Suicide (Who Is Responsible)

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The rate of suicide in Nigeria is at an alarming high rate now. Suicide is a strange word or thing, and now it is becoming a norm.

While pondering about this i come across a post on face book and I will love to share it.

Please stop blaming the president about the current state of suicide in the society. Blame yourselves, blame the society for always settings standards like marriage, school, vocation etc.

You all judge a guy who hasn’t gone to school or not being too rich to your liking.

You judge a girl who was raped and gets pregnant.

You judge a man striving to feed his family, you body shame people and gossip your very own friends

The church/mosque neglects you unless you have something to give them.

I can go on and on. Let us blame ourselves for being too shy of teaching our children sex education and when they grow up with a different mindset and experience something different their brain can’t comprehend it and some fall into depression.

Let’s blame ourselves when we compare our children with other people’s that leads a child into depression.
Coming from the north I see a lot of stupid, traditions that don’t mean crap yet we practice it for heck what. Forcing our children to pick up religion and traditions that they don’t understand. Let’s blame ourselves for the failure in Africa. One man can’t change the nation for good neither can one man change the nation for bad. We are where we are(pun intended) because we have collectively agreed to support wrong leadership, wrong doctrines and wrong traditions.

Until we change our backwards sentimental reasonings we WILL continue to experience what we are now experiencing.

My name is Kate Mshelia and I don’t know if I am making common sense.

REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

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I saw this few reasons on way to read book and I will love to share with you.

REASONS WHY WE SHOULD CONSTANTLY READ BOOKS

1. Books help you to feel more confident.

2. Books help you to travel around the world in the cheapest way.

3. Books develop your personality.

4. Books provide food for thought.

5. Books make you laugh and think.

6. Books draw you towards perfection.

7. Books stimulate creativity.

8. Books bring out writing talent.

9. Books help you in communicating.

10. Books clear your vision.

11. Books satisfy your curiosity.

12. Books help you make better choices.

13. Books help you build literary talent.

14. Books do not require any special device to teach.

15. Books increase your attention span.

16. Books are fruitful pastime.

17. Books can be used anytime, anywhere.

18. Books provide entertainment, when others fail.

19. Books make you powerful.

20. Books help you know the ‘Whys’ and ‘Hows’ of everything.

21. Books help you to create and spread fun.

22. Books help you travel across time intelligently.

23. Books keep you updated with facts and figures.

24. Books spread love, affection and knowledge.

25. Books make the best of friends.

26. Books take you to intellectual environment.

27. Books help you feel the world around you.

28. Books entertain your mind.

29. Books broaden your horizon.

30. Books bring Nature to your doorstep.

31. Books bring about a ‘personality change’.

32. Books increase comprehension.

33. Books do not require company.

34. Books are stress-busters.

35. Books develop a sense of belonging to people around you.

36. Books provide mental and physical relaxation.

37. Books act as a communication tool.

38. Books are intellectually satisfying activity.

39. Books provide spiritual experience.

40. Books provide emotional strength.

41. Books build your self-esteem.

42. Books help and encourage your imagination to soar.

43. Books make you smarter and wiser.

44. Books help you grow.

45. Books take you to a ‘world of dreams’.

46. Books can change your life and vision.

47. Books help you in achieving ‘life goals’.

48. Books develop wonderful experience.

49. Books transform lives.

50. Books inspire, books motivate, books build nations.

We challenge you to start reading books and not just storing them!

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WHY WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL . . . . . . (Tribute To My Mother)

This is a dedication to my mother, it’s a combination of what most mothers pass through and do everyday just to keep the home running. I have never remember when I don’t have what I need, she is always up early and sleep late. Here is a short story and is a combination of what most mothers pass through.

Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, “I’m tired, and it’s getting late. I think I’ll go to bed.”

She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next days. Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.

She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.

She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer.

She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to dry. She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.

She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick list for the groceries. She put both near her bag. Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails.

Dad called out, “I thought you were going to bed.”

“I’m on my way,” she said. She put some water into the dog’s dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with one of the kids who was still up doing homework.

In her own room, mom set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added 3 things to her 6-most-important-things-to-do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. “I’m going to bed.” And he did…without another thought. Yet she wakes up early in the morning to set breakfast and wake the children and make them ready for school and she herself get ready for work, go to work and go back home to repeat the above circle.

Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer…? ‘CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL……. and they can’t die sooner, they still have things to do!!! (my mother live longer than my father {missing them both})

You are a phenomenal women…….God Bless ALL WOMEN!

Everydy

Everyday may not be good, but there is something good in everyday.

Locate it.

Hope For Maiduguri

The most important aspect of warfare is the psychological and anyone who can win the psychological war will definitely win the physical combat. That was how Mao Tse Tsung and his little band of communists beat the Chinese national army back in the past. That was also how King George and Winston Churchill were able to rally Britain and all of Europe and were able to beat Hitler in world war II.
What boko haram is doing now to residents of Maiduguri and its environs is to defeat them psychologically. Else why throw fliers around warning of an impending attack? Did they announce to Gwoza residents before attacking their town? What of Bama? They know Maiduguri would be tough if not impossible so they are rallying their forces and discouraging the populace. Can boko haram muster 5000 men? I doubt it so they are looking for another way to win a battle that is otherwise impossible.
I advice everyone in Maiduguri or in anyway affiliated to it to be strong and courageous. Let’s all unite in prayer, trusting God to deliver the city and all in it. Let’s also make up our minds to fight if a push comes to a shove. If we decide defeat is not an option, Maiduguri will never fall to the insurgents. Vive la Maiduguri.

Elijah Salihu Malgwi

MY LAMENTATIONS

#BringOurGirlsBack – MY LAMENTATIONS

By Femi Oyebade Jnr.

Everyone saying “Bring ouR girls back”, I’m here screaming “Bring my heart back.” Rihanna’s outfit is saying “Where did your dignity go?” Approximately 276 female students kidnapped from their school, over 250 families in tears, mothers left in pain like going through labour all over again. It could have been your sister or mine. What happened to the country we were told would get better, what happened to the hope they gave us, what happened to the prayers we said, how come we have been left feeling like citizens of a forgotten place? Bombs going off every week, the government saying they’re doing something but we’re dying slowly and decreasing in numbers. Our families walking around in fear, we’re left living to survive like we’re been documented for the African HUNGER GAMES.

The president says “We can’t kill our girls in the name of trying to get them back” but how come it took the awareness of the world to bring about some action? People living on their knees in fear, the green colour that represents our country is turning red and our girls aren’t still back. So somewhere tonight, a mother is in tears and someone my age will go to bed not knowing when next or if he’ll ever see his sister again. When did we let one man, with blood flowing through his veins become God, taking lives like he could give one.

To Boko Haram,
You claim to fight for God but Allah preaches love not hate. Allahu Akbar means “Allah is the greatest”, he doesn’t need you to fight his battles. Your God must be weak to need you to fight for him, your God must be the reflection you see in the mirror. We’re told the devil will come to “kill, steal and destroy”. You have destroyed our land, killed our people and stolen our girls… You’ve abused our girls and made them give birth to choices they never made. You have taken away their independence and their voices as if they are fertile pieces of land with no army to defend it. A woman was made out of a man’s rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. Bring Back Our Girls, their mothers are waiting to smile again!

19 year old Femi Oyebade Jnr. is a student, writer and lives in the Republic of Ireland.

Never give up on your dreams!!!

I just read this and it inspired me,you too should read!!

I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in San Ysidro. He has let
me use his house to put on fund-raising events to raise money for youth at risk programs. The last time I was there he introduced me by saying, “I want to tell you why I let Jack use my horse. It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, the boy’s high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior, he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up. “That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200-acre ranch, showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track. Then he drew a detailed floor plan fora 4,000-square-fo ot house that would sit on a
200-acre dream ranch. He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher. Two days later he received his paper back. On the front page was a large red F with a note that read, `See me after class.’ “The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, `Why did I receive an F?’ “The teacher said, `This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you. You have no money. You come from an itinerant family. You have no resources. Owning a horse
ranch requires a lot of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you’ll have to pay large stud fees. There’s no way you could ever do it.’ Then the teacher added, `If you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal, I will reconsider your grade.’
“The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, `Look, son, you have to make up your own mind on this. However, I think it is a very important decision for you.’ “Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same
paper, making no changes at all. He stated, “You can keep the F and I’ll keep my dream.”
Monty then turned to the assembled group and said, “I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch. I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace.” He added, “The best part of the story is that two summers ago that same
schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.” When the teacher was leaving, he said, “Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher, I was something of a dream stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids’ dreams. Fortunately you had enough gumption not to give up on yours.” “Don’t let anyone steal your dreams. Follow your heart, no matter what.”