PREPARING TO BECOME A WIFE: TEN (10) TIPS FOR SINGLE WOMAN

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Many women dream of that special day. You know the one, where all of the attention is on her in that gorgeous white dress. The flowers, the decorations, the fancy cars and let’s not forget, her Prince Charming. Most women have an idea of what age they will be when Mr. Right asks her to spend the rest of her life with him. She has the colors picked out, the ideal season, the wedding party and even the guest list! To many women, the wedding day is the turning point in her life that will lead to her happily ever after. Many of have focused (let’s be honest) so much time and thought on the wedding such that they have never spent enough time and energy on the most important part Preparing To Become A Wife! Marriage takes work! I am talking about 24/7/365 work! The great thing about the marital covenant is that when you give it your all, you can live Happily Ever After.

1. Develop an intimate relationship with God.

You cannot enter into a successful covenant with a husband if you don’t first have one with God. Seek wisdom, study the word, develop a life of prayer and be dedicated to living for God. This will strengthen the marriage covenant when God allows you to walk into that season. A three-cord strand is not easily broken.

2. Master the art of fidelity and trust.

No man wants a woman who cannot be faithful or one that turns her neck at every fine man that she sees. Learn to 100% committed prior to a serious courtship. Be happy with what God has blessed you with and cultivate your relationship. It is also important to be a woman of your word. If you promise to do something, be sure to do it!

3. Develop the ability to take care of a home.

Ladies, in order to be a great partner in marriage, you must bring the ability to emotionally and physically take care of the house. Learn to set an atmosphere of peace and love. Avoid quarrels when possible. Practice gentleness with others that cross your path.

4. Learn how to cook!

My mother once told me that a woman who cannot cook is not cute! We know that men like to eat. Let’s be serious here. We all need to eat to live. Eating out all of the time can become expensive and who doesn’t love a home-cooked meal from time to time. If you cannot do anything beyond boil water, invest in a cookbook. Try one new meal a week and you will quickly improve your cooking skills.

5. Make smart financial decisions.

If you desire to marry a man that provides and makes the best decisions for his family, you need to do the same. Smart men don’t want to marry a woman who spends way more than she saves. Work on your budget and be sure to have an emergency fund. Preparing for tomorrow is important. The ability to manage money is important in marriage.

6. Be complete as one.

Be comfortable with not having a man in this season. Learn to be happy on your own. Find joy in those things that make you happy. Love what you have and don’t covet what others have. Spend time in your singleness doing the things that you love to do. Travel, find hobbies and do the things that married women tell you that you won’t have time to do when you get married and then become a mother.

7. Learn the art of compromise.

Marriage will be about give and take. While you are single, learn that you don’t always have to be right and accept that most things will not always happen your way. Be willing to sacrifice what you want for the benefit and happiness of others. Wives have to compromise many things. The earlier we learn to compromise, the better off we will be in marriage.

8. Be committed to pursuing your dreams and supporting others.

It is important to have your own goals and motivations prior to becoming one with your future husbands. The single season is a great opportunity to begin building your career, business or working towards other goals. Learn how to support family and friends in their endeavors as well. When you become a wife, you will have to support your husband’s dreams, possibly at the expense of yours. You must me ok with this level of sacrifice and compromise prior to committing to marriage.

9. Know what submission is and be ready to walk in it.

Many people shy away from this discussion. Submission is not equivalent to obedience. Submission is yielding in love. Study God’s design for marriage and understand the role of a wife. In your singleness, God is your husband. Submit yourself to Him. Trust His plan and timing for your life. Seek His guidance in all that you do. Practicing submission now will be the driving force to it being second nature to you once you become a wife.

10. Be holy and feminine in your conduct.

Always carry yourself as a classy woman who walks with confidence. Men want a woman they are proud to take home to their families. They want a woman with high self-esteem, one who walks gracefully, respects herself and others around her. Marriage is a sacred bond between God, man and woman. This is a great starting list to help single women prepare.

DON’T IN YOUR IGNORANCE KILL YOUR BENEFACTOR.

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There was an aged artist who lived in a small village. The man used to design beautiful artistic works to be sold at an attractive price

One day, a poor man among the villagers challenged the old man saying: You earn a lot of money from your handiwork but why don’t you assist indigent people in the village?

Cant you see the butcher who is not as rich as you are, but still shares free meat to the destitute people in the village.
Also, look at the village baker, a poor man with a large family, yet he gives the poor people free loaves of bread.

The artist did not respond angrily to the challenges, rather just smiled .

The poor man was so confused about the reaction of the artist so he left him and went out spreading rumors that the artist was so rich, but he was a stingy person who only accumulated wealth and refused to help less privileged. The entire villagers took vengeance, they broke away from the old artist man and they all forsook him.

In a mean time, the aged artist was sick but nobody among the villagers cared to visit him, therefore he died a lonely man.

The days passed by, the villagers observed that the butcher stopped free distribution of meat and the baker could not give the destitute people free loaves of bread any more, despite their continuous trooping to the bakery and their hope to have something to eat.

When both (the butcher and the baker) were asked the reason behind the sudden cut off of the welfare to the villagers, they said that: ” the elderly artist who used to donate a large sum of money every month to share free meat and loaves of bread to the poor people in the village has died, so the welfare has to stop.”

Actually, many people may have wrong impression about you while others may have different opinions, none of them could benefit nor harm your good intention.

Therefore, don’t pass judgment on any one based on his physical appearance. There are things about his personal life, if you were privileged to know, your judgement would surely be different.

For example, a man died at nightspot/ dance hall.

The other person died in the mosque/Church.

The first person entered the dance hall with intention to preach to them (against indecency)

The second person entered the mosque/Church to steal money or bags.

For this reason, you and I can not decide who enters heaven nor who enters hell-fire. Fear God in privacy and fear God in the open. Human physical appearance is a deception, therefore, forgive, pardon and ignore people’s iniquities. Pray for God’s guidance on erring people. Be good to everybody, don’t cut off your relationship with a person who does not please you. Establish unity and harmony with people, God will love you and people will love you too. The Lord Who created the souls, knows what the souls conceals.

I found this story very insightful and I think I should share

REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

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I saw this few reasons on way to read book and I will love to share with you.

REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

1. Books help you to feel more confident.

2. Books help you to travel around the world in the cheapest way.

3. Books develop your personality.

4. Books provide food for thought.

5. Books make you laugh and think.

6. Books draw you towards perfection.

7. Books stimulate creativity.

8. Books bring out writing talent.

9. Books help you in communicating.

10. Books clear your vision.

11. Books satisfy your curiosity.

12. Books help you make better choices.

13. Books help you build literary talent.

14. Books do not require any special device to teach.

15. Books increase your attention span.

16. Books are fruitful pastime.

17. Books can be used anytime, anywhere.

18. Books provide entertainment, when others fail.

19. Books make you powerful.

20. Books help you know the ‘Whys’ and ‘Hows’ of everything.

21. Books help you to create and spread fun.

22. Books help you travel across time intelligently.

23. Books keep you updated with facts and figures.

24. Books spread love, affection and knowledge.

25. Books make the best of friends.

26. Books take you to intellectual environment.

27. Books help you feel the world around you.

28. Books entertain your mind.

29. Books broaden your horizon.

30. Books bring Nature to your doorstep.

31. Books bring about a ‘personality change’.

32. Books increase comprehension.

33. Books do not require company.

34. Books are stress-busters.

35. Books develop a sense of belonging to people around you.

36. Books provide mental and physical relaxation.

37. Books act as a communication tool.

38. Books are intellectually satisfying activity.

39. Books provide spiritual experience.

40. Books provide emotional strength.

41. Books build your self-esteem.

42. Books help and encourage your imagination to soar.

43. Books make you smarter and wiser.

44. Books help you grow.

45. Books take you to a ‘world of dreams’.

46. Books can change your life and vision.

47. Books help you in achieving ‘life goals’.

48. Books develop wonderful experience.

49. Books transform lives.

50. Books inspire, books motivate, books build nations.

We challenge you to start reading books and not just storing them!

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WHY WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL . . . . . . (Tribute To My Mother)

This is a dedication to my mother, it’s a combination of what most mothers pass through and do everyday just to keep the home running. I have never remember when I don’t have what I need, she is always up early and sleep late. Here is a short story and is a combination of what most mothers pass through.

Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, “I’m tired, and it’s getting late. I think I’ll go to bed.”

She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next days. Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.

She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.

She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer.

She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to dry. She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.

She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick list for the groceries. She put both near her bag. Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails.

Dad called out, “I thought you were going to bed.”

“I’m on my way,” she said. She put some water into the dog’s dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with one of the kids who was still up doing homework.

In her own room, mom set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added 3 things to her 6-most-important-things-to-do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. “I’m going to bed.” And he did…without another thought. Yet she wakes up early in the morning to set breakfast and wake the children and make them ready for school and she herself get ready for work, go to work and go back home to repeat the above circle.

Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer…? ‘CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL……. and they can’t die sooner, they still have things to do!!! (my mother live longer than my father {missing them both})

You are a phenomenal women…….God Bless ALL WOMEN!

Mr Grass and Mrs Flower

What is the most important project before you right now? How really important is it? If tomorrow is your last day on earth, will this project still be a priority? What will be your preoccupation today? What will you use the rest of your time doing?
By the way, are there people you need to settle with? Any unresolved conflict? Do you hold offence against any one? Is your heart Free, Pure and Ready? Or are there any pending repairs or amendment to your life? I don’t really know why the death of Mr Michael Jackson affected me so much! Something strange hit me when I picked the breaking news of his sudden and emergency transfer to the hospital. I remained with CNN for hours. I followed the ‘progress’ of the news.
First it was: Mr Jackson has being rushed to the hospital.
Then Mr Jackson is reported to be in coma…….
Then Mr Jackson condition is said to be worsening….
And then the big one; Mr Jackson is dead!
My mind roamed free! I see the guy on stage: energetic, smooth, flashy and professional; a complete master of his trade! Now he is gone! Mr Jackson? No, that is not his name. MJ? Not at all. His name is in Isaiah 40:6-8. He is Mr GRASS! And I am thinking that is your name to. It is our common name. it is the name we inherited from daddy Adam. It is both our surname as well as our first name. Very few of us have affidavit to the effect that we’ve changed name. I saw people crying at the funeral service of Mr GRASS! I cried too. But again I checked Isaiah 40, and I discovered we missed it yet again. Why were we crying? What did we cry?
“the voice said, cry. And he said, What shall I cry”?
We didn’t know what to cry! We were there, a bunch of weak humanity in slavery to sin and Satan! We were all there with our Talent, Money, Fame and Glamour. Yet we are all GRASS! Cry and say,
“All FLESH is GRASS, and all the goodliness thereof is as the FLOWER of the field…” And, mark this! “The GRASS WITHERETH, the FLOWER FADETH…”
I saw us there, on the magnificent stage! I saw the casket bedecked with flower (yes, FLOWER!). I saw men of caliber and women of substance! I saw on the background screen the flashes of Mr GRASS past performances! I saw him in the days of innocence! I saw when the GRASS started to wither. I saw what God made, when Mr GRASS was but a baby singer. Then I saw the world’s recreation of God’s creation. I saw the fading of the flower! Oh God! How can we be so gifted and blessed by God only for us to submit our soul to the devil to turn’s God’s creation of His own image to mere GRASS. On that stage, where the whole of humanity stood to get rid of the GRASS, I saw us all! We were there by our common name. Janet Jackson FLOWER, Little Paris FLOWER, Lionel Richie GRASS, Stevie Wonder GRASS, Jamie Jackson GRASS and a host of other GRASSES and FLOWERS .

It suddenly dawned on me: We really don’t understand God. We pride in shame and glory in vanity. We take to lecture, we learn no lesson. We do cry when one of us falls as Grass that we are. But we don’t acknowledge our need of God! Is it not yet clear to us the inevitable end of GRASS? “The GRASS WITHERS” Don’t we know what happens to FLOWERS? “The FLOWER FADES” Why then remain in the GRASS and FLOWER family? What the heck! Is it worth the gamble? Yes, Grasses stay Green for a while, and the rose does retains its colour for the moment. But haven’t we seen the end of the Greenest of Grasses and reddest of Roses?
We have been actors and entertainers; and life as it is in the Creator’s mind keeps eluding us. When we all wake up to our Reality? When will the actors stop acting and live real life….. The LIFE! Mr Jackson has been dubbed the greatest Entertainer of his time. I am not sure if God Almighty, the Owner of Life and Breath, has been entertained in the 50 plus years of Mr Jackson’s life. Indeed many Entertainers, including Mr Jackson, have actually taken away the attention of men from their Maker! I am always afraid when I think of what the world can make out of what God has made! For Mr Jackson, we saw what God made him. And we saw what the world re-created him! Yet we can’t really blame the world. By our choice we become what we become! But then, we will all go back to Him who made us, to explain OURSELVES (not to HIM) why we made the choice we made in our life-time!
By the way, did I tell you that I changed my from Mr GRASS to Mr WORD? Here was happened: Isaiah carried.
“All flesh is Grass, and all the goodliness thereof is as the flower of the field. The Grass withers, the flower fades! But THE WORD OF OUR GOD SHALL STAND FOR EVER” (Isaiah 40:6-8)
To remain Grass is to perish! To be mere Flower is to die forever. But then, it is not only Grass and Flower that one can be. There is the alternative! While the Grass change from Green to Brown and then rottens; while the flower changes its colours, fades and dies off, we are told that there is something that stand for all eternity! “The WORD of our God shall stand for ever” Our best in life outside of God is all toilet stuff! This world has no light! What we see and celebrate outside of our life in God are but illusion and delusion. The colour of black is black. Earth is dull and colourless viewing from eternity perspective! Only Jesus puts true colour to the human souls.
“You that say, Today or Tomorrow we will go into such and such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell and get gain, whereas you know not what shall be on the morrow. FOR WHAT IS YOUR LIFE? IT IS EVEN A VAPOR THAT APPEAR FOR A LITTLE TIME, AND THEN VANISHED AWAY” (James 4:13, 14)
I don’t want a vapour for a life. I don’t want Grass or Flower as fitting description of my core-life. That was why I changed from MR GRASS to MR WORD! I know the end of FLOWERS. I understand the fate of vapour. I do not want any of that. Especially when I have a choice.
“The WORD of our God shall stand for ever”
John put its soberly:
The world is passing away and the lust thereof. But he that does the will of God abides for ever (see 1 John 2:16, 17)
Guess what, you don’t have the kind of time you think you have to decide your place in God. Right now, how does God view your life, Grass or Flower or Vapour? When are you going to change God’s view of your life? The world has finished celebrating Mr Michael Jackson. The News about him is no longer breaking news. It has gone flat! He has been neatly deposited in the soil where his memory lays with him. “Dust thou art” until you receive the Christ-Life. Mr Jackson can tell us better now. Here was a man who gave his whole life to entertain the world. He even changed his God-given appearance to give the world what he taught was a better him. I am however not sure what he gave God. But that is the issue confronting him right now! And very soon, I will be the issue with you and with me! God is waiting!
By Dr. Moses Fagbemi

Never give up on your dreams!!!

I just read this and it inspired me,you too should read!!

I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in San Ysidro. He has let
me use his house to put on fund-raising events to raise money for youth at risk programs. The last time I was there he introduced me by saying, “I want to tell you why I let Jack use my horse. It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, the boy’s high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior, he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up. “That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200-acre ranch, showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track. Then he drew a detailed floor plan fora 4,000-square-fo ot house that would sit on a
200-acre dream ranch. He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher. Two days later he received his paper back. On the front page was a large red F with a note that read, `See me after class.’ “The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, `Why did I receive an F?’ “The teacher said, `This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you. You have no money. You come from an itinerant family. You have no resources. Owning a horse
ranch requires a lot of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you’ll have to pay large stud fees. There’s no way you could ever do it.’ Then the teacher added, `If you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal, I will reconsider your grade.’
“The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, `Look, son, you have to make up your own mind on this. However, I think it is a very important decision for you.’ “Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same
paper, making no changes at all. He stated, “You can keep the F and I’ll keep my dream.”
Monty then turned to the assembled group and said, “I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch. I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace.” He added, “The best part of the story is that two summers ago that same
schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.” When the teacher was leaving, he said, “Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher, I was something of a dream stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids’ dreams. Fortunately you had enough gumption not to give up on yours.” “Don’t let anyone steal your dreams. Follow your heart, no matter what.”