Always Wear Undewear In Public

A good story can always brighten up your day…..

Always wear underwear in public, especially when working under your vehicle. A story was posted in a newspaper a while ago of a Brisbane couple who drove their car to a shopping center, only to have their car break down in the parking lot. The man told his wife to carry on with her shopping while he fixed the car.

The wife returned a while later to see a small group of people gathered near her car. On closer inspection, she saw a pair of hairy legs protruding from under the chassis.

Unfortunately, although the man was in shorts, his lack of underpants turned his private parts into glaringly public ones. Unable to stand the embarrassment, she dutifully stepped forward and quickly put her hand up his shorts, and tucked everything back into place.

On regaining her feet, she looked across the roof of he car and found herself staring at her husband who was standing idly by watching.

The car mechanic however, had to have three stitches in his forehead.

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WHY WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL . . . . . . (Tribute To My Mother)

Bst mum ever

This is a dedication to my mother, it’s a combination of what most mothers pass through and do everyday just to keep the home running. I have never remember when I don’t have what I need, she is always up early and sleep late. Here is a short story and is a combination of what most mothers pass through.

Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, “I’m tired, and it’s getting late. I think I’ll go to bed.”

She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next days. Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.

She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.

She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer.

She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to dry. She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.

She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick list for the groceries. She put both near her bag. Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails.

Dad called out, “I thought you were going to bed.”

“I’m on my way,” she said. She put some water into the dog’s dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with one of the kids who was still up doing homework.

In her own room, mom set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added 3 things to her 6-most-important-things-to-do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. “I’m going to bed.” And he did…without another thought. Yet she wakes up early in the morning to set breakfast and wake the children and make them ready for school and she herself get ready for work, go to work and go back home to repeat the above circle.

Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer…? ‘CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL……. and they can’t die sooner, they still have things to do!!! (my mother live longer than my father {missing them both})

You are a phenomenal women…….God Bless ALL WOMEN!

Two Perspections To The Same Situation

Two Women chatting in the office.

Woman 1: I had a fine evening, how was yours?

Woman 2: It was a disaster.. My husband came home, ate his dinner in 3 minutes and fell asleep. How was yours ?

Woman 1: Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out for a romantic dinner. After dinner we walked for an hour.. When we came home he lit the candles around the house. It was like a fairy tale!

At the same time, their husbands are talking at work.

Husband 1: How was your evening ?

Husband 2: Great… I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. What about you ?

Husband 1: It was horrible. I came home, there’s no dinner, they cut the electricity because I forgot to pay the bill; so I took her out for dinner which was so expensive that i didn’t had money left for a cab. We walked home which took an hour and when we got home I remembered there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house!!

Moral: Presentation does matter… No matter what the reality is.

Read and Reflect

Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family.
The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion’s guest room.
Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement.
As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a hole in the wall and repaired it.
When the younger angel asked why, the older angel replied,
“Things aren’t always what they seem”
The next night the pair came to rest at the house of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his wife.
After sharing what little food they had the couple let the angels sleep in their bed where they could have a good night’s rest.
When the sun came up the next morning the angels found the farmer and his wife in tears. Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole income, lay dead in the field.
The younger angel was infuriated and asked the older angel how could
you have let this happen?
The first man had everything, yet you helped him, she accused.
The second family had little but was willing to share everything, and you let the cow die..
“Things aren’t always what they seem,” the older angel replied.
“When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the wall.
Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the wall so he wouldn’t find it.”
“Then last night as we slept in the farmers bed, the angel of death came for his wife I gave him the cow instead.
Things aren’t always what they seem.”
Sometimes that is exactly what happens when things don’t turn out the way they should. If you have faith, you just need to trust that every out come is always to your advantage. You just might not know it until some time later…
Some people come into our lives and quickly go..
Some people become friends and stay awhile…
leaving beautiful footprints on our hearts… and we are never quite the same because we have made a good friend!!

Quite Scolding

The late John Wanamaker was the king of retail.

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One day while walking through his store in Philadelphia, he noticed a customer waiting for assistance. No one was paying the least bit of attention to her.

Looking around, he saw his salespeople huddled together laughing and talking among themselves. Without a word, he quietly slipped behind the counter and waited on the customer himself. Then he quietly handed the purchase to the salespeople to be wrapped as he went on his way.

Later, Wanamaker was quoted as saying, “I learned thirty years ago that it is foolish to scold. I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence.”

Credit: Madam Sabi’s Blog

Don’t Let Others Hold You Down

Don’t let someone else’s dishonesty ruin your character. Your reputation doesn’t just depend on you, but on the people you call your friends. Everything they do will always reflect in the way you are perceived. You can’t move in the company of people with defective ideals expecting to be branded differently.

You are the company you keep and that company will ultimately determine how far you will go in life…….ever wondered why you have not made significant progress with your life, ever wondered why your life is not moving in the direction of your dreams. A lot of folks are where they are today because the failed to break away from certain kind people, there’s no point holding on to people who aren’t making your life better; there’s no point holding on to people who aren’t moving your life forward….Your circle has the power to make you or break you; you can’t move in the company of people doing nothing with their lives expecting to be different; you can’t move in the company of people sitting down on their dreams and expect to do differently. The people around you can influence your life more than you know….mindsets are contagious…. You will eventually become like the company you keep. Its time to subtract from your life, those people that don’t make you better… You are not “selfish” for deciding to cut some people off; There comes a point when you have to stop being UNFAIR to yourself, Sometimes subtraction is the only way for things to add up.

Os

Life is About Patience

vividly Recall the story of a man who became popular for engaging in money rituals just to buy the 80’s edition of the Honda Prelude. You wouldn’t buy that car for 50k today. Some other guy brutally murdered his brother ( whom their father gave cash 2 travel 4 the purpose of re- stocking their warehouse), just’cos he wanted to acquire the rave of the moment – Pathfinder Jeep. That same vehicle is now better described as a coffin. I Remember as a kid, my whole street gathered to watch a truck deliver a very large satellite dish to my neighbour’s house. Today a dish one tenth that size delivers 5 times the value and is in almost every student’s room. What about the Volkswagen Santana, Mercedes Benz V boot, 505Evolution, Toyota Crown, all overtaken by latest models of Camry, Honda, Bugatti, Bentley, X6, Acura and Infinity…. Vanity! Some ladies left their true loves cos some rich guy then persuaded them with a Benz 190, which turned out to be the only car they ever owned till date. They found out too late that true love is invaluable. A friend declared drinks because he launched the Nokia Communicator for over hundred grand in 2002. Today that phone would embarrass the owner and is a joke compared to the low cost and everyday phones. What about the MTN SIM card that many people went extra miles before they bought for over 30k, today you will not buy it at N100 bcos all networks are begging people to even take it for free. People are still making the most horrific sacrifices over ‘vanity’ and make enemies over worthless material things. What can I Say? Look back at that one thing you want to kill or die for today and see what becomes of it tomorrow. There is absolutely nothing you can’t achieve. All you need is a little time and PATIENCE and you would thank God without regrets. There is actually nothing in this world that is worth going to Hell for, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!Meditate on this.

MARRIAGE COUNSE

MARRIAGE COUNSEL…

1. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

2. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

3. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

4. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

5. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

6. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Bianca rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Enlightenment

Ignorance is the deadliest disease they say, but most people take it to be a popular nonsense. But in reality interplay, its one such true word and explicit phenomena. We engage in doctrines, practices, traditions and rituals without a proper understanding of there supernatural implications to our souls. Adherants or disciples of such dieties use cunning ways and methods to mask the actual ceremony or worship. Its a pitty that we allow ourselves to be played by people that are of no value. It is imperative to that we stay on our guard, support our intellect and question any strange phenomena we deem un-understandable to us and seek enlightenment, for knowledge guides our conception and acceptance of the unknown nonsense been popularized. We shouldn’t allow ourselves to fall fo an unjust course, we should be agents of change and affect our society both physically and intellectually, for its our duty to protect, promot and encourage truth. Pama linus

The Crow,The Swan, The Parrot and The Peacock

A crow lived in the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan. “This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so black. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.” He expressed his thoughts to  swan.

“Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.”

The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, “I lived a very happy life—until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors.”

The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shoo me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”

The peacock replied, “I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage.So for past few days I have been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam everywhere.”

This story summarizes our problem in this world: The crow thinks the swan is happy, the swan thinks the parrot is happy, the parrot thinks the peacock is happy, and the peacock thinks the crow is happy.

Midas’ Greed

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

We all know the story of the greedy king named Midas.

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He had a lot of gold and the more he had the more he wanted. He stored all the gold in his vaults and used to spend time every day counting it. One day while he was counting a stranger came from nowhere and said he would grant him a wish. The king was delighted and said, I would like everything I touch to turn to gold.

The stranger asked the king, Are you sure? The king replied, Yes. So the stranger said, Starting tomorrow morning with the sun rays you will get the golden touch. The king thought he must be dreaming, this couldn’t be true. But the next day when he woke up, he touched the bed, his clothes, and everything turned to gold. He looked out of the window and saw his daughter playing in the…

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God’s Perfection.

God’s Perfection

Nature is God’s perfection.
It does not need to be improved.
We do not know all the checks and balances so tampering blindly leads to our own destruction.

Let your life unfold within its own natural rhythms. It, too, is part of perfection Divine. Breathe out, breathe in sometimes ahead, other times behind today right, tomorrow wrong good decisions, bad ones both teach us if we care to learn.

Life is meant to be lived simply one day at a time flow with the rhythms of life and discover that you are one with all perfection. Life is good. Yes, it is.

Credit: Pat

Irresistible Qualities Of A WOMAN…

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

Every man has certain qualities they find irresistible in a woman. Whether you are an unmarried man in need of discovering what you should look for in a wife, or a unmarried woman curious to know what qualities a responsible man is searching for…this is for you!

1. A woman who values honor.
A woman who fearlessly honors others, values herself. To honor someone means to esteem them or show high respect. A woman who demonstrates this reveals her heart for people. Honoring up, down, and around is the rule to follow.

Honoring up means respecting those who are in authority over you, being able to accept their role and submit to their leadership. Honoring those below you includes those that look up to you, or work underneath you. Honoring those around you is respecting your friends, family, and colleagues. You know a woman who honors by the words she…

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The Story Of Three Travellers – An Hindu, A Jew And A Politician

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

An Hindu, a Jew and a Politician were travelling together  and their car broke down at night close to a farmer’s abode. They then decided to approach the farmer for a place to lay their heads till morning.

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On approaching the farmer, he said “well, I have two beds, but the third person would have to go and sleep in the barn. And then the Hindi volunteered  to sleep in the barn. Soon he came and said “sorry I can’t sleep in the barn because there is a cow there and the cow is our god and I can’t sleep with my god”.

“So, the Jew said I can go and sleep there because cow is not my god. But very soon, he came back and said “oh, I didnt know there is a pig there, a pig is an unclean animal to us. I can’t sleep with the pig.”

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Focusing on Matters Arising….

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

The doorway to a new year – 2015 is finally opened unto us with great opportunities and prospects beckoning.

I like to share a few simple questions that have helped me a lot to focus on what truly matters in the past; and I know will be just as valuable this year.

I hope these questions will be very helpful for you too during 2015.

1. Is this useful?

I have found that it is very easy to spend a lot of time on things that do not really matter much. To spend hours or days or even weeks on being angry at someone, replaying a mistake or failure in one’s mind or to dwell on something negative and feeling more and more like a victim.

You can waste a big chunk of a year on that.

So I try to ask myself this question as often as I can…

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Thankfulness: Secret of Expansion

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.”G.K. Chesterton

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”
Robert Brault

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thanksgiving is an attitude of all times and season, yet one of the laziest things to do…..

So I thought it would be a good time to share a handful of my favorite tips for making thankfulness a daily part of life.

Because being thankful for what you have is one of the simplest and easiest ways to lift your mood. To give your motivation a jolt. And to live…

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MARRIAGE COUNSEL…

1. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

2. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

3. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

4. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

5. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

6. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Bianca rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Credit: Sammie Abah’s Blog

The Lion And The Cougar

A pointed fable is told about a young lion and a cougar.

Both thirsty, the animals arrived at their usual water hole at the same time. They immediately began to argue about who should satisfy their thirst first.

The argument became heated, and each decided he would rather die than give up the privilege of being first to quench his thirst. As they stubbornly confronted each other, their emotions turned to rage. Their cruel attacks on each other were suddenly interrupted. They both looked up.

Circling overhead was a flock of vultures waiting for the loser to fall. Quietly, the two beasts turned and walked away. The thought of being devoured was all they needed to end their quarrel.

2014 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 3,100 times in 2014. If it were a cable car, it would take about 52 trips to carry that many people.

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The Pregnant Deer Scenario

In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth to a baby. It finds a remote grass field nearby a river and slowly goes there thinking it would be safe. As she moves slowly, she gets labour pain.

At the same moment, dark clouds gather around that area and lightning starts a forest fire. Turning left, she sees a hunter who is aiming an arrow from a distance. As she tries to move towards right, she spots a hungry lion approaching towards her.

STOCHASTIC PROBABILITY THEORY
What can the pregnant deer do, as she is already under labour pain..?
What do you think will happen..?
Will the deer survive..?
Will it give birth to a fawn..?
Will the fawn survive..?

OR

Will everything be burnt by the forest fire…?
Can the deer go left..? No, the hunter’s arrow is pointing at her.
Can she go right…? No, the hungry male lion is approaching her.
Can she move up..? No, there the forest is on fire.
Can she move down..? No, that is where the fierce river is.

Answer: She does nothing. She just focuses on giving birth to a new LIFE..

The sequence of events that happens at that fraction of a second (moment) are as follows:

In a spur of MOMENT, a lightning strikes and blinds the eyes of the hunter…!
At that MOMENT, he releases the arrow missing and zipping past the deer…!
At that MOMENT, the arrow hits and injures the lion badly…!
At that MOMENT, it starts to rain heavily and puts out the forest fire…!
At that next MOMENT, the deer gives birth to a healthy fawn…!

In our life too, there are MOMENTS of CHOICE when we all have to deal with negative thoughts from all sides. Some thoughts are so powerful they overcome us and make us clueless.

Anything can happen in a MOMENT in this life. If you are religious, superstitious,atheist, agnostic or whatever, you can attribute this MOMENT to divine intervention, faith, sudden luck, serendipity,
coincidence, karma or a simple ‘I just don’t know’…!

The priority of the deer, in that given moment, was simply giving birth to a baby because LIFE IS PRECIOUS…!

In future, may you always be inspired to have a focused positive insight, oblivious of all imaginary, negative probabilities.

“LIFE is Flowing Like a River With Unexpected TURNS, May be GOOD,
May be BAD…Learn to enjoy Each Turn because these Turns… Never RE-TURN.”

The House’s Fire

A couple, whom we shall call John and Mary, had a nice home and two lovely children, a boy and a girl. John had a good job and had just been asked to go on a business trip to another city and would be gone for several days. It was decided that Mary needed an outing and would go along too. They hired a reliable woman to care for the children and made the trip, returning home a little earlier than they had planned.
As they drove into their home town feeling glad to be back, they noticed smoke, and they went off their usual route to see what it was. They found a home in flames. Mary said, “Oh well it isn’t our fire, let’s go home.”

But John drove closer and exclaimed, “That home belongs to Fred Jones who works at the plant. He wouldn’t be off work yet, maybe there is something we could do.” “It has nothing to do with us.” Protested Mary. “You have your good clothes on, let’s not get any closer.”

But John drove up and stopped and they were both horror stricken to see the whole house in flames. A woman on the lawn was in hysterics screaming, “The children! Get the children!” John grabbed her by the shoulder saying, “Get a hold of yourself and tell us where the children are!” “In the basement,” sobbed the woman, “down the hall and to the left.”

In spite of Mary’s protests John grabbed the water hose and soaked his clothes, put his wet handkerchief on his head and bolted for the basement which was full of smoke and scorching hot. He found the door and grabbed two children, holding one under each arm like the football player he was. As he left he could hear some more whimpering. He delivered the two badly frightened and nearly suffocated children into waiting arms and filled his lungs with fresh air and started back asking how many more children were down there. They told him two more and Mary grabbed his arm and screamed, “John! Don’t go back! It’s suicide! That house will cave in any second!”

But he shook her off and went back by feeling his way down the smoke filled hallway and into the room. It seemed an eternity before he found both children and started back. They were all three coughing and he stooped low to get what available air he could. As he stumbled up the endless steps the thought went through his mind that there was something strangely familiar about the little bodies clinging to him, and at last when they came out into the sunlight and fresh air, he found that he had just rescued his own children.

The baby-sitter had left them at this home while she did some shopping.

The Power of Our Words

Today before you think of saying an unkind word –
think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food –
think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband, wife, or friend –
think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion.

Today before you complain about life –
think of someone who left this life ahead of you.

Before you complain about your children –
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep –
think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive –
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job –
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another person –
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down –
put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around.

Life is a gift.

Live it.

Enjoy it.

Celebrate it.

Love it.

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Author Unknown

Education Does Not Mean Good Judgement

THere is a story about a man who sold hot dogs by the roadside. He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers . He was hard of hearing, so he never listened to the radio. His eyes were weak, so he never watched television. But enthusiastically, he sold lots of hot dogs. His sales and profit went up. He ordered more meat and got himself a bigger and a better stove.

As his business was growing, the son, who had recently graduated from college, joined his father. Then something strange happened. The son asked, “Dad, aren’t you aware of the great recession that is coming our way?” The father replied, “No, but tell me about it.” The son said, “The international situation is terrible. The domestic is even worse. We should be prepared for the coming bad time.”

The man thought that since his son had been to college, read the papers, and listened to the radio, he ought to know and his advice should not be taken lightly. So the next day, the father cut down his order for the meat and buns, took down the sign and was no longer enthusiastic.

Very soon, fewer and fewer people bothered to stop at his hot dog stand. And his sales started coming down rapidly. The father said to his son, “Son, you were right. We are in the middle of a recession. I am glad you warned me ahead of time.”

What is the moral of the story?
1. Many times we confuse intelligence with good judgment.
2. A person may have high intelligence but poor judgment.
3. Choose your advisers carefully and use your judgment.
4. A person can and will be successful with or without formal education if they have the 5 Cs:
-character
-commitment
-conviction
-courtesy
-courage
5. The tragedy is that there are many walking encyclopedias who are living failures.

Living in Optimism

We all face tough days or times. It’s a part of life.

But how you react, think and act during these tough times makes a big difference. With a helpful set of habits the outlook on life can change in a huge and remarkable way. I know from experience………..

So I’d like to simply share five of my favorite timeless tips on optimism. Fundamentals that the wise people that came before us have lived by for hundreds and thousands of years.

1. Remember: It is not too late to change your life.

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
Maria Robinson

It may feel like you have been on the same path and stuck in the same habits for so long that you are stuck permanently on your current route. It doesn’t have to be that way though. You may not be able to change your life in any way you want right now. But work with what you have where you are right now.

Make just a small change if that is what is possible. That small change and success will give you confidence and optimism and you can build upon that to make more and perhaps even bigger changes over the year.

2. Don’t make mountains out of molehills.

“If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you’ve got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience.”
Robert Fulghum

It is easy to let thoughts spin out of control. To let them grow from just one thought or one situation into a big thing in your mind.

So what can you do about it?

One thought combination that has helped me with this habit is to:

Step 1: Say stop right away.  This works well for optimism.In this case it simply means that as soon as you become aware of that you are starting to make a mountain out of a molehill you say or shout STOP! or something similar in your mind.
Step 2: Broaden the perspective. After I have used my stop-phrase, I ask myself this about the perceived problem: Will this issue be of significance in 5 years? Or even 5 weeks? The answer is almost always no. And my mind is once again more chill, calm and level-headed.
3. Find a more helpful way to view your troubles.

“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.”
Oscar Wilde

“If you will call your troubles experiences, and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you, you will grow vigorous and happy, however adverse your circumstances may seem to be.”
John Heywood

Not all troubles in life are molehills (or simply made out of air).

And these more substantial challenges can easily get to drag you down.

But if you view them in a helpful and optimistic way then, yes, they may still hurt. But they tend to often hurt a lot less and can even be a source of optimistic excitement.

For example, I did not like making mistakes or failing at all. I often chose to stand still and not do anything so as not to not risk anything.

But nowadays I have learned that these things tend to truly be a blessing in disguise.

What has changed?

I view them differently and act upon them differently than I used to. I ask myself:

What is one opportunity in this situation?
How will this experience help me in the long run?
These questions help me to make good use of a situation that may seem negative at first.

And after having gone through this process over and over again I am a lot less afraid of making mistakes or failing. Because by now I know from experience that by handling challenges in this way, I have gained many benefits and grown as a person over the past years.

4. Focus on the small steps you can take.

“Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can’t be done.”
Bo Bennett

Focus on what you can do about your situation and take action on. Not on asking yourself over and over why something happened to you or why you failed. That will only lead to pessimism and feeling powerless.

Instead, ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling and improve this situation?

Just take that one small step today. Then another tomorrow. The small steps tend to add up quickly and, as I mentioned above, will breed confidence and optimism that allow you to take more and bigger steps.

5. Learn to reduce and handle worries.

“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his death bed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
Winston Churchill

Worries can be very destructive.

But most of the things you fear will happen never happens. They are just nightmares or monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of the time you have here.

I know, this is easy to say. But what can you do about it?

What has worked for me is a similar combination to the one that I mentioned above.

Say stop. I first use my stop phrase
Look back into the past. Then I ask myself a question based on Churchill’s quote: how many of my worries and things I feared came into my reality in the past? The answer is always the same for me: very few.
These two steps help me to calm down and to think more clearly about things once again.

Cr: Sam Abah

Two Perspections To The Same Situation

Two Women chatting in the office.

Woman 1: I had a fine evening, how was yours?

Woman 2: It was a disaster.. My husband came home, ate his dinner in 3 minutes and fell asleep. How was yours ?

Woman 1: Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out for a romantic dinner. After dinner we walked for an hour.. When we came home he lit the candles around the house. It was like a fairy tale!

At the same time, their husbands are talking at work.

Husband 1: How was your evening ?

Husband 2: Great… I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. What about you ?

Husband 1: It was horrible. I came home, there’s no dinner, they cut the electricity because I forgot to pay the bill; so I took her out for dinner which was so expensive that i didn’t had money left for a cab. We walked home which took an hour and when we got home I remembered there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house!!

Moral: Presentation does matter… No matter what the reality is.

Why You Should Get Marry

FOR SINGLES: Why You Should Marry.

Don’t marry for SEX,

Don’t marry because you are of AGE,

Don’t marry because you are getting OLD,

Don’t marry because you are LONELY,

Don’t marry because you need someone to support you FINANCIALLY,

Don’t marry because you MISTAKENLY got PREGNANT for him,

Don’t marry because you don’t want to LOSE the person,

Don’t marry because of your family PRESSURE,

Don’t marry because you like the idea of MARRIAGE and admire every WEDDING GOWN you see,

Don’t marry because all your FRIENDS are getting married,

Don’t marry for COMPENSATION for all he/she has done for you,
.
.
.
But get married because you want to fulfill DESTINY,
Get married because you want to be a suitable HELPMEET to an imperfect person, who LOVES and accepts you for who you are, not who you pretend to be,
Get married because you want to fulfill your PROMISE.

Education

At the national hospital intensive care unit, patients always die on the same bed at 7am every morning regardless of their condition. This puzzled medical staff so a group of medical doctors decided to observe the bed in secret and decided to wait for the fateful hour. Some held crosses and prayer books to ward off evil influence. While the less superstitious held cameras, tablets, smart phones, to capture every moment of this hour.
At exactly 7am, the door to the ward opened slowly. Marshal the cleaner disconnected the life support from the mains and plugged his Nokia phone charger.

IF YOU THINK EDUCATION IS EXPENSIVE, TRY IGNORANCE.

LADIES DON’T TRY THIS.

LADIES DON’T TRY THIS.

One day a woman wanted to know how the
husband would react if she left without telling him
where she had gone. So she decided to write him a
letter saying she is tired of him and didn’t want to
live with him anymore and after writing she put the letter on the table in the bedroom and then hid
under the bed… When the husband came back
home, saw the letter and read it, he replied on the
same paper and then began to sing and dance
changing his clothes. He got his phone, dialed
someone then said: “Hey babe, am just changing clothes then will join you, as for the other fool it has
finally dawned on her that I was fooling around
with her and has left. I was wrong..really wrong to
have married her, I wish I had known you earlier.
See you soon honey!” The husband walked out of
the room and left. In tears and very upset, the woman got up from under the bed and decided to
go and read what the husband wrote on the letter.
When she got the letter, it said: “I COULD see your
feet under the bed, I didn’t make any phone call.. I
am going to buy bread. Stand up, stop your silly
games and prepare me a meal… I LOVE U.

21 Things You Can Do To Change Your Life Forever

Last night I had a dream.
It was Christmas Eve. And I was receiving presents.
At that time, all I could think of was “I don’t want these. It’s just more stuff I won’t use.”
Looking back, I can see how much I’ve changed. I almost haven’t noticed the change, because it sneaks up on you, until it’s impossible to ignore.
It’s like when you were a kid. You got taller, but you didn’t notice until you stood up against the wall with the marks.
The same holds true for life changes.
You are constantly changing, but it’s hard to notice until it pokes you in the ribs.
It’s not even a question of if you’re changing; it’s a question of in which direction are you changing.
Most people want change because they want to escape. But it doesn’t work.
It is by facing your inner demons that you heal yourself, and change your life for the better.
Below are the 21 things you can do to change your life. It’s a hefty and spicy read, so grab your beverage of choice and enjoy.
1. Take Tiny Steps
A baby learns to crawl before it can walk, and it learns to walk before it can run.
Most people expect rapid life changes. If they’re wasting their time at a soul-sucking job, they expect success and fame within six months.
I’m not saying it isn’t possible, because it is, but in most cases it’s not going to happen.
People who need life changes right away don’t realize that it’s not going to make them happy anyway.
All they want is their dream of a problem-free future. When they get there, reality sets in, and another goal is set.
And the wheel keeps turning.
So realize that there will always be problems in life. It’s not our job to eliminate them, but to do our best, take tiny steps, and see where life takes us.
2. Take Quantum Leaps
Something I’ve learned in working with people is that changes can happen in an instant. Old pains, fears, and negative emotions can vanish and be replaced by something more useful.
This may seem contradictory to what I said above, but it isn’t. It’s not either/or, it’s both/and.
We don’t live in a black and white world.
Quantum leaps are tipping points (as Malcolm Gladwell, the author likes to call them).
As you keep taking one step at a time, you will eventually reach a tipping point where your thinking shifts.
The problem is that most people never get to those shifts. They stop drilling when they are about to hit gold.
3. Accept Where You Are
When I was 18, I started playing poker professionally. I wasn’t going to work at a regular job, because there was no way I would survive doing that. I couldn’t stand it.
Poker helped me realize many things, and one of them was that if I wanted to be happy, I had to accept where I was.
Things come and go. People live and die. Your life feels good, and it feels bad. The more you accept this, the easier it is to change your life.
In fact, it seems as if life changes itself when I stop pushing so hard.
Here’s a video I recorded on being in the present moment:

4. Be Patient
I’ve been building my online business since 2009. I say building, but what I really mean is learning.
I stumbled a lot in the beginning. I made mistakes, I failed, and I gave up in frustration more times than I’d care to admit.
I began seeing results when I became absolutely determined to succeed.
It was a big lesson in patience. It doesn’t matter what’s going on. There will always be problems. But they don’t have to clutter up your whole life.
Be patient with your progress. Stay true to your heart.
You can change your life. Sometimes it just happens in its own time.
5. Forgive
We all have memories—painful memories.
What you may not realize is that the person hurting you with those memories is you.
You are the director of your mind. While the event may have happened in the past, it’s you who keeps playing them over and over again.
Reliving the past will get you nowhere. That’s why it’s essential to forgive and forget all those people in your memories.
You don’t even have to forgive. All you have to do is pay less attention to those thoughts and memories.
Once you see that the only one suffering is you, the grip tends to loosen.
6. Heal
Healing yourself goes hand in hand with point #5. When you know that you can let go of past memories, fears, and obstacles, your self-confidence grows.
Most people aren’t ready for life changes. They avoid any and all solutions, because they are comfortable where they are.
And that’s fine with me, but if you make that choice, you have no right to complain or make excuses.
You either choose to be where you are, or you choose to change your life. The choice is yours.
Healing starts with seeing that you are not your thoughts; you are the awareness behind them. Thoughts come and go, but your true nature never changes.
7. Face Your Fears
When you face your fears, possibilities open up. Even now, there are time when I’m scared.
Fears don’t disappear, they simply become less important.
And remember, this is not about comparing yourself to someone else. This is about following your inner GPS, and living the life you were meant to live.
Here’s a short video on how to stop comparing yourself to others:
8. Kill Your Excuses
Your excuses are mere illusions.
You may have excuses about why you can’t follow your passion and build an online business, but are they really true?
If you really wanted to, you could take one tiny step forward.
That’s all it takes.
One tiny step.
Then see what happens, re-assess, and take another step.
9. Take Responsibility
Since talking with more and more readers, clients, and people in general, I’ve started to notice a scary pattern.
That pattern is the lack of responsibility. I see people wanting to change their life, but they aren’t willing to take responsibility.
They wait for a white knight (or black, depending on your preference) to sweep in to save the day and make change effortless and comfortable.
I hate to burst your bubble, but it’s not going to happen. When you take responsibility for the life you’ve created, you can begin to move forward.
If you’re blaming someone else for your situation, you’re stuck.
Learn to make decisions from your inner authority. Here’s a video where I share how I do this:

10. Follow Your Heart
And what would an article of mine be without me telling you to follow your heart?
If you’ve been reading my articles, you know that I keep writing about following your heart, and there’s a reason for it.
As I’ve been living my life, I’ve started listening to my heart more and more.
And when I say following and listening to your heart, I mean it in the broadest sense of the word. It can mean anything, such as following your gut, intuition, feelings, or going with the flow of life.
When you begin putting the pieces together, and taking responsibility, and healing yourself, you naturally begin to follow your heart, your inner GPS.
11. Follow Your Passion
If you drive to a gas station, and fill your car with the wrong kind of fuel, it won’t run very well, if at all.
That’s what most people are trying to do in life. They are listening to outside influences, and that’s when all the “shoulds” come in.
It’s the belief that you have to focus on money in order to build a successful business. I did this in the beginning, so I know what it’s like.
You want to do your research and know whether or not your idea is viable, but if you don’t do something you’re passionate about, your car will run out of fuel sooner or later.
It is your passion that will fuel your journey for the rest of your life.
The problem is that you may not know how to even start finding and following your passion. I had the same problem when I was starting out, but eventually things clicked.
I share my whole story and how you can find and follow your passion in Passionate Living.
And here’s a video on how I follow my heart and passion:

12. Meditate
Ever had the experience of your mind racing out of control? It almost feels like you’re going crazy, doesn’t it?
A great way to calm yourself (and your mind) down is to meditate. Even five minutes of meditation can do wonders.
Meditation has taught me to see through the dance of thought. I have thoughts. I have worries. And I have fears.
But I can observe them without getting too involved. It’s not always so simple, but knowing that I am not my thoughts is a tremendous help.
What’s important is not to just know it intellectually, but to see how you create your experience of life.
13. Express Yourself
I find writing therapeutic. It’s something I love to do. It calms me. It’s inspiring, and it infuses my life with serenity.
I highly recommend you try journaling or just writing down your thoughts after every day. If you’ve tried to solve problems in your head, you know it doesn’t work.
You can have a conversation on paper, freewrite, and solve problems easily. It has the ability to change your life completely.
A great book on freewriting is Accidental Genius by Mark Levy.
14. Kill Your Comfort Zone
If you want to change your life in the most positive sense, get comfortable with being out of your comfort zone.
When you’re learning something new, you’ll bump into the walls of your comfort zone.
Your spirit yearns for freedom. It’s when you put yourself into a little box that your spirit feels the need to rebel. You start feeling bored, and restless.
You don’t have to suddenly infuse your life with discomfort. All you have to do is dip your toes from time to time.
15. Flow
Let’s face it. You don’t know what you want.
Most people think they know what they want. They make five and ten year plans, acting as if they know all the variables of life.
I’m on board with making plans and setting goals. But I don’t rigidly stick to them. You will miss opportunities if you disregard the whispers of your heart, if you trade the present moment for the future.
You miss life.
It’s like driving with all the windows painted black except the front window. You see where you’re going, but you miss everything else.
Accept that life brings you possibilities. You don’t always know where your life will go. But go with the flow, and you will be where you need to be.
16. Focus
In order to change your life, you have to change your focus.
If you don’t take control of your mind, it will run amok. You will focus on the negative. You will imagine the worst possible scenarios.
What works for me is to focus on who is aware of the thoughts swirling in my head.
There’s an awareness there.
When I focus on it, I almost immediately relax. I see how my thoughts take me on a roller coaster ride of emotions. One day I can feel fine, and one day I can feel miserable.
The only difference is thought.
But there’s one thing most people miss when I share this: I’m not talking about changing my thoughts. I don’t try to change anything. Instead, I observe my thoughts, and let them be. I’m mindful of what’s going on.
Here’s a quick video on how I went from miserable to loving life:

17. Read
I love reading.
We live and die by stories. My life has changed several times by reading a book.
The stories you read have a profound effect on how you view the world. You can be stuck on a problem, and the solution can pop into your mind while you’re reading.
Your mind does not work sequentially. You can be reading something, then something goes click, and your life changes forever.
And as you’re reading these very words, it causes you to think, doesn’t it?
In order for you to make sense out of the funny letters you see here, you have to go inside, and make sense out of it from your own map of the world.

Change is inevitable. It’s all about in what direction you’re changing.
If you’re looking for something to read, you might want to check out my books: Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself and Do What You Love: Essays on Uncovering Your Path in Life.
Just a friendly suggestion
18. Befriend the Unknown
You never know what you need. Remember point #15, going with the flow?
When you’re open to the unknown, which is a synonym for possibility, you accept that life may bring you something negative to teach you a positive lesson.
I had some horrible days when I played poker. It can murder you psychologically, especially if you’re playing it for a living like I was.
At one point I was looking up at the sky and asking “Why?”
I’m not religious. But it helped me realize what’s truly important in life. It isn’t money, or material wealth, although those things can be nice.
You just never know what life will bring, so you might as well become curious.
How will the seemingly negative turn to positive in your life? What are you learning?
19. Reclaim Your Personal Power
Stop looking to others for approval. Just like taking responsibility (#9), you have to reclaim your personal power.
You know what to do. You can feel it. You just haven’t been listening to that inner voice until now.
It’s easy to give the decision to someone else, but it’s your life. The sooner you realize that, the more fun you will have.
What do you want to do right now?
If you don’t know, then start somewhere, because action will bring clarity.
20. Accept Failure
You will make mistakes.
And you won’t even know if they are mistakes when you make them, because mistakes and failures have a tendency to transform into blessings.
You only fail if you give up, so if you never give up, you can never fail, only learn, and grow.
21. Remember Who You Are
And above all, remember that you are always more than you think you are.
You are more than your problems, more than your fears, and more than your body.
I learned this from an excellent NLP trainer called John Overdurf.
It’s only when you focus on your problems and believe them to be you that you get into trouble.
So, remember to relax, because life is way too important to take seriously

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Be Thankful For Faliuer

1. Accept failure as part of life.Even when we try to insulate ourselves from the possibility of failure and live “safe” lives, failure can still find its way to us. Bad things happen in spite of our best efforts. Just accepting that fact can bring some peace. It happens to you. It happens to everyone.

2. Failure means you have the courage to try.If you are determined to succeed at everything, then please don’t try anything new. Stick with the status quo and the safety zone. But if you want to have a big, exciting, fulfilling life, embrace failure as a stepping stone leading you out of mediocrity. It’s just one stone on the path.

3. Failure teaches you something.There is always, always a lesson in failing. If it isn’t obvious right away, then choose to figure it out. You will learn a better way, a different direction, a new perspective. Think back on past failures and how you have grown from them. Don’t leave this precious gift behind in your efforts to reject and forget your failures.

4. Failure strengthens character.When you fail, you learn more than just how to do something differently. You learn about yourself. You might learn about humility, forgiveness, friendship, judgment, priorities, and values. Take advantage of the opportunity to grow in these areas and build your emotional intelligence and maturity.

5. You can become a mentor.When you strengthen your character and rise above a failure, you model for others how to cope and even thrive when something bad happens. You become a mentor for resilience and fortitude, teaching those around you how to behave in similar situations. You are serving others in a profound and meaningful way.

6. Failure stretches you.When the worst happens, you don’t have to fear it anymore. It’s happened and you are living it. Hey, it’s not as bad as you thought. You’re still alive. So maybe since falling on your face didn’t kill you, you might go ahead and try that other bold move you’ve been considering but have been too afraid to try. You already know what will happen if you fail, so what’s to lose?

7. Real friends emerge during failure.So you’ve lost your business, your marriage is falling apart, you blew that presentation, or you have a drinking problem. You’re friends and associates are scattering like startled cockroaches. Except for your real friends — the ones who love you for who you are. The ones who have faith in your inner wisdom and intelligence. If there is ever a time to really nurture your friends, this is it. These folks are the keepers.

8. Failures are often opportunities in disguise.Has this ever happened to you? You weren’t offered that promotion you’ve been wishing for, only to get a better job offer with more money a few weeks later. You lose a bunch of money with a bad investment, but your loss focuses you on more solid and profitable investment strategies. A relationship ends painfully, but you eventually meet your soul mate. Failures sometimes produce results that are better than the original plan.

9. Failure is sometimes intentional.There are times when our subconscious mind knows more about what we want or need than we are aware of. Sometimes we fail because it’s an escape route. Perhaps we are doing something because we feel trapped or obligated. If we sabotage the situation, then we can get out of it. Failure forces us to look this thing in the eye and ask the question, “Did I really want you to begin with?” The answer is often “no”. The truth can hurt, but it also can set us free.

10. Failure fosters creativity.Thomas Edison made 1000 unsuccessful attempts before inventing the light bulb. Winston Churchill was defeated in every public office until he became prime minister at age 62. Henry Ford failed and went broke five times before he succeeded. If you don’t allow failure to crush you, it will force you to develop creative solutions, building off what you learned through failure. Thomas Edison didn’t believe he failed 1000 times. He said, “The light bulb was an invention with 1000 steps.”
Like death and taxes, failure is going to happen. It may be hard initially to accept it as just another neutral life experience. However, by shifting your perspective, failure can be an experience that has much to offer, leading you to personal growth and eventual success.

TIME YOUR TIME!

TIME YOUR TIME!
Ecc. 3:1
“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

My Source Says:
Sometimes, I wonder if youths back then, as in Bible times, had TEMPTING DISTRACTIONS like us. Maybe attending the party of the Canaanites and getting raped (Dinah), watching a naked woman take her bath (David) instead of being at the warfront or when a beautiful Delilah lured (Samson) and cut his hair was just about it. Right now, EVERYTHING is a distraction. TV, fashion, music, parties, ipads, BB. . .everything is ‘designed’ to ‘steal’ our attention from the relevant and important things we should do.

Let’s be true to ourselves; we spend most of our time on less-important things. The time you spend pinging, whatsappING, editing your pics, surfing the net is more than any time you give to something else.

Learn to control and coordinate your activities daily. Give all things time according to their PRIORITY. Understand WHEN to do WHAT and WHY. You are not as busy as God and so, don’t hide behind the “busy schedule” thing. When was the last time you went for BIBLE STUDY? When last did you VISIT a SICK friend or relative? Have you seen your GRANDPARENTS this year? Have you CALLED them since you didn’t go? You can even send a part of your pocket money to them. See the little important things we FORGET TO REMEMBER! Yet, we tap our phones and laptops for God-knows-how-long.

Don’t just be busy for busy sake! Jesus visited Martha and Mary. Martha was all excited and was going to cook all the kinds of food in the world. Jesus came, but she was so engrossed with her cooking. The “REASON” she was busy (Jesus) was in her house and she didn’t even stop to say “Welcome”. Rather, she was calling on Mary to help out. Mary? Help out? Who would attend to the guest? There was no tv or picture album to entertain him but Mary recognized “oh, He’s here. Let me give him my time and attention for now. I can’t just leave him alone while he’s waiting for us to finish up.”

There’s a time to be busy, a time to rest, a time you should go to bed, a time to visit a friend, a time to read, a time to play, a time to ping and whatsapp. . .everything.
Everything has its priority. Give important things and people time.

To-Do: Call your grandparents. They won’t be here forever. When they die, we spend heaven and earth for a befitting burial but while they lived, they never tasted a dime in your name.
If you can, visit them with food stuff, no matter how little. Just let them know you know they EXIST and you have them in mind. Whatsapp will be outdated, BBM will fade with time, new technologies will keep being invented.
Don’t be distracted. Focus on what’s important.

The Easier Way May Actually Be the Tougher Way

Once there was a lark singing in the forest. The lark stopped a farmer and asked, “What do you have in the box and where are you going?” The farmer replied that he had worms and that he was going to the market to trade them for some feathers.

The lark said, “I have many feathers. I will pluck one and give it to you and that will save me looking for worms.” The farmer gave the worms to the lark and the lark plucked a feather and gave it in return. The next day the same thing happened and the day after and on and on until a day came that the lark had no more feathers.

Now it couldn’t fly and hunt for worms. It started looking ugly and stopped singing and very soon it died.

What is the moral of the story?
The moral is quite clear what the lark thought was an easy way to get food turned out to be the tougher way after all. Isn’t the same thing true in our lives?

Many times we look for the easier way, which really ends up being the tougher way.

Madam Sabi

Stand Up For The North

The NORTH!!! A region once dominated by economic viability. A region once crowned with leadership. A region once living under security buoyancy. A region once controlled by selfless men and worth the name. A region that once served as the economic nerve centre of west Africa. Selflessness & love were its foundation. Security & peaceful co -existence were its pillars.Trust & honesty were its walls. Leadership & military might were its roof and godliness was its house.Our past heroes will never forgive us; the region they built on equity, justice & accountability is on fire. We have rulers today but no single leader! Selfishness & greed is their lot; Public theft & social recognition has blinded them. We are literally responsible for our own destruction!Our rulers have worn a large price tag on their chests. They are easily bought; don’t even talk of the royal houses! We are simply on a sinking ship without a captain. The northern youths are nothing but bunch of drug addicts. The educated ones are all waiting for their turn to steal so that they can live in mansions & drive in exclusive cars. And the common slogan is, “there’s nothing we can do”!He who stands for the truth is mocked at. Our roof is on fire with incessant bombs. Our foundation is sinking in ignorance & drug addiction. Our walls are falling apart because nobody cares. Our concern for an immediate & drastic solution is a fiasco. Our neighbor’s house is on fire but I care not because I’m enjoying the luxury of my ill-gotten mansion. Everyday someone dies as a result of injustice, prepare for the day you will die because of injustice Talk to your parents, your uncles, your friends. Let them provide a lasting solution for us. This insecurity will soon consume the north & like prophecies, we will become the underdogs. The time for attitudinal change is now,
#StandUpNortherners! if u are a true son or daughter of the north please pass this on………..

Lesson From The Tea Set

There once was a young girl who got married. On the day of her wedding her mother gave her a tea set. The daughter loved the tea set and put it up on a shelf so that it would not get broken. Shortly after the wedding her mother died.

The tea set was all the daughter had to remind her of her mother. Only on very special occasions did she take it down and look at it, but she never used it.

As she grew older and had children of her own she wrapped it up and put it away to keep it safe for her own daughter’s wedding. Eventually the day of the wedding approached and the mother went to find the tea set. When she unwrapped it she was shocked to find it had a large crack in it. How had it happened? When she examined it she saw a piece of paper was inside the tea pot. She picked it up and read it. It was from her mother.

“Use this tea set every day or it will not last. Like love, it is only through use that it survives. If you do not use it then you will lose it. But if you use it every day it will last you a lifetime. Every time you use this tea set, think of how fragile love is.”

Madamsabi’s Blog

BEAUTIFUL STORY

An old man lived alone at home. He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and told him the situation. “Dear Son, I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my potato garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden, because your mother always loved planting time. I’m just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot.If you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren’t in prison … Your Father.”
Shortly, the old man received the reply from his son: “For heaven’s sake, Dad, don’t dig up the garden! That’s where I buried the Guns!” The next morning, A dozen FBI agents and local police officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns. Confused old man wrote another note to his son telling him what have happened, and asked him what to do next. His son’s reply was:
“Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad, It’s the best I could do for you from here.”
Moral of the Story: No matter where you are in
the world, if you have decided to do something
deep from your heart, you can do it!

The Crazy Co-pilot

Co-pilot was welcoming the passengers on the plane shortly after take off.

Thank you for flying with us this morning. The weather is…..

When suddenly he starts screaming while he is still on the loud speakers.

Oh my God! OMG!!! OMG!!! This is going to hurt….Its burning

A ghostly silence reigned, he gets back on the microphone talking to the passengers.

I sincerely apologise for the incident but the air hostess just dropped a very hot cup of coffee on my lap… you should see my pants from the front

A passenger replies, Why don’t you come here and see our PANTS FROM BEHIND!

Majority And Minority

An interesting insight into decision making

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Let’s take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make…

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally. But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train’s sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few ignorant kids.

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one.

“Remember that what’s right isn’t always popular and what’s popular isn’t always right.”

Everybody makes mistakes; that’s why they put erasers on pencils.

Credit: Madam Sabi

15 Personal Growth Quotes To Unleash The Best You

15 Personal Growth Quotes To Unleash The Best You
1. “I want to grow. I want to be better. You Grow. We all grow. We’re made to grow.You either evolve or you disappear.” ― Tupac Shakur

When we grow we grow together. When we grow together, we form something greater than before.

2. “Growth usually starts with awareness. Something happens in your life and you realize there is something to do about it.

We  might not know what will spark our growth, but when it hits us – we know. Whether it’s finding a new job, getting out of an old relationship or reclaiming our health – when it’s time, take the challenge on and don’t run from it!

3. Sometimes it is when you become exhausted of your old habits where you then observe all the dislikes in your life and you begin living more consciously. You realize that you have a choice in every matter. That your life becomes that which you focus on and that at any time you can assert your personal will power to become what you want to be and not become what the outside circumstances may attempt to mold you into.” ― Jason Micheal Ratliff

One of the biggest challenges in life is committing to being our best self. Whether it’s due to desperation or inspiration, decide to live within a vision that excites you.

4. “No one is coming to save you. You can’t have an ideal partner without working towards your ideal self.” – Jeff Moore

Be the person you want to meet. Be your own hero. Then watch them walk into your life.

5. “You don’t need to change the world; you need to change yourself.” ― Miguel Ruiz

Deciding to change the world can seem overwhelming and at time even ridiculous, if you haven’t started with yourself. Start with improving your corner of the universe…you.

6. “Why are you going to choose failure when success is an option?” ― Jillian Michaels

Don’t let fear put you on autopilot. Be mindful of the choices you have in every situation. Success is ALWAYS and option.

7. “If you don’t have peace, it isn’t because someone took it from you; you gave it away. You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control what happens in you.” ― John C. Maxwell

How do you interpret what happens to you? What meaning to do give it? Is your pain in vain or is it part of a higher purpose?

8. “Take your victories, whatever they may be, cherish them, use them, but don’t settle for them.” ― Mia Hamm

Appreciate all that you’ve done and stay hungry. You’ve got more to give than you know.

9. “We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world” ― Helen Keller

Let your pain, disappointment and fear push you towards having the courage to be who you are capable of being.

10. “Sure I am this day, we are masters of our fate, that the task which has been set before us is not above our strength; that its pangs and toils are not beyond our endurance. As long as we have faith in our own cause and an unconquerable will to win, victory will not be denied us.” ― Winston Churchill

Faith + Desire + Perseverance = Victory!

11. “We boil at different degrees.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What will it take for you to go to the next level? What really excites you? Are you allowing yourself to boil? What are you waiting for?

12. “The man who views the world at 50 the same he did at 20 has wasted thirty years of his life.” -Muhammad Ali

Every day we have the opportunity to learn, grow and become wiser. Embrace it. Live it.

13. “Nothing ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being present now, and if the past cant prevent you from being present now, what power does it have?”–  Eckhart Tolle

Be mindful of the power you give the past. If the past isn’t giving you positive power…let it go. Don’t find reasons to hold on to it. It’s ok…it’s not who you are anymore.

14. “You are Life passing through your body, passing through your mind, passing through your soul. Once you find that out, not with logic, not with the intellect, but because you can feel that Life—you find out that you are the force that makes the flowers open and close, that makes the hummingbird fly from flower to flower. You find out that you are in every tree, and you are in every animal, vegetable, and rock. You are that force that moves the wind and breathes through your body. The whole universe is a living being that is moved by that force, and that is what you are. You are Life.”– Don Miguel Ruiz

Nothing more to say here. You are connected to everything and everything is connected to you. Live large! It’s your destiny!

15. “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ― Anaïs Nin

Sometimes the biggest risk is when we risk nothing. Give yourself a chance! Blossom!

How Are You Building Your Life?

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by.

The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.

When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “my gift to you.”

What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home he had built none too well.

So it is with us. We build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort.

Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized, we would have done it differently. Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity. The plaque on the wall says, “Life is a do-it-yourself project.” Who could say it more clearly? Your life today is the result of your attitudes and choices in the past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and the choices you make today.

Credit: Madam Sabi

African Ladies Hear This

This is my advice for all Ladies and myself……. I’m
sorry If it will annoy you but it’s
the Truth, you really have to take
correction now. Dear ladies,
Firstly, if you are still struggling to
find a husband at an old age because you are
looking for a
perfect man, Something is wrong
with you, Sorry to say that but it’s
true. Your propaganda magazine
tells you that ‘All men are liars,
cheats and useless, but let’s be honest here,
which is more likely?.
Is it that there’s something wrong
with about 70million African men,
OR there is
something wrong with one African
Woman?.Ladies, you certainly will not get into
a blissful matrimony if
you are always hanging out with
your so called girlfriends every
night at a beer palour or bar and
waiting for a guy to buy you a drink
and take you home. Drinking yourself to
stupor every Friday and
Saturday nights does
not exactly make you look like a
marriage material. You
want a man?. Invest in a good
wardrobe, and dress responsibly. When a man
comes to you, smile
and be polite, even if he does
not fit your mental image of your
kind of man. Ladies please and
please, stop going into a
relationship with a chip on your shoulder. If
you believe all men are
bad and all men are Dogs, then it
will become a self fulfilling
prophesy.
No man is perfect!. Even you!.
You say you can’t marry a blue collar guy like
a mechanic or
carpenter. If a carpenter was good
enough to marry MARY THE MOTHER
OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST”, why
isn’t one good enough for you?. Do
not focus on where a man is now, but look
and see where he has the
potentials to be. What’s
the point of being beaten to a pulp
every night by some rich, good
looking and non caring man?. Do
you want a future where you will sit in a
traffic in your car with
sunglasses covering your swollen
eyes, you look out of the window
and see a happy couple in a Tuk Tuk
holding hands and laughing like
newly wedded couple even after 12 years of
marriage.
THINK ABOUT IT!

The Scopion And The Frog: A Story With Great Morals

A scorpion was at one end of the stream and wanted to cross to the other side given that he couldn’t swim he was stranded. It happened that at that moment a frog was passing by and saw the helpless scorpion and offered to help. The scorpion happily jumped on the frog’s back and enjoyed the ride to the other side.
When they arrived to the other side, the scorpion repaid the frog by stinging it. On the verge of death as the venom coursed through his body he looked at the scorpion and asked “Why?”. The scorpion remorselessly looked at him and said “because it is my nature”.

LIFE APPLICATION
We should know that we have scorpions in human form. No matter what you do for them they will strike. You showed that guy care stood by him in trying times, supported him, acted like a wife, inconvenienced yourself to see him comfortable but how did he repay you? He dumped you and suddenly realized you aren’t of the same class with him when he made some little money. Don’t stress it, it’s in his nature, he is a scorpion he can’t help it. Feel pity not anger for him because he will lose better things if he continues that way. You stressed yourself for this girl, split your little salary to help her buy her books, you paid part of her fees and you showed her love while she professed undying love to you but left after graduating because to her you’re too poor to date a graduate like her. Don’t commit suicide over her, she can’t help it that’s how she is, she is a scorpion. Guess where scorpions end up most times? Under the slippers or brooms when smacked by a vengeful human. Human scorpions may be in form of a lover, friend or even family, they are everywhere.
MORALS
Don’t let scorpions corrupt you with their venoms, keep being the good person you are that’s your nature.
Have you met a scorpion before?

Hope For Maiduguri

The most important aspect of warfare is the psychological and anyone who can win the psychological war will definitely win the physical combat. That was how Mao Tse Tsung and his little band of communists beat the Chinese national army back in the past. That was also how King George and Winston Churchill were able to rally Britain and all of Europe and were able to beat Hitler in world war II.
What boko haram is doing now to residents of Maiduguri and its environs is to defeat them psychologically. Else why throw fliers around warning of an impending attack? Did they announce to Gwoza residents before attacking their town? What of Bama? They know Maiduguri would be tough if not impossible so they are rallying their forces and discouraging the populace. Can boko haram muster 5000 men? I doubt it so they are looking for another way to win a battle that is otherwise impossible.
I advice everyone in Maiduguri or in anyway affiliated to it to be strong and courageous. Let’s all unite in prayer, trusting God to deliver the city and all in it. Let’s also make up our minds to fight if a push comes to a shove. If we decide defeat is not an option, Maiduguri will never fall to the insurgents. Vive la Maiduguri.

Elijah Salihu Malgwi

One Hundred Dollars An Hour!!

One Hundred Dollars An Hour!!

There are some times in our everyday lives that we become so busy with things like work or our careers, that we can quite often spend less time with the things that are really important. Today’s story gives us a great illustration of this life principle.

SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”
SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?”
SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.”
SON: “Oh! (With his head down).
SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?”

The father was furious.

DAD: “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard every day for such this childish behavior.”

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:

Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

DAD: “Are you asleep, son?”

SON: “No daddy, I’m awake”.

DAD: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $50 you asked for.”

The little boy sat straight up, smiling.

SON: “Oh, thank you daddy!”

Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”

SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do.

“Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love? If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.

Some things in life are more important….

by Coach Muller

3 Good Reasons To Sit Close Your Eyes and Meditate

Meditating isn’t easy. Instead of sitting on the floor cross-legged for half an hour, you probably want to be tweaking your fantasy football team, working through your Netflix cue, crossing things off the to-do list. Yet, new studies show that meditating could be just as good for you as those obviously relaxing and productive activities, plus offer surprising, cool mind, body, and health benefits. Take a few minutes a day to focus on one thing — a mantra, a word, or your own breath; basically, anything but that to-do list — and you’ll benefit in these ways.

Feel Less Pain
Researchers put healthy participants in an MRI to see how their brains light up when they experience pain, and how meditation could change their evaluation of that pain. After only four days, meditation during pain was found to reduce the participants’ rating of unpleasantness by 57 percent, and also decreased the intensity by 40 percent. How? Meditation-induced reductions in pain were associated with increased activity in the areas involved with cognitive processing and reframing the contextual evaluation of sensory events — meaning the pain you feel can be reframed in your brain as less terrible, and more tolerable.

Control Anxiety
Meditate, and you’ll stress less in the moment, and you may be able to also stop yourself from worrying about the future, according to recent research. Nearly a hundred patients with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (a disorder characterized by chronic worry and physiological hyperarousal symptoms), were trained in a type of meditation called Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction. After eight weeks, without adding any traditional cognitive therapy, their anxiety and distress levels went down. The study’s takeaway: If you can learn from mediation that thoughts are just thoughts, and physical sensations are just physical sensations, you can more easily shut down the anxiety-causing negative self-talk about those feelings.

Furthermore, participants in the study who had to do public speaking (perhaps the world’s greatest anxiety-inducer) even showed more confidence, saying things more often like “I can handle everything” rather than the self-sabatoging, “I’ll probably bomb anyway.”

Be Happier
This year, a Johns Hopkins professor did an analysis of 47 of the best existing mediation studies on more than 3,500 participants. He found that meditation provided as much relief from depression symptoms as antidepressants. And unlike drugs, which can come with a host of unpleasant side effects — drowsiness, reduced sex drive — meditation has never been shown to have any risk or negative side effects. Well, other than a little flack from your friends.

– Sarah Z. Wexler

A Clever Dog (Story About Work)

A Clever Dog
A  butcher watching over his shop is really surprised when he saw a dog coming inside the shop. He shoos him away. But later, the dog is
back again.

So, he goes over to the dog and notices he has a note in his mouth. He takes the note and it reads “Can I have 12 sausages and a leg of lamb, please. The dog has money in his mouth, as well.” The butcher looks inside and, lo and behold, there is a ten dollar Note there. So he takes the money and puts the sausages and lamb in a bag, placing it in the dog’s mouth. The butcher is so impressed, and since it’s about closing time, he decides to shut up shop and follow the dog. So off he goes.

The dog is walking down the street when he comes To a level crossing. The dog puts down the bag, jumps up and presses the button. Then he waits patiently, bag in mouth, for the lights to turn. They do, and he walks across the road, with the butcher following him all the way.

The dog then comes to a bus stop, and starts looking at the timetable.
The butcher is in awe at this stage. The dog checks out the times, and then sits on one of the seats provided. Along comes a bus. The dog
walks around to the front, looks at the number, and goes back to his seat.

Another bus comes. Again the dog goes and looks at the number, notices it’s the right bus, and climbs on. The butcher, by now, open-mouthed, follows him onto the bus. The bus travels through the town and out into the suburbs, the dog looking at the scenery.

Eventually he gets up, and moves to the front of  the bus. He stands on 2 back paws and pushes the button to stop the bus. Then he gets off, his groceries still in his mouth. Well, dog and butcher are walking along the road, and then the dog turns into a house. He walks up the path, and drops the groceries on the step. Then he walks back down the path, takes a big run, and throws himself against the door. He goes
back down the path, runs up to the door and again, it throws himself against it. There’s no answer at the house, so the dog goes back down
the path, jumps up on a narrow wall, and walks along the perimeter of the garden. He gets to the window, and beats his head against it several times, walks back, jumps off, and waits at the door.

The butcher watches as a big guy opens the door, and starts abusing the dog, kicking him and punching him, and swearing at him.
The butcher runs up, and stops the guy. “What in heaven’s name are You doing? The dog is a genius. He could be on TV, for the life of me!” to which the guy responds: “You call this clever? This is the second time this week that this stupid dog’s forgotten his key.”

Reflection:
Looks like some, people will never be satisfied with what they’ve got.
When it comes to the work place, Employers do not know how to appreciate their people who have served them loyally through the years. I’ve seen companies lose good people for the simple fact their leaders failed to show appreciation.

Employers with big egos enjoy the fact that they have more power and authority than others. They show, in the way they give orders and directions, that they think they are superior. They get a kick out of displaying this superiority. People who do this are fools, and everyone but them knows it.

They are never satisfied because they could not be satisfied even if their people perform well. They don’t listen to the opinion and ideas of their subordinates.

Why? Because of their stupid pride and insecurity. People of this kind will never be satisfied. Why? Because they are so busy wrapped up in
themselves and, fact is, the self can never be satisfied. Happy and productive people are always those who are “others-centered” rather than “self- centered.” The greatest idea of leadership is not someone who throws his weight around.

His joy is derived from delivering a job that others benefit from his contribution. Aim for service and success will follow….

Madam sabi

Women: Men Now Are Not After Sexiness

Are black women sexy? No doubt! When it comes to sexiness sisters have no equal. But can I be honest with you? I’m actually TIRED of sexy black women. Now hear me out on this, please.

Sexiness don’t mean jack snot. Not in the grand scheme of things. Visually appealing, yes. But I can’t eat sexiness. Sexiness won’t help pay these bills or pay off our student loans. Sexiness won’t qualify for a mortgage, or get people to respect you, sexiness wont allow me set my next big business move.

Sexiness won’t help me raise these kids. Neither will it teach my daughters their true worth and value in this world.

We got way too many ‘Sexy’ sisters out here with nothing else to bring to the table. Sexiness is the totality of their package. And that’s WACK!

Most black men looking for a relationship want a USEFUL woman. Visual appeal alone won’t cut it. Besides: there are so many black women competing to be the sexiest, it’s not even a race worth entering.

Can you cook? Do you clean? Do you have mothering skills Do you love your father? Respect him? Respect other black men in general? Have you divested yourself of prior relationship baggage? Can you hold a conversation about REAL world events? And no: Love and Hip Hop doesn’t count!

Do you have a REAL relationship with a REAL God: or do you follow the fake one many Christians have invented for themselves because he’s more tolerable than the actual Truth?

These are the kind of questions discerning men are asking nowadays.

So if sexiness is all you bring to the table, you can keep it. I’d rather have a woman of pure unadulterated SUBSTANCE. And I’m sure I speak for most conscious-thinking brothers out there on this one.

There’s a new breed of black men out there ladies. And we ain’t settling for second best or taking any shorts. Either come correct or go get with the jacks and harries. That’s all many of you are use to dealing with anyway…

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

LADIES WORLD

*When a Girl Cries — The World
Consoles her
*But when a boy cries — They say
Come on man don’t be A Girl.
*If A Girl slaps a Boy — Definitely the Boy
would have
done something wrong.
*If a Boy Slaps a
girl — ppl will say: the Idiot doesn’t
know how to Respect Ladies.
*If a Girl is talking to Boys– She is
Very Friendly
*If a Boy talks to a Girl — He is
flirting.
*If a Girl meets with accident –
Then its mistake!!!
*If a Boy meets with same accident,
Don’t you know how to Drive?
What a Ladies World

Never give up on your dreams!!!

I just read this and it inspired me,you too should read!!

I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in San Ysidro. He has let
me use his house to put on fund-raising events to raise money for youth at risk programs. The last time I was there he introduced me by saying, “I want to tell you why I let Jack use my horse. It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, the boy’s high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior, he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up. “That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200-acre ranch, showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track. Then he drew a detailed floor plan fora 4,000-square-fo ot house that would sit on a
200-acre dream ranch. He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher. Two days later he received his paper back. On the front page was a large red F with a note that read, `See me after class.’ “The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, `Why did I receive an F?’ “The teacher said, `This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you. You have no money. You come from an itinerant family. You have no resources. Owning a horse
ranch requires a lot of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you’ll have to pay large stud fees. There’s no way you could ever do it.’ Then the teacher added, `If you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal, I will reconsider your grade.’
“The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, `Look, son, you have to make up your own mind on this. However, I think it is a very important decision for you.’ “Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same
paper, making no changes at all. He stated, “You can keep the F and I’ll keep my dream.”
Monty then turned to the assembled group and said, “I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch. I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace.” He added, “The best part of the story is that two summers ago that same
schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.” When the teacher was leaving, he said, “Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher, I was something of a dream stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids’ dreams. Fortunately you had enough gumption not to give up on yours.” “Don’t let anyone steal your dreams. Follow your heart, no matter what.”

FACTS TO PONDER ABOUT CHILDREN…..

Originally posted on Sammie Abah's Blog:

1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.

2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.

3. If your child has poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.

4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.

6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.

8. If your child is…

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12 Things My Grandmother Told Me Before She Died

Originally posted on :

“As I learned from growing up, you don’t mess with your grandmother.”  – Prince William

This weeks post was written by Marc

  1. Breathe in the future, breathe out the past.  No matter where you are or what you’re going through, always believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  Never expect, assume, or demand.  Just do your best, control the elements you can control, and then let it be.  Because once you have done what you can, if it is meant to be, it will happen, or it will show you the next step that needs to be taken.
  2. Life CAN be simple again.  Just choose to focus on one thing at a time.  You don’t have to do it all, and you don’t have to do it all right now.  Breathe, be present, and do your best with what’s in front of you. …

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Seven Essential Rules For A Happy Life

Originally posted on Good Time Stories:

Photo Credit: Moyan Brenn via CC Flickr Photo Credit: Moyan Brenn via CC Flickr

I saw this list the other day of the seven things that will help a person to become a happier and healthier individual. While some of these rules may seem simple, in truth, they need consistent commitment and dedication each day. 

It is also interesting to review each rule and try to determine two things…how many of these seven attributes do you currently do well and how happy are you? Then think about people that you know and then, once again, compare them with the amount of kindness and happiness that they have in their lives.

I hope that these seven rules of having a happier life will have a lasting impact on your life and lead you to become a person that truly enjoys your life to its fullest everyday.

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The Seven Rules

1) Make peace with your past…so it doesn’t…

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BECOMING A SUCCESSFUL PERSON…Part 1

Originally posted on obohshem's Blog:

Many people want to achieve success in life, but it’s easier said than done. There are so many distractions that it can be challenging to discipline oneself to accomplish a monumental goal. By keeping the following advice in mind,however, you can dramatically increase your chances of becoming successful in whatever you choose to pursue.

There are three (3) methods we are going to consider in becoming a successful person. These are:
METHOD 1
1. PLANNING FOR SUCESS
In planning for success Imagine becoming successful. Einstein said the imagination is more important than knowledge.
The more vividly and accurately you imagine your
success, the easier it will be for the rest of yourself to
follow through. The same way engineers first imagine a bridge and then build it, you can be the engineer of your success, too. By

• Dedicate a few minutes every day to imagining. yoursuccess. Imagine yourself in…

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Trustworthy.

How marvellous it would be
to live always in the Light
to spend an entire day
without once
having a negative thought.

How can we trust others
if we are not trustworthy?
How easily we put aside
our integrity
although one can not fool
oneself for very long.

Take off the heavy armour
put down dangerous weapons
let guilelessness be
your shield
respecting others
requires self-respect
sincerity opens the heart
to receive pure love.

Cr: Pat C.