Father’s Day 2017

As 2017 father’s celebration comes up, i was struggling with what to post for two reasons
1. Having stayed without a father for the past 10 years (His memory still fresh to me).
2. Not been a father myself.

I was struggling with what to write about fathers, for the above reason. Having studied other fathers i can say this now.

Fatherhood is beyond fathering a child, to be a successful father you have to fully fill the three fold capacity of Prophets, priest and King.

As Prophet, you connect to the Almighty father and receive from him for your family, you see the future for your family, you provide a spiritual covering for them.

As Priest, you teach your family, you pronounce blessings over your family, you protect your family.

As King, you rule the family, provide for the family.

Without fulling operating in the three fold capacity, your no more than a sperm donor.

Fatherhood is a responsibility, it is a commitment which also last a life time.

Happy father’s day 2017

Aside

change

Change is the only constant factor in life, I want to share with you what I have read over the years and has transformed me.

Looking back, I can see how much I’ve changed. I almost haven’t noticed the change, because it sneaks up on you, until it’s impossible to ignore.
It’s like when you were a kid. You got taller, but you didn’t notice until you stood up against the wall with the marks.
The same holds true for life changes.
You are constantly changing, but it’s hard to notice until it pokes you in the ribs.
It’s not even a question of if you’re changing; it’s a question of in which direction are you changing.
Most people want change because they want to escape. But it doesn’t work.
It is by facing your inner demons that you heal yourself, and change your life for the better.
Below are the 21 things you can do to change your life. It’s a hefty and spicy read, so grab your beverage of choice and enjoy.

  1. Take Tiny Steps
    A baby learns to crawl before it can walk, and it learns to walk before it can run.
    Most people expect rapid life changes. If they’re wasting their time at a soul-sucking job, they expect success and fame within six months.
    I’m not saying it isn’t possible, because it is, but in most cases it’s not going to happen.
    People who need life changes right away don’t realize that it’s not going to make them happy anyway.
    All they want is their dream of a problem-free future. When they get there, reality sets in, and another goal is set.
    And the wheel keeps turning.
    So realize that there will always be problems in life. It’s not our job to eliminate them, but to do our best, take tiny steps, and see where life takes us.
  2. Take Quantum Leaps
    Something I’ve learned in working with people is that changes can happen in an instant. Old pains, fears, and negative emotions can vanish and be replaced by something more useful.
    This may seem contradictory to what I said above, but it isn’t. It’s not either/or, it’s both/and.
    We don’t live in a black and white world.
    Quantum leaps are tipping points (as Malcolm Gladwell, the author likes to call them).
    As you keep taking one step at a time, you will eventually reach a tipping point where your thinking shifts.
    The problem is that most people never get to those shifts. They stop drilling when they are about to hit gold.
  3. Accept Where You Are
    I learn a lesson playing freecell and solitaire, that each game can be won knowing the right moves to make. By accepting who you are you can make a lot of difference in the world.
    Things come and go. People live and die. Your life feels good, and it feels bad. The more you accept this, the easier it is to change your life.
    In fact, it seems as if life changes itself when I stop pushing so hard.
    Here’s a video I recorded on being in the present moment:
  4. Be Patient
    I learn this while learning how to play the guitar, that no knowledge is a waste, invest you time into learning something new and don’t try to rush and don’t try to skip a lesson.
    I stumbled a lot in the beginning. I made mistakes, I failed, and I gave up in frustration more times than I’d care to admit.
    I began seeing results when I became absolutely determined to succeed.
    It was a big lesson in patience. It doesn’t matter what’s going on. There will always be problems. But they don’t have to clutter up your whole life.
    Be patient with your progress. Stay true to your heart.
    You can change your life. Sometimes it just happens in its own time.
  5. Forgive
    We all have memories—painful memories.
    What you may not realize is that the person hurting you with those memories is you.
    You are the director of your mind. While the event may have happened in the past, it’s you who keeps playing them over and over again.
    Reliving the past will get you nowhere. That’s why it’s essential to forgive and forget all those people in your memories.
    You don’t even have to forgive. All you have to do is pay less attention to those thoughts and memories.
    Once you see that the only one suffering is you, the grip tends to loosen.
  6. Heal
    Healing yourself goes hand in hand with point #5. When you know that you can let go of past memories, fears, and obstacles, your self-confidence grows.
    Most people aren’t ready for life changes. They avoid any and all solutions, because they are comfortable where they are.
    And that’s fine with me, but if you make that choice, you have no right to complain or make excuses.
    You either choose to be where you are, or you choose to change your life. The choice is yours.
    Healing starts with seeing that you are not your thoughts; you are the awareness behind them. Thoughts come and go, but your true nature never changes.
  7. Face Your Fears
    When you face your fears, possibilities open up. Even now, there are time when I’m scared.
    Fears don’t disappear, they simply become less important. Fear is the opposite of faith.
    And remember, this is not about comparing yourself to someone else. This is about following your inner GPS, and living the life you were meant to live.
  8. Kill Your Excuses
    Your excuses are mere illusions.
    You may have excuses about why you can’t follow your passion and build do what you have always dream of, but are they really true?
    If you really wanted to, you could take one tiny step forward.
    That’s all it takes.
    One tiny step.
    Then see what happens, re-assess, and take another step.
  9. Take Responsibility
    Since talking with more and more readers, clients, and people in general, I’ve started to notice a scary pattern.
    That pattern is the lack of responsibility. I see people wanting to change their life, but they aren’t willing to take responsibility.
    They wait for a white knight (or black, depending on your preference) to sweep in to save the day and make change effortless and comfortable.
    I hate to burst your bubble, but it’s not going to happen. When you take responsibility for the life you’ve created, you can begin to move forward.
    If you’re blaming someone else for your situation, you’re stuck.
    Learn to make decisions from your inner authority. Here’s a video where I share how I do this:
  10. Follow Your Heart
    And what would an article of mine be without me telling you to follow your heart?
    If you’ve been reading my articles, you know that I keep writing about following your heart, and there’s a reason for it.
    As I’ve been living my life, I’ve started listening to my heart more and more.
    And when I say following and listening to your heart, I mean it in the broadest sense of the word. It can mean anything, such as following your gut, intuition, feelings, or going with the flow of life.
    When you begin putting the pieces together, and taking responsibility, and healing yourself, you naturally begin to follow your heart, your inner GPS.
  11. Follow Your Passion
    If you drive to a gas station, and fill your car with the wrong kind of fuel, it won’t run very well, if at all.
    That’s what most people are trying to do in life. They are listening to outside influences, and that’s when all the “shoulds” come in.
    It’s the belief that you have to focus on money in order to build a successful business. I did this in the beginning, so I know what it’s like.
    You want to do your research and know whether or not your idea is viable, but if you don’t do something you’re passionate about, your car will run out of fuel sooner or later.
    It is your passion that will fuel your journey for the rest of your life.
    The problem is that you may not know how to even start finding and following your passion. I had the same problem when I was starting out, but eventually things clicked.
  12. Meditate
    Ever had the experience of your mind racing out of control? It almost feels like you’re going crazy, doesn’t it?
    A great way to calm yourself (and your mind) down is to meditate. Even five minutes of meditation can do wonders.
    Meditation has taught me to see through the dance of thought. I have thoughts. I have worries. And I have fears.
    But I can observe them without getting too involved. It’s not always so simple, but knowing that I am not my thoughts is a tremendous help.
    What’s important is not to just know it intellectually, but to see how you create your experience of life.
  13. Express Yourself
    I find writing therapeutic. It’s something I love to do. It calms me. It’s inspiring, and it infuses my life with serenity.
    I highly recommend you try journaling or just writing down your thoughts after every day. If you’ve tried to solve problems in your head, you know it doesn’t work.
    You can have a conversation on paper, freewrite, and solve problems easily. It has the ability to change your life completely..
  14. Kill Your Comfort Zone
    If you want to change your life in the most positive sense, get comfortable with being out of your comfort zone.
    When you’re learning something new, you’ll bump into the walls of your comfort zone.
    Your spirit yearns for freedom. It’s when you put yourself into a little box that your spirit feels the need to rebel. You start feeling bored, and restless.
    You don’t have to suddenly infuse your life with discomfort. All you have to do is dip your toes from time to time.
  15. Flow
    Let’s face it. You don’t know what you want.
    Most people think they know what they want. They make five and ten year plans, acting as if they know all the variables of life.
    I’m on board with making plans and setting goals. But I don’t rigidly stick to them. You will miss opportunities if you disregard the whispers of your heart, if you trade the present moment for the future.
    You miss life.
    It’s like driving with all the windows painted black except the front window. You see where you’re going, but you miss everything else.
    Accept that life brings you possibilities. You don’t always know where your life will go. But go with the flow, and you will be where you need to be.

    16. Focus

    In order to change your life, you have to change your focus.
    If you don’t take control of your mind, it will run amok. You will focus on the negative. You will imagine the worst possible scenarios.
    What works for me is to focus on who is aware of the thoughts swirling in my head.
    There’s an awareness there.
    When I focus on it, I almost immediately relax. I see how my thoughts take me on a roller coaster ride of emotions. One day I can feel fine, and one day I can feel miserable.
    The only difference is thought.
    But there’s one thing most people miss when I share this: I’m not talking about changing my thoughts. I don’t try to change anything. Instead, I observe my thoughts, and let them be. I’m mindful of what’s going on.
    Here’s a quick video on how I went from miserable to loving life:
  16. Read
    I love reading.
    We live and die by stories. My life has changed several times by reading a book.
    The stories you read have a profound effect on how you view the world. You can be stuck on a problem, and the solution can pop into your mind while you’re reading.
    Your mind does not work sequentially. You can be reading something, then something goes click, and your life changes forever.
    And as you’re reading these very words, it causes you to think, doesn’t it?
    In order for you to make sense out of the funny letters you see here, you have to go inside, and make sense out of it from your own map of the world.
  17. Befriend the Unknown
    You never know what you need. Remember point #15, going with the flow?
    When you’re open to the unknown, which is a synonym for possibility, you accept that life may bring you something negative to teach you a positive lesson.
    I had some horrible days when I played poker. It can murder you psychologically, especially if you’re playing it for a living like I was.
    At one point I was looking up at the sky and asking “Why?”
    It helped me realize what’s truly important in life. It isn’t money, or material wealth, although those things can be nice.
    You just never know what life will bring, so you might as well become curious.
    How will the seemingly negative turn to positive in your life? What are you learning?
  18. Reclaim Your Personal Power
    Stop looking to others for approval. Just like taking responsibility (#9), you have to reclaim your personal power.
    You know what to do. You can feel it. You just haven’t been listening to that inner voice until now.
    It’s easy to give the decision to someone else, but it’s your life. The sooner you realize that, the more fun you will have.
    What do you want to do right now?
    If you don’t know, then start somewhere, because action will bring clarity.
  19. Accept Failure
    You will make mistakes.
    And you won’t even know if they are mistakes when you make them, because mistakes and failures have a tendency to transform into blessings.
    You only fail if you give up, so if you never give up, you can never fail, only learn, and grow.
  20. Remember Who You Are
    And above all, remember that you are always more than you think you are.
    You are more than your problems, more than your fears, and more than your body.
    I learned this from an excellent NLP trainer called John Overdurf.
    It’s only when you focus on your problems and believe them to be you that you get into trouble.
    So, remember to relax, because life is way too important to take seriously

 

Little Steps That Can Change Your Life

The Beautiful Heart

People literally spend millions and millions of dollars every year on beauty aids, enhancements, and surgeries just so they can look younger, prettier, sexier, etc. The sad thing is this: no matter how much time and effort a person tries to make themselves appear younger or look better, they will still get old…in other words…you can’t beat Mother Nature.

Photo Credit: Brandon Zierer via CC Flickr

So…what should a person focus their time and energy on each day? The answer is this…THEIR HEART because this is what a person is REALLY made of. The following story is a terrific example of this concept. It illustrates to us in a picturesque way about the true beauty of an individual.

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One day, in a heavily crowded place, a young man was shouting at the crowd.

“People look at me; I have the most beautiful heart in the world.”

Many people looked at him and were stunned to see the beautiful heart in a perfect shape, no little flaw, which looked quite amazing. Most of the people who saw his heart was mesmerized by the beauty of his heart and praised him.

However, there came an old man and challenged the young man, “No my son, I have got the most beautiful heart in the world!”

The young man asked, “Show me your heart, then!”

The old man showed his heart to him. It was very rough, uneven, and had scars all over the heart. Also, the heart was not in shape, appeared like bits and pieces joined together in various colors. There were some rough edges, some part of the heart were removed and filled with other pieces.

The heart of the old man simply looked like various pieces of heart joined together and formed as a heart.

The young man started laughing at his heart, “My dear old man, are you mad? See, my heart! How beautiful and flawless it is. You cannot find even a bit of imperfection in my heart. See, yours. It is full of scars, wounds and blemishes. How can you say your heart is beautiful?”

“Dear boy, my heart is just so beautiful as your heart is. Did you see the scars? Each scar represents the love I shared with a person. I share a piece of heart with others when I share love and in return I get a piece of heart, which I fix at the place where I had torn a piece!” said the old man.

The young man was shocked.

And the old man continued. “Since the pieces of heart I shared were neither equal nor in the same shape or size, my heart is full of uneven edges and bits and pieces.” “My heart is not in shape because sometimes I never get the love in return from those I gave it. So where do you see the real beauty? Your heart which looks fresh and fuller with no scars which indicates you never shared love with anybody. Did you?”

The young man stood still and never spoke a word. Tears rolled down his cheeks. He walked to the old man, tore a piece of his heart and gave the piece to the old man. 

Many people give importance and respect to physical beauty. Yet, physical appearance isn’t the real beauty…the heart is! Like the old adage says: “Beauty really is only skin deep!”

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Source: kidsworldfun.com

WHY WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL . . . . . . (Tribute To My Mother)

Bst mum ever

This is a dedication to my mother, it’s a combination of what most mothers pass through and do everyday just to keep the home running. I have never remember when I don’t have what I need, she is always up early and sleep late. Here is a short story and is a combination of what most mothers pass through.

Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, “I’m tired, and it’s getting late. I think I’ll go to bed.”

She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next days. Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.

She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.

She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer.

She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to dry. She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.

She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick list for the groceries. She put both near her bag. Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails.

Dad called out, “I thought you were going to bed.”

“I’m on my way,” she said. She put some water into the dog’s dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with one of the kids who was still up doing homework.

In her own room, mom set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added 3 things to her 6-most-important-things-to-do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. “I’m going to bed.” And he did…without another thought. Yet she wakes up early in the morning to set breakfast and wake the children and make them ready for school and she herself get ready for work, go to work and go back home to repeat the above circle.

Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer…? ‘CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL……. and they can’t die sooner, they still have things to do!!! (my mother live longer than my father {missing them both})

You are a phenomenal women…….God Bless ALL WOMEN!

The Ultimate Gifts

In life there are series of gifts that you most give yourself and i call them “The Ultimate gifts”

The gift of work: Hard work is backbone of every success, if you can work hard on anything little then you can work on anything complex.

The gift of friends: Friends are people who can give their all for you. You must learn to have positive friends those that are real and true.

The gift of learning: Do you truly know how to learn, learning never ends you give yourself to learning everyday and learn something new a day.

The gift of problems: You don’t begin to live until you lost everything. When you lost everything then you have a good place to start from the scratch.

The gift of family: Family is the best thing you can have if your family is healthy, family will always look out for you when you need support and care.

The gift of laughter: Surround yourself with happy people who always laugh and make you laugh because moods are contiguous.

The gift of dream: You must free your mind and allow yourself to dream, you must dream and act on it.

The gift of giving: Just like the saying givers never lack, if you give you open door for more blessing to flow into you.

The gift of gratitude: You should learn to be grateful to all that has impact something in your life. When you have a heart of gratitude you open more doors for more impact into you.

The gift of love: Love is the greatest gift that can happen to you. Give yourself love.

The gift of a day: Give yourself a day that you will forever remember and also give such to another.

Inspired by the movie the ultimate gift.