Happy Birthday To Me

How I look

29th February is a very special day, apart from been a leap day of the leap year its a day in which I was born.

Today am 32 years old, looking back at the years past I am greatful to all the mistakes and the right things I’ve done.

I am glad I’ve made some mistakes in life it has helped me to be a better person.

The right choices I’ve made has proven that right choice are always the best decision.

I want to thank God for all the people that have helped me become better, those that toked advantage of me.

In all I’ve learned that life I dynamic and not static. Things wont always be as they are. Things don’t always appear as they seems.

Make the best of every situation of life.

Thank you.

Failure Is Not The Opposite of Success

Failure is not the opposite of success, it’s a stepping stone to success .

If you are not willing to fail, to learn and adapt along the way, you are not willing to be great

Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Falling in love ought not to be falling out of sense, these are the questions to ask

Define who you want. You must not get to a point of desperation or forlornness as to be confused about who you want in terms of spiritual standing. Never give consideration to a man who has no relationship with God.

There are a few questions you should ask before saying ‘I want to do’ or ‘I do.’

1. Can you see yourself in the picture of the future of your intended spouse?
If you are unsure of his future, be careful before you dabble into it.

How do you peep into his future? You do that by looking at his vision and passion now. His vision is indicated in his aspirations and his passion is indicated in his present
pursuits.

2. Do you love enough?
How do you know if you love him?

A. Do you respect him or her?
His or her body, interest, parents, ideas? Or is he just interested in sex? Is it really about your person or just about your body? Those are two different things.

B. Do you give to him or her?
Or are you just receiving? Are you interested in giving or just grabbing?

C. How do his family, friends and associates treat you?
Are you welcome or treated with disdain? There is no point staying where you are not valued or celebrated.

D. Is he a representation of 1Cor.13:4-7?
He may not be able to fulfill all of it, but in the least, those verses should be his or her guiding principles.

Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,’ Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. Love never dies. (1Co 13:4-8 MSG)

3. Are you proud of him or her?
Are you proud of him or her physically? How do you feel when both of you walk down the road? Do you feel proud, honoured and confident? Or do you feel embarrassed and ashamed of his or her person and presence?

Are you proud of his cognitive abilities? Do you feel embarrassed when he or she talks in the public?

Are you proud of his or her spiritual life? Or are you filled with fear, anxiety and trepidation at his spiritual ineptitude?

4. Is it time? Is it the right time?

To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: (Ecc 3:1 KJV)

For everything there is a fixed time, and a time for every business under the sun. (Eccl 3:1 BBE)

There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:
(Eccl 3:1 MSG)

5. Is he or she accountable to any spiritual authority?
Accountability to spiritual authority means your intended spouse understands the place of wisdom and counsel. Accountability reduces his or her chances of dumping you. Is he or she submissive to authority or just an island to himself? It is risky to get involved with spiritually rebellious people because he or she will drag you into the rebellion and the consequences are debilitating.

6. Is the feeling mutual?
Does he really want you or he just wants a sex toy? Does he want you or your body? That he is coming after you or giving you attention does not mean he or she loves you. You set out and went out to buy a chicken. Do you love the chicken? No. It’s going to end up in the pot. Does he love you or he just wants you to end up on his bed? Marriage is like a bird, it takes two wings to fly.

7. Is God in it?
Is there peace? A home without God is a hostel. Any investment in a relationship not founded on God’s principles is a waste.

Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
(Psa 127:1 KJV)

If GOD doesn’t build the house, the builders only build shacks. If GOD doesn’t guard the city, the night watchman might as well nap.
(Psa 127:1 MSG)
For those already married, you will find out he or she is not always perfect. Rather than get frustrated with his or her weaknesses leading to several quarrels, take it to God in prayer who has the heart of Kings in his hand s and can turn it whichever way he wants!
Find out what God says. It is every important!

I pray for you this morning that God will guide you, lead you and give you specific direction concerning your relationship and marriage. You will not miss it in Jesus name. You will be not distracted. As you stay in God’s word, light will dawn on your soul to destroy every confusing spirits in Jesus name.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will not be misled. I have the Spirit of God. I am led by the Spirit of God to choose rightly.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to have a discerning heart, to choose rightly and wisely in Jesus Name

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Rom 8:14 KJV
(14) For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Think deeply on “Who do I want as a Spouse’
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Always Remember To Drop The Glass

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

Remember to put the glass down.
‘Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God’ Phlp 4:6 (NIV)
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40 Quotes To Inspire The Greatness In You

Personal development is a fascinating and fun journey… most of the time.

Sometimes you become aware of aspects of yourself that you don’t like. These are usually the things that need the most attention. If you find yourself denying or dismissing some part of you that you KNOW needs changing but you’re resisting it, it may help to read some personal development quotes to keep you motivated. After all, the work you put into yourself is for your benefit!

Personal Development Quotes

1. “When you want something,all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”- Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

2. “As soon as you stop making everyone else responsible for your happiness, the happier you’ll be.” – Nina Guilbeau

3. “The word ‘listen’ has the same letters as the word ‘silent’” – Alfred Brendel

4. “It is more Important to be of pure intention than of perfect action.” – Ilyas Kassam

5. “Even in the most peaceful surroundings, the angry heart finds quarrel. Even in the most quarrelsome surroundings, the grateful heart finds peace.” – Doe Zantamata

6. “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” – Marcus Aurelius

7. “Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

8. “If there is no wind, row.” – Latin proverb

9. “You are the way you are because that’s the way you want to be. If you really wanted to be different, you would be in the process of changing right now.”– Fred Smith

10. “The mind maketh good or ill, wretch or happy, rich or poor.” – Edmund Spenser

11. “What a folly the thought of throwing away life at once, and yet have no regard to throwing it away by parcels and piecemeal.” – John Hove

12. “People do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.”– James Allen

13. “What you subconsciously want, you will get. And what you subconsciously do not want, you will avoid.” – Bo Sanchez

14. “Things do not change; we change.” – Henry David Thoreau

15. “Meditation is the soul’s perspective glass.” – Owen Feltham

16. “What comes, is called.” – Ki Longfellow

17. “All things are possible to him who believes.” – Jesus [Mark 9:23]

18. “The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” – E.E. Cummings

19. “The things that we love tell us what we are.” – St. Thomas Aquinas

20. “Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday.” – Don Marquis

21. “When you plant a seed of love, it is you that blossoms.” – Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

22. “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller

23. “To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life.” – Jill Bolte Taylor

24. “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” – Marcus Aurelius

25. “To love what you do and feel that it matters – how could anything be more fun?” – Katherine Graham

26. “Learn how to fail intelligently, for failing is one of the greatest arts in the world.” – Charles Kettering

27. “Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.” – Margaret Young

28. “I’ve never been poor, only broke. Being poor is a frame of mind. Being broke is a temporary condition.” – Mike Todd

29. “Have you ever noticed that when there is a problem, you are always there? The problem is yours – both in perception and in responsibility. Clear the beliefs in you that see it as a problem, and the problem disappears!” – Dr. Hew Len

30. “Don’t look where you fell. Look where you slipped.” – Unknown

31. “The secret to my success is that I bit off more than I could chew and I chewed as fast as I could.” – Paul Hogan

32. “When we give ourselves permission to fail, we at the same time give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad

33. “If it’s still in your mind, it’s worth taking the risk.” – Paulo Coelho

34. “The bolder the action, the greater the genius, magic and power that is likely to flow from it.” – Robert Ringer

35. “An idea not coupled with action will never get any bigger than the brain cell it occupies.” – Arnold Glasgow

36. “You either move toward something you love or away from something you fear. The first expands, the second constricts.” – Tom Crum

37. “Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” – Raymond Lindquist

38. “Discontent is the first necessity of progress.” – Thomas Edison

39. “You will become as small as your controlling desire, as great as your dominant
aspiration.” – James Allen

40. “You can’t cross a sea by merely staring into the water.” – Rabindranath Tagore

Develop yourself at every opportunity.

Women: Men Now Are Not After Sexiness

Are black women sexy? No doubt! When it comes to sexiness sisters have no equal. But can I be honest with you? I’m actually TIRED of sexy black women. Now hear me out on this, please.

Sexiness don’t mean jack snot. Not in the grand scheme of things. Visually appealing, yes. But I can’t eat sexiness. Sexiness won’t help pay these bills or pay off our student loans. Sexiness won’t qualify for a mortgage, or get people to respect you, sexiness wont allow me set my next big business move.

Sexiness won’t help me raise these kids. Neither will it teach my daughters their true worth and value in this world.

We got way too many ‘Sexy’ sisters out here with nothing else to bring to the table. Sexiness is the totality of their package. And that’s WACK!

Most black men looking for a relationship want a USEFUL woman. Visual appeal alone won’t cut it. Besides: there are so many black women competing to be the sexiest, it’s not even a race worth entering.

Can you cook? Do you clean? Do you have mothering skills Do you love your father? Respect him? Respect other black men in general? Have you divested yourself of prior relationship baggage? Can you hold a conversation about REAL world events? And no: Love and Hip Hop doesn’t count!

Do you have a REAL relationship with a REAL God: or do you follow the fake one many Christians have invented for themselves because he’s more tolerable than the actual Truth?

These are the kind of questions discerning men are asking nowadays.

So if sexiness is all you bring to the table, you can keep it. I’d rather have a woman of pure unadulterated SUBSTANCE. And I’m sure I speak for most conscious-thinking brothers out there on this one.

There’s a new breed of black men out there ladies. And we ain’t settling for second best or taking any shorts. Either come correct or go get with the jacks and harries. That’s all many of you are use to dealing with anyway…

Some Things the Singles Cannot see and the Married are not Telling them.

I saw this lovely post and I will love to share with you.

We live in a dissatisfied generation. Those who are short in height wished they were taller. The white is tanning their bodies trying to get dark, the blacks are bleaching trying to get white. The young are tinting their hair white, the old are dyeing their hair black. Singles are posing with wedding ring, those married forget to wear it, those with beards are shaving off, those with none are using methylated spirit to grow some!

Today, I have a story to tell. Are you ready for it? Here we go. Once upon a time, (time – time), when I was single, I looked forward to
marriage. Now that I am married, I missed the time I was single! End of story!

Singles will hardly believe that because all in their mind is to get married so that everything can change. I have been happily married for fourteen years and here are a few things I have learned that might bless you if you are still single.

1.    Marriage will not make you happier. Be happy before marriage. Marriage has no power in itself beyond the two people involved.

2.    Marriage will not change you. Change begins inwardly. Marriage is not a change agent. Marriage will not improve your attitudes, it will expose them. Marriage does not eliminate your weaknesses, it will amplify them. Start working on your attitudes and weaknesses before marriage.

3.    Marriage will not cure loneliness. There are several married people who have their spouses with them by the second, but are extremely lonely. Loneliness is more of a state of mind than availability of people around you. The loneliest people in the world are sometimes the ones with large number of fans and crowd around them. Only God’s word can cure the root cause of loneliness.

4.    Marriage will not take pressures away, it will probably bring more. You have one more life to manage. If you cannot manage yours and you venture into marriage, it will be a disaster. When the children start coming, there will be more pressures. Learn to take pressures head on by casting your care on Jesus and refusing to worry like the scripture advises.

5.    Marriage is not all about sex. Ask somebody who is married. Yes, sex is a marital glue, a healing balm in the soul for couples, and a blessing that keeps couples together. But it is not like you think, sex in the morning, afternoon and evening. Average couples actually make love twice or thrice in a week. However, the more frequent it is for married couples, the better for them.

6.    Your spouse will not be a magician neither is he the Holy Spirit. He will be a human being with his own issues. You will always need God. He might be very anointed on the pulpit and filled with God’s glory while she is ministering in the choir, but at home he or she is a human being with all the weaknesses complete. Learn to separate the office or position of your spouse from his or her person at home.

7.    Marriage is not all about kisses, flowers, cinemas, cakes, chocolates and vacations alone. It is about cooking, pampers, crying baby, working, paying school fees and so on. It is about budgets, plans, strategies and divine wisdom. It is about submission to your husband who you sometimes think is hard, insensitive and unloving. It is about loving your wife who you sometimes think is stubborn, does not want to be corrected and can nag from morning till next day.

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Right or Wrong?

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No matter how thin you slice it, there will always be two sides! Don’t focus on being right, focus on making it work!

Remember to work for peace.

Benefit of Cooperation “tip for the week”

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THE STORY OF A MOUSETRAP!

(Benefit of Cooperation)

A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife open a package. What food might this contain? The mouse wondered – he was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap.
Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the warning:
“There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!”

The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, “Mr.Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you, but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it.”

The mouse turned to the pig and told him, “There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!”

The pig sympathized, but said, I am so sorry, “Mr.Mouse , but there is nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured you are in my prayers.”

The mouse turned to the cow and said “There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!”

The cow said, “Wow, Mr. Mouse. I’m sorry for you, but it’s no skin off my nose.”

So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer’s mousetrap alone.

That very night a sound was heard throughout the house — like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey. The farmer’s wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer’s wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital, and she returned home with a fever.

Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup’s main ingredient.

But his wife’s sickness continued, so friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock. To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig.

The farmer’s wife did not get well; in fact, she died.
So many people came for her funeral; the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them.

The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness.

LESSON:
So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn’t concern you, remember — when one of us is threatened,we are all at risk.
We are all together involved in this journey called life, so it’s expedient we learn to cooperate with one another. We must keep an eye out for one another and make an extra effort to encourage one another.

HAVE A WONDERFUL WEEK!

Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Let’s get straight to it.

Our actions create our life… Agree? Our thoughts create our actions…. Agree? Our thoughts are communicated to us in the form of language…. Agree? So…how can we live our largest, most expressive and most loving life if we are using vocabulary that makes us smaller, weaker and discouraged.

Do you know anybody, maybe even yourself, who loves to use phrases like: “This only happens to me”, “Life’s a b*tch“, “I caaaaaaaaan’t!”, “Never!”, “I just can’t win”, “I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t”.

The biggest problem with these phrases is not that they are negative or self centered, it’s that they stop you from taking action. Phrases like this paralyze us and fool us into thinking that we have no power and no choice. Which is nonsense.

What if our words always made us and who ever we are talking to feel inspired, empowered and re-energized?

I’ve created a list of some of the top five words and phrases you might want to delete from your vocabulary. I also included some replacements!

1. I can’t

You’re right! If you say you can’t, it’s over. Just that simple. The door is closed and locked. However, maybe you’re right. Maybe at this moment you can’t run 3 miles at once, maybe you can’t complete the project in 3 hours, maybe you can’t immediately forgive someone. With that said, you must learn to. I must learn, I will learn, I’m preparing myself to…is a much more empowering phrase that will propel you to take action, take risks and grow.

2. Failure

There is no failure, only feedback – only results. You might not get the results you want, but don’t confuse that with failure. And, please don’t ever confuse yourself with your results. You are never a failure but you are always learning. I’m learning, is a much more empowering phrases that let’s you know you are aware of the current results and also shows that you are invested in figuring out a way to get the desired outcome. Learning produces growth, while believing in failure produces hopelessness and stress.

3. I’m overwhelmed

Give yourself more credit! You are stronger and more durable than you think. You are not overwhelmed…you are in high demand! Doesn’t that feel so much better. Your self, school, family, boss, business and friends all need a lot from you because you have so much to give – give it. Being in high demand develops character and also helps you learn to prioritize. You might be challenged, you might be put to the test, you might be busy, but you are way too strong to be overwhelmed!

4. But

Stop. Stop! Stop! Please stop building a case against yourself. Stop rationalizing your excuses, procrastination or lack of productivity. “I want to do this but…” “I have always wanted to_________ but…” Stop making it so easy to talk yourself out of action. If you didn’t do something you said you would, or didn’t do something that you wanted to – own it, adjust, and move on. Don’t make excuses or rationales with the word ‘but’ because as we know, when we tell ourselves the same thing over and over again…we start to believe it. Don’t talk yourself out of your highest life.

5. I hate

Hate – a negative emotions that distorts judgement, tenses muscles, shortens breathing and puts us in a weak state of mind. Let’s not overreact and let’s focus on the positive. Why HATE peanuts, liars and traffic when we can prefer almonds, honesty and freedom. I prefer, is clear way of saying what you like, dislike and expect. I prefer is also empowering and will always lead the conversation or experience in a positive direction.

Take control of your words, thoughts, actions and life!

“The limits of my language means the limits of my world.”
― Ludwig Wittgenstein