REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

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I saw this few reasons on way to read book and I will love to share with you.

REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

1. Books help you to feel more confident.

2. Books help you to travel around the world in the cheapest way.

3. Books develop your personality.

4. Books provide food for thought.

5. Books make you laugh and think.

6. Books draw you towards perfection.

7. Books stimulate creativity.

8. Books bring out writing talent.

9. Books help you in communicating.

10. Books clear your vision.

11. Books satisfy your curiosity.

12. Books help you make better choices.

13. Books help you build literary talent.

14. Books do not require any special device to teach.

15. Books increase your attention span.

16. Books are fruitful pastime.

17. Books can be used anytime, anywhere.

18. Books provide entertainment, when others fail.

19. Books make you powerful.

20. Books help you know the ‘Whys’ and ‘Hows’ of everything.

21. Books help you to create and spread fun.

22. Books help you travel across time intelligently.

23. Books keep you updated with facts and figures.

24. Books spread love, affection and knowledge.

25. Books make the best of friends.

26. Books take you to intellectual environment.

27. Books help you feel the world around you.

28. Books entertain your mind.

29. Books broaden your horizon.

30. Books bring Nature to your doorstep.

31. Books bring about a ‘personality change’.

32. Books increase comprehension.

33. Books do not require company.

34. Books are stress-busters.

35. Books develop a sense of belonging to people around you.

36. Books provide mental and physical relaxation.

37. Books act as a communication tool.

38. Books are intellectually satisfying activity.

39. Books provide spiritual experience.

40. Books provide emotional strength.

41. Books build your self-esteem.

42. Books help and encourage your imagination to soar.

43. Books make you smarter and wiser.

44. Books help you grow.

45. Books take you to a ‘world of dreams’.

46. Books can change your life and vision.

47. Books help you in achieving ‘life goals’.

48. Books develop wonderful experience.

49. Books transform lives.

50. Books inspire, books motivate, books build nations.

We challenge you to start reading books and not just storing them!

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Little Steps That Can Change Your Life

Change is the only constant factor in life, I want to share with you what I have read over the years and has transformed me.

Looking back, I can see how much I’ve changed. I almost haven’t noticed the change, because it sneaks up on you, until it’s impossible to ignore.
It’s like when you were a kid. You got taller, but you didn’t notice until you stood up against the wall with the marks.
The same holds true for life changes.
You are constantly changing, but it’s hard to notice until it pokes you in the ribs.
It’s not even a question of if you’re changing; it’s a question of in which direction are you changing.
Most people want change because they want to escape. But it doesn’t work.
It is by facing your inner demons that you heal yourself, and change your life for the better.
Below are the 21 things you can do to change your life. It’s a hefty and spicy read, so grab your beverage of choice and enjoy.

1. Take Tiny Steps
   A baby learns to crawl before it can walk, and it learns to walk before it can run.
   Most people expect rapid life changes. If they’re wasting their time at a soul-sucking job, they expect success and fame within six months.
   I’m not saying it isn’t possible, because it is, but in most cases it’s not going to happen.
   People who need life changes right away don’t realize that it’s not going to make them happy anyway.
   All they want is their dream of a problem-free future. When they get there, reality sets in, and another goal is set.
   And the wheel keeps turning.
   So realize that there will always be problems in life. It’s not our job to eliminate them, but to do our best, take tiny steps, and see where life takes us.
2. Take Quantum Leaps
   Something I’ve learned in working with people is that changes can happen in an instant. Old pains, fears, and negative emotions can vanish and be replaced by something more useful.
   This may seem contradictory to what I said above, but it isn’t. It’s not either/or, it’s both/and.
   We don’t live in a black and white world.
   Quantum leaps are tipping points (as Malcolm Gladwell, the author likes to call them).
   As you keep taking one step at a time, you will eventually reach a tipping point where your thinking shifts.
   The problem is that most people never get to those shifts. They stop drilling when they are about to hit gold.
3. Accept Where You Are
   I learn a lesson playing freecell and solitaire, that each game can be won knowing the right moves to make. By accepting who you are you can make a lot of difference in the world.
   Things come and go. People live and die. Your life feels good, and it feels bad. The more you accept this, the easier it is to change your life.
   In fact, it seems as if life changes itself when I stop pushing so hard.
   Here’s a video I recorded on being in the present moment:
4. Be Patient
   I learn this while learning how to play the guitar, that no knowledge is a waste, invest you time into learning something new and don’t try to rush and don’t try to skip a lesson.
   I stumbled a lot in the beginning. I made mistakes, I failed, and I gave up in frustration more times than I’d care to admit.
   I began seeing results when I became absolutely determined to succeed.
   It was a big lesson in patience. It doesn’t matter what’s going on. There will always be problems. But they don’t have to clutter up your whole life.
   Be patient with your progress. Stay true to your heart.
   You can change your life. Sometimes it just happens in its own time.
5. Forgive
   We all have memories—painful memories.
   What you may not realize is that the person hurting you with those memories is you.
   You are the director of your mind. While the event may have happened in the past, it’s you who keeps playing them over and over again.
   Reliving the past will get you nowhere. That’s why it’s essential to forgive and forget all those people in your memories.
   You don’t even have to forgive. All you have to do is pay less attention to those thoughts and memories.
   Once you see that the only one suffering is you, the grip tends to loosen.
6. Heal
   Healing yourself goes hand in hand with point #5. When you know that you can let go of past memories, fears, and obstacles, your self-confidence grows.
   Most people aren’t ready for life changes. They avoid any and all solutions, because they are comfortable where they are.
   And that’s fine with me, but if you make that choice, you have no right to complain or make excuses.
   You either choose to be where you are, or you choose to change your life. The choice is yours.
   Healing starts with seeing that you are not your thoughts; you are the awareness behind them. Thoughts come and go, but your true nature never changes.
7. Face Your Fears
   When you face your fears, possibilities open up. Even now, there are time when I’m scared.
   Fears don’t disappear, they simply become less important. Fear is the opposite of faith.
   And remember, this is not about comparing yourself to someone else. This is about following your inner GPS, and living the life you were meant to live.
8. Kill Your Excuses
   Your excuses are mere illusions.
   You may have excuses about why you can’t follow your passion and build do what you have always dream of, but are they really true?
   If you really wanted to, you could take one tiny step forward.
   That’s all it takes.
   One tiny step.
   Then see what happens, re-assess, and take another step.
9. Take Responsibility
   Since talking with more and more readers, clients, and people in general, I’ve started to notice a scary pattern.
   That pattern is the lack of responsibility. I see people wanting to change their life, but they aren’t willing to take responsibility.
   They wait for a white knight (or black, depending on your preference) to sweep in to save the day and make change effortless and comfortable.
   I hate to burst your bubble, but it’s not going to happen. When you take responsibility for the life you’ve created, you can begin to move forward.
   If you’re blaming someone else for your situation, you’re stuck.
   Learn to make decisions from your inner authority. Here’s a video where I share how I do this:
10. Follow Your Heart
    And what would an article of mine be without me telling you to follow your heart?
    If you’ve been reading my articles, you know that I keep writing about following your heart, and there’s a reason for it.
    As I’ve been living my life, I’ve started listening to my heart more and more.
    And when I say following and listening to your heart, I mean it in the broadest sense of the word. It can mean anything, such as following your gut, intuition, feelings, or going with the flow of life.
    When you begin putting the pieces together, and taking responsibility, and healing yourself, you naturally begin to follow your heart, your inner GPS.
11. Follow Your Passion
    If you drive to a gas station, and fill your car with the wrong kind of fuel, it won’t run very well, if at all.
    That’s what most people are trying to do in life. They are listening to outside influences, and that’s when all the “shoulds” come in.
    It’s the belief that you have to focus on money in order to build a successful business. I did this in the beginning, so I know what it’s like.
    You want to do your research and know whether or not your idea is viable, but if you don’t do something you’re passionate about, your car will run out of fuel sooner or later.
    It is your passion that will fuel your journey for the rest of your life.
    The problem is that you may not know how to even start finding and following your passion. I had the same problem when I was starting out, but eventually things clicked.
12. Meditate
    Ever had the experience of your mind racing out of control? It almost feels like you’re going crazy, doesn’t it?
    A great way to calm yourself (and your mind) down is to meditate. Even five minutes of meditation can do wonders.
    Meditation has taught me to see through the dance of thought. I have thoughts. I have worries. And I have fears.
    But I can observe them without getting too involved. It’s not always so simple, but knowing that I am not my thoughts is a tremendous help.
    What’s important is not to just know it intellectually, but to see how you create your experience of life.
13. Express Yourself
    I find writing therapeutic. It’s something I love to do. It calms me. It’s inspiring, and it infuses my life with serenity.
    I highly recommend you try journaling or just writing down your thoughts after every day. If you’ve tried to solve problems in your head, you know it doesn’t work.
    You can have a conversation on paper, freewrite, and solve problems easily. It has the ability to change your life completely..
14. Kill Your Comfort Zone
    If you want to change your life in the most positive sense, get comfortable with being out of your comfort zone.
    When you’re learning something new, you’ll bump into the walls of your comfort zone.
    Your spirit yearns for freedom. It’s when you put yourself into a little box that your spirit feels the need to rebel. You start feeling bored, and restless.
    You don’t have to suddenly infuse your life with discomfort. All you have to do is dip your toes from time to time.
15. Flow
    Let’s face it. You don’t know what you want.
    Most people think they know what they want. They make five and ten year plans, acting as if they know all the variables of life.
    I’m on board with making plans and setting goals. But I don’t rigidly stick to them. You will miss opportunities if you disregard the whispers of your heart, if you trade the present moment for the future.
    You miss life.
    It’s like driving with all the windows painted black except the front window. You see where you’re going, but you miss everything else.
    Accept that life brings you possibilities. You don’t always know where your life will go. But go with the flow, and you will be where you need to be.
    
    16. Focus
    In order to change your life, you have to change your focus.
    If you don’t take control of your mind, it will run amok. You will focus on the negative. You will imagine the worst possible scenarios.
    What works for me is to focus on who is aware of the thoughts swirling in my head.
    There’s an awareness there.
    When I focus on it, I almost immediately relax. I see how my thoughts take me on a roller coaster ride of emotions. One day I can feel fine, and one day I can feel miserable.
    The only difference is thought.
    But there’s one thing most people miss when I share this: I’m not talking about changing my thoughts. I don’t try to change anything. Instead, I observe my thoughts, and let them be. I’m mindful of what’s going on.
    Here’s a quick video on how I went from miserable to loving life:
16. Read
    I love reading.
    We live and die by stories. My life has changed several times by reading a book.
    The stories you read have a profound effect on how you view the world. You can be stuck on a problem, and the solution can pop into your mind while you’re reading.
    Your mind does not work sequentially. You can be reading something, then something goes click, and your life changes forever.
    And as you’re reading these very words, it causes you to think, doesn’t it?
    In order for you to make sense out of the funny letters you see here, you have to go inside, and make sense out of it from your own map of the world.
17. Befriend the Unknown
    You never know what you need. Remember point #15, going with the flow?
    When you’re open to the unknown, which is a synonym for possibility, you accept that life may bring you something negative to teach you a positive lesson.
    I had some horrible days when I played poker. It can murder you psychologically, especially if you’re playing it for a living like I was.
    At one point I was looking up at the sky and asking “Why?”
    It helped me realize what’s truly important in life. It isn’t money, or material wealth, although those things can be nice.
    You just never know what life will bring, so you might as well become curious.
    How will the seemingly negative turn to positive in your life? What are you learning?
18. Reclaim Your Personal Power
    Stop looking to others for approval. Just like taking responsibility (#9), you have to reclaim your personal power.
    You know what to do. You can feel it. You just haven’t been listening to that inner voice until now.
    It’s easy to give the decision to someone else, but it’s your life. The sooner you realize that, the more fun you will have.
    What do you want to do right now?
    If you don’t know, then start somewhere, because action will bring clarity.
19. Accept Failure
    You will make mistakes.
    And you won’t even know if they are mistakes when you make them, because mistakes and failures have a tendency to transform into blessings.
    You only fail if you give up, so if you never give up, you can never fail, only learn, and grow.
20. Remember Who You Are
    And above all, remember that you are always more than you think you are.
    You are more than your problems, more than your fears, and more than your body.
    I learned this from an excellent NLP trainer called John Overdurf.
    It’s only when you focus on your problems and believe them to be you that you get into trouble.
    So, remember to relax, because life is way too important to take seriously

 

Try Again

How many times does a baby fall before he learns to walk?

He does not say, “Why is God doing this to me?” nor declare himself a failure.
He just gets up and tries again and again until he learns to walk.

How quick we are to complain when things do not go the way we want, blaming others or even ourselves not understanding that the many falls strengthen us, make us stronger until at last we walk with firm serenity.

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Two Perspections To The Same Situation

Two Women chatting in the office.

Woman 1: I had a fine evening, how was yours?

Woman 2: It was a disaster.. My husband came home, ate his dinner in 3 minutes and fell asleep. How was yours ?

Woman 1: Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out for a romantic dinner. After dinner we walked for an hour.. When we came home he lit the candles around the house. It was like a fairy tale!

At the same time, their husbands are talking at work.

Husband 1: How was your evening ?

Husband 2: Great… I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. What about you ?

Husband 1: It was horrible. I came home, there’s no dinner, they cut the electricity because I forgot to pay the bill; so I took her out for dinner which was so expensive that i didn’t had money left for a cab. We walked home which took an hour and when we got home I remembered there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house!!

Moral: Presentation does matter… No matter what the reality is.

A Clever Dog (Story About Work)

A Clever Dog
A  butcher watching over his shop is really surprised when he saw a dog coming inside the shop. He shoos him away. But later, the dog is
back again.

So, he goes over to the dog and notices he has a note in his mouth. He takes the note and it reads “Can I have 12 sausages and a leg of lamb, please. The dog has money in his mouth, as well.” The butcher looks inside and, lo and behold, there is a ten dollar Note there. So he takes the money and puts the sausages and lamb in a bag, placing it in the dog’s mouth. The butcher is so impressed, and since it’s about closing time, he decides to shut up shop and follow the dog. So off he goes.

The dog is walking down the street when he comes To a level crossing. The dog puts down the bag, jumps up and presses the button. Then he waits patiently, bag in mouth, for the lights to turn. They do, and he walks across the road, with the butcher following him all the way.

The dog then comes to a bus stop, and starts looking at the timetable.
The butcher is in awe at this stage. The dog checks out the times, and then sits on one of the seats provided. Along comes a bus. The dog
walks around to the front, looks at the number, and goes back to his seat.

Another bus comes. Again the dog goes and looks at the number, notices it’s the right bus, and climbs on. The butcher, by now, open-mouthed, follows him onto the bus. The bus travels through the town and out into the suburbs, the dog looking at the scenery.

Eventually he gets up, and moves to the front of  the bus. He stands on 2 back paws and pushes the button to stop the bus. Then he gets off, his groceries still in his mouth. Well, dog and butcher are walking along the road, and then the dog turns into a house. He walks up the path, and drops the groceries on the step. Then he walks back down the path, takes a big run, and throws himself against the door. He goes
back down the path, runs up to the door and again, it throws himself against it. There’s no answer at the house, so the dog goes back down
the path, jumps up on a narrow wall, and walks along the perimeter of the garden. He gets to the window, and beats his head against it several times, walks back, jumps off, and waits at the door.

The butcher watches as a big guy opens the door, and starts abusing the dog, kicking him and punching him, and swearing at him.
The butcher runs up, and stops the guy. “What in heaven’s name are You doing? The dog is a genius. He could be on TV, for the life of me!” to which the guy responds: “You call this clever? This is the second time this week that this stupid dog’s forgotten his key.”

Reflection:
Looks like some, people will never be satisfied with what they’ve got.
When it comes to the work place, Employers do not know how to appreciate their people who have served them loyally through the years. I’ve seen companies lose good people for the simple fact their leaders failed to show appreciation.

Employers with big egos enjoy the fact that they have more power and authority than others. They show, in the way they give orders and directions, that they think they are superior. They get a kick out of displaying this superiority. People who do this are fools, and everyone but them knows it.

They are never satisfied because they could not be satisfied even if their people perform well. They don’t listen to the opinion and ideas of their subordinates.

Why? Because of their stupid pride and insecurity. People of this kind will never be satisfied. Why? Because they are so busy wrapped up in
themselves and, fact is, the self can never be satisfied. Happy and productive people are always those who are “others-centered” rather than “self- centered.” The greatest idea of leadership is not someone who throws his weight around.

His joy is derived from delivering a job that others benefit from his contribution. Aim for service and success will follow….

Madam sabi