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Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Let’s get straight to it.

Our actions create our life… Agree? Our thoughts create our actions…. Agree? Our thoughts are communicated to us in the form of language…. Agree? So…how can we live our largest, most expressive and most loving life if we are using vocabulary that makes us smaller, weaker and discouraged.

Do you know anybody, maybe even yourself, who loves to use phrases like: “This only happens to me”, “Life’s a b*tch“, “I caaaaaaaaan’t!”, “Never!”, “I just can’t win”, “I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t”.

The biggest problem with these phrases is not that they are negative or self centered, it’s that they stop you from taking action. Phrases like this paralyze us and fool us into thinking that we have no power and no choice. Which is nonsense.

What if our words always made us and who ever we are talking to feel inspired, empowered and re-energized?

I’ve created a list of some of the top five words and phrases you might want to delete from your vocabulary. I also included some replacements!

1. I can’t

You’re right! If you say you can’t, it’s over. Just that simple. The door is closed and locked. However, maybe you’re right. Maybe at this moment you can’t run 3 miles at once, maybe you can’t complete the project in 3 hours, maybe you can’t immediately forgive someone. With that said, you must learn to. I must learn, I will learn, I’m preparing myself to…is a much more empowering phrase that will propel you to take action, take risks and grow.

2. Failure

There is no failure, only feedback – only results. You might not get the results you want, but don’t confuse that with failure. And, please don’t ever confuse yourself with your results. You are never a failure but you are always learning. I’m learning, is a much more empowering phrases that let’s you know you are aware of the current results and also shows that you are invested in figuring out a way to get the desired outcome. Learning produces growth, while believing in failure produces hopelessness and stress.

3. I’m overwhelmed

Give yourself more credit! You are stronger and more durable than you think. You are not overwhelmed…you are in high demand! Doesn’t that feel so much better. Your self, school, family, boss, business and friends all need a lot from you because you have so much to give – give it. Being in high demand develops character and also helps you learn to prioritize. You might be challenged, you might be put to the test, you might be busy, but you are way too strong to be overwhelmed!

4. But

Stop. Stop! Stop! Please stop building a case against yourself. Stop rationalizing your excuses, procrastination or lack of productivity. “I want to do this but…” “I have always wanted to_________ but…” Stop making it so easy to talk yourself out of action. If you didn’t do something you said you would, or didn’t do something that you wanted to – own it, adjust, and move on. Don’t make excuses or rationales with the word ‘but’ because as we know, when we tell ourselves the same thing over and over again…we start to believe it. Don’t talk yourself out of your highest life.

5. I hate

Hate – a negative emotions that distorts judgement, tenses muscles, shortens breathing and puts us in a weak state of mind. Let’s not overreact and let’s focus on the positive. Why HATE peanuts, liars and traffic when we can prefer almonds, honesty and freedom. I prefer, is clear way of saying what you like, dislike and expect. I prefer is also empowering and will always lead the conversation or experience in a positive direction.

Take control of your words, thoughts, actions and life!

“The limits of my language means the limits of my world.”
― Ludwig Wittgenstein

THE NORTH IS DYING BECAUSE WE DON’T HAVE LEADER RATHER WE HAVE DEALERS

THE NORTH IS DYING BECAUSE WE DON’T HAVE LEADER RATHER WE HAVE DEALERS
The Northern part of Nigeria is dying and at the verge of collapsing. The singular reason for this is the lack of leadership in the north.
Who is a leader? A leader according to Encarta dictionary is either somebody who guides or directs others or somebody/something in front of all others. This definition tells us that a leader should always be in front to take the lead unlike what we find in the north, someone who is ready to feel what his followers are feeling.
Who is a dealer? A dealer according to Encarta dictionary is a person or company whose business is buying and selling. Anyone, who is into buying and selling is only after the profit he will make at the end of the transaction, he is not interested in the buyer satisfaction just his profit.
Now after seeing who a leader and a dealer is we now look at the northern leaders is relationship to just doing business in the office they are elected into. Our leaders I am sorry to write this about you but if I don’t the much needed change will not happen. All the happenings in the north is just a result of doing business at the expense of leading people from out of there miseries, the highest level of poverty, illiteracy, unemployment, insecurity, destitute, poor health care, poor educational system, low self esteem in Nigeria is in the North, yet the North has produce more President/Head of State than the other regions of Nigeria put together. (my facts above are in realities not fictional)
What are our leaders doing, that they cannot see the situation of the region what happens to the legacy left by our founding heroes as we sing in our National anthem (“the labours of our heroes of past shall never be in vain” what a hypocrisy) the legacies of Sir Ahmadu Bello, Abubakar Tafawa Balewa, Sir Kashim Ibrahim to mention but a few? Our present leaders are just interested in the return they get from whatever money the nation is given, always the northern governor don’t like the shearing formula, the northern senators are against the PIB is what we see, hear or read form the media. They are just like the dealer described above who is just interested in the profit he makes not the satisfaction of the person buying.
To prove my point the more is the statement of the chairman of the Northern governor’s forums Alh. (Dr.) Babangida Aliyu the executive governor of Niger state who came out to tell us that they had a deal with our President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, that he will run for just one year, no wonder the situation in the North is getting worse by the day, who know if the insurgence in the North was part of the deal that was made. I can see why the northern leaders are all calling for amnesty, I can only guess it’s a good deal for them.
The North was the back born of the nation I could remember reading my regional geography text books and I see Nigeria among the world’s largest exporters of groundnut, cotton etc. the profit gotten from such exportation was part of the money that build the refineries we had, now we can’t even produce the once we need to survive. The insurgence in the North can only be stopped by the northern leaders not the presidency granting amnesty “the owner of the house know where his house is licking”.

Our leaders have brain wash us the Northerners into believing that development is from the presidency that the presidency is responsible for the regions development. I say that is a big lie. The presidency makes policies and oversees the regions, every state has a monthly allocation, every senator have constitutional allowances, this are the money that are to be used to develop the region, what about the tax the government collect form people in the region, what about funds from world bank to underdeveloped nations which Nigeria is a beneficiary the North the sole consumer of such funds.
It time for us the northerners to stand up and see our leaders for who they are not what they say they are, my prayer is that this information will go a long way in helping my people in emancipating ourselves from this state of mind which has being controlled by our leaders.

Change begins with you and me, it’s time to change

Improve Mind Power Through These Natural And Simple Methods

Improve Mind Power Through These Natural And Simple Methods

There are some simple, yet effective methods to improve mind power. Using these tools will impact your mind several times more than the amount of effort it requires to use them. They are also something you can do anytime and anywhere.

A crossword a day is a great tool for improving mind power and keeping age related decline away. Studies have shown that people who do some sort of mind puzzle or game tend to retain their cognitive abilities or even increase them well into their later years. Crosswords are a great tool that doesn’t require a lot of time but actively works important parts of the brain that control thinking and recall.

You can do crosswords on the bus or train, while eating lunch or even during commercials while watching your evening TV programs. However, to make the most of them it is important to do them frequently, at least a couple times a week. Like regular exercise for the body, the mind works better when it is exercised regularly.

You can also improve mind power by what music you choose to listen to during the week. There seems to be a link between those who listen to complex music like Classical or perhaps even Jazz and increases in the brain’s ability to do complex processes like math, logic problems, etc. Music of a complex structure works a number of areas of the brain effectively. Again, this is something you can do even in the background while performing other tasks.

Another tool is memorization. Memorizing your favorite poem, new vocabulary words, etc. also strengthens pathways in the brain and makes them more effective. Aside from improving mind power in general it also improves recall and if you are memorizing words….increases communication skills.

With memorization it is important that you use repetition, not just initially, but even after we’ve memorized something it is critical to go back and repeat it occasionally. Not only is repetition usually the way we memorize things, it also creates larger neural connections. Those larger connections are helpful in establishing better recall and improving mind power.

You can improve mind power through learning new skills as well. This is another two-for-one deal. If you already have something you are dying to learn…a new sport, dancing, or how to paint oils…you not only gain a new skill that you can use and enjoy you build up your mind as well. The process of learning new things keeps the mind fresh and helps retain ability as we age.

Eating right is another way to improve mind power. Healthy eating…getting more fruits and vegetables and lowering fat…is important in helping the brain to operate efficiently. Getting the right vitamins and minerals allows the brain to create important enzymes and neurotransmitters as well as fight off cellular decline and aging. Making a few changes in our diets will yield huge benefits.

However, if we can’t get the right nutrients from our diet or if the foods you buy are nutrient deficient due to heavy farming or modern processing techniques you might want to consider a dietary supplement. Supplements are an easy way to boost your intake of nutrients and can often make up for what we’re missing in our diets.

Using these steps to improve mind power is not something that takes a whole lot of time. All it really takes is willingness and commitment. The rewards are a stronger mind that will function longer as you age. None of us wants to have our minds give out early in our later years, so it is important that we take steps now to protect our cognitive abilities and strengthen our brains.

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WOMEN ARE A BLESSING TO MEN AND HUMANITY

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The following story illustrate the how valuable women are in the up keeping and the smooth running of the home.

The following are Questions and Answers between Husband (H) and A Psychologist:

P : What do you do for a living Mr. Ade?
H : I work as an Accountant in a Bank.

P : Your Wife ?
H : She doesn’t work. She’s a full time housewife only.

P : Who makes breakfast for your family in the morning?
H : My Wife, because she doesn’t work.

P : At what time does your wife wake up for making breakfast?
H : She wakes up at around 5am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast.

P : How do your kids go to school?
H : My wife takes them to school, because she doesn’t work.

P : After taking your kids to school, what does she do?
H : She goes to the market, then goes back home for cooking and laundry. You know, she doesn’t work.

P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do?
H : Take rest, because i’m tired due to all day’s work.

P : What does your wife do then?
H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed.

From the story above, who do you think works more???

The daily routines of your wives commence from early morning to late at night. That is called ‘DOESN’T WORK’??!!

Yes, being Housewives do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important!

Appreciate your wife because her sacrifices are uncountable. This should be a reminder and reflection for all of us to understand and appreciate each other’s roles.
Its all about a WOMAN…..

When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind.

When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted.

When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock.
Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted…

Forward to every woman to make her smile and to every man to make him realize a woman’s worth.

Exodus:movement of my people BY Emmanuel Musa Durkwa

Emmanuel Musa Durkwa wrote this and I will love you to read it too (http://emmanueldurkwa.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/exodusmovement-of-my-people/)

Exodus:movement of my people

Am a typical naija boy,so every Nigerian is my personal person,I was opportune to go to a unity school,F.G.C maiduguri where I met and stayed with a lot of people from all over the country..I had friends from all over amongst few are..Bakura “typical kanuri boy”who says “parii” to everything,Ugochukwu “the ba hausa boy”becos he came from Nteje in anambra,Okwudilli “nyamirin hausa” who speaks hausa more than some of us northerners,talk of Femi ” mai soro” the yoruba Prof.he could t sleep outside during heat seasons,and fears cane like death,talk of Amanke “the dodger” the taraba boy,talk of Elbadawi “the neatest boy” from Yobe,Yakubu “barrack Boy” the KD boy,Malgwi “Ganzydon” the boy from hawul,myself the poor village boy from Adamawa.. We really had fun back then in school leaving in the same apartment,soaking Garri inside buckets,sharing blankets when its cold..waking the sleeping Muslims when prayers is being called,working together hard every saturday so we can be the neatest house for the week..it was a memory I cherish a lot..
But what has happened to Nigeria today..people like Okwudili can no longer stay in the north after being born and brought up in Maiduguri? I remember going with him to his fathers spare part shop and he will give us some change to buy things,people like Oguchukwu can no longer come to the North To school,People Like Bakura who always wanted to work with shell can no longer go to the south,Femi who wanted to be a Prof like wole Soyinka couldt do that in the north has to go to Benin..
I most confess am saddened with what religion and ethnicity has turn Nigeria to.the Massive movement of people from north to south and from south to north is really uncalled for..the massive deployment of armed men to places of worship is really devastating..
Despite the ugly picture I have painted I still believe we can get out of the woods,let’s all check inside us and refuse to believe what others want us to believe “that we are enemies” let’s check our inner self and share that love which lies deep within us,the love to drink Garri in the same bucket with your Christian/Muslim friend,the love to share your Blanket when your Muslim/christian brother is cold..that’s the love we all want and that’s the love all of us have within us let’s just explore and make use of it…
May Allah Bless Nigeria

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WOMAN AS A HOME KEEPER

Must Read!!! Husband & Wife were watching TV when Wife said, “I’m tired, and it’s getting late. I think I’ll go to bed.”She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next day’s lunches.Rinsed out the bowls, took vegetable out of the freezer for morning, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.She then ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.She picked up the game pieces left onthe table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer.She emptied a waste basket and hung up a towel to dry.She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair.She signed a birthday card for a friend, Addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick note for the grocery store.She put both near her bag. Then she washed her face, put on her moisturizer, brushed her teeth…..Husband called out, “I thought you were going to bed.” “I’m on my way,” she said. She put some water into the dog’s dish, then made sure the doors were locked.She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, and had a brief conversation with one kid who is still up doing homework.In her own room, she set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day.Said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. about that time,Husband turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. “I’m going to bed.” And he did… without another thought.Anything Extraordinary Here?Share this to phenomenal women today… they’ ll love you for it!And Forward this to as many men as you can so that they know why women are so special……!! !(*)

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Four Big Mistakes That Get In The Way Of The Commitment You Want

4 Big Mistakes That Get In The Way Of The Commitment You Want

Mistake #1: Focusing On Events, Not Feelings

We women are taught to believe that events, and the time we “put in,” MEAN SOMETHING to a man. If he’s introduced us to his family or friends at work we’re on cloud nine. We think of these as “milestones” moving us closer to commitment and marriage. And we couldn’t be more wrong.

Time means NOTHING to a man. Sometimes, being in a comfortable HOLDING PATTERN with us is EXACTLY what he has in mind! They spend time with us, but then they go and commit to someone else.

Unless we can get into our man’s heart, and let him into ours to create a deep emotional bond, we DOOM ourselves to a superficial level that will never lead to a lifelong commitment.

Mistake #2: Thinking Exclusive = Committed

…women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed…
How many of you have been comfortable in a relationship, only to have the man you are with meet someone else, or tell you he’s “found someone who really gets me.” How can it be that a man who is exclusive with you can “fall for” someone else so easily? It’s because he was not committed to you.

Oftentimes, women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed to you. When that happens, he’ll be exclusive AND won’t “fall for” another woman ever again!

Mistake #3: Talking About Your Relationship, Not Creating It

Often when women feel their man becoming distant, they decide to TALK to him about it. To ask how he’s feeling, why he’s acting this way, or where the relationship is going.

When you talk to a man about your relationship, you have the OPPOSITE effect on him than you intend. Though we often hear men say how much they hate how “emotional” women are – this is exactly the part they CRAVE. They are so stuck in their brains, so much of the time, that if we’re stuck in ours, they can’t connect to us.

Every time we TALK about the relationship, it feels to him like a laundry list of to do items instead of INSPIRING a man to want to be with us.

Mistake #4: You Panic… He Leaves

Because we know that “Lifelong-Commitment” is a frightening thing to a man, we’re often afraid to say or do anything that might scare him more.

It’s easy to get paralyzed by fear and anger and stop being ourselves. We stop being the fun, relaxed women who he originally fell for who made him great before.

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LADIES, Before you date a MARRIED MAN you should know this:

LADIES, Before you date a MARRIED MAN you should know this:

1. The only thing he wants from you is sex, After Cumming he will be gone. He will only sweet talk you again when he needs some sex.

2. He can spend a day with you touring beautiful places but at the end of the day he will go back to his wife and kids who will be missing him.

3. He is never going to leave his kids and wife because of you. He will only be fooling you all the time with words like “I will marry you, I will build for you a house, I will buy for you land, I will take you to the driving school, I will buy for you a posh car” and many more different lies.

4. Keep it in your minds that you’re not the only one he sleeps with apart from his wife. If he can cheat on his wife with you then can’t he cheat on you with some other lady? Seriously he does. He spends his time and money on other babes just like the way he does with you.

5. He really loves his wife that is why he married her, he can’t divorce her and he can’t marry you. You are just his side dish to take off his stress. So his loving you is for fun and temporary.

6. He will dump you after using you for some other fresh babe; he won’t fulfill what he promised you. Those will be lies that he told you just to soften your heart and to get what he wanted.

7. Getting pregnant won’t fully trap him; He has his real kids and wife at home that he can show to the friends and relatives. You and your kids will be hidden.

8. His property and money are his, children and his wife. It’s very hard to get a share on his property.

9. You will never be part of his future, so stop wasting your time and energy. Cease serving your body to him because he gives you some money, because he promised you something…

A real lady works hard and gets her own money, pays her bills and a man with a lot of dime should just be a BONUS. Be wise dear Ladies. Get out of that sexual network. Stop wasting your time with married men. Love guys of your age who have true love for you

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LADIES, Before you date a MARRIED MAN you should know this

LADIES, Before you date a MARRIED MAN you should know this:

1. The only thing he wants from you is sex, After Cumming he will be gone. He will only sweet talk you again when he needs some sex.

2. He can spend a day with you touring beautiful places but at the end of the day he will go back to his wife and kids who will be missing him.

3. He is never going to leave his kids and wife because of you. He will only be fooling you all the time with words like “I will marry you, I will build for you a house, I will buy for you land, I will take you to the driving school, I will buy for you a posh car” and many more different lies.

4. Keep it in your minds that you’re not the only one he sleeps with apart from his wife. If he can cheat on his wife with you then can’t he cheat on you with some other lady? Seriously he does. He spends his time and money on other babes just like the way he does with you.

5. He really loves his wife that is why he married her, he can’t divorce her and he can’t marry you. You are just his side dish to take off his stress. So his loving you is for fun and temporary.

6. He will dump you after using you for some other fresh babe; he won’t fulfill what he promised you. Those will be lies that he told you just to soften your heart and to get what he wanted.

7. Getting pregnant won’t fully trap him; He has his real kids and wife at home that he can show to the friends and relatives. You and your kids will be hidden.

8. His property and money are his, children and his wife. It’s very hard to get a share on his property.

9. You will never be part of his future, so stop wasting your time and energy. Cease serving your body to him because he gives you some money, because he promised you something…

A real lady works hard and gets her own money, pays her bills and a man with a lot of dime should just be a BONUS. Be wise dear Ladies. Get out of that sexual network. Stop wasting your time with married men. Love guys of your age who have true love for you