How Are You Building Your Life?

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by.

The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.

When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “my gift to you.”

What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home he had built none too well.

So it is with us. We build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort.

Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized, we would have done it differently. Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity. The plaque on the wall says, “Life is a do-it-yourself project.” Who could say it more clearly? Your life today is the result of your attitudes and choices in the past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and the choices you make today.

Credit: Madam Sabi

African Ladies Hear This

This is my advice for all Ladies and myself……. I’m
sorry If it will annoy you but it’s
the Truth, you really have to take
correction now. Dear ladies,
Firstly, if you are still struggling to
find a husband at an old age because you are
looking for a
perfect man, Something is wrong
with you, Sorry to say that but it’s
true. Your propaganda magazine
tells you that ‘All men are liars,
cheats and useless, but let’s be honest here,
which is more likely?.
Is it that there’s something wrong
with about 70million African men,
OR there is
something wrong with one African
Woman?.Ladies, you certainly will not get into
a blissful matrimony if
you are always hanging out with
your so called girlfriends every
night at a beer palour or bar and
waiting for a guy to buy you a drink
and take you home. Drinking yourself to
stupor every Friday and
Saturday nights does
not exactly make you look like a
marriage material. You
want a man?. Invest in a good
wardrobe, and dress responsibly. When a man
comes to you, smile
and be polite, even if he does
not fit your mental image of your
kind of man. Ladies please and
please, stop going into a
relationship with a chip on your shoulder. If
you believe all men are
bad and all men are Dogs, then it
will become a self fulfilling
prophesy.
No man is perfect!. Even you!.
You say you can’t marry a blue collar guy like
a mechanic or
carpenter. If a carpenter was good
enough to marry MARY THE MOTHER
OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST”, why
isn’t one good enough for you?. Do
not focus on where a man is now, but look
and see where he has the
potentials to be. What’s
the point of being beaten to a pulp
every night by some rich, good
looking and non caring man?. Do
you want a future where you will sit in a
traffic in your car with
sunglasses covering your swollen
eyes, you look out of the window
and see a happy couple in a Tuk Tuk
holding hands and laughing like
newly wedded couple even after 12 years of
marriage.
THINK ABOUT IT!

The Scopion And The Frog: A Story With Great Morals

A scorpion was at one end of the stream and wanted to cross to the other side given that he couldn’t swim he was stranded. It happened that at that moment a frog was passing by and saw the helpless scorpion and offered to help. The scorpion happily jumped on the frog’s back and enjoyed the ride to the other side.
When they arrived to the other side, the scorpion repaid the frog by stinging it. On the verge of death as the venom coursed through his body he looked at the scorpion and asked “Why?”. The scorpion remorselessly looked at him and said “because it is my nature”.

LIFE APPLICATION
We should know that we have scorpions in human form. No matter what you do for them they will strike. You showed that guy care stood by him in trying times, supported him, acted like a wife, inconvenienced yourself to see him comfortable but how did he repay you? He dumped you and suddenly realized you aren’t of the same class with him when he made some little money. Don’t stress it, it’s in his nature, he is a scorpion he can’t help it. Feel pity not anger for him because he will lose better things if he continues that way. You stressed yourself for this girl, split your little salary to help her buy her books, you paid part of her fees and you showed her love while she professed undying love to you but left after graduating because to her you’re too poor to date a graduate like her. Don’t commit suicide over her, she can’t help it that’s how she is, she is a scorpion. Guess where scorpions end up most times? Under the slippers or brooms when smacked by a vengeful human. Human scorpions may be in form of a lover, friend or even family, they are everywhere.
MORALS
Don’t let scorpions corrupt you with their venoms, keep being the good person you are that’s your nature.
Have you met a scorpion before?

Hope For Maiduguri

The most important aspect of warfare is the psychological and anyone who can win the psychological war will definitely win the physical combat. That was how Mao Tse Tsung and his little band of communists beat the Chinese national army back in the past. That was also how King George and Winston Churchill were able to rally Britain and all of Europe and were able to beat Hitler in world war II.
What boko haram is doing now to residents of Maiduguri and its environs is to defeat them psychologically. Else why throw fliers around warning of an impending attack? Did they announce to Gwoza residents before attacking their town? What of Bama? They know Maiduguri would be tough if not impossible so they are rallying their forces and discouraging the populace. Can boko haram muster 5000 men? I doubt it so they are looking for another way to win a battle that is otherwise impossible.
I advice everyone in Maiduguri or in anyway affiliated to it to be strong and courageous. Let’s all unite in prayer, trusting God to deliver the city and all in it. Let’s also make up our minds to fight if a push comes to a shove. If we decide defeat is not an option, Maiduguri will never fall to the insurgents. Vive la Maiduguri.

Elijah Salihu Malgwi

One Hundred Dollars An Hour!!

One Hundred Dollars An Hour!!

There are some times in our everyday lives that we become so busy with things like work or our careers, that we can quite often spend less time with the things that are really important. Today’s story gives us a great illustration of this life principle.

SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”
SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?”
SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.”
SON: “Oh! (With his head down).
SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?”

The father was furious.

DAD: “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard every day for such this childish behavior.”

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:

Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

DAD: “Are you asleep, son?”

SON: “No daddy, I’m awake”.

DAD: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $50 you asked for.”

The little boy sat straight up, smiling.

SON: “Oh, thank you daddy!”

Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”

SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do.

“Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love? If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.

Some things in life are more important….

by Coach Muller

3 Good Reasons To Sit Close Your Eyes and Meditate

Meditating isn’t easy. Instead of sitting on the floor cross-legged for half an hour, you probably want to be tweaking your fantasy football team, working through your Netflix cue, crossing things off the to-do list. Yet, new studies show that meditating could be just as good for you as those obviously relaxing and productive activities, plus offer surprising, cool mind, body, and health benefits. Take a few minutes a day to focus on one thing — a mantra, a word, or your own breath; basically, anything but that to-do list — and you’ll benefit in these ways.

Feel Less Pain
Researchers put healthy participants in an MRI to see how their brains light up when they experience pain, and how meditation could change their evaluation of that pain. After only four days, meditation during pain was found to reduce the participants’ rating of unpleasantness by 57 percent, and also decreased the intensity by 40 percent. How? Meditation-induced reductions in pain were associated with increased activity in the areas involved with cognitive processing and reframing the contextual evaluation of sensory events — meaning the pain you feel can be reframed in your brain as less terrible, and more tolerable.

Control Anxiety
Meditate, and you’ll stress less in the moment, and you may be able to also stop yourself from worrying about the future, according to recent research. Nearly a hundred patients with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (a disorder characterized by chronic worry and physiological hyperarousal symptoms), were trained in a type of meditation called Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction. After eight weeks, without adding any traditional cognitive therapy, their anxiety and distress levels went down. The study’s takeaway: If you can learn from mediation that thoughts are just thoughts, and physical sensations are just physical sensations, you can more easily shut down the anxiety-causing negative self-talk about those feelings.

Furthermore, participants in the study who had to do public speaking (perhaps the world’s greatest anxiety-inducer) even showed more confidence, saying things more often like “I can handle everything” rather than the self-sabatoging, “I’ll probably bomb anyway.”

Be Happier
This year, a Johns Hopkins professor did an analysis of 47 of the best existing mediation studies on more than 3,500 participants. He found that meditation provided as much relief from depression symptoms as antidepressants. And unlike drugs, which can come with a host of unpleasant side effects — drowsiness, reduced sex drive — meditation has never been shown to have any risk or negative side effects. Well, other than a little flack from your friends.

– Sarah Z. Wexler

A Clever Dog (Story About Work)

A Clever Dog
A  butcher watching over his shop is really surprised when he saw a dog coming inside the shop. He shoos him away. But later, the dog is
back again.

So, he goes over to the dog and notices he has a note in his mouth. He takes the note and it reads “Can I have 12 sausages and a leg of lamb, please. The dog has money in his mouth, as well.” The butcher looks inside and, lo and behold, there is a ten dollar Note there. So he takes the money and puts the sausages and lamb in a bag, placing it in the dog’s mouth. The butcher is so impressed, and since it’s about closing time, he decides to shut up shop and follow the dog. So off he goes.

The dog is walking down the street when he comes To a level crossing. The dog puts down the bag, jumps up and presses the button. Then he waits patiently, bag in mouth, for the lights to turn. They do, and he walks across the road, with the butcher following him all the way.

The dog then comes to a bus stop, and starts looking at the timetable.
The butcher is in awe at this stage. The dog checks out the times, and then sits on one of the seats provided. Along comes a bus. The dog
walks around to the front, looks at the number, and goes back to his seat.

Another bus comes. Again the dog goes and looks at the number, notices it’s the right bus, and climbs on. The butcher, by now, open-mouthed, follows him onto the bus. The bus travels through the town and out into the suburbs, the dog looking at the scenery.

Eventually he gets up, and moves to the front of  the bus. He stands on 2 back paws and pushes the button to stop the bus. Then he gets off, his groceries still in his mouth. Well, dog and butcher are walking along the road, and then the dog turns into a house. He walks up the path, and drops the groceries on the step. Then he walks back down the path, takes a big run, and throws himself against the door. He goes
back down the path, runs up to the door and again, it throws himself against it. There’s no answer at the house, so the dog goes back down
the path, jumps up on a narrow wall, and walks along the perimeter of the garden. He gets to the window, and beats his head against it several times, walks back, jumps off, and waits at the door.

The butcher watches as a big guy opens the door, and starts abusing the dog, kicking him and punching him, and swearing at him.
The butcher runs up, and stops the guy. “What in heaven’s name are You doing? The dog is a genius. He could be on TV, for the life of me!” to which the guy responds: “You call this clever? This is the second time this week that this stupid dog’s forgotten his key.”

Reflection:
Looks like some, people will never be satisfied with what they’ve got.
When it comes to the work place, Employers do not know how to appreciate their people who have served them loyally through the years. I’ve seen companies lose good people for the simple fact their leaders failed to show appreciation.

Employers with big egos enjoy the fact that they have more power and authority than others. They show, in the way they give orders and directions, that they think they are superior. They get a kick out of displaying this superiority. People who do this are fools, and everyone but them knows it.

They are never satisfied because they could not be satisfied even if their people perform well. They don’t listen to the opinion and ideas of their subordinates.

Why? Because of their stupid pride and insecurity. People of this kind will never be satisfied. Why? Because they are so busy wrapped up in
themselves and, fact is, the self can never be satisfied. Happy and productive people are always those who are “others-centered” rather than “self- centered.” The greatest idea of leadership is not someone who throws his weight around.

His joy is derived from delivering a job that others benefit from his contribution. Aim for service and success will follow….

Madam sabi

A Beautiful Way OF Looking at Things.

A Beautiful Way Of Looking At Things
A Father was reading a magazine and his little daughter every now and then distracted him. To keep her busy, he tore one page on which was printed the map of the world. He tore it into pieces and asked her to go to her room and put them together to make the map again.

He was sure she would take the whole day to get it done. But the little one came back within minutes with perfect map……When he asked how she could do it so quickly, she said, “Oh…. Dad, there is a man’s face on the other side of the paper….. I made the face perfect to get the map right.” She ran outside to play leaving the father surprised.

MORAL OF THE STORY: There is always the other side to whatever you experience in this world. Whenever we come across a challenge or a puzzling situation, look at the other side…. You will be surprised to see an easy way to tackle the problem.

Credit: Madam Sabi

Boko Haram: The Government, The Politics, The security and The Causalties

Happenings within Nigeria in recent days have fuel the hunger for truth in me and the need to write this was born.

I will like to make some clarity to my readers about what I am writing. All am writing are based on what I have heard, see and read about the insurgency in my beloved country Nigeria.

  1. This write up is not a political write up and should not be regard as one.
  2. This write up is not a religious write up and should not be regard as one.
  3. This write up is not a target on an individual or group of people.
  4. This write up is not to undermine the leadership and follower-ship of this Nation.
  5. I use the term government in this write up and what I mean by the term government include:
    1. All political parties (APC, APGA, PDP etc.).
    2. All Nigerians (regardless of region or state)
    3. All religious organization (Christians, Muslims, African traditional religious practitioners, Atheist)  
    4. The three arms of Government.
    5. The leaders and lead.

Prologue

Boko Haram as a group come into existence in 2002 and I quote from the book POWER, POLITICS and DEATH by Olusegun Adeniyi “The history of the sect can easily be traced to 2002 with Muhammad Yusuf, a native of Jakusko in Yobe State, as its spiritual leader and founder. His rise from relative obscurity to prominence in the Salafi Islamic religious circle (Wahabites) derived from the fact that he was a close disciple of the late Sheikh Jaafar Adam”. The violence of the group come to prominence on the night of 26 September, 2009 when many churches, police stations, prisons and houses where attacked in Maiduguri, Bauchi and kano where attacked. In Maiduguri a four day battle with the sect went until the capture of the sect leader Mohammed Yusuf by the army and he was then handed over to the Police who letter killed him and the police reported on a breaking news on NTA around 6:30 to 7:00pm that he was killed in an exchange of gun fire. Pictures of the late Mohammed Yusuf with hand cuffs and bandages make waves in Maiduguri as well as the videos of his interrogation which rises question as to how can someone who have hands bandaged from gunshot and still in handcuff be killed in an exchange of gunshot? Investigation into the extrajudicial killings in Maiduguri of Mohammed Yusuf and other who are believed to be members of the sect and were killed extra judicially by some human right group went on.

Note: What I write here are my views opinion.

 BOKO HARAM

This is a sect of individual who are against western education under the leadership of Mohammed Yusuf. The group are known to the people of Maiduguri and it is no hidden secret about their belief that western education is sin. The leader of this group late Mohammed Yusuf was in 2009 killed by the Nigerian police force and said he was killed in exchange of gun fire. The sect went silent and when the people of Borno state are forgetting about the sect a rumor that boko haram are coming to avenge the killing of Mohammed Yusuf under the leadership of his assistant Abubakar Shekau and a question strike me “where was Shakau all this while?”. Then on the set day some police stations where attacked and since then the insurgency in this nation have taken a new look and dimension. Nigerians never for one day thought that such will happen. Killing people without objectives, attacking schools and killing and abduction of secondary school girls, attacking security structures, motor parks, churches, mosques. Now the question is the Boko haram under Mohammed Yusuf was not faces and this present boko haram is faceless now the question is are they the same group? All Nigerians have distance themselves from the group then big question WHO ARE THOSE ASSOCIATING WITH THEM??????

THE GOVERNMENT

The government (i.e as I have outline them above what made up the government) of this nation has failed itself in many areas. We have fail in the area of being our brothers keepers, we have fail in looking out for one another. We as a nation always admire other nations outside Africa, yet they never think of it this way, it is the people that makes a nation and not the nation that make the people. England, USA, Spain, Germany etc all this nation are what they are because the people make the nation what it is. This nation right from independence have being fighting itself from within and the civil war for example. We always talk in the and view our problems in the following ways: Christian, Muslim, North, South and East so also it has the basis of our elections our appointments into key offices. When the boko haram started many said is a North thing, some an Islam thing yet we did not sit as a nation to tackle the issues as one Nigerian and now it has become a national problem. We as a nation have to be united and stand strong. We need to know that we are having an internal battle and we need to stop fighting this internal battle from outside. Just few selfish one should not hold our nation to ransom. Why has the Government not being able to prosecute those suspected to be behind? Why do we always have crises(either as bomb blast or gun attack or communal clashes) in the nation when our FEC approve large sum of money?

THE POLITICS

Since the vicious attack by the boko haram sect our political parties politicised the issue it is either PDP or APC behind boko haram, it is either the present leaders or the past leaders or even those planning campaign that are the sponsors of Boko haram. For how long as a nation are we going to continue pointing accusing fingers at one another when we know the truth (my choice of the word truth instead of fact is deliberate because a fact might not be true) on ground as to the who, why, where, when and how of boko haram. We should put politics, religion, region aside and fight the insurgence as nation, let all those accused of being the sponsors of boko haram be handed over to an international criminal court for investigation not having them giver of press conferences. It is time we stop this PDP APC politics with the lives of Nigerians all in the name of power struggle.

THE SECURITY

The security of the nation is a failure (in respect to boko haram insurgence) because this is a nation known for its landmark mark achievements in military infantry with the ECOMOG peace keeping in various African countries yet in can tackle boko haram. Why did the security force of this nation arrested Mohammed Yusuf and his followers when they sent an open letter about their plans to attack Borno State? It is so surprising to me that with all the news in the Nigerian mass media about the arrest of top boko haram commanders (e.g Kabiru Sokoto, Abu Dada) and member yet none of them have an idea as to who are sponsoring them, what happen to intelligent gathering, what happen to the security monitoring the activities of suspected individuals as regard to boko haram. Yes gruella warfare is the most difficult because your fighting an unknown enemy. The present boko haram use to be faceless but since the kidnapping of the chibok girls. They are no more faceless because the set a camp in sambisa forest and with this they are no more faceless and can be isolated and arrested (yes the forest can be surrounded). They are not faceless any more so why is our security apparatus not prosecuting anyone?

THE CASUALTY

Who are the casualties of the insurgence and I can emphatically say the poor innocent masses. Since 2009 thousands of people have died from gunshot, planted bombs, suicide bombers and trauma. Many died at religious gathering, some motor parks, some in security structures, some on the way. The sponsors and sympathizers of boko haram have not yet felt the pain being inflicted on the poor masses. For those that have lost their loved once, family and friends, business and many that have survive the attacks are but not without scares some are crippled and handicapped because of the insurgence. Those abducted by the sect are force to start a new life they are not accustomed to the pain those kidnapped girls are passing through, the indoctrination and brainwashing. The casualties are people like me and you who are courageous to speak about the unsaid truth about the sect and thereby became open target (who knows if a bomb will explode around me because of this write up) the casualties are the Nigerian masses who find themselves attacked as they go about their daily activities.

 

This are some question I will like you to ponder upon.

  1. Where was Abubakar Shakau after the death of Mohammed Yusuf?
  2. Why did the police lie about the death of Mohammed Yusuf?
  3. Why do those in leadership always want us to fight one another (either in the name of religion, ethnicity, belief and region)?
  4. Why do bomb always blast or any insurgency when government have approved or loan millions to billions of dollar (eg when the Government approve money for National identity card some years back there was a major bomb blast and when the world bank loan money to make water accessible to all the chibok girls got kidnapped) are this event diversion/distraction of attention?
  5. How do boko haram fuel their cars, get supply of food and ammunition?
  6. Why are those suspected to be sponsors not being handed over to international court?
  7. When will our nation be united?

Joke

A father decided to take his son abroad to learn English because it has proven to be impossible in Nigeria. He took him to a language school in UK and demanded that the school should have him stay with a host family (An English family).

After 6 months, the father decided to pay his son a surprise visit. He called the school, got the host family’s address and dropped there without notice.

When he rang the door bell, an English lady in her 40’s answered the door.

ENGLISH LADY: Hello, how may I help you?

FATHER: Hello, I am Adamu’s father. I’m here to see my son.

ENGLISH LADY: Hi, I’m his host mother. I will get him for you. The host mother turned and shouted, “Adamu, ka zo ga Babanka ya zo!”(Which means Adamu come your father is here)

The Wise Teacher And The Jar

There was once a very wise teacher, whose words of wisdom students would come from far and wide to hear. One day as usual, many students began to gather in the teaching room. They came in and sat down very quietly, looking to the front with keen anticipation, ready to hear what the teacher had to say.

Eventually the teacher came in and sat down in front of the students. The room was so quiet you could hear a pin drop. On one side of the teacher was a large glass jar. On the other side was a pile of dark grey rocks. Without saying a word, the teacher began to pick up the rocks one by one and place them very carefully in the glass jar (Plonk. Plonk.) When all the rocks were in the jar, the teacher turned to the students and asked, ‘Is the jar full?’ ‘Yes,’ said the students. ‘Yes, teacher, the jar is full’.

Without saying a word, the teacher began to drop small round pink pebbles carefully into the large glass jar so that they fell down between the rocks. (Clickety click. Clickety click.) When all the pebbles were in the jar, the teacher turned to the students and asked, ‘Is the jar now full?’ The students looked at one another and then some of them started nodding and saying, ‘Yes. Yes, teacher, the jar is now full. Yes’.
Without saying a word, the teacher took some fine silver sand and let it trickle with a gentle sighing sound into the large glass jar (whoosh) where it settled around the pink pebbles and the dark grey rocks. When all the sand was in the jar, the teacher turned to the students and asked, ‘Is the jar now full?’

The students were not so confident this time, but the sand had clearly filled all the space in the jar so a few still nodded and said, ‘Yes, teacher, the jar is now full. Now it’s full’.

Without saving a word, the teacher took a jug of water and poured it carefully, without splashing a drop, into the large glass jar. (Gloog. Gloog.) When the water reached the brim, the teacher turned to the students and asked, ‘Is the jar now full?’ Most of the students were silent, but two or three ventured to answer, ‘Yes, teacher, the jar is now full. Now it is’.

Without saying a word, the teacher took a handful of salt and sprinkled it slowly over the top of the water with a very quiet whishing sound. (Whish.) When all the salt had dissolved into the water, the teacher turned to the students and asked once more, ‘Is the jar now full?’ The students were totally silent. Eventually one brave student said, ‘Yes, teacher. The jar is now full’. ‘Yes,’ said the teacher ‘The jar is now full’.
The teacher then said: ‘A story always has many meanings and you will each have understood many things from this demonstration.

Discuss quietly amongst yourselves what meanings the story has for you. How many different messages can you find in it and take from it?’
The students looked at the wise teacher and at the beautiful glass jar filled with grey rocks, pink pebbles, silver sand, water and salt. Then they quietly discussed with one another the meanings the story had for them. After a few minutes, the wise teacher raised one hand and the room fell silent.

The teacher said: ‘Remember that there is never just one interpretation of anything. You have all taken away many meanings and messages from the story, and each meaning is as important and as valid as any other’.
And without saying another word, the teacher got up and left the room.

The Travelling Angels

Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a
wealthy family. The family was rude and refused to let the angels
stay in the mansion’s guest room. Instead the angels were given a
space in the cold basement.

As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a hole in the wall and repaired it. When the younger angel asked why, the older angel replied…”Things aren’t always what they seem.”

The next night the pair came to rest at the house of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his wife. After sharing what little food they had the couple let the angels sleep in their bed where they could have a good night rest.

When the sun came up the next morning the angels found the farmer
and his wife in tears. Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole income, lay dead in the field.

The younger angel was infuriated and asked the older angel, “How
could you have let this happen? The first man had everything, yet you helped him”, she accused. “The second family had little but was willing to share everything, and you let their cow die!”

“Things aren’t always what they seem”, the older angel replied. “When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the wall. Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the wall so he wouldn’t find it. Then, last night as we slept in the farmers bed, the angel of death came for his wife. I gave her the cow instead. Things aren’t always what they seem”.

Moral: Sometimes this is exactly what happens when things don’t turn out the way you expected. If you have faith, you just need to trust that every outcome is always to your advantage. You might not know it until some time later.

Bible Verses for The Difficulties of Life

Bible Verses for The Difficulties of Life

I recently read a short article written by Catherine Marshall of Guideposts Magazine in which she listed 10 Bible verses that we can all use when we really need God’s comfort, peace and assurance. There are many, many other promises and assurances that we can find in Scripture but here is the list that Ms. Marshall created. It is my hope and prayer that some of these passages from the Bible will comfort and help you in some way.

When I need guidance:
“Know him in all your paths, and he will keep your ways straight” (Proverbs 3:6,The Daily Life Bible).

When the answer to prayer seems slow in coming:
“Steady patience is what you need, so that after doing the will of God you may receive what you were promised” (Hebrews 10:36).

When I have sinned and need forgiveness:
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

When I’m lonely and long to feel Christ’s presence:
“Look! I’m standing at the door and knocking. If any hear my voice and open the door, I will come in to be with them, and will have dinner with them, and they will have dinner with me” (Revelation 3:20).

When I do not feel good enough to be acceptable to God:
“For by grace you have been saved through faith; and this is not your own doing, it is the gift of God—not because of works, lest any man should boast” (Ephesians 2:8,9).

When I am tempted:
“…God is faithful. He won’t allow you to be tempted beyond your abilities. Instead, with the temptation, God will also supply a way out so that you will be able to endure it” (I Corinthians 10:13).

When I need physical strength and good health:
“If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you… he will give life to your mortal bodies also through his Spirit which dwells in you” (Romans 8:11).

When I wonder if God understands what I’m up against:
“But Jesus the Son of God is our great High Priest who has gone to heaven itself to help us; therefore let us never stop trusting Him. This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses since he had the same temptations we do, though he never once gave way to them and sinned” (Hebrews 4:14, 15).

When troubles multiply:
“… we triumph even in our troubles, knowing that trouble produces endurance, endurance produces character, and character produces hope—a hope which never disappoints us, since God’s love floods our hearts through the Holy Spirit which has been given to us” (Romans 5:3, 5).

How I know there is life after death:
“… I am the one who raises the dead and gives them life again. Anyone who believes in me, even though he dies like anyone else, shall live again. He is given eternal life for believing in me and shall never perish” (John 11:25, 26).

by Coach Muller

Don’t Act Blind: Handwriting On The Wall

A weary mother returned from the store,
Lugging groceries through the kitchen door.
Awaiting her arrival was her 8 year old son,
Anxious to relate what his younger brother had done.

“While I was out playing and Dad was on a call,
T.J. took his crayons and wrote on the wall!
It’s on the new paper you just hung in the den.
I told him you’d be mad at having to do it again.”

She let out a moan and furrowed her brow,
“Where is your little brother right now?”
She emptied her arms and with a purposeful stride,
She marched to his closet where he had gone to hide.

She called his full name as she entered his room.
He trembled with fear – he knew that meant doom!
For the next ten minutes, she ranted and raved
About the expensive wallpaper, and how she had saved.

Lamenting all the work it would take to repair,
She condemned his actions and total lack of care.
The more she scolded, the madder she got,
Then stomped from his room, totally distraught!

She headed for the den to confirm her fears.
When she saw the wall, her eyes flooded with tears.
The message she read pierced her soul with a dart.
It said, “I love Mommy,” surrounded by a heart.

Well, the wallpaper remained, just as she found it,
With an empty picture frame hung to surround it.
A reminder to her, and indeed to all,
Take time to read the handwriting on the wall.

- Author Unknown
Credit: Madam Sabi’s Blog

GREAT ATTITUDE

Once a Bird asked a BEE, After a continuous hard work, you prepare the honey……….
But a man steals the honey.
Do you not feel sad?”
Then the Bee replied, Never……
Because a man can only steal my honey, not the art of making honey….

Amazing ….what a confidence….This bee has not done any MBA but still she is wiser than anyone of us….lets learn the message of life from nature

Ponder On This

Someone has written these beautiful words. Read and try to understand the deeper meaning of them.

1. Prayer is not a “spare wheel” that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a “steering wheel” that directs the right path throughout life.

2. Why is a car’s windshield so large & the rear view mirror so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, look ahead and move on.

3. Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes a few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.

4. All things in life are temporary. If they are going well, enjoy them, they will not last forever. If they are going wrong, don’t worry, they can’t last long either.

5. Old friends are gold! New friends are diamond! If you get a diamond, don’t forget the gold! To hold a diamond, you always need a base of gold!

6. Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, God smiles from above and says, “Relax, sweetheart; it’s just a bend, not the end!”

7. When God solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when God doesn’t solve your problems, He has faith in YOUR abilities.

8. A blind person asked God: “Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?” He replied: “Yes, losing your vision!”

9. When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.

10. Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles; it takes away today’s PEACE.

If you enjoyed this, please copy share it. It may brighten someone else’s day too.

RELATIONSHIP CHECK – 10 ESSENTIALS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

RELATIONSHIP CHECK – 10 ESSENTIALS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
1. Reserve time for one another at all costs.
2. Spend only what you have — financial stress kills romance.
3. Leave no room for selfishness — be relationship givers and not takers.
4. Make sure the “leave and cleave” principle takes place (Genesis 2:24).
5. Bring your expectations in line with reality — the perfect spouse does not exist.
6. Trust one another and build reasonable boundaries — jealousy and trust rarely co-exist.
7. Avoid alcohol or substance abuse, pornography, gambling, and other potential addictions that will quickly kill your marriage and your life.
8. Be content with having enough — “Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread” (Proverbs 30:8).
9. Think of your marriage as a marathon — you will need determination and faith to go the distance of a lifetime.
10. Keep Christ at the center and remember His words, “In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).

Credit: search Nigeria

RELATIONSHIP CHECK – 10 ESSENTIALS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

RELATIONSHIP CHECK – 10 ESSENTIALS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
1. Reserve time for one another at all costs.
2. Spend only what you have — financial stress kills romance.
3. Leave no room for selfishness — be relationship givers and not takers.
4. Make sure the “leave and cleave” principle takes place (Genesis 2:24).
5. Bring your expectations in line with reality — the perfect spouse does not exist.
6. Trust one another and build reasonable boundaries — jealousy and trust rarely co-exist.
7. Avoid alcohol or substance abuse, pornography, gambling, and other potential addictions that will quickly kill your marriage and your life.
8. Be content with having enough — “Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread” (Proverbs 30:8).
9. Think of your marriage as a marathon — you will need determination and faith to go the distance of a lifetime.
10. Keep Christ at the center and remember His words, “In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).

Credit: search Nigeria

The Two Pots

It was a cyclonic season. There was flood everywhere. Many houses drowned in the flood. There was a copper pot and an earthen pot in a house. Both these were washed away in the flood to a river.

An earthen pot

The copper pot called the earthen pot and said, “My friend, you are made of mud. You are so weak. Please, come near me. I’ll save you”. The earthen pot replied, “Thank you for your kindness, my friend. But, let me swim to the bank by myself’. The earthen pot began to swim towards the bank of the river. As the copper pot tried to swim, water got filled into the pot and the copper pot drowned. But earthen pot reached the bank.

MORAL : Weakness is not in appearance.

Credit: Madam sabi’s blog

Thinking Out Of The Box

Many hundreds of years ago in a small Italian town, a merchant had  the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to the moneylender. The moneylender, who was old and ugly, fancied the merchant’s beautiful daughter so he proposed a bargain. He said he would forgo the merchant’s debt if he could marry the daughter. Both the merchant and his daughter were horrified by the proposal.

The moneylender told them that he would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty bag. The girl would then have to pick one pebble from the bag. If she picked the black pebble, she would become the moneylender’s wife and her father’s debt would be forgiven. If she picked the white pebble she need not marry him and her father’s debt would still be forgiven. But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into jail.

They were standing on a pebble strewn path in the merchant’s garden. As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. He then asked the girl to pick her pebble from the bag.

What would you have done if you were the girl? If you had to advise her, what would you have told her? Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:

1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.
2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the moneylender as a cheat.
3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order to save her father from his debt and imprisonment.

The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking.

So what did she do?

The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.

“Oh, how clumsy of me,” she said. “But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.” Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had picked the white one. And since the moneylender dared not admit his dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into an advantageous one.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Most complex problems do have a solution, sometimes we have to think about them in a different ways

(Credit: Madam sabi’s Blog)

20 Unconditional Love Quotes You Need To Read

1) The moment we want to believe something, we suddenly see all the arguments for it, and become blind to the arguments against it. Sometimes love blinds us, other times it let’s us see. – George Bernard Shaw

2) The mind cannot long act the role of the heart. – Francois de La Rochefoucauld

3) True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen. – Francois de La Rochefoucauld

4) Men always want to be a woman’s first love – women like to be a man’s last romance. – Oscar Wilde

5) Love, you know, seeks to make happy rather than to be happy. – Ralph Connor

6) When one is truly in love, one not only says it, but shows it. – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

7) Hate the sin and love the sinner. – Mahatma Ghandi

8) If you have it, Love, you don’t need to have anything else, and if you don’t have it, it doesn’t matter much what else you have. – James M. Barrie

9) This is the miracle that happens every time to those who really love; the more they give, the more they possess. – Rainer Maria Rilke

10) To be loved for what one is, is the greatest exception. The great majority love in others only what they lend him, their own selves, their version of him. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

11) Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. – Robert A. Heinlein

12) You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. – Robert Louis Balfour Stevenson

13) There is no remedy for love but to love more. – Henry David Thoreau

14) Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only what you are expecting to give — which is everything. What you will receive in return varies. But it really has no connection with what you give. You give because you love and cannot help giving. – Katharine Hepburn

15) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – Bible (1 Corinthians 13:4)

16) A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge. – Thomas Carlyle

17) Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao Tzu

18) I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love. – Mother Teresa

19) Love is like war: easy to begin but very hard to stop. – H. L. Mencken

20) You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love. – Henry Drummond

 

from everydaypowerblog

Honesty

Patrick, an eager young man entered his prospective boss’s office for an interview.

One thing our company is very particular about is cleanliness. I hope you wiped your shoe on the door mat while coming in? said the boss.

Yes sir, Patrick replied promptly.

The boss continued, One more thing we’re very particular about is honesty. There is no door mat outside!

Moral: No matter what, always stick with the truth. It always pays off.

Madamsabi’s Blog

DEAR MEN

DEAR MEN
You might think she wants your money, your car or even the most expensive of gifts……………

But you really need to understand that the RIGHT WOMAN wants your time, your smile, your HONESTY, as well as your efforts at making her your PRIORITY………

Only then will you unleash the King in you by making her the QUEEN she is meant to be…….

PREPARING TO BECOME A WIFE: TEN (10) TIPS FOR SINGLE WOMAN

Many women dream of that special day. You know the one, where all of the attention is on her in that gorgeous white dress. The flowers, the decorations, the fancy cars and let’s not forget, her Prince Charming. Most women have an idea of what age they will be when Mr. Right asks her to spend the rest of her life with him. She has the colors picked out, the ideal season, the wedding party and even the guest list! To many women, the wedding day is the turning point in her life that will lead to her happily ever after. Many of have focused (let’s be honest) so much time and thought on the wedding such that they have never spent enough time and energy on the most important part Preparing To Become A Wife! Marriage takes work! I am talking about 24/7/365 work! The great thing about the marital covenant is that when you give it your all, you can live Happily Ever After.

1. Develop an intimate relationship with God. You cannot enter into a successful covenant with a husband if you don’t first have one with God. Seek wisdom, study the word, develop a life of prayer and be dedicated to living for God. This will strengthen the marriage covenant when God allows you to walk into that season. A three-cord strand is not easily broken.

2. Master the art of fidelity and trust. No man wants a woman who cannot be faithful or one that turns her neck at every fine man that she sees. Learn to 100% committed prior to a serious courtship. Be happy with what God has blessed you with and cultivate your relationship. It is also important to be a woman of your word. If you promise to do something, be sure to do it!

3. Develop the ability to take care of a home. Ladies, in order to be a great partner in marriage, you must bring the ability to emotionally and physically take care of the house. Learn to set an atmosphere of peace and love. Avoid quarrels when possible. Practice gentleness with others that cross your path.

4. Learn how to cook! My mother once told me that a woman who cannot cook is not cute! We know that men like to eat. Let’s be serious here. We all need to eat to live. Eating out all of the time can become expensive and who doesn’t love a home-cooked meal from time to time. If you cannot do anything beyond boil water, invest in a cookbook. Try one new meal a week and you will quickly improve your cooking skills.

5. Make smart financial decisions. If you desire to marry a man that provides and makes the best decisions for his family, you need to do the same. Smart men don’t want to marry a woman who spends way more than she saves. Work on your budget and be sure to have an emergency fund. Preparing for tomorrow is important. The ability to manage money is important in marriage.

6. Be complete as one. Be comfortable with not having a man in this season. Learn to be happy on your own. Find joy in those things that make you happy. Love what you have and don’t covet what others have. Spend time in your singleness doing the things that you love to do. Travel, find hobbies and do the things that married women tell you that you won’t have time to do when you get married and then become a mother.

7. Learn the art of compromise. Marriage will be about give and take. While you are single, learn that you don’t always have to be right and accept that most things will not always happen your way. Be willing to sacrifice what you want for the benefit and happiness of others. Wives have to compromise many things. The earlier we learn to compromise, the better off we will be in marriage.

8. Be committed to pursuing your dreams and supporting others. It is important to have your own goals and motivations prior to becoming one with your future husbands. The single season is a great opportunity to begin building your career, business or working towards other goals. Learn how to support family and friends in their endeavors as well. When you become a wife, you will have to support your husband’s dreams, possibly at the expense of yours. You must me ok with this level of sacrifice and compromise prior to committing to marriage.

9. Know what submission is and be ready to walk in it. Many people shy away from this discussion. Submission is not equivalent to obedience. Submission is yielding in love. Study God’s design for marriage and understand the role of a wife. In your singleness, God is your husband. Submit yourself to Him. Trust His plan and timing for your life. Seek His guidance in all that you do. Practicing submission now will be the driving force to it being second nature to you once you become a wife.

10. Be holy and feminine in your conduct. Always carry yourself as a classy woman who walks with confidence. Men want a woman they are proud to take home to their families. They want a woman with high self-esteem, one who walks gracefully, respects herself and others around her. Marriage is a sacred bond between God, man and woman. This is a great starting list to help single women prepare.

Eight Things Happy People Have In Common – Family -

Much have been said about money, success, blah blah and blah. Sometimes little is said about happiness which is the most important thing in life. So I went digging for things that happy people do as a routine because to me life is all about happiness and its pursuit. This is what I found out in times magazine, enjoy:
University of California professor Sonja Lyubomirsky details the things research shows the happiest people have in common.
So here is the list, enjoy
1.They devote a great amount of time to their family and friends, nurturing and enjoying those relationships.

2.They are comfortable expressing gratitude for all they have.

3. They are often the first to offer helping hands to coworkers and passersby.

4. They practice optimism when imagining their futures.
5. They savor life’s pleasures and try to live in the present moment.

6. They make physical exercise a weekly and even daily habit.
7. They are deeply committed to lifelong goals and ambitions (e.g., fighting fraud, building cabinets, or teaching their children their deeply held values

8.Last but not least, the happiest people do have their share of stresses, crises, and even tragedies. They may become just as distressed and emotional in such circumstances as you or I, but their secret weapon is the poise and strength they show in coping in the face of challenge.
Having said it all, now you know. Happiness is your right don’t let anyone take it from you, not even your spouse.
Nairaland.

Tips and Tricks to Increase Laptop’s Battery life

Tips and Tricks to Increase Laptop’s Battery life
You may do practically anything on a contemporary laptop computer, but their innovative features debilitate battery life to the extent that you are able to merely get a couple of hours out of it in a lot of cases.

One of most important part of laptop is its battery and plays an important role in the improvement in the performance of the laptop. Every precaution must be taken in order to ensure complete maintenance of the battery of the laptop and here are some ways to increase laptop battery life.

Tips and Tricks to Increase Laptop’s Battery Life

1. Darken your screen:
The screen constitutes among the most power-hungry components of the laptop. It calls for serious amounts of battery power to maintain your display appearing clear and luminous. Preserving this power is merely a motion of turning the brightness level low. 

The screen brightness level button is normally situated as a 2nd part of one of the F keys, and is corresponded by a small sunlight symbol with upward and downwards images. To apply it, just hold down the right function key then select up or down.

2.Use Updated Softwares:
It is very good to have a updated operating system and also a updated version of any software you intend using on the computer, this is because old version of software tend to take a lot of power than the updated version, this has not been totally proved but it not good to leave any stone unturned, so if you can have your computer’s OS updated and software please do.
3.Wrong Adaptor:
Using the wrong adaptor can damage your battery when the adaptor don’t supply the necessary or recommended power to your battery cell it makes your battery bend rules to serve and the adverse effect of these is not usually funny because the adaptor which is not the recommended adaptor supplies low power to the battery which is not a good sign and you should avoid that. 

Always buy a charger that is recommended by the manufacturer which supplies the same volts as the adaptor that came with the laptop.

4.Modify power settings:
Windows Vista has several outstanding power features, which enable you to squeeze out the most proficient performance when you are plugged into the mains, and optimize battery life while on the move. Type power options into the Start Search box and select Power saver from the list. 

The Windows Mobility Center has further techniques for economizing battery life. These include settings for powering off the monitor and kicking into sleep mode more rapidly.

5. Don’ let the laptop overheat:
This is one of the most important points because sometimes the laptop goes into overheating mode and this severely impacts the laptop’s battery performance. Hence always make sure that the laptop is properly ventilated. Don’t use the laptop while sitting on the bed. 

These are special tables that are available and can be used. The best part about these small tables is that beneath the laptop special holes are provided that lets the air passes on easily and the laptop is not overheated.

6. Turn off Wi-Fi
Among the greatest battery sappers constitutes the wireless networking capacities built into most laptops. Wi-Fi debilitates the battery from perpetually absorbing power from the battery and, while not online, searching networks. 

Once you are using your laptop computer away from the power grid, the likeliness is you are outside from wireless networks, therefore you’ll be able to turn this device off. Numerous laptops have got a function button that enables you to switch off the wireless adapter manually to spare yourself the needless waste, only older laptops frequently do not have this. 

Whenever this is the case, simply go to the Control Panel, access the Network Connections menu and disable your wireless connection manually.

7.Hibernate your Laptop:
Hibernating your laptop is far better than making your laptop sleep because sleeping still makes use of the battery to. So always try to hibernate your laptop then using the sleep mode.

8.Eject your disc drives:
Having a disc spinning around in the drive constitutes a large drain upon resources, and numerous programs constantly do this. Just kick out your discs before you alternate to battery power to acquire critical additional minutes from your work day.

So these were some Proven Tricks and tips that will help you to Increase your laptop’s Battery life. Try it yourself to feel the Difference

writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Be Polite

Please enjoy this little story I got from a friend:
“When I was a kid, Mum liked to make food for dinner & I remember one night in particular when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening, Mum placed a plate of bread, jam and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad.

I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet, all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smiled at my Mum and asked me how my day was at school.

I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my Mum apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits.

And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burned biscuits.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your mum had a long hard day at work today and she’s really tired. And besides… A burnt biscuit never hurt anyone but harsh words do!”

You know, life is full of imperfect things…and imperfect people. I’m not the best. What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults and choosing to celebrate each others differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing and lasting relationship.

So…please pass me a biscuit. And yes, the burnt one will do just fine!

And please pass this along to someone who has enriched your life…I just did!

Life is too short to wake up with regrets…

Love the people who treat you right and have compassion for the ones who don’t.

ENJOY LIFE NOW – IT HAS AN EXPIRY DATE”

writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Who You Should Date

I have always said this to people; it’s not about what someone says about you when the going is good, it’s more about what they say about you when it goes sour. A man or woman you are in a relationship with can say every good thing to you; what is that person saying in your absence? Now that it’s over, have you suddenly turned to a cheap girl, prostitute, sex pervert…? It only shows you he/she never loved you. Whenever you meet a man or woman who does not take pleasure in discussing the ex, that’s the person to stick with. But when you have him/her always saying negative things about the ex, better run for your dear life.
Guys are fond of this; a girl leaves you for another, she suddenly becomes a cheap commodity. You tried dating/marrying her but failed and she turns to a prostitute who is not up to your class. Ah ah, na only you waka come? Chill bro because only empty heads believe all that crap about her. You failed to marry her probably because you didn’t hit the right button to her innermost heart; you failed to date her, don’t worry; your own woman will come. Don’t put her down because she is a princess to another whose kind of love she wants.
Girl, don’t hate the guy because after dating him for five years, he left you for another; he knows what he wants in marriage and because you are not what he wants, he had to go for another. It hurts, but don’t hold it against him because he can’t see his future bleak with you and walk into it all in the name of “I love her”. You are not for him, your own man is on the way.
Written by: Amara

writen by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Women Are The Most Wonderful Creatures

Women are the most wonderful creature I have
seen on Earth, but am yet to understand why
some men are busy finding faults upon faults on
them.
Ok, lets look at them this way and tell me if am
lying 1) Women are the only creature that can change
their original surname just for the sake of love.
2) They are most easiest creature to convince. 3)
They are the only creature that loves from the
bottom of their heart. 4) They are the creature
that can prefer to go to bed with an empty stomach, just to make sure
that their children feeds well.
5) They are the only creature on Earth that cries
very easily, just to expose their inward
disposition. 6) They are always awake even at the
dead of the night just to make sure that their children are
protected.
7) They can even sell out their cloths just to buy
food for their children, and also see them smiling.
8) They are always ready to sacrifice their lives
just to save the lives of their children. 9) They are always in the kitchen inhaling the
smoke without complaining, just to prepare
something for their children and husband to eat.
10) They are the only creature that can abandon
their biological family and start up a new home
with a stranger. 11) Even when they are battling with the pains of
pregnancy, yet, they are busy looking after their
husbands and children. e.t.c
Infact! Mmmuahh! Just a Kisssssssss for all my
wonderful
female friends! Indeed, am glad to have you all!

NAHASH

NAHASH!

I wish I have a voice over this Nation like Baba Adeboye and Daddy Oyedepo and Papa Ayo Oritsejafor and Daddy Kumuyi and Daddy Okonkwo!

What will I do with it? I will raise it in a Trumpet call to the North, the South, the East and the West of the Land and summon THE BODY to meet me at the City Centre in Maiduguri on a set day, from sunrise to sun set, without police or soldiers on guard!

What will we gather for? To plead with Heaven for our Nation. To roll back the hordes of Hell and seal with Christ’s Eternal Blood the gates of Horror opened against our Land; To disconnect our Governmental Leaders from the hold of the powers of Darkness that have their minds in chains; to open the portals of Heaven for a rain off righteousness upon our Land!

“Nahash, king of the Ammonites came up, and encamped against Jabeshgilead…”

I Samuel 11:1

But Jabeshgiliead was too terrified to fight. So the people caine up with a resolution, They sent a powerful delegate to dialogue with Nahash and negotiate a honorable term of National surrender to that vicious being called Nahash! The situation was tense and critical. The Elders of jabeshgilead, the Men! said to Nahash:

We Surrender! We will serve you as slaves Please let us sign a pact to that effect! (vslb)

Hear the reply:

And Nahash the Ammorite answered, on this condition will I accept your surrender (vs 2)

What condition?

That I will pluck out the right eye of every one of you and lay it out before you and your God for a reproach upon Israel (vs 2)

The word Nahash means SERPENT! What is the serpent saying in Chibok? Or are we still pretending?

Confronted with this demonic proposal, the Elders of Jabeshgilead sent to Nahash, saying:

Give us seven days to send your message to our brethren in the south, in the west and in the east; our brethren in Lagos and in Port. Harcourt and Wairi and Ibadan and unto all the coasts of Israel; If no one rises for our help after seven days, then you can have our right eyes and carry them to the forest of Sambisafor an eternal reproach upon the Church of God in Nigeria and upon our Leaders! The message got to Gibeah and all the people lifted up their voices and cried! They were all alarmed! ‘Wow non 11sf.,

The message got to Gibeah and all the people lifted up their voices and cried! They were all alarmed! “How can this happen,” they said. But they remained in their comfort zone and preached nice and sad sermons on the case! They didn’t want to be involved in “politics”!

But Saul came from the farm and met everyone crying. He asked what happened and was told of the Boast of the Serpent! How he appeared on television and disdained the God of lsnael!

“Saul said, what aileth the people that they weep? And they told him the tidings of the men of

North Eastern Nigeria…”

(vs 5)

“And the spirit of God came upon Saul when he heard those tidings, end his anger was kindled greatly.” (vs 6)

Some Reverend gentlemen are never angered by anything! They play it cool all the time, even when God weeps!

 

Saul’s anger was kindled! Then he did something completely strange! lie grabbed some bulls, killed them and cut them into pieces and tent all of the pieces by the hands of messengers to all the coasts of Israel saying: Whosoever come not forth after me and Samuel as we march on Maiduguri City Centre, that Christian man or woman is in big trouble!

That message went alt through the coasts of Israel like whirlwind and caught up with the message of terror earlier sent from Nahash and melted the fear of death from the peoples’ heart!

“And the fear of the Lord fell on the people, and they came out with one consent…” (vs 7)

Let our fathers callus out. Let them summon us to Maiduguri City Centre, and we shall be there! All of us—North, South, West and East!

It is those whom God has given the Voice that can call! Saul was newly anointed Leader over Israel when that incident happened. Samuel was the Prophet of God in the Land. They were the ones with the Voice of Summon to Summon!

Let our Fathers, our Leaders, the ones we have followed to do anything they had asked us to do in the past, let them call us now. We will follow them!

To where should they call us? To Maiduguri City Centre! Why Maiduguri instead of Redemption Camp or Canaan Land for example? Because for this purpose, Redemption camp, Canaan Land and other such places in the sonth are symbols of our corporate retreat in the face of Nahash’s challenge! For this purpose, theyare our fortified city of escape white the Nation bums!

And fear of the LORD fell npon3he-people and they came out with one consent”

Let us come out! Out to the field! Out to where Nahash is about to complete his 40 days and 40 nights of serpentine ranting against the God of our covenant!

About 330,000 people responded to the summon of the Spirit. And message was sentto Jabeshgilead:

“Tell our people at Jabeshgilead, Tomorrow, by THAT TIME THE SUN BE HOT YOUSHALL HAVE HELP! (vs 9)

When will we have help in the North East? Is it until the SERPENT, Nahash have our right eyes as eternal reproach upon the Church?!

“Then Mordecai answered Esther, Think not with yourself that you shall escape in Lagos or Port-Harcourt or

Warn or Ibadan or Enugu more then all the brethren in the North East For you altogether hold your peace AT THIS TIME, then shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the North-East and to our Nation and the people FROMANOTHER PLACE” Esther 4:13,14

 It is for a time such as this that God places Leaders over his church. Let our Leaders callus now. Not just for what have happened and are happening, but for what MAY STILLHAPPEN if we don’t arise now!

“And it was so on the morrow, that Saul put the people in three companies; and they came into the midst of the host in the morning watch, and slew the Anunonites until the heat of the day: and it came to pass, that they which remained were scattered, so that two of them were not left together.

I Samuel 11:11

Let our Fathers call us out. We need their summon for us to arise. We need theft courage to make us stand. We need their voice to fire us! Just one day for a mighty cry to the True and Living God! One day to discomfit the hosts of Darknoss! ohe slay to let our Nation know that there is a God in Nigeria.

You are our Fathers, our Leaders at a time such as this. This generation will never forget your names, EITHER WAY!

 Source: Fragrance From source Gospel Ministy

http://www.sourcegospel.net

Enlightenment

Ignorance is worst disease they say but must of us take it to be a popular nonsense. but in reality interplay its one such true word and explicit phenomena. we engage in practices traditions doctrines and rituals without a proper understanding of their supernatural implications on our souls. adherents or disciples of such deities use cunning ways and methods to their actual ceremony or worship. its a pity that we allow ourselves to be played by people that are of no value. It is imperative  that we stay on guard support our intellect and question any strange phenomena which we deem un-understandable to us and seek enlightenment, for it is knowledge that guides our perception and acceptance of the unknown nonsense been popularized. We shouldn’t let ourselves to fall for an unjust course, we should be agents of change and affect our society both physically and intellectually. its our duty to protect promote and practice honesty  and encourage it too. PAMA LINUS…

MY LAMENTATIONS

#BringOurGirlsBack – MY LAMENTATIONS

By Femi Oyebade Jnr.

Everyone saying “Bring ouR girls back”, I’m here screaming “Bring my heart back.” Rihanna’s outfit is saying “Where did your dignity go?” Approximately 276 female students kidnapped from their school, over 250 families in tears, mothers left in pain like going through labour all over again. It could have been your sister or mine. What happened to the country we were told would get better, what happened to the hope they gave us, what happened to the prayers we said, how come we have been left feeling like citizens of a forgotten place? Bombs going off every week, the government saying they’re doing something but we’re dying slowly and decreasing in numbers. Our families walking around in fear, we’re left living to survive like we’re been documented for the African HUNGER GAMES.

The president says “We can’t kill our girls in the name of trying to get them back” but how come it took the awareness of the world to bring about some action? People living on their knees in fear, the green colour that represents our country is turning red and our girls aren’t still back. So somewhere tonight, a mother is in tears and someone my age will go to bed not knowing when next or if he’ll ever see his sister again. When did we let one man, with blood flowing through his veins become God, taking lives like he could give one.

To Boko Haram,
You claim to fight for God but Allah preaches love not hate. Allahu Akbar means “Allah is the greatest”, he doesn’t need you to fight his battles. Your God must be weak to need you to fight for him, your God must be the reflection you see in the mirror. We’re told the devil will come to “kill, steal and destroy”. You have destroyed our land, killed our people and stolen our girls… You’ve abused our girls and made them give birth to choices they never made. You have taken away their independence and their voices as if they are fertile pieces of land with no army to defend it. A woman was made out of a man’s rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. Bring Back Our Girls, their mothers are waiting to smile again!

19 year old Femi Oyebade Jnr. is a student, writer and lives in the Republic of Ireland.

Talking About Nudity

“To all that think it’s fanaticism or extremism to Preach against or be against NUDITY in the name of fashion or hot weather or whatever excuses they give. . . Read This:
The Legendary boxer Mohammed Ali’s advice to his daughters. An incident transpired when his daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were quite revealing. Here’s the story as told by one of his daughters.
“When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at us, then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said; “Hanna, everything that God made Valuable and Precious in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find Diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find Pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find Gold? Way down in the mine, covered over and protected by layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get to them.” “He looked at me with seriousness in his eyes. “Your body is Sacred. You are far more Precious and Valuable than GOLD, DIAMONDS and PEARLS, and you should be covered too.”
Satan is preaching the message of NUDITY today cos he knows that if a man looks at a woman lust fully, he has had committed sin with her. Be Careful how u dress.” Let him who has ear listen and learn
From: Facebook

A JOKE

Never Argue With Children
A little girl was talking to her teacher about
whales. The teacher said it was physically
impossible for a whale to swallow a
human because even though it was a very
large mammal its throat was very small. The little girl stated that Jonah was
swallowed by a whale.
Irritated, the teacher reiterated that a
whale could not swallow a human; it was
physically impossible.
The little girl then said, “When I get to heaven I will ask Jonah.”
The teacher asked, “What if Jonah went to
hell?”
The little girl replied, “Then you ask him.”

Written by I G Malgwi

Don’t Be Fast To Judge

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the
train’s window shouted,” Dad, look the trees are going behind! They are moving very fast”
Dad smiled, a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old childish behavior with pity.
Suddenly he again exclaimed, “Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”
The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man, “Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor may be a psychiatrist?”
The old man smiled and said, “I did, just coming from a doctor but not a psychological one, but we are just coming from the
hospital anyway, let me tell you, my son was blind from birth, he
just got his eyes today for the first time”
Every single person on the planet has a story, stop concluding people so fast, Don’t judge people before you truly know them,The truth might surprise you.
From Facebook.

Written by I G Malgwi

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday

Composed by: Paul Mwada Wakawa

Rulers And Leaders

A Pharaoh ruled Egypt in the days of Moses. He was typically a Ruler, he was not a leader.

Leaders are different from Rulers. The tragedy of a NATION without a leader is exemplified by a country I once knew. None of many people who rose to power over that country ever thought of assuming such awesome position of authority and responsibility prior to their coming into power. It happened over night. They all accidentally came into power. Leaders never emerge accidentally!
Leaders are different from Rulers. You can rule without much thought, you can’t Lead without thinking. Rulers plunder a nation. They loot it, rob it, raid and ransack it and strip it bare to its bones! Not that Rulers are “bad” people, not that they don’t like their country. That is not why they ravage and devastate the nation they rule; But because such acts are exactly the nature of Rulership as opposed to Leadership!
A nation that is ruled rather than lead doesn’t leave one spot. It just stays put in the same old rots from generations to generations.
The truth is, any Jack from anywhere can become a Ruler. It doesn’t mean take time. It happens overnight, thoughtlessly and visionlessly! All you need to rule is a hard-heart with some measure of ruthlessness, loud voice, hard look, tough talk and plenty of lies and deception.
Leaders are different from Rulers. Very few can lead! To lead you have to be going some-where yourself! And that takes vision. The Leader has a vision of the people’s destiny. He inspires the people to reach for the corporate destiny as one entity.
Leader leads because he sees tomorrow! Rulers live exclusively inside today. Tomorrow doesn’t matter to them. They don’t have perspective. The “now” is all they see. Leaders see tomorrow inside of today. They have to because that is where they are headed with people they lead. They are on a journey to the people’s destiny.
The children of Israel couldn’t really get along well with God after He released them from Pharaoh’s strangle-hold. They were used to life under a Ruler, a ruler who just camped them in one giant prison called Egypt where their lives were lived in circle! Pharaoh wasn’t a leader, he was a Ruler. He wasn’t going anywhere. So those under him were stuck in the prison of static existence. And you know, a Nation can become a prison, a cage where the lives of the people are controlled by the Ruler. A Church can become a prison if what you have is a Ruler-Pastor rather than a leader!
Israel had been in the big cage for centuries. When the vision of God came, the people were called out unto a destiny journey. But it happened that they rather liked and preferred their static lives; that life where you don’t need to think, invent, invest, create, or do anything extra-ordinary to be alive; a flabby contentment with just the barest minimum.
Without a Leader, the people’s huge potential for national and global impact will continue to lie in waste beneath their pittance exterior! Rulers don’t take a nation anywhere. They themselves have nowhere they are going; and somebody going nowhere cannot take a people somewhere.
For the length of time it takes a Nation to have a leader over it, that is how long it will take for the Nation to move forward in the direction of its destiny. Rulers don’t bend, but Leaders follows the Inside-Light in the course of destiny whichever way it turns! And the people follow suit.
The Ruler uses force, and power, and wiles and lies. Vision and passions are strength of the leader. Rulers loot and are happy! A people come into their destiny is the Leader’s reward and joy. For the Ruler, his access to the peoples’ wealth and his unauthorized use of it bring satisfaction in the corporate progress the people make towards their destiny. His access to the people’s hearth is to him a sacred trust he must protect at all cost! The Ruler takes from the people much more than he gives them. The Leader gives all and asks for nothing! He creates and conserves sovereign wealth!
The Ruler turns common wealth into private property. The Leader take from his God-given internal wealth of wisdom, passion and vision, and from them create for the people a common wealth constituted from the raw materials of national endowment. Those who know the nature of Rulership don’t quarrel with the Ruler or grumble or lament when the rulers act. None of us can give what we don’t have. Rulers have no vision. They can’t lead.
The fault is not with the Ruler who is not leading! By nature Rulers can’t lead. They can only loot! The real fault is with a people, a nation who NEEDS A LEADER but continues to put its destiny in the hands of Rulers!
Under what condition do a people, a Nation keep their errors constant? Errors should be corrected and prevented from occurring again. But under certain self-inflicted circumstances, a people keep repeating their errors.
What are this conditions?
One, When ethnic sentiments predominate over reasoned national consideration.
Two, When religious sentiment and affiliation makes men call good evil and evil good.
Three, When a people do not know the scared call and destiny of its Nation.

Good God, deliver us from perpetuating our errors! And our own woes.
Amen.

Fragrance “from Source Gospel Ministry” Vol. 15 No. 3

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ANGER FALLS ONE LETTER SHORT OF DANGER.

A man received the following
message from his neighbour:
“Sorry, Sir I am using your
wife… I am using day and night… I am using when you
are not present at home… In
fact, I am using more than
you do… I confess this
because now I feel very
much guilty… Hope you will accept my sincere apologies.”
However, the man got angry
and shot his wife.
Few minutes later he
received another message
from the neighbour: “Sorry, Sir, spelling mistake…
It’s not ‘wife’, but it’s ‘wifi’.”
Note: ANGER FALLS ONE
LETTER SHORT OF DANGER.
The best cure for anger is
delay! MAY GOD PROTECT YOU FROM
THE EVIL OF ANGER

Post By Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Peace For Borno State

Today I learn something new I experienced love, not that I have not seen love or understood love or witness love or being loved, but today the love I felt is so deep. I was in Maiduguri when the insurgence in town started, am not in the town when the crisis escalated, I remember when visited the town in 2012 and I experience the 6:00pm to 6:00am curfew, it an adjustment in lifestyle. I do read about the killings, bombings that happen in the town, I do speak with people there on phone until when the ban the use of mobile phone, I do receive calls from people I know, they risk there life to travel to Damaturu Yobe state capital to call me (crying). They make sure they ask how am I doing hope am safe and am doing good in the peaceful sate of the caliphate (Sokoto), this morning a call woke me up from sleep, it was a strange number, I picked only for the caller to introduce himself as Jibo a next door neighbor in Maiduguri who regardless of the curfew in town was up early to go to Post Office are of Maiduguri from Old GRA to call me, after his call I cover myself with the blanket because I am not ready to get up, yet another unknown number called it was my brother he has to cover more distance than Jibo to call me. Both of them ask a question “hope you are ok, hope your safe”? this question still rings in my head as I write this, I can’t hold back tears from my eyes, this pure act of love, people risking their life to get up so early to call me in a peaceful town.
Borno state “the home of peace” as the slogan says has in recent time witness crisis and violence that has touched the life of all, I am writing this with a heavy heart (crying). I remember a city full of happy people who love one another regardless of religion or ethnicity. I remember a city so calm and quite where people go about their day to day life without fear of gun short or bomb explosion, who will have ever taught that Borno state of all state will experience such violence.
I schooled in Maiduguri at FGCM, a school that bring together students from all over Nigeria I made friends with people who hail from Borno to Lagos, to Cross Rivers, to Delta, to Oyo, Taraba to mention but a few states. I remember the famous Monday market which stood in the heart of the town, a market that brings traders and buyers from within and outside the nation, I remember the famous Sanda Kyarimi park a park that is full during festive period either Christmas or Sallah, Christians and Muslims goes to the park regardless of the celebration at the moment be it Christmas or Sallah. I remember the famous Jagol market we people go and buy electronics of all kind, the Baga fish market, the custom market, I remember Polo filed (thou the game of Polo is hardly played there, football has taken over, with driving lessons taught there), Wulari Police barrack market where you get roosted birds and fara (grasshoppers) what an ancient city of the Kaneem Borno empire an empire one of the oldest empire in Nigeria, . A town I loved.
God I come to you with your word, you said anything we ask in the name of your son you will grant it on to us, I ask that you restore peace back to Borno state, you said thousands will fall on our side they will not come near to us, you said we shall only observe with our eyes. God you are the father of or Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, you honour your words more than your name, you said the battle is not ours but yours, so we hand over the battle to you, (unto us a son is born and a child is given he shall be called ………………. Immanuel “God with us”) as we are ready to celebrate salvation of mind in the birth of your son we ask that father you glorify yourself, we ask that you restore peace back to maid, not for our sake but for your name to be lifted high, for your kingdom to come and your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
I ask who ever read this to join me in prayers and also share to as many as possible. Borno the home of peace.

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Dealing With Hurt

People may have disappointed you, betrayed your trust, hurt you badly, break your heart and even make you question yourself…..But you must learn to accept the fact, that some people may never fully come to understand how much damage they may have caused you or others close to you by reason of their actions or inaction; as such you don’t have to stay damaged, hurt and in pain. There are times when we must accept that people are exactly who you hoped they wouldn’t be…Yes I know, you may have been hurt so badly by their actions, Yes I know, that sometimes its not what happened that hurts the most, but rather its who did it that breaks you, but you still don’t have to stay broken. The best revenge is being whole again. Its time to let go of the hurts and pain, its time to free your heart of the bitterness and anger you feel. Its time to be you all over again; Being hurt, offended or angry doesn’t give you an excuse to become the person you were not meant to be; You don’t have to let an emotion change your character..You don’t have to be the person who keeps a grudge against someone else regardless of how much hurt they may have done; you got to be smart!!…. you got to learn to let go… Letting go is freeing your self from bitterness and pain, Letting go is choosing not to let the hurt define your character, Letting go is refusing to let the negativity steal your joy. Life is too short to be intentionally unhappy; Decide today to be happy, Decide today to free yourself from the hurts! Your life can be better!

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

DEAR SINGLE GUY

(1)Dear Single Guys, There’s plenty good women out there, just don’t let your “preference” make you blind towards the one your heart truly needs. #BeWise!

(2) Dear Single Guys, If you are going to pursue a woman’s heart, be sure you are prepared to stay loyal to it. #LoyaltyCounts!

(3)Dear Single Guys, True strength is being able to admit you are weak; Don’t drown in your struggles, simply because you want to save your image and prove a point to her #AlwaysBeYourself!

(4) Dear Single Guys, before you say there are no “good women” be sure you are a “good man” the problem most times could be “you” and not “them” #CheckYourself

(5) Dear Single Guys, Don’t give some other guy the opportunity to love what you took for granted; Appreciate her before she finds someone else who will #SeemsLikeCommonSense

(6)Dear Single Guys, a relationship is between you and the person you are with; Stop letting outsiders plant their opinions in something they are not involved in; Focus on the person you are with, not the people trying to tear you apart!#AWordForTheWise!

(7) Dear Single Guys, breaking her heart is deeper than you think, it destroys her outlook on love and makes it hard for her to find trust in any future relationship; #NobodyDeservesThat!

(8)Dear Single Guys, You can’t keep living like you are single and expect to have a successful relationship; Nobody deserves to have their heart played with. #ManUp!

(9)Dear Single Guys, Every Lady deserves a man who can make her heart forget it was ever broken; Becoming that guy means that you are ready to love her beyond words, correct her in love and help her become better #CanYouBeThatGuy?

(10)Dear Single Guys, A relationship means you come together to make each other better. It’s not all about you, and it’s not all about them. Its all about the relationship. Make sure they can find their biggest fan in you, and you can find yours in them

(11)Dear Single Guys, treat her like you are still trying to win her, and that’s how you’ll never lose her. A real man will remind his woman daily why she fell in love with him

(12) Dear Single Guys, lies help no one, so mean what you say; Don’t say “I love you” if you don’t mean it; Don’t say “I understand” if you have no clue; Don’t say “I’m sorry” if you’re not; Don’t say “I’ll never leave” if you plan to walk away. #TimeToGetReal!

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

DEAR SINGLE LADIES

1 hour ago
(1)Dear Single Ladies, Stop giving your heart and body to everyone; Just because they tell you the right things doesn’t make them the right one. Everybody doesn’t deserve you!

(2)Dear Single Ladies, You will never find the RIGHT person if you never let go of the WRONG one. #BeSmart!

(3)Dear Single Ladies, Stop advertising yourself as wholesale when your value should be something that can’t be bought
#ValueYourself!

(4)Dear Single Ladies, relationSHIPS sink when you invite people on a journey that’s only made for TWO #BeWise!

(5)Dear Single Ladies, a man will treat you according to the “messages” you put out; If you exude sex, you will attract men who want that from you, If you exude self respect, you will attract the type of men who respect women. You will always attract what you exude. #WhatDoYouExude?

(6)Dear Single Ladies, When it’s REAL….you don’t get a promise, you get a commitment #BeWise

(7)Dear Single Ladies, Never let your thirst cause your perception to mis-label someone’s intention; Learn how to take a compliment without creating SOMETHING in your mind that doesn’t exist

(8)Dear Single Ladies, Carrying yourself with no respect will always get you attention from the people who aren’t meant to love you! #RespectYourself!

(9)Dear Single Ladies, If you carry bricks from your past relationships into a new one, you will always end up building the same house #YouAreNotYourPast!

(10)Dear Single Ladies, No relationship is worth losing your character and integrity. If you can’t have you, they can’t either!

(11)Dear Single Ladies, Love isn’t untrue, Love doesn’t hurt, Love doesn’t lie; Love is LOYAL, honest and pure. Stop settling for less than what your heart deserves #GetYourWorth!

(12)Dear Single Ladies, Never make excuses for someone who disrespects you. Who they are or what they do isn’t a pass to treat you like trash.

(13)Dear Single Ladies, Stop making yourself so available. There’s nothing special about being easy access #WiseUp!

(14)Dear Single Ladies, There’s nothing like a woman who has a honest lip, LOVES GOD, has a pure heart, walks in the heels of confidence and isn’t afraid of her flaws!!! #DoesThisDescribeYou?

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

The Horse And The Goat

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

There was a farmer who had a horse and a goat…..One day, the horse became ill and he called the veterinarian, who said: – Well, your horse has a virus. He must take this medicine for three days. I’ll come back on the 3rd day and if he’s not better, we’re going to have to put him down.

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Nearby, the goat listened closely to their conversation. The next day, they gave him the medicine and left. The goat approached the horse and said: – Be strong, my friend. Get up or else they’re going to put you to sleep!

On the second day, they gave him the medicine and left. The goat came back and said: – Come on buddy, get up or else you’re going to die! Come on, I’ll help you get up. Let’s go! One, two, three…

On the third day, they came to give him the…

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The Horse And The Goat

Originally posted on Madamsabi's Blog:

There was a farmer who had a horse and a goat…..One day, the horse became ill and he called the veterinarian, who said: – Well, your horse has a virus. He must take this medicine for three days. I’ll come back on the 3rd day and if he’s not better, we’re going to have to put him down.

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Nearby, the goat listened closely to their conversation. The next day, they gave him the medicine and left. The goat approached the horse and said: – Be strong, my friend. Get up or else they’re going to put you to sleep!

On the second day, they gave him the medicine and left. The goat came back and said: – Come on buddy, get up or else you’re going to die! Come on, I’ll help you get up. Let’s go! One, two, three…

On the third day, they came to give him the…

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A Good Man Is Not Hard To Find, If You Truly Desire One (2/2)

Originally posted on The Fickle Heartbeat:

A Good Man Is Not Hard To Find

Shared by One Gentleman. See Part 1.

After some reflection on the initial opinion piece, I hope the message was not misconstrued. I will admit, dirt bags can ruin the dating process for all men. Their mistakes somehow become our mistakes. Soon, you begin having tunnel vision, where you are unable to discern good men from the bad ones. However, I still believe that a good man is not hard to find, well, if a good man is what you truly desire.

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A Good Man Is Not Hard To Find, If You Truly Desire One (1/2)

Originally posted on The Fickle Heartbeat:

A Good Man Is Not Hard To Find

Shared by One Gentleman.

Where did all the good men go?

I want to address something I have heard in the past, as well as through current conversations, whenever my relationship comes up. I am exaggerating of course, but if we go by the belief of countless women, I think I am perhaps the last good man alive. Here is the problem with this assessment…it is 100% inaccurate.

I will explain as best as possible, through One Gentleman’s Perspective, where the good men have all gone.

So, where are they? Where have all the good men gone? They are right in front of you. I know, it sounds weird, but not really. How could someone be right before your very eyes, and somehow never become noticed? The answer is far easier than you may think.

In today’s dating environment, many women are subconsciously looking for their Superman. They like…

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Reasons to Lose Faith in Humanity

Originally posted on Bullsh!t Wiki:

Twitter

Twitter is the den of iniquity, where the English language, logic and good grammar goes to jump off a cliff. Here is the proof that it is possible to say something dumb with 140 characters.

Jaden Smith (American actor, dancer and rapper) via @OfficialJaden

Most Trees Are Blue (tweet source).
You Can Discover Everything You Need To Know About Everything By Looking At Your Hands (tweet source).
Trees Are Never Sad Look At Them Every Once In Awhile They’re Quite Beautiful (tweet source).
If Everybody In The World Dropped Out Of School We Would Have A Much More Intelligent Society (tweet source).
If A Book Store Never Runs Out Of A Certain Book, Dose That Mean That Nobody Reads It, Or Everybody Reads It (tweet source).
Water In The Eyes And Alcohol In The Eyes Are Pretty Much…

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African Ladies Hear This

This is my advice for all Ladies and myself……. I’m
sorry If it will annoy you but it’s
the Truth, you really have to take
correction now. Dear ladies,
Firstly, if you are still struggling to
find a husband at an old age because you are
looking for a
perfect man, Something is wrong
with you, Sorry to say that but it’s
true. Your propaganda magazine
tells you that ‘All men are liars,
cheats and useless, but let’s be honest here,
which is more likely?.
Is it that there’s something wrong
with about 70million African men,
OR there is
something wrong with one African
Woman?.Ladies, you certainly will not get into
a blissful matrimony if
you are always hanging out with
your so called girlfriends every
night at a beer palour or bar and
waiting for a guy to buy you a drink
and take you home. Drinking yourself to
stupor every Friday and
Saturday nights does
not exactly make you look like a
marriage material. You
want a man?. Invest in a good
wardrobe, and dress responsibly. When a man
comes to you, smile
and be polite, even if he does
not fit your mental image of your
kind of man. Ladies please and
please, stop going into a
relationship with a chip on your shoulder. If
you believe all men are
bad and all men are Dogs, then it
will become a self fulfilling
prophesy.
No man is perfect!. Even you!.
You say you can’t marry a blue collar guy like
a mechanic or
carpenter. If a carpenter was good
enough to marry MARY THE MOTHER
OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST”, why
isn’t one good enough for you?. Do
not focus on where a man is now, but look
and see where he has the
potentials to be. What’s
the point of being beaten to a pulp
every night by some rich, good
looking and non caring man?. Do
you want a future where you will sit in a
traffic in your car with
sunglasses covering your swollen
eyes, you look out of the window
and see a happy couple in a Tuk Tuk
holding hands and laughing like
newly wedded couple even after 12 years of
marriage.
THINK ABOUT IT!