Who You Should Date

I have always said this to people; it’s not about what someone says about you when the going is good, it’s more about what they say about you when it goes sour. A man or woman you are in a relationship with can say every good thing to you; what is that person saying in your absence? Now that it’s over, have you suddenly turned to a cheap girl, prostitute, sex pervert…? It only shows you he/she never loved you. Whenever you meet a man or woman who does not take pleasure in discussing the ex, that’s the person to stick with. But when you have him/her always saying negative things about the ex, better run for your dear life.
Guys are fond of this; a girl leaves you for another, she suddenly becomes a cheap commodity. You tried dating/marrying her but failed and she turns to a prostitute who is not up to your class. Ah ah, na only you waka come? Chill bro because only empty heads believe all that crap about her. You failed to marry her probably because you didn’t hit the right button to her innermost heart; you failed to date her, don’t worry; your own woman will come. Don’t put her down because she is a princess to another whose kind of love she wants.
Girl, don’t hate the guy because after dating him for five years, he left you for another; he knows what he wants in marriage and because you are not what he wants, he had to go for another. It hurts, but don’t hold it against him because he can’t see his future bleak with you and walk into it all in the name of “I love her”. You are not for him, your own man is on the way.
Written by: Amara

writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Four Big Mistakes That Get In The Way Of The Commitment You Want

4 Big Mistakes That Get In The Way Of The Commitment You Want

Mistake #1: Focusing On Events, Not Feelings

We women are taught to believe that events, and the time we “put in,” MEAN SOMETHING to a man. If he’s introduced us to his family or friends at work we’re on cloud nine. We think of these as “milestones” moving us closer to commitment and marriage. And we couldn’t be more wrong.

Time means NOTHING to a man. Sometimes, being in a comfortable HOLDING PATTERN with us is EXACTLY what he has in mind! They spend time with us, but then they go and commit to someone else.

Unless we can get into our man’s heart, and let him into ours to create a deep emotional bond, we DOOM ourselves to a superficial level that will never lead to a lifelong commitment.

Mistake #2: Thinking Exclusive = Committed

…women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed…
How many of you have been comfortable in a relationship, only to have the man you are with meet someone else, or tell you he’s “found someone who really gets me.” How can it be that a man who is exclusive with you can “fall for” someone else so easily? It’s because he was not committed to you.

Oftentimes, women focus on getting a man to be exclusive – but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed to you. When that happens, he’ll be exclusive AND won’t “fall for” another woman ever again!

Mistake #3: Talking About Your Relationship, Not Creating It

Often when women feel their man becoming distant, they decide to TALK to him about it. To ask how he’s feeling, why he’s acting this way, or where the relationship is going.

When you talk to a man about your relationship, you have the OPPOSITE effect on him than you intend. Though we often hear men say how much they hate how “emotional” women are – this is exactly the part they CRAVE. They are so stuck in their brains, so much of the time, that if we’re stuck in ours, they can’t connect to us.

Every time we TALK about the relationship, it feels to him like a laundry list of to do items instead of INSPIRING a man to want to be with us.

Mistake #4: You Panic… He Leaves

Because we know that “Lifelong-Commitment” is a frightening thing to a man, we’re often afraid to say or do anything that might scare him more.

It’s easy to get paralyzed by fear and anger and stop being ourselves. We stop being the fun, relaxed women who he originally fell for who made him great before.

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