I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
– Frank Herbert, Dune
I have always said this to people; it’s not about what someone says about you when the going is good, it’s more about what they say about you when it goes sour. A man or woman you are in a relationship with can say every good thing to you; what is that person saying in your absence? Now that it’s over, have you suddenly turned to a cheap girl, prostitute, sex pervert…? It only shows you he/she never loved you. Whenever you meet a man or woman who does not take pleasure in discussing the ex, that’s the person to stick with. But when you have him/her always saying negative things about the ex, better run for your dear life.
Guys are fond of this; a girl leaves you for another, she suddenly becomes a cheap commodity. You tried dating/marrying her but failed and she turns to a prostitute who is not up to your class. Ah ah, na only you waka come? Chill bro because only empty heads believe all that crap about her. You failed to marry her probably because you didn’t hit the right button to her innermost heart; you failed to date her, don’t worry; your own woman will come. Don’t put her down because she is a princess to another whose kind of love she wants.
Girl, don’t hate the guy because after dating him for five years, he left you for another; he knows what he wants in marriage and because you are not what he wants, he had to go for another. It hurts, but don’t hold it against him because he can’t see his future bleak with you and walk into it all in the name of “I love her”. You are not for him, your own man is on the way.
Written by: Amara
writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi