GOD’S ETERNAL PURPOSE

It doesn’t readily come to people’s mind that God has a Programme, a Plan and an over-riding Purpose for his Creation. God didn’t create by random choice. Creation was I Reasoned. It came forth from God’s Heart and it is very purposeful.

We have become so accustomed to evil, pains, sufferings, tears and sorrow that it hardly ever occurred to us that these are not part of the life God intends for us. How all these things became part of human existence is a sad story to tell. But that is not the issue here! What has happened has happened. What is of more importance to us is how God has planned to sort out these unwanted conditions of our Earth-life!

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

What is God’s Eternal Purpose, especially with respect to Man and the Earth? Isaiah tells us, “O LORD, thou art my God; I will exalt thee, I will praise thy name; for thou hast done wonderful things; thy counsel of old are faithfulness and truth.” Isaiah 25:1

If we ask God, Sir, what is your eternal purpose for man and for the Earth? He will tell us: My purpose for you and the Earth has to do with what has been in my mind all along; how I want things to be for you; what I have planned for you which sin disrupted; what my heart has ever yearned to bestow upon
you of my goodness; All that I desire that you be and have in order to give my meaning to your being.

Before we were created God has all these in mind for us. But sin has limited our capacity to enter into them. And also, by reason of Death, we are limited on Time. In the present age Death has limited us! Sin brought Death. Then Death has created for us a Time Problem. We are not here long enough to have all that His love planned for us. Secondly, sin has also limited us and limited our capacity to enjoy what God has so freely given us.

God’s eternal purpose is the counsel of His heart, His good pleasures, His will, the Desires of His heart, the conceptions of His heart which He has put into a blueprint. As such, it has become immutable and irrevocable. God’s eternal purpose is His love-desires, His Love-thoughts and the plans to make them be!
And ultimately, neither sin nor Death would be able to stop it from fulfillment.

These things have always been His thought for us; He has ever planned to make them good to us. And He has not changed His mind on that. When all these are executed, the condition of eternal pleasure results for all Creation; all of Creation enjoying God forever.

How long do we need to get all of God’s goodness soaked into us? It is going to take eternity! What is eternity? It is from the Greek word “aion”. It literally means ages rolling upon ages! Yes, ages rolling upon ages, and the dimensions of creature’s pleasure in the Creator will keep unfolding in heightening degree for all eternity! Eternity also goes beyond mere length of time. It carries with it the sense of the other dimensions of existence that sin took away from us.

“But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us, Even when we were dead in sins, hath made us alive together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;)And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus: THAT IN THE AGES TO COME HE MIGHT SHEW THE EXCEEDING RICHES OF HIS GRACE IN HIS KINDNESS TOWARD US THROUGH CHRIST JESUS.” Ephesians 2:4-7

Now, Time is a limit upon us to enjoy all of God. Death doesn’t allow that! We live and die so quickly. Also, sin is a limit upon our capacity to fully soak in God. Sin restricts and constricts and weakens our capacity for Spirit things. But in eternity, when ages roll on upon ages non-stop, and in the Dimensions of existence that we hardly know exist, our capacity to enjoy God will be limitless. For when we shall rise in Him and mortality would have been swallowed up by life, and corruption eliminated by incorruption, the sin restriction problem would be no more! Death would be no more!

And in the midst of eternity, the Time available for God to unfold and unbundle His Heart of Love to us will also be limitless; with ages rolling upon ages indefinitely, Time constraint will be no more! The ages to come provide the infinite arena for the boundless Love of God to find expression and play out upon Creation in all the dimensions of God’s greatness

“Having made known unto us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure which he hath purposed in himself: That in the dispensation of the fullness of times he might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him..…That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus.”
Ephesians 1:9, 10 & 2:7

No one should miss out on such indescribable joy and eternal bliss! Yet we hear from Holy Scripture that some people would not be a part of this by their own choosing. So, who will be part of Eternity with God? Who will be there as ages roll on upon ages and God lavishes His Love upon His Creatures? Note the
following Points:

·All have sinned and are disqualified from such future – Romans 3:23.
·The wages of sin is death (Eternal separation from God and the future state Creation.)– Romans 6:23.
·But the gift of God is Eternal Life – Romans 6:23.
·This Life is a free gift, but is only available in Christ Jesus and obtainable through faith in Him – Romans
6:23, John 5:26, Ephesians 2:8.
·The Book of Romans 10:9,10 tells us how to receive this gift which God has so freely and graciously
offered.

What is the alternative to this great offer of God? That is, if you fail to receive this gift what then happens?

“And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He that hath the
Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life.” 1John 5:11, 12

He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life;
but the wrath of God abideth on him. John 3:36

“Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire
prepared for the devil and his angels” Matthew 25:41

“And I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God; and the books were opened: and another book was opened, which is the book of life: And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.” Revelation 20:12,15

“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” Revelation 21:8

If you think this cannot happen, please, I plead with you that you think again!
The Time is short!

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Ten Steps to Succeed in all you do

I saw this post a couple of years ago, and it challenged and help me with what I do. i will to share them with you as well. happy reading.

Ten steps from Michael

1. Take the first step immediately
Michael is a master at this.  He really taught me how to think straightforward and just act on something. To give you an example, I was pitching him the idea and he asked me, “Yeah man that’ sounds cool.  What would you call it? What would you want to call the product?” I was like, “Masters Blueprint.”  He’s said, “Well that’s a cool name, let me see if that’s available.”  He checked and he immediately registered the domain and set up a blog on it.  It took him 5 minutes and it would have taken me 5 minutes as well but the difference is he just did it and I didn’t.  I would’ve probably gone like, “Yeah man why don’t we think about the name a little bit more and make sure that it’s right for the product.”  He just did it and I loved that about him because it was really easy to take my crazy perfectionist brain out of the game sometimes and it was truly necessary. I learned a lot through that and I aim to take the first step immediately.

2. Focus on your partner’s benefit and how solving your pain point will help you both.

The second lesson was especially important when I was pitching Michael because I approached him and said, “Yeah you know Michael you have this great knowledge, you have this proven system that works and you can replicate.  A lot of people would be interested in it yet I know it also takes you a ton of time and it takes you a lot of effort to do it. That’s where I come in. I always wanted to create a product but never got myself to follow through.”  I can create all of this for you and I think because I’m working with you and your reputation I will get myself to follow through. At the end it will help us your both because we will leverage your network but you don’t have to do a whole lot of work.

I think it was truly instrumental that I also put my pain point I there because if I was going to be, “Yeah man that’s so awesome for you. These are all the results you’d get.” Then at the same time he would be suspicious asking himself. “Why would you do that? Why are you offering this to me?”  I also aim for always saying your pain point and how it will help you both because it will give them a reason to say yeah man I see why he’s approaching me.  At the same time he’ll also know it will help people.  Most people are really willing to help especially Michael.

3. Make an irresistible offer.
The next lesson I learned was to make an irresistible offer.  Always think of the things that the people care most about. Michael cares most about his time because he already has enough money to fund his lifestyle. Make an irresistible offer that won’t take them a lot of effort to say yes to. Get rid of the objections. I said I was going to cover the production costs; I was going to fly over to your place and shoot it. You don’t have to come to me I’ll just chill out with you.  All these things make it easy for him to say yes.

4. Be brutally honest and hold yourself to high standards.
I’m from Germany as I said and we have a very direct standard of approaching problems, so I really liked that he just said straight out, “I like this, the header is great. This cover sucks it doesn’t look very nice. I know what you can do; you do what you did with the other website that looked brilliant.” He held me to high standards and pushed me to do better, which really allowed me to give my best.

5. Don’t BS yourself! It may not be complex but it’s not always easy.
We all know this, yet I went into the project thinking I know web design, I know how to cut videos, I know how to shoot videos. I know all this stuff that we need to do so it’s going to be easy…

 Then again even if you know all these things, it still is hard sometimes because there are days when you just don’t want to anymore.

It’s like “oh my god another error, another video to cut, another thing to do.” Even if it’s nothing spectacularly difficulty or complex and you even know how to do it.  You’re annoyed, sometimes you’re not motivated and I think it’s not always easy but you really need to focus on the right things, push yourself through. I listen to a lot of great entrepreneurial books and listen to a lot of great speakers, motivational stuff and also talk to Michael and my other mentors through it and just did that. It truly helped me but just be aware of it don’t go in with the expectations that it’s going to be very easy because then you’re going to bump into the first road block. I think for the next project I will definitely keep that in mind and go into the expectation knowing that it will suck at times. At the same time I know I have the ability to push through and it’s well worth pushing through.

6. Strategize everything on PAPER.
Lesson six I strategize everything on paper.  This was huge for me because while I love technology and I’m quite a tech geek. I love hanging around on all the forums and all of the blogs, and just reading what people say and learn a lot of things from technology- there is a time when it’s better to be off line. I surprisingly found that the longer I spent off line strategizing everything I wanted to get done on the day or in the project or the weeks on paper, the more effective I was.  Way more effective.

What I do now is every day I journal on things and prepare my actions. It may just be some simple things like the layout of the website, or where a button should be, or which colour something should be.  It’s just amazing what paper can do for you if you just get off the computer for a while and go back in with a lot more clarity.

7. Schedule your time wisely and embrace RULES.
Even though we all want to have the freedom and lifestyle to be able to do whatever we want, I think what we ultimately want is still have some sort of freedom to choose but set rules ourselves.  We ultimately don’t want to live without rules. They may work for a while, while you’re on vacation or something but ultimately you need rules especially if you want to be productive and get something done.

I always had a pretty tight schedule some weeks it was more planned out than others but in general I set a schedule and I have my rules.  For example the biggest rule for me was no e-mail prior to noon and to that day I still keep that rule and because it just helps tremendously to get things done before you check your e-mail.

8. GET a Mentor! BE a Mentor!
Then number eight, get a mentor and be a mentor. As I said I worked together with Michael and I also worked together with Clive our copywriter. Both of them are tremendous mentors of mine. They helped me a lot on various aspects of the project. Also they keep you not only accountable but they really can give you feedback and perspective on a lot of things.  You can just bounce back ideas from them, but at the same time you need to remember that all of these people, as amazing as they are, they all have their challenges. They all have their imperfections and don’t know everything. They need some advice as well.

This works for everyone because no one is perfect.  Once you understand and accept that then you also know that everyone can need help and that you always know something that will help them because they don’t know it. It could just be a fresh perspective on something, but really make sure that you embrace that and help them out.

9. Set 2 deadlines.
Lesson number nine, set two deadlines. This was something that came across more or less by accident. Michael wanted to set a deadline roughly four weeks prior to launch we set a deadline. I was pushing for the quick deadline because I know that I get myself to follow through a lot better when I have a short and really tight deadline.

He came up with the idea of, “Well let’s do an internal launch first without a lot of affiliates or no affiliates at all, and then push out to the official launch.” I pushed for having another deadline way earlier and I think that was great, because now I got myself to follow through a lot better and pushed hard and worked a lot of hours to get this done. Ultimately what ended up happening was that we missed the internal launch deadline, we missed it completely but we were ready for the official launch.  I think if we wouldn’t have had the first deadline in the first place, we would have just missed both deadlines.

It was great having the second deadline where you have to deliver but it’s without a huge risk. It would just have a benefit. It would have been cool if we would have been able to launch earlier but at the same time now there’s no real risk involved. That was tremendously helpful and I aim to use that in other projects like my study papers at the university or other things as well.

10. Do it once and you can do it forever!
Then the last lesson, do it once and you can do it forever.  The project was so worth it for me just as a personal experience, because I’ve grown so much I think throughout the whole project. I’ve proven to myself that I can do it and that is the biggest aspect of it. I’ve learned a lot, I’ve honed my craft in design and it all came together nicely. I’m very proud of the product and I also think I’ve done a great shift in my mindset.  Because now I have a new belief that says that I can freaking do it.

Before it was like you know whenever I wanted to do something my mind would like “yell yeah remember the time when you screwed up this thing? When you procrastinate when you said you would do this and you had this great idea but you didn’t do anything on it?  Now I say, well you know when you did that that was really cool.  Like you finished it and you did a great job on it and I think that was so helpful.  Now with that new belief I can build on this and I can push through much more easily on new projects because I have completed it.

This were some of the biggest lessons that I learned from Michael over the past months, I hope they’ve been helpful to you.  It has definitely been a great experience so far, I am proud and really excited about how the product is going to do in the long run. I have learned a tremendous amount and…

DON’T IN YOUR IGNORANCE KILL YOUR BENEFACTOR.

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There was an aged artist who lived in a small village. The man used to design beautiful artistic works to be sold at an attractive price

One day, a poor man among the villagers challenged the old man saying: You earn a lot of money from your handiwork but why don’t you assist indigent people in the village?

Cant you see the butcher who is not as rich as you are, but still shares free meat to the destitute people in the village.
Also, look at the village baker, a poor man with a large family, yet he gives the poor people free loaves of bread.

The artist did not respond angrily to the challenges, rather just smiled .

The poor man was so confused about the reaction of the artist so he left him and went out spreading rumors that the artist was so rich, but he was a stingy person who only accumulated wealth and refused to help less privileged. The entire villagers took vengeance, they broke away from the old artist man and they all forsook him.

In a mean time, the aged artist was sick but nobody among the villagers cared to visit him, therefore he died a lonely man.

The days passed by, the villagers observed that the butcher stopped free distribution of meat and the baker could not give the destitute people free loaves of bread any more, despite their continuous trooping to the bakery and their hope to have something to eat.

When both (the butcher and the baker) were asked the reason behind the sudden cut off of the welfare to the villagers, they said that: ” the elderly artist who used to donate a large sum of money every month to share free meat and loaves of bread to the poor people in the village has died, so the welfare has to stop.”

Actually, many people may have wrong impression about you while others may have different opinions, none of them could benefit nor harm your good intention.

Therefore, don’t pass judgment on any one based on his physical appearance. There are things about his personal life, if you were privileged to know, your judgement would surely be different.

For example, a man died at nightspot/ dance hall.

The other person died in the mosque/Church.

The first person entered the dance hall with intention to preach to them (against indecency)

The second person entered the mosque/Church to steal money or bags.

For this reason, you and I can not decide who enters heaven nor who enters hell-fire. Fear God in privacy and fear God in the open. Human physical appearance is a deception, therefore, forgive, pardon and ignore people’s iniquities. Pray for God’s guidance on erring people. Be good to everybody, don’t cut off your relationship with a person who does not please you. Establish unity and harmony with people, God will love you and people will love you too. The Lord Who created the souls, knows what the souls conceals.

I found this story very insightful and I think I should share

Nigeria the Floating Giant

Nigeria will remain a Sick Giant as long as it is perpetually bedeviled and plagued by grotesque incompetent leaders suffering from historical amnesia.

We will continue to progress retrospectively with abysmal ridicule from lesser countries.

Nigeria can rise again and take her place if our demographic mediocrity and parochial loyalty to individuals in power is subordinated to true nationalism; consciously and conscientiously buried.

Nigeria is merely floating at the moment. The crop of officialdom we have are nothing but a Tsunami to this raped Nation.

Nigeria has everything required to lead Africa. We have the intellectuals, we have the wealth, we have great men and women with vision; but focused and visionary leadership has remained a challenge since independence. Ethnicity, religion, zoning and primitive partisanship has continued to hold us back.

Nigerian has lost her birth-right and big brother status. We pray our children in their own generation wakes up the sleeping giant.

Africa will raise again!

• Philippa Asiodu

We Need To Turn A Blind Eye For Peace

In live we come across stories that bring great morals and lessons for life.

Today’s story holds a great lesson for all.

A man married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much. One day she developed a skin disease. Slowly she started to lose her beauty. It so happened that one day her husband left for a tour.

While returning he met with an accident and lost his eyesight. However their married life continued as usual. But as days passed she lost her beauty gradually. Blind husband did not know this and there was not any difference in their married life. He continued to love her and she also loved him very much.

One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow.

He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave that town.

A man from behind called and said, now how will you be able to walk all alone? All these days your wife used to help you.

He replied, I am not blind. I was acting, because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease. So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.

Moral:- Some times it is good for us to act blind and ignore one another’s short comings, in order to be happy

No matter how many times the teeth bite the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth. That’s the spirit of FORGIVENESS. Even though the eyes don’t see each other, they see things together, blink simultaneously and cry together. That’s UNITY.” May God grant us all the spirit of forgiveness and togetherness.

1. ”Alone, I can ‘Say’ but together, we can ‘talk’.

2. “Alone, I can ‘Enjoy’ but together, we can celebrate

3. ‘Alone, I can ‘Smile’ but together, we can ‘Laugh’.

That’s the BEAUTY of Human Relations. We are nothing without each other

The razor blade is sharp but can’t cut a tree; the axe is strong but can’t cut the hair.

MORALS: Everyone is important according to his/her purpose. Never look down on anyone unless you are admiring their shoes.

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REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

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I saw this few reasons on way to read book and I will love to share with you.

REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

1. Books help you to feel more confident.

2. Books help you to travel around the world in the cheapest way.

3. Books develop your personality.

4. Books provide food for thought.

5. Books make you laugh and think.

6. Books draw you towards perfection.

7. Books stimulate creativity.

8. Books bring out writing talent.

9. Books help you in communicating.

10. Books clear your vision.

11. Books satisfy your curiosity.

12. Books help you make better choices.

13. Books help you build literary talent.

14. Books do not require any special device to teach.

15. Books increase your attention span.

16. Books are fruitful pastime.

17. Books can be used anytime, anywhere.

18. Books provide entertainment, when others fail.

19. Books make you powerful.

20. Books help you know the ‘Whys’ and ‘Hows’ of everything.

21. Books help you to create and spread fun.

22. Books help you travel across time intelligently.

23. Books keep you updated with facts and figures.

24. Books spread love, affection and knowledge.

25. Books make the best of friends.

26. Books take you to intellectual environment.

27. Books help you feel the world around you.

28. Books entertain your mind.

29. Books broaden your horizon.

30. Books bring Nature to your doorstep.

31. Books bring about a ‘personality change’.

32. Books increase comprehension.

33. Books do not require company.

34. Books are stress-busters.

35. Books develop a sense of belonging to people around you.

36. Books provide mental and physical relaxation.

37. Books act as a communication tool.

38. Books are intellectually satisfying activity.

39. Books provide spiritual experience.

40. Books provide emotional strength.

41. Books build your self-esteem.

42. Books help and encourage your imagination to soar.

43. Books make you smarter and wiser.

44. Books help you grow.

45. Books take you to a ‘world of dreams’.

46. Books can change your life and vision.

47. Books help you in achieving ‘life goals’.

48. Books develop wonderful experience.

49. Books transform lives.

50. Books inspire, books motivate, books build nations.

We challenge you to start reading books and not just storing them!

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12 SIGNS SHOWING YOU ARE DEALING WITH AN EVIL PERSON:

Evil is defined as the absence of good. Every person has different definitions of evil and goodness. However, in many cases true evil is very hard to recognize especially for people who always try to find something good in others.

We can not ignore that there are truly evil people around us and we need to learn how to notice the signals that show us when someone means nothing else but to harm us.

1. Reality denial

Regardless of how obvious the truth is these people will always deny it. Their truth is the only that matters even though it is complete opposite of the reality. Their truth is actually reflection of their wicked, unhealthy thoughts and ideas.

2. Fact twisting

These people are incredible manipulators. They are able to twist any fact that they do not want to accept. They possess ability to take things out of context and create a story that is in their favor.

3. Hiding information

All information that they believe can compromise their goals will be immediately withheld. By keeping this information a secret they believe that they are not doing anything wrong i.e. they do not consider this to be lying. However, if this silence harms others than, it is certainly lying. Moreover, they will blame you and make you feel guilty for lacking trust.

4. Misleading people

What they are very good at is misleading you by making you feel attacked, incompetent, vulnerable, afraid or hated. They achieve this by carefully choosing well-thought words.

5. Constant lies

Whatever they may be talking about they will always add” juicy “information because they feel satisfaction when they lie to other people.

6. No remorse

These people will never feel sorry for hurting people. They enjoy destroying relationships or anything that other people find meaningful. They find pleasure in other people’s sufferings. If they see something good, they will do all in their power to destroy it.

7. Avoid responsibility

Lack of moral is one of the key traits of these people. They never admit or apologize for their mistakes.

8. Manipulators

Masters of manipulation is their second name. They always have a plan and will do anything to realize it.

9. Fair-weather friends

They change like the weather. They will be your friends when you are happy and successful. However, as soon as you face hardships they will disappear. Do not expect support from them. They will be around you only if they can gain something.

10. Time thieves

They can not stand other people being successful and they will do anything in their power to prevent them from realizing their plans. They hate when others are better than them .

11. Double lives

They have a different story for everyone. You can never truly get a clear picture of who these people are. They often lead double lives and no one really knows them well.

12. Control freaks

They look at other people as their toys and want to have complete control over them. This can be clearly seen when they lose control over them and their true intentions appear on the surface.

These traits can be found in many people but if you notice more of them in one person then it is time for you to distance from them and to eventually remove them from your life.

Always be careful when somebody appears to be perfect. Try to be more attentive and observant of this person’s interactions because you never know what truly lies beneath.

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12 SIGNS SHOWING YOU ARE DEALING WITH AN EVIL PERSON:

Evil is defined as the absence of good. Every person has different definitions of evil and goodness. However, in many cases true evil is very hard to recognize especially for people who always try to find something good in others.

We can not ignore that there are truly evil people around us and we need to learn how to notice the signals that show us when someone means nothing else but to harm us.

1. Reality denial

Regardless of how obvious the truth is these people will always deny it. Their truth is the only that matters even though it is complete opposite of the reality. Their truth is actually reflection of their wicked, unhealthy thoughts and ideas.

2. Fact twisting

These people are incredible manipulators. They are able to twist any fact that they do not want to accept. They possess ability to take things out of context and create a story that is in their favor.

3. Hiding information

All information that they believe can compromise their goals will be immediately withheld. By keeping this information a secret they believe that they are not doing anything wrong i.e. they do not consider this to be lying. However, if this silence harms others than, it is certainly lying. Moreover, they will blame you and make you feel guilty for lacking trust.

4. Misleading people

What they are very good at is misleading you by making you feel attacked, incompetent, vulnerable, afraid or hated. They achieve this by carefully choosing well-thought words.

5. Constant lies

Whatever they may be talking about they will always add” juicy “information because they feel satisfaction when they lie to other people.

6. No remorse

These people will never feel sorry for hurting people. They enjoy destroying relationships or anything that other people find meaningful. They find pleasure in other people’s sufferings. If they see something good, they will do all in their power to destroy it.

7. Avoid responsibility

Lack of moral is one of the key traits of these people. They never admit or apologize for their mistakes.

8. Manipulators

Masters of manipulation is their second name. They always have a plan and will do anything to realize it.

9. Fair-weather friends

They change like the weather. They will be your friends when you are happy and successful. However, as soon as you face hardships they will disappear. Do not expect support from them. They will be around you only if they can gain something.

10. Time thieves

They can not stand other people being successful and they will do anything in their power to prevent them from realizing their plans. They hate when others are better than them .

11. Double lives

They have a different story for everyone. You can never truly get a clear picture of who these people are. They often lead double lives and no one really knows them well.

12. Control freaks

They look at other people as their toys and want to have complete control over them. This can be clearly seen when they lose control over them and their true intentions appear on the surface.

These traits can be found in many people but if you notice more of them in one person then it is time for you to distance from them and to eventually remove them from your life.

Always be careful when somebody appears to be perfect. Try to be more attentive and observant of this person’s interactions because you never know what truly lies beneath.

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LIBERATING MARRIAGE FROM THE SEXUAL SINS OF THE PAST

Many husbands and wives struggle with guilt from wrong sexual choices they’ve made in the past. Others are bitter about wrong choices made by an abuser. Still others wrestle with anger over wrong choices a spouse has made in having an affair.

 

These ghosts from the past can have profound negative effects on a marriage – both in the bedroom and in every other area of a relationship. A husband who won’t take personal responsibility for his actions may unfairly accuse his wife of wrongdoing. A wife who was abused as a child may be too inhibited to be intimate. Spouses who had sexual relations with each other before marriage while publicly professing a commitment to wait may blame each other for the shame they feel.

If dark clouds of this sort are hanging over your marriage, take heart. It is possible to leave the past behind and make a new start. The solution in every instance is to embrace reality and cultivate honesty. It’s a matter of turning a deaf ear to Satan’s lies and learning to speak truth about your past. The words of the apostle Paul have a special application to this situation: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:2).

If you’re suffering from the fallout of your sexual past, here are some things you should keep in mind.

 1) Unresolved hurt from your sexual past disrupts healthy sexual functioning. Many people have been pressured into a sexual act at some point in their lives. The intense emotions that are part of such events are often too much for a child or adolescent to process. Consensual sex prior to, or outside of, marriage may also influence present sexual functioning. If either of these scenarios describes you, don’t be surprised or alarmed if you’re experiencing sexual difficulties in your marriage. Instead, face the problem honestly and determine to seek a solution.

 2) Problems are opportunities to draw closer to God. A troubled sexual past may look insurmountable, but it isn’t – not if you run toward God instead of away from Him. Only a relationship with Him through Christ can set us free from guilt, shame, and anger.

 3) God wants to heal the deep hurts of your sexual past. Healing is available, but it has to be individually applied to each wounding of the human spirit. The first step in sexual healing is gaining the courage to face your pain. This process may be time-consuming and may require the help of others. Because broken trust is always involved at some level, you must deal simultaneously with the two things you fear most: recalling the trauma and becoming vulnerable again.

4) Core beliefs, thoughts, and feelings affect present sexual behavior. Outward behavior is really the tip of an iceberg composed of underlying emotions, thoughts, and core beliefs. Great freedom comes from understanding these factors and the deeper assumptions that drive them.

 5) Professional help is often needed to resolve past sexual hurts. Under the guidance of the Holy Spirit and with the help of qualified Christian therapists, many sexually wounded people come to experience profound emotional healing. This includes breaking longstanding destructive behavior patterns.

Songs of Solomon 2:10-13

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TIME YOUR TIME!

TIME YOUR TIME!
Ecc. 3:1
“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

My Source Says:
Sometimes, I wonder if youths back then, as in Bible times, had TEMPTING DISTRACTIONS like us. Maybe attending the party of the Canaanites and getting raped (Dinah), watching a naked woman take her bath (David) instead of being at the warfront or when a beautiful Delilah lured (Samson) and cut his hair was just about it. Right now, EVERYTHING is a distraction. TV, fashion, music, parties, ipads, BB. . .everything is ‘designed’ to ‘steal’ our attention from the relevant and important things we should do.

Let’s be true to ourselves; we spend most of our time on less-important things. The time you spend pinging, whatsappING, editing your pics, surfing the net is more than any time you give to something else.

Learn to control and coordinate your activities daily. Give all things time according to their PRIORITY. Understand WHEN to do WHAT and WHY. You are not as busy as God and so, don’t hide behind the “busy schedule” thing. When was the last time you went for BIBLE STUDY? When last did you VISIT a SICK friend or relative? Have you seen your GRANDPARENTS this year? Have you CALLED them since you didn’t go? You can even send a part of your pocket money to them. See the little important things we FORGET TO REMEMBER! Yet, we tap our phones and laptops for God-knows-how-long.

Don’t just be busy for busy sake! Jesus visited Martha and Mary. Martha was all excited and was going to cook all the kinds of food in the world. Jesus came, but she was so engrossed with her cooking. The “REASON” she was busy (Jesus) was in her house and she didn’t even stop to say “Welcome”. Rather, she was calling on Mary to help out. Mary? Help out? Who would attend to the guest? There was no tv or picture album to entertain him but Mary recognized “oh, He’s here. Let me give him my time and attention for now. I can’t just leave him alone while he’s waiting for us to finish up.”

There’s a time to be busy, a time to rest, a time you should go to bed, a time to visit a friend, a time to read, a time to play, a time to ping and whatsapp. . .everything.
Everything has its priority. Give important things and people time.

To-Do: Call your grandparents. They won’t be here forever. When they die, we spend heaven and earth for a befitting burial but while they lived, they never tasted a dime in your name.
If you can, visit them with food stuff, no matter how little. Just let them know you know they EXIST and you have them in mind. Whatsapp will be outdated, BBM will fade with time, new technologies will keep being invented.
Don’t be distracted. Focus on what’s important.