Honesty

Patrick, an eager young man entered his prospective boss’s office for an interview.

One thing our company is very particular about is cleanliness. I hope you wiped your shoe on the door mat while coming in? said the boss.

Yes sir, Patrick replied promptly.

The boss continued, One more thing we’re very particular about is honesty. There is no door mat outside!

Moral: No matter what, always stick with the truth. It always pays off.

Madamsabi’s Blog

DEAR MEN

DEAR MEN
You might think she wants your money, your car or even the most expensive of gifts……………

But you really need to understand that the RIGHT WOMAN wants your time, your smile, your HONESTY, as well as your efforts at making her your PRIORITY………

Only then will you unleash the King in you by making her the QUEEN she is meant to be…….

PREPARING TO BECOME A WIFE: TEN (10) TIPS FOR SINGLE WOMAN

Many women dream of that special day. You know the one, where all of the attention is on her in that gorgeous white dress. The flowers, the decorations, the fancy cars and let’s not forget, her Prince Charming. Most women have an idea of what age they will be when Mr. Right asks her to spend the rest of her life with him. She has the colors picked out, the ideal season, the wedding party and even the guest list! To many women, the wedding day is the turning point in her life that will lead to her happily ever after. Many of have focused (let’s be honest) so much time and thought on the wedding such that they have never spent enough time and energy on the most important part Preparing To Become A Wife! Marriage takes work! I am talking about 24/7/365 work! The great thing about the marital covenant is that when you give it your all, you can live Happily Ever After.

1. Develop an intimate relationship with God. You cannot enter into a successful covenant with a husband if you don’t first have one with God. Seek wisdom, study the word, develop a life of prayer and be dedicated to living for God. This will strengthen the marriage covenant when God allows you to walk into that season. A three-cord strand is not easily broken.

2. Master the art of fidelity and trust. No man wants a woman who cannot be faithful or one that turns her neck at every fine man that she sees. Learn to 100% committed prior to a serious courtship. Be happy with what God has blessed you with and cultivate your relationship. It is also important to be a woman of your word. If you promise to do something, be sure to do it!

3. Develop the ability to take care of a home. Ladies, in order to be a great partner in marriage, you must bring the ability to emotionally and physically take care of the house. Learn to set an atmosphere of peace and love. Avoid quarrels when possible. Practice gentleness with others that cross your path.

4. Learn how to cook! My mother once told me that a woman who cannot cook is not cute! We know that men like to eat. Let’s be serious here. We all need to eat to live. Eating out all of the time can become expensive and who doesn’t love a home-cooked meal from time to time. If you cannot do anything beyond boil water, invest in a cookbook. Try one new meal a week and you will quickly improve your cooking skills.

5. Make smart financial decisions. If you desire to marry a man that provides and makes the best decisions for his family, you need to do the same. Smart men don’t want to marry a woman who spends way more than she saves. Work on your budget and be sure to have an emergency fund. Preparing for tomorrow is important. The ability to manage money is important in marriage.

6. Be complete as one. Be comfortable with not having a man in this season. Learn to be happy on your own. Find joy in those things that make you happy. Love what you have and don’t covet what others have. Spend time in your singleness doing the things that you love to do. Travel, find hobbies and do the things that married women tell you that you won’t have time to do when you get married and then become a mother.

7. Learn the art of compromise. Marriage will be about give and take. While you are single, learn that you don’t always have to be right and accept that most things will not always happen your way. Be willing to sacrifice what you want for the benefit and happiness of others. Wives have to compromise many things. The earlier we learn to compromise, the better off we will be in marriage.

8. Be committed to pursuing your dreams and supporting others. It is important to have your own goals and motivations prior to becoming one with your future husbands. The single season is a great opportunity to begin building your career, business or working towards other goals. Learn how to support family and friends in their endeavors as well. When you become a wife, you will have to support your husband’s dreams, possibly at the expense of yours. You must me ok with this level of sacrifice and compromise prior to committing to marriage.

9. Know what submission is and be ready to walk in it. Many people shy away from this discussion. Submission is not equivalent to obedience. Submission is yielding in love. Study God’s design for marriage and understand the role of a wife. In your singleness, God is your husband. Submit yourself to Him. Trust His plan and timing for your life. Seek His guidance in all that you do. Practicing submission now will be the driving force to it being second nature to you once you become a wife.

10. Be holy and feminine in your conduct. Always carry yourself as a classy woman who walks with confidence. Men want a woman they are proud to take home to their families. They want a woman with high self-esteem, one who walks gracefully, respects herself and others around her. Marriage is a sacred bond between God, man and woman. This is a great starting list to help single women prepare.

Eight Things Happy People Have In Common – Family -

Much have been said about money, success, blah blah and blah. Sometimes little is said about happiness which is the most important thing in life. So I went digging for things that happy people do as a routine because to me life is all about happiness and its pursuit. This is what I found out in times magazine, enjoy:
University of California professor Sonja Lyubomirsky details the things research shows the happiest people have in common.
So here is the list, enjoy
1.They devote a great amount of time to their family and friends, nurturing and enjoying those relationships.

2.They are comfortable expressing gratitude for all they have.

3. They are often the first to offer helping hands to coworkers and passersby.

4. They practice optimism when imagining their futures.
5. They savor life’s pleasures and try to live in the present moment.

6. They make physical exercise a weekly and even daily habit.
7. They are deeply committed to lifelong goals and ambitions (e.g., fighting fraud, building cabinets, or teaching their children their deeply held values

8.Last but not least, the happiest people do have their share of stresses, crises, and even tragedies. They may become just as distressed and emotional in such circumstances as you or I, but their secret weapon is the poise and strength they show in coping in the face of challenge.
Having said it all, now you know. Happiness is your right don’t let anyone take it from you, not even your spouse.
Nairaland.

Tips and Tricks to Increase Laptop’s Battery life

Tips and Tricks to Increase Laptop’s Battery life
You may do practically anything on a contemporary laptop computer, but their innovative features debilitate battery life to the extent that you are able to merely get a couple of hours out of it in a lot of cases.

One of most important part of laptop is its battery and plays an important role in the improvement in the performance of the laptop. Every precaution must be taken in order to ensure complete maintenance of the battery of the laptop and here are some ways to increase laptop battery life.

Tips and Tricks to Increase Laptop’s Battery Life

1. Darken your screen:
The screen constitutes among the most power-hungry components of the laptop. It calls for serious amounts of battery power to maintain your display appearing clear and luminous. Preserving this power is merely a motion of turning the brightness level low. 

The screen brightness level button is normally situated as a 2nd part of one of the F keys, and is corresponded by a small sunlight symbol with upward and downwards images. To apply it, just hold down the right function key then select up or down.

2.Use Updated Softwares:
It is very good to have a updated operating system and also a updated version of any software you intend using on the computer, this is because old version of software tend to take a lot of power than the updated version, this has not been totally proved but it not good to leave any stone unturned, so if you can have your computer’s OS updated and software please do.
3.Wrong Adaptor:
Using the wrong adaptor can damage your battery when the adaptor don’t supply the necessary or recommended power to your battery cell it makes your battery bend rules to serve and the adverse effect of these is not usually funny because the adaptor which is not the recommended adaptor supplies low power to the battery which is not a good sign and you should avoid that. 

Always buy a charger that is recommended by the manufacturer which supplies the same volts as the adaptor that came with the laptop.

4.Modify power settings:
Windows Vista has several outstanding power features, which enable you to squeeze out the most proficient performance when you are plugged into the mains, and optimize battery life while on the move. Type power options into the Start Search box and select Power saver from the list. 

The Windows Mobility Center has further techniques for economizing battery life. These include settings for powering off the monitor and kicking into sleep mode more rapidly.

5. Don’ let the laptop overheat:
This is one of the most important points because sometimes the laptop goes into overheating mode and this severely impacts the laptop’s battery performance. Hence always make sure that the laptop is properly ventilated. Don’t use the laptop while sitting on the bed. 

These are special tables that are available and can be used. The best part about these small tables is that beneath the laptop special holes are provided that lets the air passes on easily and the laptop is not overheated.

6. Turn off Wi-Fi
Among the greatest battery sappers constitutes the wireless networking capacities built into most laptops. Wi-Fi debilitates the battery from perpetually absorbing power from the battery and, while not online, searching networks. 

Once you are using your laptop computer away from the power grid, the likeliness is you are outside from wireless networks, therefore you’ll be able to turn this device off. Numerous laptops have got a function button that enables you to switch off the wireless adapter manually to spare yourself the needless waste, only older laptops frequently do not have this. 

Whenever this is the case, simply go to the Control Panel, access the Network Connections menu and disable your wireless connection manually.

7.Hibernate your Laptop:
Hibernating your laptop is far better than making your laptop sleep because sleeping still makes use of the battery to. So always try to hibernate your laptop then using the sleep mode.

8.Eject your disc drives:
Having a disc spinning around in the drive constitutes a large drain upon resources, and numerous programs constantly do this. Just kick out your discs before you alternate to battery power to acquire critical additional minutes from your work day.

So these were some Proven Tricks and tips that will help you to Increase your laptop’s Battery life. Try it yourself to feel the Difference

writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Be Polite

Please enjoy this little story I got from a friend:
“When I was a kid, Mum liked to make food for dinner & I remember one night in particular when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening, Mum placed a plate of bread, jam and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad.

I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet, all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smiled at my Mum and asked me how my day was at school.

I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my Mum apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits.

And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burned biscuits.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your mum had a long hard day at work today and she’s really tired. And besides… A burnt biscuit never hurt anyone but harsh words do!”

You know, life is full of imperfect things…and imperfect people. I’m not the best. What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults and choosing to celebrate each others differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing and lasting relationship.

So…please pass me a biscuit. And yes, the burnt one will do just fine!

And please pass this along to someone who has enriched your life…I just did!

Life is too short to wake up with regrets…

Love the people who treat you right and have compassion for the ones who don’t.

ENJOY LIFE NOW – IT HAS AN EXPIRY DATE”

writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Who You Should Date

I have always said this to people; it’s not about what someone says about you when the going is good, it’s more about what they say about you when it goes sour. A man or woman you are in a relationship with can say every good thing to you; what is that person saying in your absence? Now that it’s over, have you suddenly turned to a cheap girl, prostitute, sex pervert…? It only shows you he/she never loved you. Whenever you meet a man or woman who does not take pleasure in discussing the ex, that’s the person to stick with. But when you have him/her always saying negative things about the ex, better run for your dear life.
Guys are fond of this; a girl leaves you for another, she suddenly becomes a cheap commodity. You tried dating/marrying her but failed and she turns to a prostitute who is not up to your class. Ah ah, na only you waka come? Chill bro because only empty heads believe all that crap about her. You failed to marry her probably because you didn’t hit the right button to her innermost heart; you failed to date her, don’t worry; your own woman will come. Don’t put her down because she is a princess to another whose kind of love she wants.
Girl, don’t hate the guy because after dating him for five years, he left you for another; he knows what he wants in marriage and because you are not what he wants, he had to go for another. It hurts, but don’t hold it against him because he can’t see his future bleak with you and walk into it all in the name of “I love her”. You are not for him, your own man is on the way.
Written by: Amara

writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Women Are The Most Wonderful Creatures

Women are the most wonderful creature I have
seen on Earth, but am yet to understand why
some men are busy finding faults upon faults on
them.
Ok, lets look at them this way and tell me if am
lying 1) Women are the only creature that can change
their original surname just for the sake of love.
2) They are most easiest creature to convince. 3)
They are the only creature that loves from the
bottom of their heart. 4) They are the creature
that can prefer to go to bed with an empty stomach, just to make sure
that their children feeds well.
5) They are the only creature on Earth that cries
very easily, just to expose their inward
disposition. 6) They are always awake even at the
dead of the night just to make sure that their children are
protected.
7) They can even sell out their cloths just to buy
food for their children, and also see them smiling.
8) They are always ready to sacrifice their lives
just to save the lives of their children. 9) They are always in the kitchen inhaling the
smoke without complaining, just to prepare
something for their children and husband to eat.
10) They are the only creature that can abandon
their biological family and start up a new home
with a stranger. 11) Even when they are battling with the pains of
pregnancy, yet, they are busy looking after their
husbands and children. e.t.c
Infact! Mmmuahh! Just a Kisssssssss for all my
wonderful
female friends! Indeed, am glad to have you all!

NAHASH

NAHASH!

I wish I have a voice over this Nation like Baba Adeboye and Daddy Oyedepo and Papa Ayo Oritsejafor and Daddy Kumuyi and Daddy Okonkwo!

What will I do with it? I will raise it in a Trumpet call to the North, the South, the East and the West of the Land and summon THE BODY to meet me at the City Centre in Maiduguri on a set day, from sunrise to sun set, without police or soldiers on guard!

What will we gather for? To plead with Heaven for our Nation. To roll back the hordes of Hell and seal with Christ’s Eternal Blood the gates of Horror opened against our Land; To disconnect our Governmental Leaders from the hold of the powers of Darkness that have their minds in chains; to open the portals of Heaven for a rain off righteousness upon our Land!

“Nahash, king of the Ammonites came up, and encamped against Jabeshgilead…”

I Samuel 11:1

But Jabeshgiliead was too terrified to fight. So the people caine up with a resolution, They sent a powerful delegate to dialogue with Nahash and negotiate a honorable term of National surrender to that vicious being called Nahash! The situation was tense and critical. The Elders of jabeshgilead, the Men! said to Nahash:

We Surrender! We will serve you as slaves Please let us sign a pact to that effect! (vslb)

Hear the reply:

And Nahash the Ammorite answered, on this condition will I accept your surrender (vs 2)

What condition?

That I will pluck out the right eye of every one of you and lay it out before you and your God for a reproach upon Israel (vs 2)

The word Nahash means SERPENT! What is the serpent saying in Chibok? Or are we still pretending?

Confronted with this demonic proposal, the Elders of Jabeshgilead sent to Nahash, saying:

Give us seven days to send your message to our brethren in the south, in the west and in the east; our brethren in Lagos and in Port. Harcourt and Wairi and Ibadan and unto all the coasts of Israel; If no one rises for our help after seven days, then you can have our right eyes and carry them to the forest of Sambisafor an eternal reproach upon the Church of God in Nigeria and upon our Leaders! The message got to Gibeah and all the people lifted up their voices and cried! They were all alarmed! ‘Wow non 11sf.,

The message got to Gibeah and all the people lifted up their voices and cried! They were all alarmed! “How can this happen,” they said. But they remained in their comfort zone and preached nice and sad sermons on the case! They didn’t want to be involved in “politics”!

But Saul came from the farm and met everyone crying. He asked what happened and was told of the Boast of the Serpent! How he appeared on television and disdained the God of lsnael!

“Saul said, what aileth the people that they weep? And they told him the tidings of the men of

North Eastern Nigeria…”

(vs 5)

“And the spirit of God came upon Saul when he heard those tidings, end his anger was kindled greatly.” (vs 6)

Some Reverend gentlemen are never angered by anything! They play it cool all the time, even when God weeps!

 

Saul’s anger was kindled! Then he did something completely strange! lie grabbed some bulls, killed them and cut them into pieces and tent all of the pieces by the hands of messengers to all the coasts of Israel saying: Whosoever come not forth after me and Samuel as we march on Maiduguri City Centre, that Christian man or woman is in big trouble!

That message went alt through the coasts of Israel like whirlwind and caught up with the message of terror earlier sent from Nahash and melted the fear of death from the peoples’ heart!

“And the fear of the Lord fell on the people, and they came out with one consent…” (vs 7)

Let our fathers callus out. Let them summon us to Maiduguri City Centre, and we shall be there! All of us—North, South, West and East!

It is those whom God has given the Voice that can call! Saul was newly anointed Leader over Israel when that incident happened. Samuel was the Prophet of God in the Land. They were the ones with the Voice of Summon to Summon!

Let our Fathers, our Leaders, the ones we have followed to do anything they had asked us to do in the past, let them call us now. We will follow them!

To where should they call us? To Maiduguri City Centre! Why Maiduguri instead of Redemption Camp or Canaan Land for example? Because for this purpose, Redemption camp, Canaan Land and other such places in the sonth are symbols of our corporate retreat in the face of Nahash’s challenge! For this purpose, theyare our fortified city of escape white the Nation bums!

And fear of the LORD fell npon3he-people and they came out with one consent”

Let us come out! Out to the field! Out to where Nahash is about to complete his 40 days and 40 nights of serpentine ranting against the God of our covenant!

About 330,000 people responded to the summon of the Spirit. And message was sentto Jabeshgilead:

“Tell our people at Jabeshgilead, Tomorrow, by THAT TIME THE SUN BE HOT YOUSHALL HAVE HELP! (vs 9)

When will we have help in the North East? Is it until the SERPENT, Nahash have our right eyes as eternal reproach upon the Church?!

“Then Mordecai answered Esther, Think not with yourself that you shall escape in Lagos or Port-Harcourt or

Warn or Ibadan or Enugu more then all the brethren in the North East For you altogether hold your peace AT THIS TIME, then shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the North-East and to our Nation and the people FROMANOTHER PLACE” Esther 4:13,14

 It is for a time such as this that God places Leaders over his church. Let our Leaders callus now. Not just for what have happened and are happening, but for what MAY STILLHAPPEN if we don’t arise now!

“And it was so on the morrow, that Saul put the people in three companies; and they came into the midst of the host in the morning watch, and slew the Anunonites until the heat of the day: and it came to pass, that they which remained were scattered, so that two of them were not left together.

I Samuel 11:11

Let our Fathers call us out. We need their summon for us to arise. We need theft courage to make us stand. We need their voice to fire us! Just one day for a mighty cry to the True and Living God! One day to discomfit the hosts of Darknoss! ohe slay to let our Nation know that there is a God in Nigeria.

You are our Fathers, our Leaders at a time such as this. This generation will never forget your names, EITHER WAY!

 Source: Fragrance From source Gospel Ministy

http://www.sourcegospel.net

Enlightenment

Ignorance is worst disease they say but must of us take it to be a popular nonsense. but in reality interplay its one such true word and explicit phenomena. we engage in practices traditions doctrines and rituals without a proper understanding of their supernatural implications on our souls. adherents or disciples of such deities use cunning ways and methods to their actual ceremony or worship. its a pity that we allow ourselves to be played by people that are of no value. It is imperative  that we stay on guard support our intellect and question any strange phenomena which we deem un-understandable to us and seek enlightenment, for it is knowledge that guides our perception and acceptance of the unknown nonsense been popularized. We shouldn’t let ourselves to fall for an unjust course, we should be agents of change and affect our society both physically and intellectually. its our duty to protect promote and practice honesty  and encourage it too. PAMA LINUS…

MY LAMENTATIONS

#BringOurGirlsBack – MY LAMENTATIONS

By Femi Oyebade Jnr.

Everyone saying “Bring ouR girls back”, I’m here screaming “Bring my heart back.” Rihanna’s outfit is saying “Where did your dignity go?” Approximately 276 female students kidnapped from their school, over 250 families in tears, mothers left in pain like going through labour all over again. It could have been your sister or mine. What happened to the country we were told would get better, what happened to the hope they gave us, what happened to the prayers we said, how come we have been left feeling like citizens of a forgotten place? Bombs going off every week, the government saying they’re doing something but we’re dying slowly and decreasing in numbers. Our families walking around in fear, we’re left living to survive like we’re been documented for the African HUNGER GAMES.

The president says “We can’t kill our girls in the name of trying to get them back” but how come it took the awareness of the world to bring about some action? People living on their knees in fear, the green colour that represents our country is turning red and our girls aren’t still back. So somewhere tonight, a mother is in tears and someone my age will go to bed not knowing when next or if he’ll ever see his sister again. When did we let one man, with blood flowing through his veins become God, taking lives like he could give one.

To Boko Haram,
You claim to fight for God but Allah preaches love not hate. Allahu Akbar means “Allah is the greatest”, he doesn’t need you to fight his battles. Your God must be weak to need you to fight for him, your God must be the reflection you see in the mirror. We’re told the devil will come to “kill, steal and destroy”. You have destroyed our land, killed our people and stolen our girls… You’ve abused our girls and made them give birth to choices they never made. You have taken away their independence and their voices as if they are fertile pieces of land with no army to defend it. A woman was made out of a man’s rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. Bring Back Our Girls, their mothers are waiting to smile again!

19 year old Femi Oyebade Jnr. is a student, writer and lives in the Republic of Ireland.

Talking About Nudity

“To all that think it’s fanaticism or extremism to Preach against or be against NUDITY in the name of fashion or hot weather or whatever excuses they give. . . Read This:
The Legendary boxer Mohammed Ali’s advice to his daughters. An incident transpired when his daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were quite revealing. Here’s the story as told by one of his daughters.
“When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at us, then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said; “Hanna, everything that God made Valuable and Precious in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find Diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find Pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find Gold? Way down in the mine, covered over and protected by layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get to them.” “He looked at me with seriousness in his eyes. “Your body is Sacred. You are far more Precious and Valuable than GOLD, DIAMONDS and PEARLS, and you should be covered too.”
Satan is preaching the message of NUDITY today cos he knows that if a man looks at a woman lust fully, he has had committed sin with her. Be Careful how u dress.” Let him who has ear listen and learn
From: Facebook

A JOKE

Never Argue With Children
A little girl was talking to her teacher about
whales. The teacher said it was physically
impossible for a whale to swallow a
human because even though it was a very
large mammal its throat was very small. The little girl stated that Jonah was
swallowed by a whale.
Irritated, the teacher reiterated that a
whale could not swallow a human; it was
physically impossible.
The little girl then said, “When I get to heaven I will ask Jonah.”
The teacher asked, “What if Jonah went to
hell?”
The little girl replied, “Then you ask him.”

Written by I G Malgwi

Don’t Be Fast To Judge

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the
train’s window shouted,” Dad, look the trees are going behind! They are moving very fast”
Dad smiled, a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old childish behavior with pity.
Suddenly he again exclaimed, “Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”
The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man, “Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor may be a psychiatrist?”
The old man smiled and said, “I did, just coming from a doctor but not a psychological one, but we are just coming from the
hospital anyway, let me tell you, my son was blind from birth, he
just got his eyes today for the first time”
Every single person on the planet has a story, stop concluding people so fast, Don’t judge people before you truly know them,The truth might surprise you.
From Facebook.

Written by I G Malgwi

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday

Composed by: Paul Mwada Wakawa

Rulers And Leaders

A Pharaoh ruled Egypt in the days of Moses. He was typically a Ruler, he was not a leader.

Leaders are different from Rulers. The tragedy of a NATION without a leader is exemplified by a country I once knew. None of many people who rose to power over that country ever thought of assuming such awesome position of authority and responsibility prior to their coming into power. It happened over night. They all accidentally came into power. Leaders never emerge accidentally!
Leaders are different from Rulers. You can rule without much thought, you can’t Lead without thinking. Rulers plunder a nation. They loot it, rob it, raid and ransack it and strip it bare to its bones! Not that Rulers are “bad” people, not that they don’t like their country. That is not why they ravage and devastate the nation they rule; But because such acts are exactly the nature of Rulership as opposed to Leadership!
A nation that is ruled rather than lead doesn’t leave one spot. It just stays put in the same old rots from generations to generations.
The truth is, any Jack from anywhere can become a Ruler. It doesn’t mean take time. It happens overnight, thoughtlessly and visionlessly! All you need to rule is a hard-heart with some measure of ruthlessness, loud voice, hard look, tough talk and plenty of lies and deception.
Leaders are different from Rulers. Very few can lead! To lead you have to be going some-where yourself! And that takes vision. The Leader has a vision of the people’s destiny. He inspires the people to reach for the corporate destiny as one entity.
Leader leads because he sees tomorrow! Rulers live exclusively inside today. Tomorrow doesn’t matter to them. They don’t have perspective. The “now” is all they see. Leaders see tomorrow inside of today. They have to because that is where they are headed with people they lead. They are on a journey to the people’s destiny.
The children of Israel couldn’t really get along well with God after He released them from Pharaoh’s strangle-hold. They were used to life under a Ruler, a ruler who just camped them in one giant prison called Egypt where their lives were lived in circle! Pharaoh wasn’t a leader, he was a Ruler. He wasn’t going anywhere. So those under him were stuck in the prison of static existence. And you know, a Nation can become a prison, a cage where the lives of the people are controlled by the Ruler. A Church can become a prison if what you have is a Ruler-Pastor rather than a leader!
Israel had been in the big cage for centuries. When the vision of God came, the people were called out unto a destiny journey. But it happened that they rather liked and preferred their static lives; that life where you don’t need to think, invent, invest, create, or do anything extra-ordinary to be alive; a flabby contentment with just the barest minimum.
Without a Leader, the people’s huge potential for national and global impact will continue to lie in waste beneath their pittance exterior! Rulers don’t take a nation anywhere. They themselves have nowhere they are going; and somebody going nowhere cannot take a people somewhere.
For the length of time it takes a Nation to have a leader over it, that is how long it will take for the Nation to move forward in the direction of its destiny. Rulers don’t bend, but Leaders follows the Inside-Light in the course of destiny whichever way it turns! And the people follow suit.
The Ruler uses force, and power, and wiles and lies. Vision and passions are strength of the leader. Rulers loot and are happy! A people come into their destiny is the Leader’s reward and joy. For the Ruler, his access to the peoples’ wealth and his unauthorized use of it bring satisfaction in the corporate progress the people make towards their destiny. His access to the people’s hearth is to him a sacred trust he must protect at all cost! The Ruler takes from the people much more than he gives them. The Leader gives all and asks for nothing! He creates and conserves sovereign wealth!
The Ruler turns common wealth into private property. The Leader take from his God-given internal wealth of wisdom, passion and vision, and from them create for the people a common wealth constituted from the raw materials of national endowment. Those who know the nature of Rulership don’t quarrel with the Ruler or grumble or lament when the rulers act. None of us can give what we don’t have. Rulers have no vision. They can’t lead.
The fault is not with the Ruler who is not leading! By nature Rulers can’t lead. They can only loot! The real fault is with a people, a nation who NEEDS A LEADER but continues to put its destiny in the hands of Rulers!
Under what condition do a people, a Nation keep their errors constant? Errors should be corrected and prevented from occurring again. But under certain self-inflicted circumstances, a people keep repeating their errors.
What are this conditions?
One, When ethnic sentiments predominate over reasoned national consideration.
Two, When religious sentiment and affiliation makes men call good evil and evil good.
Three, When a people do not know the scared call and destiny of its Nation.

Good God, deliver us from perpetuating our errors! And our own woes.
Amen.

Fragrance “from Source Gospel Ministry” Vol. 15 No. 3

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ANGER FALLS ONE LETTER SHORT OF DANGER.

A man received the following
message from his neighbour:
“Sorry, Sir I am using your
wife… I am using day and night… I am using when you
are not present at home… In
fact, I am using more than
you do… I confess this
because now I feel very
much guilty… Hope you will accept my sincere apologies.”
However, the man got angry
and shot his wife.
Few minutes later he
received another message
from the neighbour: “Sorry, Sir, spelling mistake…
It’s not ‘wife’, but it’s ‘wifi’.”
Note: ANGER FALLS ONE
LETTER SHORT OF DANGER.
The best cure for anger is
delay! MAY GOD PROTECT YOU FROM
THE EVIL OF ANGER

Post By Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

8 Things You Need To Know About Watermelon

8 Things You Need To Know About Watermelon.

In the Last article I wrote, which I titled Short Steps to Improve Digestion Naturally leads me to writing about benefit of Watermelon. What is Watermelon? Is it good to eat Watermelon on daily basis? Let us find out…

Watermelon is a natural fruit gifted to man by nature. As a fruit, it contains several health benefits thereby making it a very important fruit to man. In most countries, Watermelon is consumed during the summer; it is a summer fruit because it helps preventing Sun heat.

There are several health benefits of Watermelon but I will start with “Protection of Cancer” as number one.

1. Watermelon contains some substances that gives the body protection against Cancer. It is antioxidants and has flavonoids which helps in protecting the body from Caners like, breast, colon, and so many others.

2. The vitamins present in Watermelon treats infections in the body. It also helps in treating joint inflammation.

3. Important element like Potassium and Manganese works on blood pressure regulation. As well, the antioxidants present in Watermelon helps maintain the blood vessels against sclerosis.

4. Watermelon removes salt accumulation from the body and also reduce the concentration of Uric acid in the blood thereby reducing the risk of having kidney stone due to presence of Potassium.

5. Another importance of Watermelon is it cures heart problems. As stated, Watermelon contain abundant potassium which is needed to cure heart diseases. It keeps your heart healthy.

6. Watermelon reduces the high effect of Ultra Violent ray, UV, the presence of  a pigment called Lycopene in Watermelon protect the body against Ultra Violent rays.

7. Most important too, it gives the brain refreshment. Watermelon increases brain power as it contains good amount of  Vitamin B6 and water which is most important to the brain

8. Finally, it is anti-ageing. It makes your body, skin, hair and  parts of your body look young and.

http://www.wordofhealings.com/2014/03/8-things-you-need-to-know-about.html?m=1

Post By Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

The Ultimate Gifts

In life there are series of gifts that you most give yourself and i call them “The Ultimate gifts”

The gift of work: Hard work is backbone of every success, if you can work hard on anything little then you can work on anything complex.

The gift of friends: Friends are people who can give their all for you. You must learn to have positive friends those that are real and true.

The gift of learning: Do you truly know how to learn, learning never ends you give yourself to learning everyday and learn something new a day.

The gift of problems: You don’t begin to live until you lost everything. When you lost everything then you have a good place to start from the scratch.

The gift of family: Family is the best thing you can have if your family is healthy, family will always look out for you when you need support and care.

The gift of laughter: Surround yourself with happy people who always laugh and make you laugh because moods are contiguous.

The gift of dream: You must free your mind and allow yourself to dream, you must dream and act on it.

The gift of giving: Just like the saying givers never lack, if you give you open door for more blessing to flow into you.

The gift of gratitude: You should learn to be grateful to all that has impact something in your life. When you have a heart of gratitude you open more doors for more impact into you.

The gift of love: Love is the greatest gift that can happen to you. Give yourself love.

The gift of a day: Give yourself a day that you will forever remember and also give such to another.

Inspired by the movie the ultimate gift.

Short Story With Great Moral

A wise man stood in front of a large
audience and cracked a very funny joke;
everybody laughed like crazy.
After sometime, he cracked the same joke
again; this time, less people laughed. He cracked the same joke again and again
until everyone got tired of it and started
wondering what he was doing. When he
saw that there was no more laughter in the
crowd, he smiled and said: “You can’t laugh
at the same joke again and again but why do you keep crying over the same thing over
and over again?”
Never let a bad day make you feel like you
have a bad life. Just because today is painful
doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be great.
And just cause you failed today doesn’t mean you wont succeed tomorrow!
I G Malgwi

How To Get Ideas Out Of Thin Air

I just come across this write up on how to get ideas. I will like to share with you my views and the authors view.

Coming up with ideas can be tough, sometimes impossible, or so it seems. I’ve never had a problem with generating ideas, but I’ve discovered that they often do not manifest themselves in the way I expect them to.

Whenever I feel like I’m stuck, I move onto something else, because if I try to force things, it never goes well. I learned this while playing the freeCell game.

I learned that when I let things unfold naturally, everything went smoother and the end results were better.

I’ve had a lot of time to get familiar with how my body, mind and soul conjure up ideas. I suggest you do the same!

Where Do Ideas Come From Anyway?

I think ideas come from a place we don’t see, but we know is there, we kind of feel it. Ideas aren’t something that belong to us, they float around until someone grabs them.

How often have you had an idea that you didn’t act on and then a few months later you discovered that someone had “stolen” your idea?

That’s what happens when you don’t use the inspiration you get. If you aren’t putting the ideas you get to good use, what is the point of sending you more?
A Note on Brainstorming

At the moment my favorite way of brainstorming is to take a topic and start writing keywords about anything that comes to mind.

The best way to do this is to use a voice recorder, because the last thing you want to do is censor yourself, which happens a lot if you’re writing.

We all have at least one thing we can do to allow ideas and solutions to appear. For the detective it was taking a drive.

The more you use your brain and solve problems, the better you get at these things. Here are a few of the ways I generate ideas:

1. Washing the Dishes. It’s amazing how many ideas I’ve gotten while washing the dishes. I’ve never been a fan of using a dishwasher. Why do I need one when I can wash everything by hand so much more quickly? Anyway . . . using the dishes helps me focus my mind on one thing. In that sense, it is kind of like meditation. Whenever I need an idea or a problem solved and if there’s dishes around, I go do them. Often it doesn’t help to think more, but to think less.

2. Befriend Your Bed. It’s not what you think. What I mean by befriending your bed is taking a break and lying there, relaxing. If you’ve been trying to come up with a great idea or solution all day, give yourself some time to cool off and take a nap or lie there thinking about whatever you want, but I do recommend making it something positive. If I go to bed, lie down and think about my problem, it doesn’t really work that well.

3. Allowing. Sometimes ideas come when the time is right. I view ideas and inspiration as something that comes naturally, so when I’m not receiving a solution to a problem, it’s me blocking it. When nothing else works, I meditate and release any resistance I might have in my body.

4. Observing. I like to take walks with Friends or by myself. It helps me clear my mind. If you decide to go for a walk, stay as present as possible and remember to bring something to record your ideas on. I’ve noticed that once the flood gates open, I want to be ready to capture whatever is coming through. Don’t wait, jot everything down right away.

5. Being Present. I almost hate saying be present, be in the now and focus on what is, because they have been so overused in the last few years. But they have been repeated so many times for a good reason: they work. When you stop worrying and get your ass back to the present moment, you’ll improve your idea generation greatly.

6. Brainstorming. Like I said above, I’ve fallen back in love with brainstorming. Sometimes I use mind mapping software, sometimes I use notepad and sometimes I use good old pen and paper. The only reason I don’t use an audio recorder is because I like to see my ideas, so if I record everything, I’d have to transcribe it all and that takes time.

7. Exercising. Have you ever noticed how clear your mind is after you’ve exercised? I have too, it’s pretty cool. This again goes back to the theme of doing something completely unrelated to what you were doing and letting your unconscious come up with a great idea or solution to a problem you’re having. Our conscious mind is nothing compared to our unconscious.

Aside

What is the most important project before you right now? How really important is it? If tomorrow is your last day on earth, will this project still be a priority? What will be your preoccupation today? What will you use the rest of your time doing?
By the way, are there people you need to settle with? Any unresolved conflict? Do you hold offence against any one? Is your heart Free, Pure and Ready? Or are there any pending repairs or amendment to your life? I don’t really know why the death of Mr Michael Jackson affected me so much! Something strange hit me when I picked the breaking news of his sudden and emergency transfer to the hospital. I remained with CNN for hours. I followed the ‘progress’ of the news.
First it was: Mr Jackson has being rushed to the hospital.
Then Mr Jackson is reported to be in coma…….
Then Mr Jackson condition is said to be worsening….
And then the big one; Mr Jackson is dead!

My mind roamed free! I see the guy on stage: energetic, smooth, flashy and professional; a complete master of his trade! Now he is gone! Mr Jackson? No, that is not his name. MJ? Not at all. His name is in Isaiah 40:6-8. He is Mr GRASS! And I am thinking that is your name to. It is our common name. it is the name we inherited from daddy Adam. It is both our surname as well as our first name. Very few of us have affidavit to the effect that we’ve changed name. I saw people crying at the funeral service of Mr GRASS! I cried too. But again I checked Isaiah 40, and I discovered we missed it yet again. Why were we crying? What did we cry?
“the voice said, cry. And he said, What shall I cry”?
We didn’t know what to cry! We were there, a bunch of weak humanity in slavery to sin and Satan! We were all there with our Talent, Money, Fame and Glamour. Yet we are all GRASS! Cry and say,
“All FLESH is GRASS, and all the goodliness thereof is as the FLOWER of the field…” And, mark this! “The GRASS WITHERETH, the FLOWER FADETH…”
I saw us there, on the magnificent stage! I saw the casket bedecked with flower (yes, FLOWER!). I saw men of caliber and women of substance! I saw on the background screen the flashes of Mr GRASS past performances! I saw him in the days of innocence! I saw when the GRASS started to wither. I saw what God made, when Mr GRASS was but a baby singer. Then I saw the world’s recreation of God’s creation. I saw the fading of the flower! Oh God! How can we be so gifted and blessed by God only for us to submit our soul to the devil to turn’s God’s creation of His own image to mere GRASS. On that stage, where the whole of humanity stood to get rid of the GRASS, I saw us all! We were there by our common name. Janet Jackson FLOWER, Little Paris FLOWER, Lionel Richie GRASS, Stevie Wonder GRASS, Jamie Jackson GRASS and a host of other GRASSES and FLOWERS .

It suddenly dawned on me: We really don’t understand God. We pride in shame and glory in vanity. We take to lecture, we learn no lesson. We do cry when one of us falls as Grass that we are. But we don’t acknowledge our need of God! Is it not yet clear to us the inevitable end of GRASS? “The GRASS WITHERS” Don’t we know what happens to FLOWERS? “The FLOWER FADES” Why then remain in the GRASS and FLOWER family? What the heck! Is it worth the gamble? Yes, Grasses stay Green for a while, and the rose does retains its colour for the moment. But haven’t we seen the end of the Greenest of Grasses and reddest of Roses?
We have been actors and entertainers; and life as it is in the Creator’s mind keeps eluding us. When we all wake up to our Reality? When will the actors stop acting and live real life….. The LIFE! Mr Jackson has been dubbed the greatest Entertainer of his time. I am not sure if God Almighty, the Owner of Life and Breath, has been entertained in the 50 plus years of Mr Jackson’s life. Indeed many Entertainers, including Mr Jackson, have actually taken away the attention of men from their Maker! I am always afraid when I think of what the world can make out of what God has made! For Mr Jackson, we saw what God made him. And we saw what the world re-created him! Yet we can’t really blame the world. By our choice we become what we become! But then, we will all go back to Him who made us, to explain OURSELVES (not to HIM) why we made the choice we made in our life-time!
By the way, did I tell you that I changed my from Mr GRASS to Mr WORD? Here was happened: Isaiah carried.
“All flesh is Grass, and all the goodliness thereof is as the flower of the field. The Grass withers, the flower fades! But THE WORD OF OUR GOD SHALL STAND FOR EVER” (Isaiah 40:6-8)
To remain Grass is to perish! To be mere Flower is to die forever. But then, it is not only Grass and Flower that one can be. There is the alternative! While the Grass change from Green to Brown and then rottens; while the flower changes its colours, fades and dies off, we are told that there is something that stand for all eternity! “The WORD of our God shall stand for ever” Our best in life outside of God is all toilet stuff! This world has no light! What we see and celebrate outside of our life in God are but illusion and delusion. The colour of black is black. Earth is dull and colourless viewing from eternity perspective! Only Jesus puts true colour to the human souls.
“You that say, Today or Tomorrow we will go into such and such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell and get gain, whereas you know not what shall be on the morrow. FOR WHAT IS YOUR LIFE? IT IS EVEN A VAPOR THAT APPEAR FOR A LITTLE TIME, AND THEN VANISHED AWAY” (James 4:13, 14)
I don’t want a vapour for a life. I don’t want Grass or Flower as fitting description of my core-life. That was why I changed from MR GRASS to MR WORD! I know the end of FLOWERS. I understand the fate of vapour. I do not want any of that. Especially when I have a choice.
“The WORD of our God shall stand for ever”
John put its soberly:
The world is passing away and the lust thereof. But he that does the will of God abides for ever (see 1 John 2:16, 17)
Guess what, you don’t have the kind of time you think you have to decide your place in God. Right now, how does God view your life, Grass or Flower or Vapour? When are you going to change God’s view of your life? The world has finished celebrating Mr Michael Jackson. The News about him is no longer breaking news. It has gone flat! He has been neatly deposited in the soil where his memory lays with him. “Dust thou art” until you receive the Christ-Life. Mr Jackson can tell us better now. Here was a man who gave his whole life to entertain the world. He even changed his God-given appearance to give the world what he taught was a better him. I am however not sure what he gave God. But that is the issue confronting him right now! And very soon, I will be the issue with you and with me! God is waiting!
By Dr. Moses Fagbemi

Mr Grass and Mrs Flower

4 Parts of Visualization

Did you know that there are 4 parts of visualization that you can learn and practice to assure that you use this incredible power to its best advantage all the days of your life?

How Often?

The first aspect of visualization is frequency. This is number of times that you visualize yourself performing in an excellent way, in a particular event or circumstance, to achieve a particular goal. The more frequently you repeat a clear mental picture of your very best performance or result, the more rapidly it will appear as part of your reality.

How Long?

The second element of visualization is the duration of the mental image, the length of time that you can hold the picture in your mind each time you replay it. When you deeply relax, you can often hold a mental picture of yourself performing at your best for several seconds, and even several minutes. The longer you can hold your mental picture, the more deeply it will be impressed into your subconscious mind and the more rapidly it will express itself in your subsequent performance.

#How Often #How long #How clearly #How Intensely  

How Clearly?

The third element of visualization is vividness. There is a direct relationship between how clearly you can see your desired goal or result in your mind and how quickly it comes into your reality. This element of visualization is what explains the powers of the Law of Attraction and the Law of Correspondence. The vividness of your desire directly determines how quickly it materializes in the world around you.
Here is an interesting point: When you set a new goal for yourself, your image or picture of this goal will usually be vague and fuzzy. But the more often you write it, review it, and repeat it mentally, the clearer it becomes for you. Eventually, it will become crystal clear. At that point, the goal will suddenly appear in your world exactly as you imagined it.

How Intensely?

The fourth element of visualization is intensity, the amount of emotion that you attach to your visual image. In reality, this is the most important and powerful part of the visualization process. Sometimes, if your emotion is intense enough and your visual image is clear enough, you will immediately achieve it.

Of course, the elements of frequency, duration, vividness, and intensity can help you or hurt you. Like nature, the power of visualization is neutral. Like a two-edged sword, it can cut in either direction. It can either make you a success or make you a failure. Visualization brings you whatever you vividly and intensely imagine, whether good or bad.

By Brian Tracy

10 Reason To Find Your Greatness

Why should you find your greatness? Do we all have it? Where does it come from? What can it do?
 

Greatness is not something you are entitled to. It is something that you earn, something that you work and strive for. It is something that you deserve only if you make a go for it. And if you want the whole world to know about your greatness, it is important that you do not wait for the world to see it and instead, you need to live it, and the world will be the one to catch up with you. Find your Greatness!

If you still haven’t got any motivation to start with your personal development, you might be interested to know some of the best reasons why you need to find your greatness and start   showing it  to the whole world.

 

 

Have an Impact

Finding your greatness will help you to make a tremendous impact, not only to yourself but also to your family, to the people around you and to the whole world. And this impact is something that they will surely value and treasure for the rest of their lives.

Attract Positive Energy

Embracing your greatness can make you look at life in a more positive light which can help you stay away from negative thoughts that can only bring you down.

Experience Happiness, Pleasure and Joy

Being aware of how great you are will also pave the way for you to feel good about yourself. This can serve as your motivation to continue living your life to the fullest and make the most out of every moment that you have. And when you do so, joy and pleasure are bound to come your way.

Be Happy for Other People

Part of personal development is being able to celebrate the happiness and success of other people around you. When you feel great about yourself, it also allows you to see the good things in others and this way, you will also attract your very own happiness and success.

Open More Doors of Opportunities

Showing your greatness to the world will open you to brand new possibilities and opportunities. You can see more great things brewing up in the horizon and you will be more motivated to claim them because you know that you can actually do it.

Prepare Yourself for Changes

All things on earth are temporary, with the tables constantly changing. By fully embracing your greatness, you can be fully prepared for whatever changes life may throw at you.

Extend a Helping Hand to Others

Your greatness is not something that works for yourself alone. When you feel great, this can serve as your motivation to help others to feel great about themselves, as well. Together, everyone can work hand in hand to make things better.

Start a Better World

When people see you embracing your greatness, they will also be inspired to embrace theirs. When everyone does this, this will pave the way for a better world.

Create a Legacy That Excites You and Makes You Proud

By finding your greatness to the world, you will leave behind a legacy that you can be proud of.

Greatness is Possible for All

The last but definitely not the least reason why you need to show your greatness is because this is something possible for everyone, regardless of age, gender, race, color and beliefs. Everyone can be great. It is only a matter of choice. Choose wisely!

 

Much love and power to you all,

Jeff More (everday power blog)
 

He Will Not Let Go No Matter What

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter: “Sweetheart, please
hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river.” The little girl said: “No, Dad. You hold
my hand.” “What’s the difference?” asked the puzzled father. “There’s a big difference,” replied the little girl. “If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.” OUR PRAYER IS SIMPLE In whatever bridge of life u maybe crossing, may the Almighty God hold your hand and never let u down in Jesus name.

Librate Yourself

DO NOT let other people’s poverty mentality infect your mind or your spirit. They are slaves in a prison of their own making, because they do not have confidence or belief that they deserve all that life has to offer.
YOUR destiny is unlimited abundance if you’re a simply willing to accept that gift.
I G Malgwi

20 Things To Start Doing About Relationship

20 Things to Start Doing in Your Relationships
1. Free yourself from negative people.

2. Let go of those who are already gone.

3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance.

4. Show everyone kindness and respect.

5. Accept people just the way they are.

6. Encourage others and cheer for them.

7. Be your imperfectly perfect self.

8. Forgive people and move forward.

9. Do little things every day for others.

10. Pay attention to who your real friends are.

11. Always be loyal.

12. Stay in better touch with people who matter to you.

13. Keep your promises and tell the truth.

14. Give what you want to receive.

15. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

16. Allow others to make their own decisions.

17. Talk a little less, and listen more.

18. Leave petty arguments alone.

19. Ignore unconstructive, or hurtful comments.

20. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself.

Women Are Indeed Priceless

I was touched by how far women can go just to please a man and I will love to share with you this short write up.
You saw her somewhere & asked to meet her she stopped for you.
You asked for her name she told you.
You asked for her phone number, she gave you the real one.
You asked for her friendship she gave you care, presence & listening ear.
You asked for intimacy & she gave you her body .
You asked for her loyalty she gave you all of her heart, spirit, soul & body. You asked her to live with you & she married you.
You asked for a legacy she gave you Children.
You asked for her help & she raised your Children.
You asked to be loved she cooked for you, dressed & warmed your bed, adviced you & prayed for you.
In all this time she asked for just one thing;
“PLEASE DON’T HURT ME” but just then, you
treated her bad, mocked her, took her for granted
and even tending to DIVORCE her.
At this juncture, even God himself will be angry you.
Be careful. Live responsibly. If you find a good woman please don’t hurt her. May God always
bring good Women to the path of good Man.
By Mariah Ezekiel.

Short Story With A Moral

SHORT STORY WITH A MORAL:
A lady was waiting for her flight at the airport. Since she would need to wait many hours, she decided to buy a book and a packet of cookies to spend her time. She sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace. Beside the armchair where the packet of cookies lay, a man was seated in the next seat, he opened his magazine and started reading.
When she took out the first cookie, the man took one also. She felt irritated but said nothing. She just thought: “What a nerve! If I was in the mood I would punch him for daring!”
For each cookie she took, the man took one too. This was infuriating her but she didn’t want to cause a scene. When only one cookie remained, she thought: “ah… What would this abusive man do now?”
Then, the man, taking the last cookie, divided it into half, giving her one half. Ah! That was too much! She was much too angry now! Angrily she took her things and stormed out of there. When she sat down in her seat, inside the plane, she looked into her purse to take her eyeglasses, and to her surprise, her packet of cookies was there, untouched, unopened!
She felt so ashamed! She realized that she was wrong. She had forgotten that her cookies were kept in her purse.
The man had divided his cookies with her, without feeling angered or bitter. “While she had been very angry, thinking that she was
dividing her cookies with him.
And now there was no chance to explain herself, nor to apologize.”

There are 4 things that you cannot recover: The stone after the throw! The word after it’s said! The occasion after the loss! The time after it’s gone.
Cherish Every Moment and Fill It With Love and Care For Everyone.

Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School

I don’t think about the past or regret things much these days.
But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was.
Because some of the things in this article a teacher probably spoke about in class. But I forgot about them or didn’t pay attention.
Some of it would probably not have stuck in my mind anyway. Or just been too far outside my reality at the time for me to accept and use.
But I still think that taking a few hours from all those classes and use them for some personal development classes would have been a good idea. Perhaps for just an hour a week in high school. It would probably be useful for many students and on a larger scale quite helpful for society in general.
So here are 16 things I wish they had taught me in school (or I just would like to have known about earlier).
1. The 80/20 rule.
This is one of the best ways to make better use of your time. The 80/20 rule – also known as The Pareto Principle – basically says that 80 percent of the value you will receive will come from 20 percent of your activities.
So a lot of what you do is probably not as useful or even necessary to do as you may think.
You can just drop – or vastly decrease the time you spend on – a whole bunch of things.
And if you do that you will have more time and energy to spend on those things that really brings your value, happiness, fulfilment and so on.
2. Parkinson’s Law.
You can do things quicker than you think. This law says that a task will expand in time and seeming complexity depending on the time you set aside for it. For instance, if you say to yourself that you’ll come up with a solution within a week then the problem will seem to grow more difficult and you’ll spend more and more time trying to come up with a solution.
So focus your time on finding solutions. Then just give yourself an hour (instead of the whole day) or the day (instead of the whole week) to solve the problem. This will force your mind to focus on solutions and action.
The result may not be exactly as perfect as if you had spent a week on the task, but as mentioned in the previous point, 80 percent of the value will come from 20 percent of the activities anyway. Or you may wind up with a better result because you haven’t overcomplicated or overpolished things. This will help you to get things done faster, to improve your ability to focus and give you more free time where you can totally focus on what’s in front of you instead of having some looming task creating stress in the back of your mind.
3. Batching.
Boring or routine tasks can create a lot of procrastination and low-level anxiety. One good way to get these things done quickly is to batch them. This means that you do them all in row. You will be able to do them quicker because there is less start-up time compared to if you spread them out. And when you are batching you become fully engaged in the tasks and more focused.
A batch of things to do in an hour today may look like this: Clean your desk / answer today’s emails / do the dishes / make three calls / write a grocery shopping list for tomorrow.
4. First, give value. Then, get value. Not the other way around.
This is a bit of a counter-intuitive thing. There is often an idea that someone should give us something or do something for us before we give back. The problem is just that a lot of people think that way. And so far less than possible is given either way.
If you want to increase the value you receive (money, love, kindness, opportunities etc.) you have to increase the value you give. Because over time you pretty much get what you give. It would perhaps be nice to get something for nothing. But that seldom happens.
5. Be proactive. Not reactive.
This one ties into the last point. If everyone is reactive then very little will get done. You could sit and wait and hope for someone else to do something. And that happens pretty often, but it can take a lot of time before it happens.
A more useful and beneficial way is to be proactive, to simply be the one to take the first practical action and get the ball rolling. This not only saves you a lot of waiting, but is also more pleasurable since you feel like you have the power over your life. Instead of feeling like you are run by a bunch of random outside forces.
6. Mistakes and failures are good.
When you are young you just try things and fail until you learn. As you grow a bit older, you learn from – for example – school to not make mistakes. And you try less and less things.
This may cause you to stop being proactive and to fall into a habit of being reactive, of waiting for someone else to do something. I mean, what if you actually tried something and failed? Perhaps people would laugh at you?
Perhaps they would. But when you experience that you soon realize that it is seldom the end of the world. And a lot of the time people don’t care that much. They have their own challenges and lives to worry about.
And success in life often comes from not giving up despite mistakes and failure. It comes from being persistent.
When you first learn to ride your bike you may fall over and over. Bruise a knee and cry a bit. But you get up, brush yourself off and get on the saddle again. And eventually you learn how to ride a bike. If you can just reconnect to your 5-year-old self and do things that way – instead of giving up after a try/failure or two as grown-ups often do you would probably experience a lot more interesting things, learn valuable lessons and have quite a bit more success.
7. Don’t beat yourself up.
Why do people give up after just few mistakes or failures? Well, I think one big reason is because they beat themselves up way too much. But it’s a kinda pointless habit. It only creates additional and unnecessary pain inside you and wastes your precious time. It’s best to try to drop this habit as much as you can.
8. Assume rapport.
Meeting new people is fun. But it can also induce nervousness. We all want to make a good first impression and not get stuck in an awkward conversation.
The best way to do this that I have found so far is to assume rapport. This means that you simply pretend that you are meeting one of your best friends. Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind instead of the nervous one.
This works surprisingly well. You can read more about it in How to Have Less Awkward Conversations: Assuming Rapport.
9. Use your reticular activation system to your advantage.
I learned about the organs and the inner workings of the body in class but nobody told me about the reticular activation system. And that’s a shame, because this is one of the most powerful things you can learn about. What this focus system, this R.A.S, in your mind does is to allow you to see in your surroundings what you focus your thoughts on. It pretty much always helps you to find what you are looking for.
So you really need to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. And keep that focus steady.
Setting goals and reviewing them frequently is one way to keep your focus on what’s important and to help you take action that will move your closer to toward where you want to go. Another way is just to use external reminders such as pieces of paper where you can, for instance, write down a few things from this post like “Give value” or “Assume rapport”. And then you can put those pieces of paper on your fridge, bathroom mirror etc.
10. Your attitude changes your reality.
We have all heard that you should keep a positive attitude or perhaps that “you need to change your attitude!”. That is a nice piece of advice I suppose, but without any more reasons to do it is very easy to just brush such suggestions off and continue using your old attitude.
But the thing that I’ve discovered the last few years is that if you change your attitude, you actually change your reality. When you for instance use a positive attitude instead of a negative one you start to see things and viewpoints that were invisible to you before. You may think to yourself “why haven’t I thought about things this way before?”.
When you change your attitude you change what you focus on. And all things in your world can now be seen in a different light.
This is of course very similar to the previous tip but I wanted to give this one some space. Because changing your attitude can create an insane change in your world. It might not look like it if you just think about it though. Pessimism might seem like realism. But that is mostly because your R.A.S is tuned into seeing all the negative things you want to see. And that makes you “right” a lot of the time. And perhaps that is what you want. On the other hand, there are more fun things than being right all the time.
If you try changing your attitude for real – instead of analysing such a concept in your mind – you’ll be surprised.
You may want to read more about this topic in Take the Positivity Challenge!
11. Gratitude is a simple way to make yourself feel happy.
Sure, I was probably told that I should be grateful. Perhaps because it was the right thing to do or just something I should do. But if someone had said that feeling grateful about things for minute or two is a great way to turn a negative mood into a happy one I would probably have practiced gratitude more. It is also a good tool for keeping your attitude up and focusing on the right things. And to make other people happy. Which tends to make you even happier, since emotions are contagious.
12. Don’t compare yourself to others.
The ego wants to compare. It wants to find reasons for you to feel good about yourself (“I’ve got a new bike!”). But by doing that it also becomes very hard to not compare yourself to others who have more than you (“Oh no, Bill has bought an even nicer bike!”). And so you don’t feel so good about yourself once again. If you compare yourself to others you let the world around control how you feel about yourself. It always becomes a roller coaster of emotions.
A more useful way is to compare yourself to yourself. To look at how far you have come, what you have accomplished and how you have grown. It may not sound like that much fun but in the long run it brings a lot more inner stillness, personal power and positive feelings.
13. 80-90% of what you fear will happen never really come into reality.
This is a big one. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of time.
This is of course easy to say. But if you remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more of that worry from your thoughts.
14. Don’t take things too seriously.
It’s very easy to get wrapped up in things. But most of the things you worry about never come into reality. And what may seem like a big problem right now you may not even remember in three years.
Taking yourself, your thoughts and your emotions too seriously often just seems to lead to more unnecessary suffering. So relax a little more and lighten up a bit. It can do wonders for your mood and as an extension of that; your life.
15. Write everything down.
If your memory is anything like mine then it’s like a leaking bucket. Many of your good or great ideas may be lost forever if you don’t make a habit of writing things down. This is also a good way to keep your focus on what you want. Read more about it in Why You Should Write Things Down.
16. There are opportunities in just about every experience.
In pretty much any experience there are always things that you can learn from it and things within the experience that can help you to grow. Negative experiences, mistakes and failure can sometimes be even better than a success because it teaches you something totally new, something that another success could never teach you.
Whenever you have a “negative experience” ask yourself: where is the opportunity in this? What is good about this situation? One negative experience can – with time – help you create many very positive experiences.
What do you wish someone had told you in school or you had just learned earlier in life?

Monday Motivation

Most times what we use as solution is more dangerious then the problem. I will like to share with you this story, to help when your in trouble.
A woman was cooking when her little child come aroung where she is cokking, the little girl step no a hot coal and she start shouting mummy my leg, mummy my leg. And the mother out tun and saw water in a bowl and she pour it on the little girls leg, the water she use was hot water that she boil and the girls leg got burnt completly. Moral lesson next time when in trouble don’t rush into finding a solution but find out the caurse of the problem and then what’s the best solution.
Wishing a blessed week.

Before You Judge Others: A Story of A Biker

There are times in our lives that we can sometimes judge other people unfairly simply because of the way they may look, act, or dress. The thing that makes it even worse is the fact that we often do this without even knowing them. We should really try to take the time to get to know someone before we decide the kind of person that they may be.

The following story was posted on FaceBook a while ago. It reveals to us a good lesson that we should all try to learn and apply this truth to our hearts. The following was a note that this Biker left on a window of an SUV in a parking lot.

“To the family in the red SUV at Tim Horton’s today,

Yes, I am a big 280 pound guy with motorcycles and tattoos. I am a welder, I am loud, I drink beer, I swear and I look like I would eat your soul if you stare at me wrong.

What you don’t know is that I have been happily married for 11 years, my kids call me daddy, I am a college graduate, my mother is proud of me and she tells everyone how lucky she is to have such a wonderful son. My nieces and nephews are always happy to see their m’noncl Luc and when my daughter broke her arm, I cried more than she did. I read books, I help people, I go out of my way to thank war veterans and I even cried at Armageddon.

So, the next time I smile and say Hi to your little girl and you grab her and tell her “no, no dear…we don’t talk to dirty bikers” remember that even though you hurt my feelings, this “dirty biker” would be the first person to run into your burning house to save your little girls’ goldfish so she won’t be sad!!!”
From goodtimestories.wordpress.com

Funny Stories With Great Leasons

Just read this stories from goodtimesstories.com I want to share with you. Funny story but with deep leasons

I recently found these great stories on carlpei.com that not only are a little humorous but also have very good “morals of the story.” Please note..while I am not a big fan of certain language, in the case of a couple of these stories, they just fit perfectly. Enjoy!

Lesson 1

A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next door neighbor. Before she says a word, Bob says, “I’ll give you $800 to drop that towel.” After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob.

After a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 dollars and leaves. The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks,…

“Who was that?” “It was Bob the next door neighbor,” she replies. “Great!” the husband says, “Did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?”

Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.

Lesson 2

A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp. They rub it and a Genie comes out. The Genie says, “I’ll give each of you just one wish” “Me first! Me first!” says the administration clerk. “I want to be in the Bahamas, driving a speedboat, without a care in the world.” Poof! She’s gone. “Me next! Me next!” says the sales rep. “I want to be in Hawaii, relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life.” Poof! He’s gone. “OK, you’re up,” the Genie says to the manager. The manager says, “I want those two back in the office after lunch.”

Moral of the story: Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 3

A priest offered a lift to a Nun. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a leg. The priest nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg. The nun said,”Father, remember Psalm 129?” The priest removed his hand. But,changing gears, he let his hand slide up her leg again. The nun once again said, “Father, remember Psalm 129?” The priest apologized “Sorry sister but the flesh is weak.” Arriving at the convent, the nun went on her way. On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129. It said, “Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory.”

Moral of the story: If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great opportunity.

Lesson 4

A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day. A rabbit asked him,”Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?” The crow answered: “Sure, why not.” So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested.

A fox jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story: To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very high up.

Lesson 5: Power of Charisma

A turkey was chatting with a bull “I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree,” sighed the turkey, but I haven’t got the energy.” “Well, why don’t you nibble on my droppings?” replied the bull. “They’re packed with nutrients.” The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Moral of the story: Bullshit might get you to the top, but it wont keep you there.

Lesson 6

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Moral of the story:
1. Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy
2. Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend
3. And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut!

Simple Steps To Have A Good Relationship

Simple steps for a good Relationships

10 ideas for building human connection to get you to a whole new level of high performance and acceptance.

1)Be the most positive person you know
2)Be candid and speak truthfully
3)Be on time
4)Say Please and Thank you
5)Under-promise and Over-deliver
6)Leave people better than you found them
7)Be friendly and caring
8)Be a world class listener
9)Become passionately interested in other people
10)Smile a lot

Peace For Borno State

Today I learn something new I experienced love, not that I have not seen love or understood love or witness love or being loved, but today the love I felt is so deep. I was in Maiduguri when the insurgence in town started, am not in the town when the crisis escalated, I remember when visited the town in 2012 and I experience the 6:00pm to 6:00am curfew, it an adjustment in lifestyle. I do read about the killings, bombings that happen in the town, I do speak with people there on phone until when the ban the use of mobile phone, I do receive calls from people I know, they risk there life to travel to Damaturu Yobe state capital to call me (crying). They make sure they ask how am I doing hope am safe and am doing good in the peaceful sate of the caliphate (Sokoto), this morning a call woke me up from sleep, it was a strange number, I picked only for the caller to introduce himself as Jibo a next door neighbor in Maiduguri who regardless of the curfew in town was up early to go to Post Office are of Maiduguri from Old GRA to call me, after his call I cover myself with the blanket because I am not ready to get up, yet another unknown number called it was my brother he has to cover more distance than Jibo to call me. Both of them ask a question “hope you are ok, hope your safe”? this question still rings in my head as I write this, I can’t hold back tears from my eyes, this pure act of love, people risking their life to get up so early to call me in a peaceful town.
Borno state “the home of peace” as the slogan says has in recent time witness crisis and violence that has touched the life of all, I am writing this with a heavy heart (crying). I remember a city full of happy people who love one another regardless of religion or ethnicity. I remember a city so calm and quite where people go about their day to day life without fear of gun short or bomb explosion, who will have ever taught that Borno state of all state will experience such violence.
I schooled in Maiduguri at FGCM, a school that bring together students from all over Nigeria I made friends with people who hail from Borno to Lagos, to Cross Rivers, to Delta, to Oyo, Taraba to mention but a few states. I remember the famous Monday market which stood in the heart of the town, a market that brings traders and buyers from within and outside the nation, I remember the famous Sanda Kyarimi park a park that is full during festive period either Christmas or Sallah, Christians and Muslims goes to the park regardless of the celebration at the moment be it Christmas or Sallah. I remember the famous Jagol market we people go and buy electronics of all kind, the Baga fish market, the custom market, I remember Polo filed (thou the game of Polo is hardly played there, football has taken over, with driving lessons taught there), Wulari Police barrack market where you get roosted birds and fara (grasshoppers) what an ancient city of the Kaneem Borno empire an empire one of the oldest empire in Nigeria, . A town I loved.
God I come to you with your word, you said anything we ask in the name of your son you will grant it on to us, I ask that you restore peace back to Borno state, you said thousands will fall on our side they will not come near to us, you said we shall only observe with our eyes. God you are the father of or Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, you honour your words more than your name, you said the battle is not ours but yours, so we hand over the battle to you, (unto us a son is born and a child is given he shall be called ………………. Immanuel “God with us”) as we are ready to celebrate salvation of mind in the birth of your son we ask that father you glorify yourself, we ask that you restore peace back to maid, not for our sake but for your name to be lifted high, for your kingdom to come and your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
I ask who ever read this to join me in prayers and also share to as many as possible. Borno the home of peace.

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Dealing With Hurt

People may have disappointed you, betrayed your trust, hurt you badly, break your heart and even make you question yourself…..But you must learn to accept the fact, that some people may never fully come to understand how much damage they may have caused you or others close to you by reason of their actions or inaction; as such you don’t have to stay damaged, hurt and in pain. There are times when we must accept that people are exactly who you hoped they wouldn’t be…Yes I know, you may have been hurt so badly by their actions, Yes I know, that sometimes its not what happened that hurts the most, but rather its who did it that breaks you, but you still don’t have to stay broken. The best revenge is being whole again. Its time to let go of the hurts and pain, its time to free your heart of the bitterness and anger you feel. Its time to be you all over again; Being hurt, offended or angry doesn’t give you an excuse to become the person you were not meant to be; You don’t have to let an emotion change your character..You don’t have to be the person who keeps a grudge against someone else regardless of how much hurt they may have done; you got to be smart!!…. you got to learn to let go… Letting go is freeing your self from bitterness and pain, Letting go is choosing not to let the hurt define your character, Letting go is refusing to let the negativity steal your joy. Life is too short to be intentionally unhappy; Decide today to be happy, Decide today to free yourself from the hurts! Your life can be better!

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

DEAR SINGLE GUY

(1)Dear Single Guys, There’s plenty good women out there, just don’t let your “preference” make you blind towards the one your heart truly needs. #BeWise!

(2) Dear Single Guys, If you are going to pursue a woman’s heart, be sure you are prepared to stay loyal to it. #LoyaltyCounts!

(3)Dear Single Guys, True strength is being able to admit you are weak; Don’t drown in your struggles, simply because you want to save your image and prove a point to her #AlwaysBeYourself!

(4) Dear Single Guys, before you say there are no “good women” be sure you are a “good man” the problem most times could be “you” and not “them” #CheckYourself

(5) Dear Single Guys, Don’t give some other guy the opportunity to love what you took for granted; Appreciate her before she finds someone else who will #SeemsLikeCommonSense

(6)Dear Single Guys, a relationship is between you and the person you are with; Stop letting outsiders plant their opinions in something they are not involved in; Focus on the person you are with, not the people trying to tear you apart!#AWordForTheWise!

(7) Dear Single Guys, breaking her heart is deeper than you think, it destroys her outlook on love and makes it hard for her to find trust in any future relationship; #NobodyDeservesThat!

(8)Dear Single Guys, You can’t keep living like you are single and expect to have a successful relationship; Nobody deserves to have their heart played with. #ManUp!

(9)Dear Single Guys, Every Lady deserves a man who can make her heart forget it was ever broken; Becoming that guy means that you are ready to love her beyond words, correct her in love and help her become better #CanYouBeThatGuy?

(10)Dear Single Guys, A relationship means you come together to make each other better. It’s not all about you, and it’s not all about them. Its all about the relationship. Make sure they can find their biggest fan in you, and you can find yours in them

(11)Dear Single Guys, treat her like you are still trying to win her, and that’s how you’ll never lose her. A real man will remind his woman daily why she fell in love with him

(12) Dear Single Guys, lies help no one, so mean what you say; Don’t say “I love you” if you don’t mean it; Don’t say “I understand” if you have no clue; Don’t say “I’m sorry” if you’re not; Don’t say “I’ll never leave” if you plan to walk away. #TimeToGetReal!

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

DEAR SINGLE LADIES

1 hour ago
(1)Dear Single Ladies, Stop giving your heart and body to everyone; Just because they tell you the right things doesn’t make them the right one. Everybody doesn’t deserve you!

(2)Dear Single Ladies, You will never find the RIGHT person if you never let go of the WRONG one. #BeSmart!

(3)Dear Single Ladies, Stop advertising yourself as wholesale when your value should be something that can’t be bought
#ValueYourself!

(4)Dear Single Ladies, relationSHIPS sink when you invite people on a journey that’s only made for TWO #BeWise!

(5)Dear Single Ladies, a man will treat you according to the “messages” you put out; If you exude sex, you will attract men who want that from you, If you exude self respect, you will attract the type of men who respect women. You will always attract what you exude. #WhatDoYouExude?

(6)Dear Single Ladies, When it’s REAL….you don’t get a promise, you get a commitment #BeWise

(7)Dear Single Ladies, Never let your thirst cause your perception to mis-label someone’s intention; Learn how to take a compliment without creating SOMETHING in your mind that doesn’t exist

(8)Dear Single Ladies, Carrying yourself with no respect will always get you attention from the people who aren’t meant to love you! #RespectYourself!

(9)Dear Single Ladies, If you carry bricks from your past relationships into a new one, you will always end up building the same house #YouAreNotYourPast!

(10)Dear Single Ladies, No relationship is worth losing your character and integrity. If you can’t have you, they can’t either!

(11)Dear Single Ladies, Love isn’t untrue, Love doesn’t hurt, Love doesn’t lie; Love is LOYAL, honest and pure. Stop settling for less than what your heart deserves #GetYourWorth!

(12)Dear Single Ladies, Never make excuses for someone who disrespects you. Who they are or what they do isn’t a pass to treat you like trash.

(13)Dear Single Ladies, Stop making yourself so available. There’s nothing special about being easy access #WiseUp!

(14)Dear Single Ladies, There’s nothing like a woman who has a honest lip, LOVES GOD, has a pure heart, walks in the heels of confidence and isn’t afraid of her flaws!!! #DoesThisDescribeYou?

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Let’s get straight to it.

Our actions create our life… Agree? Our thoughts create our actions…. Agree? Our thoughts are communicated to us in the form of language…. Agree? So…how can we live our largest, most expressive and most loving life if we are using vocabulary that makes us smaller, weaker and discouraged.

Do you know anybody, maybe even yourself, who loves to use phrases like: “This only happens to me”, “Life’s a b*tch“, “I caaaaaaaaan’t!”, “Never!”, “I just can’t win”, “I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t”.

The biggest problem with these phrases is not that they are negative or self centered, it’s that they stop you from taking action. Phrases like this paralyze us and fool us into thinking that we have no power and no choice. Which is nonsense.

What if our words always made us and who ever we are talking to feel inspired, empowered and re-energized?

I’ve created a list of some of the top five words and phrases you might want to delete from your vocabulary. I also included some replacements!

1. I can’t

You’re right! If you say you can’t, it’s over. Just that simple. The door is closed and locked. However, maybe you’re right. Maybe at this moment you can’t run 3 miles at once, maybe you can’t complete the project in 3 hours, maybe you can’t immediately forgive someone. With that said, you must learn to. I must learn, I will learn, I’m preparing myself to…is a much more empowering phrase that will propel you to take action, take risks and grow.

2. Failure

There is no failure, only feedback – only results. You might not get the results you want, but don’t confuse that with failure. And, please don’t ever confuse yourself with your results. You are never a failure but you are always learning. I’m learning, is a much more empowering phrases that let’s you know you are aware of the current results and also shows that you are invested in figuring out a way to get the desired outcome. Learning produces growth, while believing in failure produces hopelessness and stress.

3. I’m overwhelmed

Give yourself more credit! You are stronger and more durable than you think. You are not overwhelmed…you are in high demand! Doesn’t that feel so much better. Your self, school, family, boss, business and friends all need a lot from you because you have so much to give – give it. Being in high demand develops character and also helps you learn to prioritize. You might be challenged, you might be put to the test, you might be busy, but you are way too strong to be overwhelmed!

4. But

Stop. Stop! Stop! Please stop building a case against yourself. Stop rationalizing your excuses, procrastination or lack of productivity. “I want to do this but…” “I have always wanted to_________ but…” Stop making it so easy to talk yourself out of action. If you didn’t do something you said you would, or didn’t do something that you wanted to – own it, adjust, and move on. Don’t make excuses or rationales with the word ‘but’ because as we know, when we tell ourselves the same thing over and over again…we start to believe it. Don’t talk yourself out of your highest life.

5. I hate

Hate – a negative emotions that distorts judgement, tenses muscles, shortens breathing and puts us in a weak state of mind. Let’s not overreact and let’s focus on the positive. Why HATE peanuts, liars and traffic when we can prefer almonds, honesty and freedom. I prefer, is clear way of saying what you like, dislike and expect. I prefer is also empowering and will always lead the conversation or experience in a positive direction.

Take control of your words, thoughts, actions and life!

“The limits of my language means the limits of my world.”
― Ludwig Wittgenstein

Promises You Must Make to Yourself

Make these promises to yourself, and keep them.

Repeat after me: “I promise…”

1. “I will accept everything I am, and everything I am not.” – Self-worth comes from one thing: thinking that you are worthy. So be confident. Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren’t. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is only when you accept everything you are, and aren’t, that you will truly find happiness and success. Read The Road Less Traveled.

2. “I will appreciate others for who they are.” – Sometimes the way you think about a person isn’t the way they are. On the outside, maybe they laugh, and maybe they cry; but you would be surprised at everything they keep deep inside. So pay close attention, and love the people you care about for who they are, and not for who you want them to be. In the long run, this is how you will get the best of them.

3. “I will speak kindly and consciously to others.” – Open your mind before you open your mouth. Don’t mix bad words with a bad mood. Just be calm and deal with your emotions. You’ll have many opportunities to change your mood, but you’ll have an extremely tough time recovering the words you have spoken.

4. “I will speak kindly and consciously to myself.” – Wait, what did you just say to yourself? Were they the inspiring, comforting words you would speak to a friend? Or were they the belittling remarks you might shout to an enemy if you had no heart. Or the negative assessments about life you would utter if you had no faith? All day long we speak silently to ourselves, and a part of us believes every word. So stay mindful, and ask yourself, “If I had a friend who always spoke to me in the same way that I am speaking to myself right now, how long would I allow that person to be my friend?”

5. “I will stop trying to control everything.” – I hate to break it to you, but you can’t control everything in your life no matter how many safeguards you put into place. But thankfully, you don’t have to control everything to find peace and happiness. It lives with you always, deep within. More than getting into the nuances of control itself, you should be more interested in encouraging yourself to commit to giving it up, on purpose. See what happens when you loosen your grip, throw your hands into the air, and allow life to just happen and flow as it does, without constant micromanagement. Read The Power of Now.

6. “I will appreciate the beauty of small moments.” – Positive minds live positive lives. There is always, always something to be thankful for and something to smile about. The happiest people are not those who get everything they want; they are those who, while in pursuit of worthy goals, notice and appreciate the beauty and sweetness of everyday moments.

7. “I will do what I think is right.” – What comes easy won’t always last, and what will last won’t always come easy. So do the right things, not the easy things. Whatever comes your way, whatever battle is raging inside you, you always have a choice. In the end, it’s the choices you make that make you who you are. And no matter what, you can always choose to do the right thing.

8. “I will grow from my challenges.” – You can be stunned, awakened, and changed by what happens to you, but choose to grow from it, and refuse to be reduced by it. Repeat after me: “I am determined to live a happy life no matter my challenges. I will turn all my tales of fury into tales of glory. I will turn all of my tales of woe into tales of WOW!”

9. “I will realize and use my power.” – The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. In a world filled with doubt, you must dare to dream. In a world filled with anger, you must dare to forgive. In a world filled with hate, you must dare to love. In a world filled with distrust, you must dare to believe. And once you do, you will find that power you once thought you lacked.

10. “I will follow the path my heart longs to take.” – Life is too short to live with regrets. So love the things that make you smile, let go of the things that make you cry, and believe that everything happens for a reason. Follow the path that your heart longs to take; it’s your time to shine. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. You are far from what you once were, but not yet who you are going to be. Read The Last Lecture.

11. “I will have some fun while I’m doing it all.” – Some people frantically seek a predetermined definition of success as though their entire self-worth depends on whether or not they make it to the top. Their goals and routines are wound tight around stringent routines that they repeat every single day without stopping to breathe. And while discipline is important, think about how much better off they’d be if they unwound their vision just a little – like kite string – and ran with it like an optimistic youth, breathing and working, just for the joy of seeing if they can make it touch the clouds.

How to Generate Ideas Out of Thin Air

Coming up with ideas can be tough, sometimes impossible, or so it seems. I’ve never had a problem with generating ideas, but I’ve discovered that they often do not manifest themselves in the way I expect them to.

Whenever I feel like I’m stuck, I move onto something else, because if I try to force things, it never goes well.

I learned this while playing freeCell game.

I learned that when I let things unfold naturally, everything went smoother and the end results were better. In the end, you have to find your own way of doing things.

I’ve had a lot of time to get familiar with how my body, mind and soul conjure up ideas. I suggest you do the same!

Where Do Ideas Come From Anyway?

This is the part where I get all esoteric on you. If you’re allergic to this kind of stuff, jump over to the next section.

I think ideas come from a place we don’t see, but we know is there, we kind of feel it. Ideas aren’t something that belong to us, they float around until someone grabs them.

How often have you had an idea that you didn’t act on and then a few months later you discovered that someone had “stolen” your idea?

That’s what happens when you don’t use the inspiration you get. If you aren’t putting the ideas you get to good use, what is the point of sending you more?
A Note on Brainstorming

At the moment my favorite way of brainstorming is to take a topic and start writing keywords about anything that comes to mind.

The best way to do this is to use a voice recorder, because the last thing you want to do is censor yourself, which happens a lot if you’re writing.

We all have at least one thing we can do to allow ideas and solutions to appear. For the detective it was taking a drive.

The more you use your brain and solve problems, the better you get at these things. Here are a few of the ways I generate ideas:

1. Washing the Dishes. It’s amazing how many ideas I’ve gotten while washing the dishes. I’ve never been a fan of using a dishwasher. Why do I need one when I can wash everything by hand so much more quickly? Anyway . . . using the dishes helps me focus my mind on one thing. In that sense, it is kind of like meditation. Whenever I need an idea or a problem solved and if there’s dishes around, I go do them. Often it doesn’t help to think more, but to think less.

2. Befriend Your Bed. It’s not what you think. What I mean by befriending your bed is taking a break and lying there, relaxing. If you’ve been trying to come up with a great idea or solution all day, give yourself some time to cool off and take a nap or lie there thinking about whatever you want, but I do recommend making it something positive. If I go to bed, lie down and think about my problem, it doesn’t really work that well.

3. Allowing. Sometimes ideas come when the time is right. I view ideas and inspiration as something that comes naturally, so when I’m not receiving a solution to a problem, it’s me blocking it. When nothing else works, I meditate and release any resistance I might have in my body. I also like to use tools, such as EFT and the Sedona Method, which I talk a lot about on this blog.

4. Observing. I like to take walks with Ingela and our dog, Cleo. It helps me clear my mind. If you decide to go for a walk, stay as present as possible and remember to bring something to record your ideas on. I’ve noticed that once the flood gates open, I want to be ready to capture whatever is coming through. Don’t wait, jot everything down right away.

5. Being Present. I almost hate saying be present, be in the now and focus on what is, because they have been so overused in the last few years. But they have been repeated so many times for a good reason: they work. When you stop worrying and get your ass back to the present moment, you’ll improve your idea generation greatly.

6. Brainstorming. Like I said above, I’ve fallen back in love with brainstorming. Sometimes I use mind mapping software, sometimes I use notepad and sometimes I use good old pen and paper. The only reason I don’t use an audio recorder is because I like to see my ideas, so if I record everything, I’d have to transcribe it all and that takes time.

7. Exercising. Have you ever noticed how clear your mind is after you’ve exercised? I have too, it’s pretty cool. This again goes back to the theme of doing something completely unrelated to what you were doing and letting your unconscious come up with a great idea or solution to a problem you’re having. Our conscious mind is nothing compared to our unconscious.

Relationship Truths for Tough Times

These relationship truths may be a bit difficult to accept at times, but in the end, they will help you weed out the wrong relationships, make room for the right ones, and nurture the people who are most important to you.

  1. Some relationships will be blessings, others will serve as lessons. – Either way, never regret knowing someone.  Everyone you encounter teaches you something important.  Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you.
  2. When times get tough, some people will leave you. – When you are up in life, your friends get to know who you are.  When you are down in life, you get to know who your true friends are.  There will be lots of people around when times are easy, but take note of who remains in your life when times get tough, especially the people who sacrifice the resources they have in their life to help you improve yours when you need it most.  These people are your real friends.
  3. Life is full of fake people. – Sometimes the person you’d take a bullet for ends up being the one behind the gun.  It’s so easy to believe someone when they TELL you exactly what you want to hear.  But when a person SHOWS you who they really are, believe them the first time.  Some people are only nice for their own convenience – the type of people who only call when they need something or come around when it’s beneficial to them.  Not everyone has your best interests at heart.  But sometimes you have to be tricked and mislead by the wrong lovers and friends once or twice in your life in order to find and appreciate your soul mate and real friends when they arrive.
  4. People can easily be insincere with their words.  – When someone truly loves you, they don’t have to say a word.  You will be able to tell simply by the way they treat you over the long-term.  Remember, actions speak much louder than words.  A person can say sorry a thousand times, and say “I love you” as much as they want.  But if they’re not going to prove that the things they say are true, then they’re not worth listening to.  Because if they can’t show it, their words are not sincere.
  5. The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. – Don’t settle to just be someone’s downtime, spare time, part time, or sometime.  If they can’t be there for you all of the time, especially when you need them most, then they’re not worth your time.  Read Codependent No More.
  6. Harsh words can hurt a person more than physical pain. – Taste your own words before you spit them out.  Words hurt and scar more than you think, so THINK before you speak.  And remember, what you say about others also says a whole lot about YOU.
  7. A mistake is an accident.  Cheating and lying are not mistakes. – They are intentional choices.  Stop hiding behind the words “mistake” and “sorry” and stop putting up with those who do.
  8. Excessive jealousy doesn’t tell someone how much you love them. – It tells them how much you dislike yourself.  And no amount of love, or promises, or proof from them will ever be enough to make you feel better.  For those broken pieces you carry, are pieces you must mend for yourself.  Happiness is an inside job.
  9. When people get nasty with you, it’s usually best to walk away. – When someone treats you like dirt, don’t pay attention and don’t take it personally.  They’re saying nothing about you and a lot about themselves.  And no matter what they do or say, never drop down to their level and sling dirt back.  Just know you’re better than that and walk away.
  10. People will treat you the way you let them treat you. – You can’t control them, but you can control what you tolerate.  Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negative people.  Doing so does not mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.  Read Boundaries.
  11. One of the most difficult tasks in life is removing someone from your heart. – But remember, no relationship is a waste of time.  The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.
  12. Resentment hurts you, not them. – Whisper a small prayer of gratitude for the people who have stuck by your side, and send a prayer of good will for those who didn’t.  For should these people hear your prayers, those who have been there will know how much you appreciate them, and those who left will know that you appreciate your own happiness enough to not let resentment destroy your capacity to live with a compassionate heart.
  13. Silence and a half smile can hide a lot of pain from the world. – Pay close attention to those you care about.  Sometimes when a friend says, “I’m okay,” they need you to look them in the eyes, hug them tight, and reply, “I know you’re not.”
  14. True love comes when manipulation stops. – True love comes when you care more about who the other person really is than about who you think they should become, when you dare to reveal yourself honestly, and when you dare to be open and vulnerable.  It takes two to create a sincere environment where this is possible.  If you haven’t found true love yet, don’t settle.  There is someone out there who will share true love with you, even if it’s not the person you were initially hoping for.  Read The 5 Love Languages.
  15. Even the best relationships don’t last forever. – Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be.  People don’t live forever.  Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you.  You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.  And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.

Value Your Parents

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Respect your Parent

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

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An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45-year old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, “What is this?” The Son replied “It is a crow”.
After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, ” What is this?” The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”. After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, “What is this?”At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”.
A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, “What is this?”This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although…

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The Tree That Lived For Others

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

Once upon a time, there were two trees in a forest. They grew side by side and were fast friends. In the course of time, both of them turned into fully-grown trees, laden with fruit.

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In the same forest, there lived many birds and other small creatures, all of whom were very fond of eating fruits. They set their eyes on the two trees to feed themselves.

Though the two trees were fast friends, their nature was quite different from each other. One tree was very generous in sharing its fruits with birds and other creatures. It felt happy whenever any bird sat on its branches to enjoy its fruits. The tree would offer its fruits with love to others. The other tree, being of the opposite nature, was very selfish. It never wanted to share its fruits and hated the birds and all other creatures. The tree used to…

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