these, you are part of the problem.
Some of you even put ears of rabbit and mouth of dogs and carry some funny thing on your head while on snapchat. What’s that? That is the most insanely stupid thing I have ever seen.
Sorry I came in harsh. How else do I get your attention if I don’t finger your brain?

The female gender is smarter than the male counterpart but they don’t realise. A lady can handle a surgery, change diapers and at the same time be on the phone teaching somebody how to deactivate a C4 bomb. They are made to handle pressure, multi task and effectively manage people and resources.
Sadly you have turned yourself to an object of sex and a victim of trend.

Dear lady, Why do you watch telemundo everyday, but you can’t read a book in two years?

Dear lady, why do u spend a fortune on bleaching cream?

Why is indomie the only food you can cook?

Dear young lady, your only work experience is the different sex positions you had with bro Femi, Kunle, Anthony, Moses, Ayo, kasali and others. Why now?

Dear lady, who told you being sexy makes you a wife material? Who also told you that all your life’s problem are over once you get married to a rich guy?

Most annoyingly, why do you leave an amazing guy for a fine and rich guy? The former has a future the latter has a car.
Anyways I don’t like dancing around the problem. Here are few lessons.

1. Your body is your temple. Don’t open it for any dogs to feed on.

2. You can do anything a man can do.

3. You can be pretty, but being intelligent makes you prettier.

4. Bad boys are fun, but you can’t change them.

5. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the very first time.

6. Love yourself even more than a man can.

7. Watch how a man treats his mother, most likely he’ll treat you the same.

8. The internet can harm you just as much as it can help you.

9. You need God as much you think your man should fear God

10. Share this post to other ladies you like.

From Strength Not From Strain


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When people are getting on your nerves then I suggest you take a time out and be in the presence of God.
You need to get your priorities right, you need to get you thinking cleared, you need to get your focus straight.
When you feel people are on your nerves is a sign that you need to change and not them.
When you take the time out you come out with strength.
You will be able to associate and deal with people from a position of strength and not strain. You will not have to force yourself to accept and accommodate people b ut it flows easily because you have strength.

THERE IS A LIMIT TO WHAT SOMEONE CAN TAKE….

I saw this Story this morning and I love the morals in it and I will love to share with you.

THERE IS A LIMIT TO WHAT SOMEONE CAN TAKE..
A man and his wife never fought for 25 years of their marriage.👫👫 A friend asked him how he had managed to make it possible.
He narrated:
“We went for our Honeymoon in Australia 25 years ago
and while riding on a horse,🏇🏼🏇🏼. My wife’s horse jumped and my wife fell down. She got up,patted the horse’s back and said. “This is your first time”.👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻 After a while it happened again. She patted the horse again and said: “This is your second time”.👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻
The horse did it again the 3rd time and She brought out a gun🔫🔫 and shot the horse🐎🐎dead.
I Was so shocked 😳😳😳and I shouted at her. . . . . . . .”Are you crazy! What’s wrong with you? Why did you kill the horse?
She smiled at me and said “This is your first time”
Since then. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . My Mouth Pim.

MORAL LESSONS
Be careful when you offend people and they pardon you. Don’t take them for granted. They feel hurt and take it over and over again. You did it the first time, second time and so on and they pardon you. Don’t be surprised when they suddenly change their actions towards you. That is the human nature. When you offend God, he tells you, this is your first time and he gives you another chance. Don’t abuse it. As it been said, everyone deserves a second chance, but a 3rd chance is unpredictable. So make use of that second chance that God has given you to strengthen your relationship with him because you can’t tell if you will have a second chance.
Have a wonderful weekend….✍🏾✍🏾

Blessed is He Whom God Helps

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It’s about God not humans …..Long time ago there lived a great king and two beggars who always stood at the gate of his palace everyday.

As the king rode by everyday, the 1st beggar would say ‘blessed is he whom the king helps’ while the 2nd beggar would say ‘blessed is he whom God helps’.

The king always felt pleased to hear the praise of the 1st beggar.

One evening the king decided to reward the 1st beggar for all the praise; he ordered his baker to bake a cake and wrap precious stones inside the cake.

The next day as he rode by, he gave the cake to the 1st beggar as he hailed him as usual.

The 1st beggar who was in dire need of cash sold the cake to the 2nd beggar at next to nothing.

When the 2nd beggar cut open the cake he saw the precious stones, sold them and became a wealthy man.

He did not return back to the kings gate the next day.

As the king rode out of his palace the next day, he saw the 1st beggar still asking for alms and stopped to ask him if he ate the cake he gave him.

The 1st beggar replied and said no sir, I sold it to my friend who was here with me yesterday; I have not seen him today.

The king continued his journey, telling everybody he met saying it is true that blessed is he that God helps.

Our God is the all knowing God, HE has not forgotten you. HE is always just in time.

Have a blessed and creative day ahead!

Faith

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When you meditate on God’s Word (to mutter to yourself, to think deeply into, to ponder), it puts you in that verse and it puts that verse in you. The Word becomes real to you; it becomes alive. Meditating on God’s Word helps you to “own” it, and you know that you can’t spend something you don’t own. Many people have learned to confess God’s Word, but sometimes with little results, because they haven’t taken the time to meditate on it first and to make it real to their own hearts.

Perspective

In Life conflict arises from looking at the same thing (with pride) from different perspective.
If only we can humble ourselves and try to see things from another view, from another person point of view, must of the conflict on life can be avoided.
Learn not to argue with anyone who can see things the ways you see it. It is Wisdom if you can bring the person to you point of view and also try to go to their own point of view.
If only did Donald Trump view his candidature from the view of the media and people he won’t have continued the presidential campaign race.
Learn to stand on another new view point.

US Election #Lessons

What I learn from the just concluded US presidential election.

1. The fact that there is too much Hate for you does not mean you should change your mind.

2. If you have a goal don’t lose focus.

3. When people are saying it’s not possible
Ask your self are they those that matter.
Everything is possible to them that believe and remain true to their believe.

Don’t Give Up Because Someone Else Has

This is a story about never giving up, I’ve read and share it years ago, but it holds so much insight that I will love you to see.

Never Give Up

One day a young lady was driving along with her father. They came upon a storm, and the young lady asked her father, What should I do?”He said
“keep driving”. Cars began to pull over to the side, the storm was getting worse.
“What should I do.” The young lady asked?
“Keep driving,” her father replied.
On up a few feet, she noticed that eighteen wheelers were also pulling over. She told her dad, “I must pull over, I can barely see ahead. It is terrible, and everyone is pulling over!”
Her father told her, “Don’t give up, just keep driving!”
Now the storm was terrible, but she never stopped driving, and soon she could see a little more clearly. After a couple of miles she was again on dry land, and the sun came out.
Her father said, “Now you can pull over and get out.”
She said “But why now?” He said “When you get out,look back at all the people that gave up and are still in the storm, because you never gave up your storm is now over.
This is a testimony for anyone who is going through “hard times”. Just because everyone else,even the strongest, gives up. You Don’t have to…if you keep going, soon your storm will be over and the sun will shine upon your face again, know that God is always by your side.

Trust

People change so that you may have to let go
Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they are right
You believe those who lied to you, so that you can eventually learn to trust no one except yourself and God

Sometimes good things fall apart so that the better things fall together `

Aside

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Change is the only constant factor in life, I want to share with you what I have read over the years and has transformed me.

Looking back, I can see how much I’ve changed. I almost haven’t noticed the change, because it sneaks up on you, until it’s impossible to ignore.
It’s like when you were a kid. You got taller, but you didn’t notice until you stood up against the wall with the marks.
The same holds true for life changes.
You are constantly changing, but it’s hard to notice until it pokes you in the ribs.
It’s not even a question of if you’re changing; it’s a question of in which direction are you changing.
Most people want change because they want to escape. But it doesn’t work.
It is by facing your inner demons that you heal yourself, and change your life for the better.
Below are the 21 things you can do to change your life. It’s a hefty and spicy read, so grab your beverage of choice and enjoy.

  1. Take Tiny Steps
    A baby learns to crawl before it can walk, and it learns to walk before it can run.
    Most people expect rapid life changes. If they’re wasting their time at a soul-sucking job, they expect success and fame within six months.
    I’m not saying it isn’t possible, because it is, but in most cases it’s not going to happen.
    People who need life changes right away don’t realize that it’s not going to make them happy anyway.
    All they want is their dream of a problem-free future. When they get there, reality sets in, and another goal is set.
    And the wheel keeps turning.
    So realize that there will always be problems in life. It’s not our job to eliminate them, but to do our best, take tiny steps, and see where life takes us.
  2. Take Quantum Leaps
    Something I’ve learned in working with people is that changes can happen in an instant. Old pains, fears, and negative emotions can vanish and be replaced by something more useful.
    This may seem contradictory to what I said above, but it isn’t. It’s not either/or, it’s both/and.
    We don’t live in a black and white world.
    Quantum leaps are tipping points (as Malcolm Gladwell, the author likes to call them).
    As you keep taking one step at a time, you will eventually reach a tipping point where your thinking shifts.
    The problem is that most people never get to those shifts. They stop drilling when they are about to hit gold.
  3. Accept Where You Are
    I learn a lesson playing freecell and solitaire, that each game can be won knowing the right moves to make. By accepting who you are you can make a lot of difference in the world.
    Things come and go. People live and die. Your life feels good, and it feels bad. The more you accept this, the easier it is to change your life.
    In fact, it seems as if life changes itself when I stop pushing so hard.
    Here’s a video I recorded on being in the present moment:
  4. Be Patient
    I learn this while learning how to play the guitar, that no knowledge is a waste, invest you time into learning something new and don’t try to rush and don’t try to skip a lesson.
    I stumbled a lot in the beginning. I made mistakes, I failed, and I gave up in frustration more times than I’d care to admit.
    I began seeing results when I became absolutely determined to succeed.
    It was a big lesson in patience. It doesn’t matter what’s going on. There will always be problems. But they don’t have to clutter up your whole life.
    Be patient with your progress. Stay true to your heart.
    You can change your life. Sometimes it just happens in its own time.
  5. Forgive
    We all have memories—painful memories.
    What you may not realize is that the person hurting you with those memories is you.
    You are the director of your mind. While the event may have happened in the past, it’s you who keeps playing them over and over again.
    Reliving the past will get you nowhere. That’s why it’s essential to forgive and forget all those people in your memories.
    You don’t even have to forgive. All you have to do is pay less attention to those thoughts and memories.
    Once you see that the only one suffering is you, the grip tends to loosen.
  6. Heal
    Healing yourself goes hand in hand with point #5. When you know that you can let go of past memories, fears, and obstacles, your self-confidence grows.
    Most people aren’t ready for life changes. They avoid any and all solutions, because they are comfortable where they are.
    And that’s fine with me, but if you make that choice, you have no right to complain or make excuses.
    You either choose to be where you are, or you choose to change your life. The choice is yours.
    Healing starts with seeing that you are not your thoughts; you are the awareness behind them. Thoughts come and go, but your true nature never changes.
  7. Face Your Fears
    When you face your fears, possibilities open up. Even now, there are time when I’m scared.
    Fears don’t disappear, they simply become less important. Fear is the opposite of faith.
    And remember, this is not about comparing yourself to someone else. This is about following your inner GPS, and living the life you were meant to live.
  8. Kill Your Excuses
    Your excuses are mere illusions.
    You may have excuses about why you can’t follow your passion and build do what you have always dream of, but are they really true?
    If you really wanted to, you could take one tiny step forward.
    That’s all it takes.
    One tiny step.
    Then see what happens, re-assess, and take another step.
  9. Take Responsibility
    Since talking with more and more readers, clients, and people in general, I’ve started to notice a scary pattern.
    That pattern is the lack of responsibility. I see people wanting to change their life, but they aren’t willing to take responsibility.
    They wait for a white knight (or black, depending on your preference) to sweep in to save the day and make change effortless and comfortable.
    I hate to burst your bubble, but it’s not going to happen. When you take responsibility for the life you’ve created, you can begin to move forward.
    If you’re blaming someone else for your situation, you’re stuck.
    Learn to make decisions from your inner authority. Here’s a video where I share how I do this:
  10. Follow Your Heart
    And what would an article of mine be without me telling you to follow your heart?
    If you’ve been reading my articles, you know that I keep writing about following your heart, and there’s a reason for it.
    As I’ve been living my life, I’ve started listening to my heart more and more.
    And when I say following and listening to your heart, I mean it in the broadest sense of the word. It can mean anything, such as following your gut, intuition, feelings, or going with the flow of life.
    When you begin putting the pieces together, and taking responsibility, and healing yourself, you naturally begin to follow your heart, your inner GPS.
  11. Follow Your Passion
    If you drive to a gas station, and fill your car with the wrong kind of fuel, it won’t run very well, if at all.
    That’s what most people are trying to do in life. They are listening to outside influences, and that’s when all the “shoulds” come in.
    It’s the belief that you have to focus on money in order to build a successful business. I did this in the beginning, so I know what it’s like.
    You want to do your research and know whether or not your idea is viable, but if you don’t do something you’re passionate about, your car will run out of fuel sooner or later.
    It is your passion that will fuel your journey for the rest of your life.
    The problem is that you may not know how to even start finding and following your passion. I had the same problem when I was starting out, but eventually things clicked.
  12. Meditate
    Ever had the experience of your mind racing out of control? It almost feels like you’re going crazy, doesn’t it?
    A great way to calm yourself (and your mind) down is to meditate. Even five minutes of meditation can do wonders.
    Meditation has taught me to see through the dance of thought. I have thoughts. I have worries. And I have fears.
    But I can observe them without getting too involved. It’s not always so simple, but knowing that I am not my thoughts is a tremendous help.
    What’s important is not to just know it intellectually, but to see how you create your experience of life.
  13. Express Yourself
    I find writing therapeutic. It’s something I love to do. It calms me. It’s inspiring, and it infuses my life with serenity.
    I highly recommend you try journaling or just writing down your thoughts after every day. If you’ve tried to solve problems in your head, you know it doesn’t work.
    You can have a conversation on paper, freewrite, and solve problems easily. It has the ability to change your life completely..
  14. Kill Your Comfort Zone
    If you want to change your life in the most positive sense, get comfortable with being out of your comfort zone.
    When you’re learning something new, you’ll bump into the walls of your comfort zone.
    Your spirit yearns for freedom. It’s when you put yourself into a little box that your spirit feels the need to rebel. You start feeling bored, and restless.
    You don’t have to suddenly infuse your life with discomfort. All you have to do is dip your toes from time to time.
  15. Flow
    Let’s face it. You don’t know what you want.
    Most people think they know what they want. They make five and ten year plans, acting as if they know all the variables of life.
    I’m on board with making plans and setting goals. But I don’t rigidly stick to them. You will miss opportunities if you disregard the whispers of your heart, if you trade the present moment for the future.
    You miss life.
    It’s like driving with all the windows painted black except the front window. You see where you’re going, but you miss everything else.
    Accept that life brings you possibilities. You don’t always know where your life will go. But go with the flow, and you will be where you need to be.

    16. Focus

    In order to change your life, you have to change your focus.
    If you don’t take control of your mind, it will run amok. You will focus on the negative. You will imagine the worst possible scenarios.
    What works for me is to focus on who is aware of the thoughts swirling in my head.
    There’s an awareness there.
    When I focus on it, I almost immediately relax. I see how my thoughts take me on a roller coaster ride of emotions. One day I can feel fine, and one day I can feel miserable.
    The only difference is thought.
    But there’s one thing most people miss when I share this: I’m not talking about changing my thoughts. I don’t try to change anything. Instead, I observe my thoughts, and let them be. I’m mindful of what’s going on.
    Here’s a quick video on how I went from miserable to loving life:
  16. Read
    I love reading.
    We live and die by stories. My life has changed several times by reading a book.
    The stories you read have a profound effect on how you view the world. You can be stuck on a problem, and the solution can pop into your mind while you’re reading.
    Your mind does not work sequentially. You can be reading something, then something goes click, and your life changes forever.
    And as you’re reading these very words, it causes you to think, doesn’t it?
    In order for you to make sense out of the funny letters you see here, you have to go inside, and make sense out of it from your own map of the world.
  17. Befriend the Unknown
    You never know what you need. Remember point #15, going with the flow?
    When you’re open to the unknown, which is a synonym for possibility, you accept that life may bring you something negative to teach you a positive lesson.
    I had some horrible days when I played poker. It can murder you psychologically, especially if you’re playing it for a living like I was.
    At one point I was looking up at the sky and asking “Why?”
    It helped me realize what’s truly important in life. It isn’t money, or material wealth, although those things can be nice.
    You just never know what life will bring, so you might as well become curious.
    How will the seemingly negative turn to positive in your life? What are you learning?
  18. Reclaim Your Personal Power
    Stop looking to others for approval. Just like taking responsibility (#9), you have to reclaim your personal power.
    You know what to do. You can feel it. You just haven’t been listening to that inner voice until now.
    It’s easy to give the decision to someone else, but it’s your life. The sooner you realize that, the more fun you will have.
    What do you want to do right now?
    If you don’t know, then start somewhere, because action will bring clarity.
  19. Accept Failure
    You will make mistakes.
    And you won’t even know if they are mistakes when you make them, because mistakes and failures have a tendency to transform into blessings.
    You only fail if you give up, so if you never give up, you can never fail, only learn, and grow.
  20. Remember Who You Are
    And above all, remember that you are always more than you think you are.
    You are more than your problems, more than your fears, and more than your body.
    I learned this from an excellent NLP trainer called John Overdurf.
    It’s only when you focus on your problems and believe them to be you that you get into trouble.
    So, remember to relax, because life is way too important to take seriously

 

Little Steps That Can Change Your Life

Women

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Life has been unfair to women.

Look at the list of what women have to pass through and make life…. Pregnancy,Periods, Breast Cancer, Being Walked On, Rape, Harassment, Abuse, gender difference…Females Go Through A Lot.

WOMEN ARE STRONG

God I ask you strengthen the women more & more.

Don’t Resist

Atimes we find ourselves being push around by the world.
When the world push you around don’t try to form any resistance allow it to move you, then in the movement you can get a solid ground and then you can stand and get a new balance.
If you try to resist it, it can knock you down and you will spend the rest of your life trying to just get up.

Pursue Your Dream

 

rabutA rabbit entered a shop and asked
Do you have Carrots ?

They said no we don’t have.

The following day he asked again:
Do you have Carrots ?

They replied:
We said we don’t have carrots, if u come back again asking we gona screw a nail in your head wit a hammer.

The third day he came again and Asked:
Do you have a Hammer?

They said NO.
He said:
What about nails?
They said NO.

Then he said:

Do you have Carrots?

Don’t let anyone scare you! They got nothing…,.

Just pursue your dreams. Be persistent and persevere.

Majority And Minority

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An interesting insight into decision making

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Let’s take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make…

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally. But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train’s sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few ignorant kids.

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one.

“Remember that what’s right isn’t always popular and what’s popular isn’t always right.”

Everybody makes mistakes; that’s why they put erasers on pencils.

Credit: Madam Sabi

Just Turn The Page Over

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Some of you all just got to turn the pages of your life over to realize that there’s more to your book than the page you been stuck on all these years; You got to close the chapter of hurts, you got to close this chapter of disappointments and move on to a new chapter where you get the opportunity to start all over again; A bad chapter doesn’t mean you can’t have a beautiful story. God is not through with you yet. Just because the road seems rocky doesn’t mean it won’t lead you to a beautiful place! Don’t hold on to your history at the expense of your destiny; Don’t try to fix what’s been broken in your past, let your future create something better. It’s time to get your life’s worth, its time to get what your life deserves and move on from the things that don’t deserve you. Every new day is a gift to start all over; You got to take advantage of your today; Today is the tomorrow you talked about yesterday; So stop being afraid to move on, Stop been afraid to make progress with your life. You weren’t supposed to get hurt! Yes I know! but it happened! All you got to do right now is turn that page over; I know you lost your job, that’s so sad but listen you got to pick yourself up and turn that page over, I know you messed up your life, but honey your life is not over, you still got to turn the page over!!! You cannot let your scars scare you from having a future; You cannot let your pains stop you from moving forward…..It might be easy to stay bitter, but staying bitter does nothing but hold you back! Its not over until you win!

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

The Acre of Diamonds

Good Time Stories

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The following story was told by Dr. Russell H. Conwell to raise millions of dollars to help fund the formation of Temple University in Philadelphia. He used the story to fire the imagination of his listeners during more than 6,000 fund-raising lectures. The story gives us a tremendous illustration of a way that a person can find true happiness in their own “Acres of Happiness.”

Many, many years ago, a young American was traveling down the Tigris and Euphrates rivers in the Middle East and was accompanied by an old Arab guide that he had hired in Bagdad.

During the trip, the guide told him a story about an ancient Persian Ali Hafed. Hafed owned a very large farm, orchards, grain fields, gardens, and money coming in from loans that he made. He was a wealthy and contented man.

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Seven Truths of Life

1st
Don’t let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life. Relationships work best when they are balanced…

2nd
Never explain yourself to anyone. Because the person who likes you doesn’t need it and the person who doesn’t like you won’t believe it…

3rd
When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free. When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time. When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come…

4th
When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams.
Choice is yours…

5th
We make them cry who care for us. We cry for those who never care for us. And we care for those who will never cry for us. This is the truth of life, it’s strange but true. Once you realize this, it’s never too late to change…

6th
Don’t make promises when you are in joy. Don’t reply when you are sad.
Don’t take decision when you are angry. Think twice, act once…

7th
Time is like river. You can’t touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again..

These are reality of Life..

Allow me to re-introduce the Christ – Transcript

Real Christianity

Below is the transcript to Blair Wingo’s poem ‘ALLOW ME TO RE-INTRODUCE THE CHRIST’ which can be viewed here

Blair Wingo

We’ve got a False Jesus being portrayed. As seen on TV, acting cool….you see he’s changed.
A different Jesus from the Bible so…allow me to bring the real Christ on stage. Not that whack Jesus, the one not based on fact Jesus, too often displayed. The Christ in Glory, not the one on your chain.
Because he’s the real Jesus Peace that only dwells in the saved. So allow me to paint the picture of Christ in the Scripture preaching faith and repentance that your too cool Jesus….never seems to mention. It seems like he’s down with all the things that you do. But come on, there’s only one Jesus who is true. So which one will you let reign over you? Who?
The Millionaire Jesus who just wants to make…

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