How To Choose The Right Partner

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When you step into the world of dating, many may come along and claim that they are perfect for you. Then how do you distinguish the genuinely good ones from the bad ones? Listed below are some traits that you must look out for in a perfect partner.

1. Loyalty
If they can’t stay loyal, they will not be able to love you enough. You will never be happy with a person like that. No matter what happens, never date a philanderer.

2. Maturity
Maturity refers to knowing how to behave in a particular place and a particular time. Maturity does not depend upon the age of a person. It is attained through sufficient experience.

3. Independence
This refers to someone who has the potential to keep you happy. Don’t date someone who will only depend on you for every single thing.

4. Commitment
Commitment is very important in a relationship. Look out for someone who wishes to have a long term relationship with you. Run away from a person who keeps changing his mind

5. Security.
Go for someone who can make you feel secured both physically, emotionally and financially.

6. Respect.
Go for someone who will not only respect you but also respect those who are important to you.

7. Good sense of humor.
Go for someone who will make life lively for you. Laughter heals wounds & act as catalyst in r/s.

8. Similarities.
Go for someone who shares similar hobbies, taste, preferences like you to avoid clash of interest.

9. Smartness.
Go for someone who is more intelligent and wiser than you.

10. Romantic & affectionate.
Go for someone who can make you feel special.

11. Easy to understand.
Go for someone who you can easily blend with.

12. Sensitivity.
Go for someone who is sensitive to your feelings and needs.

IF YOU HAVE GOTTEN ONE, PLEASE DON’T LET HIM GO.
By Paul M. Wakawa

Four Big Mistakes That Women do that Get in the Way of Commitment They Want From Men

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Women always complain of lack of commitment from men. Here are four mistakes we do that get in the way of our commitment they need from men.

Mistake #1: Focusing On Events, Not Feelings

We women are taught to believe that events, and the time we “put in,” MEAN SOMETHING to a man. If he’s introduced us to his family or friends at work we’re on cloud nine. We think of these as “milestones” moving us closer to commitment and marriage. And we couldn’t be more wrong.

Time means NOTHING to a man. Sometimes, being in a comfortable HOLDING PATTERN with us is EXACTLY what he has in mind! They spend time with us, but then they go and commit to someone else.

Unless we can get into our man’s heart, and let him into ours to create a deep emotional bond, we DOOM ourselves to a superficial level that will never lead to a lifelong commitment.

Mistake #2: Thinking Exclusive = Committed

…women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed…
How many of you have been comfortable in a relationship, only to have the man you are with meet someone else, or tell you he’s “found someone who really gets me.” How can it be that a man who is exclusive with you can “fall for” someone else so easily? It’s because he was not committed to you.

Oftentimes, women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed to you. When that happens, he’ll be exclusive AND won’t “fall for” another woman ever again!

Mistake #3: Talking About Your Relationship, Not Creating It

Often when women feel their man becoming distant, they decide to TALK to him about it. To ask how he’s feeling, why he’s acting this way, or where the relationship is going.

When you talk to a man about your relationship, you have the OPPOSITE effect on him than you intend. Though we often hear men say how much they hate how “emotional” women are – this is exactly the part they CRAVE. They are so stuck in their brains, so much of the time, that if we’re stuck in ours, they can’t connect to us.

Every time we TALK about the relationship, it feels to him like a laundry list of to do items instead of INSPIRING a man to want to be with us.

Mistake #4: You Panic… He Leaves

Because we know that “Lifelong-Commitment” is a frightening thing to a man, we’re often afraid to say or do anything that might scare him more.

It’s easy to get paralyzed by fear and anger and stop being ourselves. We stop being the fun, relaxed women who he originally fell for who made him great before.

Nigeria the Floating Giant

Nigeria will remain a Sick Giant as long as it is perpetually bedeviled and plagued by grotesque incompetent leaders suffering from historical amnesia.

We will continue to progress retrospectively with abysmal ridicule from lesser countries.

Nigeria can rise again and take her place if our demographic mediocrity and parochial loyalty to individuals in power is subordinated to true nationalism; consciously and conscientiously buried.

Nigeria is merely floating at the moment. The crop of officialdom we have are nothing but a Tsunami to this raped Nation.

Nigeria has everything required to lead Africa. We have the intellectuals, we have the wealth, we have great men and women with vision; but focused and visionary leadership has remained a challenge since independence. Ethnicity, religion, zoning and primitive partisanship has continued to hold us back.

Nigerian has lost her birth-right and big brother status. We pray our children in their own generation wakes up the sleeping giant.

Africa will raise again!

  • Philippa Asiodu

We Need To Turn A Blind Eye For Peace

In live we come across stories that bring great morals and lessons for life.

Today’s story holds a great lesson for all.

A man married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much. One day she developed a skin disease. Slowly she started to lose her beauty. It so happened that one day her husband left for a tour.

While returning he met with an accident and lost his eyesight. However their married life continued as usual. But as days passed she lost her beauty gradually. Blind husband did not know this and there was not any difference in their married life. He continued to love her and she also loved him very much.

One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow.

He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave that town.

A man from behind called and said, now how will you be able to walk all alone? All these days your wife used to help you.

He replied, I am not blind. I was acting, because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease. So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.

Moral:- Some times it is good for us to act blind and ignore one another’s short comings, in order to be happy

No matter how many times the teeth bite the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth. That’s the spirit of FORGIVENESS. Even though the eyes don’t see each other, they see things together, blink simultaneously and cry together. That’s UNITY.” May God grant us all the spirit of forgiveness and togetherness.

  1. ”Alone, I can ‘Say’ but together, we can ‘talk’.
  2. “Alone, I can ‘Enjoy’ but together, we can celebrate

  3. ‘Alone, I can ‘Smile’ but together, we can ‘Laugh’.

That’s the BEAUTY of Human Relations. We are nothing without each other

The razor blade is sharp but can’t cut a tree; the axe is strong but can’t cut the hair.

MORALS: Everyone is important according to his/her purpose. Never look down on anyone unless you are admiring their shoes.

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REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

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I saw this few reasons on way to read book and I will love to share with you.

REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

  1. Books help you to feel more confident.
  2. Books help you to travel around the world in the cheapest way.

  3. Books develop your personality.

  4. Books provide food for thought.

  5. Books make you laugh and think.

  6. Books draw you towards perfection.

  7. Books stimulate creativity.

  8. Books bring out writing talent.

  9. Books help you in communicating.

  10. Books clear your vision.

  11. Books satisfy your curiosity.

  12. Books help you make better choices.

  13. Books help you build literary talent.

  14. Books do not require any special device to teach.

  15. Books increase your attention span.

  16. Books are fruitful pastime.

  17. Books can be used anytime, anywhere.

  18. Books provide entertainment, when others fail.

  19. Books make you powerful.

  20. Books help you know the ‘Whys’ and ‘Hows’ of everything.

  21. Books help you to create and spread fun.

  22. Books help you travel across time intelligently.

  23. Books keep you updated with facts and figures.

  24. Books spread love, affection and knowledge.

  25. Books make the best of friends.

  26. Books take you to intellectual environment.

  27. Books help you feel the world around you.

  28. Books entertain your mind.

  29. Books broaden your horizon.

  30. Books bring Nature to your doorstep.

  31. Books bring about a ‘personality change’.

  32. Books increase comprehension.

  33. Books do not require company.

  34. Books are stress-busters.

  35. Books develop a sense of belonging to people around you.

  36. Books provide mental and physical relaxation.

  37. Books act as a communication tool.

  38. Books are intellectually satisfying activity.

  39. Books provide spiritual experience.

  40. Books provide emotional strength.

  41. Books build your self-esteem.

  42. Books help and encourage your imagination to soar.

  43. Books make you smarter and wiser.

  44. Books help you grow.

  45. Books take you to a ‘world of dreams’.

  46. Books can change your life and vision.

  47. Books help you in achieving ‘life goals’.

  48. Books develop wonderful experience.

  49. Books transform lives.

  50. Books inspire, books motivate, books build nations.

We challenge you to start reading books and not just storing them!

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IF YOU WANT TO BE RICH, DON’T GO TO SCHOOL. READ THIS ARTICLE INSTEAD…

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I saw this on the facebook timeline of a beloved friend and a brother who’s facebook page is full of inspiration and motivational. Chukwuemeka Michael Eze

IF YOU WANT TO BE RICH, DON’T GO TO SCHOOL. READ THIS ARTICLE INSTEAD…

The school does not teach people how to be rich. they only teach you how to work for others and earn wages. they make you into a banker, doctor, engineer, teacher and all those beautiful names such as you have as well.

And everyone who goes through the school system ends up working for the rich who own the establishments and corporations. most of them aren’t as educated. they have however, mastered the art of hiring the most educated and best professionals to work for them.

Does all aircraft owners know how to fly an aircraft? no! but they know how to hire the best of pilots who have been prepared by the school system to serve the rich, and get paid for their services. But the airline or aircraft owners make billions of dollars in profit from the hard work of the pilots and other employees they have to pay a few thousand dollars in wages, and salaries and one month of paid leave. hahahaha….

Was this why Robert Kiyosaki the author of the book “Rich dad, poor dad” wrote a book which he titled: “if you want to be rich, don’t go to school”?
He wasn’t telling people not to get educated, he was in essence stressing emphatically that the school is not a place to learn how to become rich.

What then makes people rich?
for me, I will say it is the ability to solve problems that makes people rich.
Money is a reward for problems solved or value created. Let’s say you have to get home from work, or you need to move from point A to Point B, you will sure look for a means to get to your destination.

Be it by bus, taxi, Uber or buying a Mercedes Benz Car. whoever solves this need, you will have to pay a commensurate value of money for services rendered, same applies for products sold to satisfy a need. likewise, if you have to help others solve their problems, you will get a monetary value in return which over time, accumulates into wealth.

Be it as it may, you do not get rich because you went to school, or because you speak eloquently, or can make good grammatical construction. No!
you get rich because you are able to solve problems by creating value.

Everyone has needs (problems) as well as monies allocated to solve these problems. (remember how you allocate your next salary even before pay day?)
yes that’s what I’m talking about.

Thus, whoever provides solutions for those needs receives all the monies allocated to solving those needs as an exchange or reward for products offered and services rendered.

Finally, you may want to think about a way to create value and solve problems in your society. it could be about food shortage, water supply, health, fashion, communication, entertainment, education, beauty, and the list is endless.

When you have identified a problem or need which you have a passion for, you must proceed to getting sufficient knowledge about solving it. this may be some hard work or cost you some weeks

rch that ought to be made. but when you are done and able to lunch your solution into the society, people will reward you for your time and hard-work by paying for the value you have created.

This is the sure path to becoming rich. it is by creating value and solving problems.

——–Chukwuemeka Michael Eze

Note: the above article does not intend in anyway to discourage people from having a job or going to school. It is for the very few who has questions on how to be rich.

Tribute To A Woman

“You know baby I know alot of people are against you all the ladies in the world but you can do whatever you set your mind to do can’t no one stop you believe that it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, it’s your world

Don’t be scared, its your world, don’t trip, shout it out You’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world I can’t begin to feel the agony I know you feel I’m tryin’ to break you out of that mold that once was real but you’re grown up and now it’s time to let go all your fears it’s time for you to go,its time for you to live you’ve been under your parents,but they can’t live for you

You got to go and do what’s best for you make your decisions and live by them and sweat and bleed You must struggle to be you even when you’re in need it’s time, now’s the place, (now’s the place)do your thing, it’s your world

Don’t be scared, its your world, don’t trip, shout it out You’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world I know you expecting help but get out there on your own then you’ll appreciate all that you have and all you own and that no one out there can never ever take from you do you and all that’s expected and you will break right through this world this crazy crazy world, (this crazy world)this cold and harsh world, (this cold and harsh world)this cruel and foul world

And now you’re proud and all grown up and sure a woman now then you’ll stand uplooking ahead, feeling so proud it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out you’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out you’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world You can’t be held down, (You can’t be you can’t be held down no you can’t)no one can stop you know(I know the struggle’s hard but you gotta keep fighting gotta keep going on)I know you get tired of the bull(I know you get tired of the bull you wake up everyday and it seems like you can’t go on all you gotta do is sticking there, everything will be ok)

It’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out You’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your world it’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world don’t trip, shout it out you’re the bomb, don’t be scared, its your worldIt’s time, now’s the place, do your thing, don’t be scared it’s your world

HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY TO THE REAL WOMEN…

Blessed is He Whom God Helps

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It’s about God not humans …..Long time ago there lived a great king and two beggars who always stood at the gate of his palace everyday.

As the king rode by everyday, the 1st beggar would say ‘blessed is he whom the king helps’ while the 2nd beggar would say ‘blessed is he whom God helps’.

The king always felt pleased to hear the praise of the 1st beggar.

One evening the king decided to reward the 1st beggar for all the praise; he ordered his baker to bake a cake and wrap precious stones inside the cake.

The next day as he rode by, he gave the cake to the 1st beggar as he hailed him as usual.

The 1st beggar who was in dire need of cash sold the cake to the 2nd beggar at next to nothing.

When the 2nd beggar cut open the cake he saw the precious stones, sold them and became a wealthy man.

He did not return back to the kings gate the next day.

As the king rode out of his palace the next day, he saw the 1st beggar still asking for alms and stopped to ask him if he ate the cake he gave him.

The 1st beggar replied and said no sir, I sold it to my friend who was here with me yesterday; I have not seen him today.

The king continued his journey, telling everybody he met saying it is true that blessed is he that God helps.

Our God is the all knowing God, HE has not forgotten you. HE is always just in time.

Have a blessed and creative day ahead!

MARRIAGE COUNSE

MARRIAGE COUNSEL…

1. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

2. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

3. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

4. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

5. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

6. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Bianca rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Women Are The Most Wonderful Creatures

Women are the most wonderful creature I have
seen on Earth, but am yet to understand why
some men are busy finding faults upon faults on
them.
Ok, lets look at them this way and tell me if am
lying 1) Women are the only creature that can change
their original surname just for the sake of love.
2) They are most easiest creature to convince. 3)
They are the only creature that loves from the
bottom of their heart. 4) They are the creature
that can prefer to go to bed with an empty stomach, just to make sure
that their children feeds well.
5) They are the only creature on Earth that cries
very easily, just to expose their inward
disposition. 6) They are always awake even at the
dead of the night just to make sure that their children are
protected.
7) They can even sell out their cloths just to buy
food for their children, and also see them smiling.
8) They are always ready to sacrifice their lives
just to save the lives of their children. 9) They are always in the kitchen inhaling the
smoke without complaining, just to prepare
something for their children and husband to eat.
10) They are the only creature that can abandon
their biological family and start up a new home
with a stranger. 11) Even when they are battling with the pains of
pregnancy, yet, they are busy looking after their
husbands and children. e.t.c
Infact! Mmmuahh! Just a Kisssssssss for all my
wonderful
female friends! Indeed, am glad to have you all!