The Ultimate Gifts

In life there are series of gifts that you most give yourself and i call them “The Ultimate gifts”

The gift of work: Hard work is backbone of every success, if you can work hard on anything little then you can work on anything complex.

The gift of friends: Friends are people who can give their all for you. You must learn to have positive friends those that are real and true.

The gift of learning: Do you truly know how to learn, learning never ends you give yourself to learning everyday and learn something new a day.

The gift of problems: You don’t begin to live until you lost everything. When you lost everything then you have a good place to start from the scratch.

The gift of family: Family is the best thing you can have if your family is healthy, family will always look out for you when you need support and care.

The gift of laughter: Surround yourself with happy people who always laugh and make you laugh because moods are contiguous.

The gift of dream: You must free your mind and allow yourself to dream, you must dream and act on it.

The gift of giving: Just like the saying givers never lack, if you give you open door for more blessing to flow into you.

The gift of gratitude: You should learn to be grateful to all that has impact something in your life. When you have a heart of gratitude you open more doors for more impact into you.

The gift of love: Love is the greatest gift that can happen to you. Give yourself love.

The gift of a day: Give yourself a day that you will forever remember and also give such to another.

Inspired by the movie the ultimate gift.

Short Story With Great Moral

A wise man stood in front of a large
audience and cracked a very funny joke;
everybody laughed like crazy.
After sometime, he cracked the same joke
again; this time, less people laughed. He cracked the same joke again and again
until everyone got tired of it and started
wondering what he was doing. When he
saw that there was no more laughter in the
crowd, he smiled and said: “You can’t laugh
at the same joke again and again but why do you keep crying over the same thing over
and over again?”
Never let a bad day make you feel like you
have a bad life. Just because today is painful
doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be great.
And just cause you failed today doesn’t mean you wont succeed tomorrow!
I G Malgwi

How To Get Ideas Out Of Thin Air

I just come across this write up on how to get ideas. I will like to share with you my views and the authors view.

Coming up with ideas can be tough, sometimes impossible, or so it seems. I’ve never had a problem with generating ideas, but I’ve discovered that they often do not manifest themselves in the way I expect them to.

Whenever I feel like I’m stuck, I move onto something else, because if I try to force things, it never goes well. I learned this while playing the freeCell game.

I learned that when I let things unfold naturally, everything went smoother and the end results were better.

I’ve had a lot of time to get familiar with how my body, mind and soul conjure up ideas. I suggest you do the same!

Where Do Ideas Come From Anyway?

I think ideas come from a place we don’t see, but we know is there, we kind of feel it. Ideas aren’t something that belong to us, they float around until someone grabs them.

How often have you had an idea that you didn’t act on and then a few months later you discovered that someone had “stolen” your idea?

That’s what happens when you don’t use the inspiration you get. If you aren’t putting the ideas you get to good use, what is the point of sending you more?
A Note on Brainstorming

At the moment my favorite way of brainstorming is to take a topic and start writing keywords about anything that comes to mind.

The best way to do this is to use a voice recorder, because the last thing you want to do is censor yourself, which happens a lot if you’re writing.

We all have at least one thing we can do to allow ideas and solutions to appear. For the detective it was taking a drive.

The more you use your brain and solve problems, the better you get at these things. Here are a few of the ways I generate ideas:

1. Washing the Dishes. It’s amazing how many ideas I’ve gotten while washing the dishes. I’ve never been a fan of using a dishwasher. Why do I need one when I can wash everything by hand so much more quickly? Anyway . . . using the dishes helps me focus my mind on one thing. In that sense, it is kind of like meditation. Whenever I need an idea or a problem solved and if there’s dishes around, I go do them. Often it doesn’t help to think more, but to think less.

2. Befriend Your Bed. It’s not what you think. What I mean by befriending your bed is taking a break and lying there, relaxing. If you’ve been trying to come up with a great idea or solution all day, give yourself some time to cool off and take a nap or lie there thinking about whatever you want, but I do recommend making it something positive. If I go to bed, lie down and think about my problem, it doesn’t really work that well.

3. Allowing. Sometimes ideas come when the time is right. I view ideas and inspiration as something that comes naturally, so when I’m not receiving a solution to a problem, it’s me blocking it. When nothing else works, I meditate and release any resistance I might have in my body.

4. Observing. I like to take walks with Friends or by myself. It helps me clear my mind. If you decide to go for a walk, stay as present as possible and remember to bring something to record your ideas on. I’ve noticed that once the flood gates open, I want to be ready to capture whatever is coming through. Don’t wait, jot everything down right away.

5. Being Present. I almost hate saying be present, be in the now and focus on what is, because they have been so overused in the last few years. But they have been repeated so many times for a good reason: they work. When you stop worrying and get your ass back to the present moment, you’ll improve your idea generation greatly.

6. Brainstorming. Like I said above, I’ve fallen back in love with brainstorming. Sometimes I use mind mapping software, sometimes I use notepad and sometimes I use good old pen and paper. The only reason I don’t use an audio recorder is because I like to see my ideas, so if I record everything, I’d have to transcribe it all and that takes time.

7. Exercising. Have you ever noticed how clear your mind is after you’ve exercised? I have too, it’s pretty cool. This again goes back to the theme of doing something completely unrelated to what you were doing and letting your unconscious come up with a great idea or solution to a problem you’re having. Our conscious mind is nothing compared to our unconscious.

Aside

What is the most important project before you right now? How really important is it? If tomorrow is your last day on earth, will this project still be a priority? What will be your preoccupation today? What will you use the rest of your time doing?
By the way, are there people you need to settle with? Any unresolved conflict? Do you hold offence against any one? Is your heart Free, Pure and Ready? Or are there any pending repairs or amendment to your life? I don’t really know why the death of Mr Michael Jackson affected me so much! Something strange hit me when I picked the breaking news of his sudden and emergency transfer to the hospital. I remained with CNN for hours. I followed the ‘progress’ of the news.
First it was: Mr Jackson has being rushed to the hospital.
Then Mr Jackson is reported to be in coma…….
Then Mr Jackson condition is said to be worsening….
And then the big one; Mr Jackson is dead!

My mind roamed free! I see the guy on stage: energetic, smooth, flashy and professional; a complete master of his trade! Now he is gone! Mr Jackson? No, that is not his name. MJ? Not at all. His name is in Isaiah 40:6-8. He is Mr GRASS! And I am thinking that is your name to. It is our common name. it is the name we inherited from daddy Adam. It is both our surname as well as our first name. Very few of us have affidavit to the effect that we’ve changed name. I saw people crying at the funeral service of Mr GRASS! I cried too. But again I checked Isaiah 40, and I discovered we missed it yet again. Why were we crying? What did we cry?
“the voice said, cry. And he said, What shall I cry”?
We didn’t know what to cry! We were there, a bunch of weak humanity in slavery to sin and Satan! We were all there with our Talent, Money, Fame and Glamour. Yet we are all GRASS! Cry and say,
“All FLESH is GRASS, and all the goodliness thereof is as the FLOWER of the field…” And, mark this! “The GRASS WITHERETH, the FLOWER FADETH…”
I saw us there, on the magnificent stage! I saw the casket bedecked with flower (yes, FLOWER!). I saw men of caliber and women of substance! I saw on the background screen the flashes of Mr GRASS past performances! I saw him in the days of innocence! I saw when the GRASS started to wither. I saw what God made, when Mr GRASS was but a baby singer. Then I saw the world’s recreation of God’s creation. I saw the fading of the flower! Oh God! How can we be so gifted and blessed by God only for us to submit our soul to the devil to turn’s God’s creation of His own image to mere GRASS. On that stage, where the whole of humanity stood to get rid of the GRASS, I saw us all! We were there by our common name. Janet Jackson FLOWER, Little Paris FLOWER, Lionel Richie GRASS, Stevie Wonder GRASS, Jamie Jackson GRASS and a host of other GRASSES and FLOWERS .

It suddenly dawned on me: We really don’t understand God. We pride in shame and glory in vanity. We take to lecture, we learn no lesson. We do cry when one of us falls as Grass that we are. But we don’t acknowledge our need of God! Is it not yet clear to us the inevitable end of GRASS? “The GRASS WITHERS” Don’t we know what happens to FLOWERS? “The FLOWER FADES” Why then remain in the GRASS and FLOWER family? What the heck! Is it worth the gamble? Yes, Grasses stay Green for a while, and the rose does retains its colour for the moment. But haven’t we seen the end of the Greenest of Grasses and reddest of Roses?
We have been actors and entertainers; and life as it is in the Creator’s mind keeps eluding us. When we all wake up to our Reality? When will the actors stop acting and live real life….. The LIFE! Mr Jackson has been dubbed the greatest Entertainer of his time. I am not sure if God Almighty, the Owner of Life and Breath, has been entertained in the 50 plus years of Mr Jackson’s life. Indeed many Entertainers, including Mr Jackson, have actually taken away the attention of men from their Maker! I am always afraid when I think of what the world can make out of what God has made! For Mr Jackson, we saw what God made him. And we saw what the world re-created him! Yet we can’t really blame the world. By our choice we become what we become! But then, we will all go back to Him who made us, to explain OURSELVES (not to HIM) why we made the choice we made in our life-time!
By the way, did I tell you that I changed my from Mr GRASS to Mr WORD? Here was happened: Isaiah carried.
“All flesh is Grass, and all the goodliness thereof is as the flower of the field. The Grass withers, the flower fades! But THE WORD OF OUR GOD SHALL STAND FOR EVER” (Isaiah 40:6-8)
To remain Grass is to perish! To be mere Flower is to die forever. But then, it is not only Grass and Flower that one can be. There is the alternative! While the Grass change from Green to Brown and then rottens; while the flower changes its colours, fades and dies off, we are told that there is something that stand for all eternity! “The WORD of our God shall stand for ever” Our best in life outside of God is all toilet stuff! This world has no light! What we see and celebrate outside of our life in God are but illusion and delusion. The colour of black is black. Earth is dull and colourless viewing from eternity perspective! Only Jesus puts true colour to the human souls.
“You that say, Today or Tomorrow we will go into such and such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell and get gain, whereas you know not what shall be on the morrow. FOR WHAT IS YOUR LIFE? IT IS EVEN A VAPOR THAT APPEAR FOR A LITTLE TIME, AND THEN VANISHED AWAY” (James 4:13, 14)
I don’t want a vapour for a life. I don’t want Grass or Flower as fitting description of my core-life. That was why I changed from MR GRASS to MR WORD! I know the end of FLOWERS. I understand the fate of vapour. I do not want any of that. Especially when I have a choice.
“The WORD of our God shall stand for ever”
John put its soberly:
The world is passing away and the lust thereof. But he that does the will of God abides for ever (see 1 John 2:16, 17)
Guess what, you don’t have the kind of time you think you have to decide your place in God. Right now, how does God view your life, Grass or Flower or Vapour? When are you going to change God’s view of your life? The world has finished celebrating Mr Michael Jackson. The News about him is no longer breaking news. It has gone flat! He has been neatly deposited in the soil where his memory lays with him. “Dust thou art” until you receive the Christ-Life. Mr Jackson can tell us better now. Here was a man who gave his whole life to entertain the world. He even changed his God-given appearance to give the world what he taught was a better him. I am however not sure what he gave God. But that is the issue confronting him right now! And very soon, I will be the issue with you and with me! God is waiting!
By Dr. Moses Fagbemi

Mr Grass and Mrs Flower

4 Parts of Visualization

Did you know that there are 4 parts of visualization that you can learn and practice to assure that you use this incredible power to its best advantage all the days of your life?

How Often?

The first aspect of visualization is frequency. This is number of times that you visualize yourself performing in an excellent way, in a particular event or circumstance, to achieve a particular goal. The more frequently you repeat a clear mental picture of your very best performance or result, the more rapidly it will appear as part of your reality.

How Long?

The second element of visualization is the duration of the mental image, the length of time that you can hold the picture in your mind each time you replay it. When you deeply relax, you can often hold a mental picture of yourself performing at your best for several seconds, and even several minutes. The longer you can hold your mental picture, the more deeply it will be impressed into your subconscious mind and the more rapidly it will express itself in your subsequent performance.

#How Often #How long #How clearly #How Intensely  

How Clearly?

The third element of visualization is vividness. There is a direct relationship between how clearly you can see your desired goal or result in your mind and how quickly it comes into your reality. This element of visualization is what explains the powers of the Law of Attraction and the Law of Correspondence. The vividness of your desire directly determines how quickly it materializes in the world around you.
Here is an interesting point: When you set a new goal for yourself, your image or picture of this goal will usually be vague and fuzzy. But the more often you write it, review it, and repeat it mentally, the clearer it becomes for you. Eventually, it will become crystal clear. At that point, the goal will suddenly appear in your world exactly as you imagined it.

How Intensely?

The fourth element of visualization is intensity, the amount of emotion that you attach to your visual image. In reality, this is the most important and powerful part of the visualization process. Sometimes, if your emotion is intense enough and your visual image is clear enough, you will immediately achieve it.

Of course, the elements of frequency, duration, vividness, and intensity can help you or hurt you. Like nature, the power of visualization is neutral. Like a two-edged sword, it can cut in either direction. It can either make you a success or make you a failure. Visualization brings you whatever you vividly and intensely imagine, whether good or bad.

By Brian Tracy

10 Reason To Find Your Greatness

Why should you find your greatness? Do we all have it? Where does it come from? What can it do?
 

Greatness is not something you are entitled to. It is something that you earn, something that you work and strive for. It is something that you deserve only if you make a go for it. And if you want the whole world to know about your greatness, it is important that you do not wait for the world to see it and instead, you need to live it, and the world will be the one to catch up with you. Find your Greatness!

If you still haven’t got any motivation to start with your personal development, you might be interested to know some of the best reasons why you need to find your greatness and start   showing it  to the whole world.

 

 

Have an Impact

Finding your greatness will help you to make a tremendous impact, not only to yourself but also to your family, to the people around you and to the whole world. And this impact is something that they will surely value and treasure for the rest of their lives.

Attract Positive Energy

Embracing your greatness can make you look at life in a more positive light which can help you stay away from negative thoughts that can only bring you down.

Experience Happiness, Pleasure and Joy

Being aware of how great you are will also pave the way for you to feel good about yourself. This can serve as your motivation to continue living your life to the fullest and make the most out of every moment that you have. And when you do so, joy and pleasure are bound to come your way.

Be Happy for Other People

Part of personal development is being able to celebrate the happiness and success of other people around you. When you feel great about yourself, it also allows you to see the good things in others and this way, you will also attract your very own happiness and success.

Open More Doors of Opportunities

Showing your greatness to the world will open you to brand new possibilities and opportunities. You can see more great things brewing up in the horizon and you will be more motivated to claim them because you know that you can actually do it.

Prepare Yourself for Changes

All things on earth are temporary, with the tables constantly changing. By fully embracing your greatness, you can be fully prepared for whatever changes life may throw at you.

Extend a Helping Hand to Others

Your greatness is not something that works for yourself alone. When you feel great, this can serve as your motivation to help others to feel great about themselves, as well. Together, everyone can work hand in hand to make things better.

Start a Better World

When people see you embracing your greatness, they will also be inspired to embrace theirs. When everyone does this, this will pave the way for a better world.

Create a Legacy That Excites You and Makes You Proud

By finding your greatness to the world, you will leave behind a legacy that you can be proud of.

Greatness is Possible for All

The last but definitely not the least reason why you need to show your greatness is because this is something possible for everyone, regardless of age, gender, race, color and beliefs. Everyone can be great. It is only a matter of choice. Choose wisely!

 

Much love and power to you all,

Jeff More (everday power blog)
 

He Will Not Let Go No Matter What

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter: “Sweetheart, please
hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river.” The little girl said: “No, Dad. You hold
my hand.” “What’s the difference?” asked the puzzled father. “There’s a big difference,” replied the little girl. “If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.” OUR PRAYER IS SIMPLE In whatever bridge of life u maybe crossing, may the Almighty God hold your hand and never let u down in Jesus name.

Librate Yourself

DO NOT let other people’s poverty mentality infect your mind or your spirit. They are slaves in a prison of their own making, because they do not have confidence or belief that they deserve all that life has to offer.
YOUR destiny is unlimited abundance if you’re a simply willing to accept that gift.
I G Malgwi

20 Things To Start Doing About Relationship

20 Things to Start Doing in Your Relationships
1. Free yourself from negative people.

2. Let go of those who are already gone.

3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance.

4. Show everyone kindness and respect.

5. Accept people just the way they are.

6. Encourage others and cheer for them.

7. Be your imperfectly perfect self.

8. Forgive people and move forward.

9. Do little things every day for others.

10. Pay attention to who your real friends are.

11. Always be loyal.

12. Stay in better touch with people who matter to you.

13. Keep your promises and tell the truth.

14. Give what you want to receive.

15. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

16. Allow others to make their own decisions.

17. Talk a little less, and listen more.

18. Leave petty arguments alone.

19. Ignore unconstructive, or hurtful comments.

20. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself.

Women Are Indeed Priceless

I was touched by how far women can go just to please a man and I will love to share with you this short write up.
You saw her somewhere & asked to meet her she stopped for you.
You asked for her name she told you.
You asked for her phone number, she gave you the real one.
You asked for her friendship she gave you care, presence & listening ear.
You asked for intimacy & she gave you her body .
You asked for her loyalty she gave you all of her heart, spirit, soul & body. You asked her to live with you & she married you.
You asked for a legacy she gave you Children.
You asked for her help & she raised your Children.
You asked to be loved she cooked for you, dressed & warmed your bed, adviced you & prayed for you.
In all this time she asked for just one thing;
“PLEASE DON’T HURT ME” but just then, you
treated her bad, mocked her, took her for granted
and even tending to DIVORCE her.
At this juncture, even God himself will be angry you.
Be careful. Live responsibly. If you find a good woman please don’t hurt her. May God always
bring good Women to the path of good Man.
By Mariah Ezekiel.

Short Story With A Moral

SHORT STORY WITH A MORAL:
A lady was waiting for her flight at the airport. Since she would need to wait many hours, she decided to buy a book and a packet of cookies to spend her time. She sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace. Beside the armchair where the packet of cookies lay, a man was seated in the next seat, he opened his magazine and started reading.
When she took out the first cookie, the man took one also. She felt irritated but said nothing. She just thought: “What a nerve! If I was in the mood I would punch him for daring!”
For each cookie she took, the man took one too. This was infuriating her but she didn’t want to cause a scene. When only one cookie remained, she thought: “ah… What would this abusive man do now?”
Then, the man, taking the last cookie, divided it into half, giving her one half. Ah! That was too much! She was much too angry now! Angrily she took her things and stormed out of there. When she sat down in her seat, inside the plane, she looked into her purse to take her eyeglasses, and to her surprise, her packet of cookies was there, untouched, unopened!
She felt so ashamed! She realized that she was wrong. She had forgotten that her cookies were kept in her purse.
The man had divided his cookies with her, without feeling angered or bitter. “While she had been very angry, thinking that she was
dividing her cookies with him.
And now there was no chance to explain herself, nor to apologize.”

There are 4 things that you cannot recover: The stone after the throw! The word after it’s said! The occasion after the loss! The time after it’s gone.
Cherish Every Moment and Fill It With Love and Care For Everyone.

Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School

I don’t think about the past or regret things much these days.
But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was.
Because some of the things in this article a teacher probably spoke about in class. But I forgot about them or didn’t pay attention.
Some of it would probably not have stuck in my mind anyway. Or just been too far outside my reality at the time for me to accept and use.
But I still think that taking a few hours from all those classes and use them for some personal development classes would have been a good idea. Perhaps for just an hour a week in high school. It would probably be useful for many students and on a larger scale quite helpful for society in general.
So here are 16 things I wish they had taught me in school (or I just would like to have known about earlier).
1. The 80/20 rule.
This is one of the best ways to make better use of your time. The 80/20 rule – also known as The Pareto Principle – basically says that 80 percent of the value you will receive will come from 20 percent of your activities.
So a lot of what you do is probably not as useful or even necessary to do as you may think.
You can just drop – or vastly decrease the time you spend on – a whole bunch of things.
And if you do that you will have more time and energy to spend on those things that really brings your value, happiness, fulfilment and so on.
2. Parkinson’s Law.
You can do things quicker than you think. This law says that a task will expand in time and seeming complexity depending on the time you set aside for it. For instance, if you say to yourself that you’ll come up with a solution within a week then the problem will seem to grow more difficult and you’ll spend more and more time trying to come up with a solution.
So focus your time on finding solutions. Then just give yourself an hour (instead of the whole day) or the day (instead of the whole week) to solve the problem. This will force your mind to focus on solutions and action.
The result may not be exactly as perfect as if you had spent a week on the task, but as mentioned in the previous point, 80 percent of the value will come from 20 percent of the activities anyway. Or you may wind up with a better result because you haven’t overcomplicated or overpolished things. This will help you to get things done faster, to improve your ability to focus and give you more free time where you can totally focus on what’s in front of you instead of having some looming task creating stress in the back of your mind.
3. Batching.
Boring or routine tasks can create a lot of procrastination and low-level anxiety. One good way to get these things done quickly is to batch them. This means that you do them all in row. You will be able to do them quicker because there is less start-up time compared to if you spread them out. And when you are batching you become fully engaged in the tasks and more focused.
A batch of things to do in an hour today may look like this: Clean your desk / answer today’s emails / do the dishes / make three calls / write a grocery shopping list for tomorrow.
4. First, give value. Then, get value. Not the other way around.
This is a bit of a counter-intuitive thing. There is often an idea that someone should give us something or do something for us before we give back. The problem is just that a lot of people think that way. And so far less than possible is given either way.
If you want to increase the value you receive (money, love, kindness, opportunities etc.) you have to increase the value you give. Because over time you pretty much get what you give. It would perhaps be nice to get something for nothing. But that seldom happens.
5. Be proactive. Not reactive.
This one ties into the last point. If everyone is reactive then very little will get done. You could sit and wait and hope for someone else to do something. And that happens pretty often, but it can take a lot of time before it happens.
A more useful and beneficial way is to be proactive, to simply be the one to take the first practical action and get the ball rolling. This not only saves you a lot of waiting, but is also more pleasurable since you feel like you have the power over your life. Instead of feeling like you are run by a bunch of random outside forces.
6. Mistakes and failures are good.
When you are young you just try things and fail until you learn. As you grow a bit older, you learn from – for example – school to not make mistakes. And you try less and less things.
This may cause you to stop being proactive and to fall into a habit of being reactive, of waiting for someone else to do something. I mean, what if you actually tried something and failed? Perhaps people would laugh at you?
Perhaps they would. But when you experience that you soon realize that it is seldom the end of the world. And a lot of the time people don’t care that much. They have their own challenges and lives to worry about.
And success in life often comes from not giving up despite mistakes and failure. It comes from being persistent.
When you first learn to ride your bike you may fall over and over. Bruise a knee and cry a bit. But you get up, brush yourself off and get on the saddle again. And eventually you learn how to ride a bike. If you can just reconnect to your 5-year-old self and do things that way – instead of giving up after a try/failure or two as grown-ups often do you would probably experience a lot more interesting things, learn valuable lessons and have quite a bit more success.
7. Don’t beat yourself up.
Why do people give up after just few mistakes or failures? Well, I think one big reason is because they beat themselves up way too much. But it’s a kinda pointless habit. It only creates additional and unnecessary pain inside you and wastes your precious time. It’s best to try to drop this habit as much as you can.
8. Assume rapport.
Meeting new people is fun. But it can also induce nervousness. We all want to make a good first impression and not get stuck in an awkward conversation.
The best way to do this that I have found so far is to assume rapport. This means that you simply pretend that you are meeting one of your best friends. Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind instead of the nervous one.
This works surprisingly well. You can read more about it in How to Have Less Awkward Conversations: Assuming Rapport.
9. Use your reticular activation system to your advantage.
I learned about the organs and the inner workings of the body in class but nobody told me about the reticular activation system. And that’s a shame, because this is one of the most powerful things you can learn about. What this focus system, this R.A.S, in your mind does is to allow you to see in your surroundings what you focus your thoughts on. It pretty much always helps you to find what you are looking for.
So you really need to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. And keep that focus steady.
Setting goals and reviewing them frequently is one way to keep your focus on what’s important and to help you take action that will move your closer to toward where you want to go. Another way is just to use external reminders such as pieces of paper where you can, for instance, write down a few things from this post like “Give value” or “Assume rapport”. And then you can put those pieces of paper on your fridge, bathroom mirror etc.
10. Your attitude changes your reality.
We have all heard that you should keep a positive attitude or perhaps that “you need to change your attitude!”. That is a nice piece of advice I suppose, but without any more reasons to do it is very easy to just brush such suggestions off and continue using your old attitude.
But the thing that I’ve discovered the last few years is that if you change your attitude, you actually change your reality. When you for instance use a positive attitude instead of a negative one you start to see things and viewpoints that were invisible to you before. You may think to yourself “why haven’t I thought about things this way before?”.
When you change your attitude you change what you focus on. And all things in your world can now be seen in a different light.
This is of course very similar to the previous tip but I wanted to give this one some space. Because changing your attitude can create an insane change in your world. It might not look like it if you just think about it though. Pessimism might seem like realism. But that is mostly because your R.A.S is tuned into seeing all the negative things you want to see. And that makes you “right” a lot of the time. And perhaps that is what you want. On the other hand, there are more fun things than being right all the time.
If you try changing your attitude for real – instead of analysing such a concept in your mind – you’ll be surprised.
You may want to read more about this topic in Take the Positivity Challenge!
11. Gratitude is a simple way to make yourself feel happy.
Sure, I was probably told that I should be grateful. Perhaps because it was the right thing to do or just something I should do. But if someone had said that feeling grateful about things for minute or two is a great way to turn a negative mood into a happy one I would probably have practiced gratitude more. It is also a good tool for keeping your attitude up and focusing on the right things. And to make other people happy. Which tends to make you even happier, since emotions are contagious.
12. Don’t compare yourself to others.
The ego wants to compare. It wants to find reasons for you to feel good about yourself (“I’ve got a new bike!”). But by doing that it also becomes very hard to not compare yourself to others who have more than you (“Oh no, Bill has bought an even nicer bike!”). And so you don’t feel so good about yourself once again. If you compare yourself to others you let the world around control how you feel about yourself. It always becomes a roller coaster of emotions.
A more useful way is to compare yourself to yourself. To look at how far you have come, what you have accomplished and how you have grown. It may not sound like that much fun but in the long run it brings a lot more inner stillness, personal power and positive feelings.
13. 80-90% of what you fear will happen never really come into reality.
This is a big one. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of time.
This is of course easy to say. But if you remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more of that worry from your thoughts.
14. Don’t take things too seriously.
It’s very easy to get wrapped up in things. But most of the things you worry about never come into reality. And what may seem like a big problem right now you may not even remember in three years.
Taking yourself, your thoughts and your emotions too seriously often just seems to lead to more unnecessary suffering. So relax a little more and lighten up a bit. It can do wonders for your mood and as an extension of that; your life.
15. Write everything down.
If your memory is anything like mine then it’s like a leaking bucket. Many of your good or great ideas may be lost forever if you don’t make a habit of writing things down. This is also a good way to keep your focus on what you want. Read more about it in Why You Should Write Things Down.
16. There are opportunities in just about every experience.
In pretty much any experience there are always things that you can learn from it and things within the experience that can help you to grow. Negative experiences, mistakes and failure can sometimes be even better than a success because it teaches you something totally new, something that another success could never teach you.
Whenever you have a “negative experience” ask yourself: where is the opportunity in this? What is good about this situation? One negative experience can – with time – help you create many very positive experiences.
What do you wish someone had told you in school or you had just learned earlier in life?

Monday Motivation

Most times what we use as solution is more dangerious then the problem. I will like to share with you this story, to help when your in trouble.
A woman was cooking when her little child come aroung where she is cokking, the little girl step no a hot coal and she start shouting mummy my leg, mummy my leg. And the mother out tun and saw water in a bowl and she pour it on the little girls leg, the water she use was hot water that she boil and the girls leg got burnt completly. Moral lesson next time when in trouble don’t rush into finding a solution but find out the caurse of the problem and then what’s the best solution.
Wishing a blessed week.

Before You Judge Others: A Story of A Biker

There are times in our lives that we can sometimes judge other people unfairly simply because of the way they may look, act, or dress. The thing that makes it even worse is the fact that we often do this without even knowing them. We should really try to take the time to get to know someone before we decide the kind of person that they may be.

The following story was posted on FaceBook a while ago. It reveals to us a good lesson that we should all try to learn and apply this truth to our hearts. The following was a note that this Biker left on a window of an SUV in a parking lot.

“To the family in the red SUV at Tim Horton’s today,

Yes, I am a big 280 pound guy with motorcycles and tattoos. I am a welder, I am loud, I drink beer, I swear and I look like I would eat your soul if you stare at me wrong.

What you don’t know is that I have been happily married for 11 years, my kids call me daddy, I am a college graduate, my mother is proud of me and she tells everyone how lucky she is to have such a wonderful son. My nieces and nephews are always happy to see their m’noncl Luc and when my daughter broke her arm, I cried more than she did. I read books, I help people, I go out of my way to thank war veterans and I even cried at Armageddon.

So, the next time I smile and say Hi to your little girl and you grab her and tell her “no, no dear…we don’t talk to dirty bikers” remember that even though you hurt my feelings, this “dirty biker” would be the first person to run into your burning house to save your little girls’ goldfish so she won’t be sad!!!”
From goodtimestories.wordpress.com

Funny Stories With Great Leasons

Just read this stories from goodtimesstories.com I want to share with you. Funny story but with deep leasons

I recently found these great stories on carlpei.com that not only are a little humorous but also have very good “morals of the story.” Please note..while I am not a big fan of certain language, in the case of a couple of these stories, they just fit perfectly. Enjoy!

Lesson 1

A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next door neighbor. Before she says a word, Bob says, “I’ll give you $800 to drop that towel.” After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob.

After a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 dollars and leaves. The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks,…

“Who was that?” “It was Bob the next door neighbor,” she replies. “Great!” the husband says, “Did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?”

Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.

Lesson 2

A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp. They rub it and a Genie comes out. The Genie says, “I’ll give each of you just one wish” “Me first! Me first!” says the administration clerk. “I want to be in the Bahamas, driving a speedboat, without a care in the world.” Poof! She’s gone. “Me next! Me next!” says the sales rep. “I want to be in Hawaii, relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life.” Poof! He’s gone. “OK, you’re up,” the Genie says to the manager. The manager says, “I want those two back in the office after lunch.”

Moral of the story: Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 3

A priest offered a lift to a Nun. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a leg. The priest nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg. The nun said,”Father, remember Psalm 129?” The priest removed his hand. But,changing gears, he let his hand slide up her leg again. The nun once again said, “Father, remember Psalm 129?” The priest apologized “Sorry sister but the flesh is weak.” Arriving at the convent, the nun went on her way. On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129. It said, “Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory.”

Moral of the story: If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great opportunity.

Lesson 4

A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day. A rabbit asked him,”Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?” The crow answered: “Sure, why not.” So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested.

A fox jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story: To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very high up.

Lesson 5: Power of Charisma

A turkey was chatting with a bull “I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree,” sighed the turkey, but I haven’t got the energy.” “Well, why don’t you nibble on my droppings?” replied the bull. “They’re packed with nutrients.” The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Moral of the story: Bullshit might get you to the top, but it wont keep you there.

Lesson 6

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Moral of the story:
1. Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy
2. Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend
3. And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut!

Advice

Never live your live base on peoples expectation, reason you cannot met peoples expectations over your life. Just be who God say you should be and you have a happy life.

Simple Steps To Have A Good Relationship

Simple steps for a good Relationships

10 ideas for building human connection to get you to a whole new level of high performance and acceptance.

1)Be the most positive person you know
2)Be candid and speak truthfully
3)Be on time
4)Say Please and Thank you
5)Under-promise and Over-deliver
6)Leave people better than you found them
7)Be friendly and caring
8)Be a world class listener
9)Become passionately interested in other people
10)Smile a lot

Choice Wisely

CO-INCIDENCE OF LIFE:

1. CHURCH has 6 letters so does MOSQUE.
2. BIBLE has 5 letters so does QURAN.
3. DEAD has 4 letters so does LIFE.
4. HATE has 4 letters, so does LOVE.
5. ENEMIES has 7, so does FRIENDS.
6. LYING has 5, so does TRUTH.
7. HURT has 4, so does HEAL.
8. NEGATIVE has 8, so does POSITIVE.
9. FAILURE has 7, so does SUCCESS.
10. BELOW has 5, but so does ABOVE.
11. CRY has 3 letters so does JOY.
12. ANGER has 5 so does HAPPY.
13. WRONG has 5 so does RIGHT.
14. POOR has 4 so does RICH.
15. FAIL has 4 so does PASS
16. IGNORANCE has 9 so does KNOWLEDGE.

Are they all by Co-incidence? We should
Choose wisely, this means LIFE is like a
Double-Edged Sword.

Do you Agree???

How To Choose The Right Partner?

How To Choose The Right Partner?

When you step into the world of dating, many may come along and claim that they are perfect for you. Then how do you distinguish the genuinely good ones from the bad ones? Listed below are some traits that you must look out for in a perfect partner.

1. Loyalty
If they can’t stay loyal, they will not be able to love you enough. You will never be happy with a person like that. No matter what happens, never date a philanderer.

2. Maturity
Maturity refers to knowing how to behave in a particular place and a particular time. Maturity does not depend upon the age of a person. It is attained through sufficient experience.

3. Independence
This refers to someone who has the potential to keep you happy. Don’t date someone who will only depend on you for every single thing.

4. Commitment
Commitment is very important in a relationship. Look out for someone who wishes to have a long term relationship with you. Run away from a person who keeps changing his mind

5. Security.
Go for someone who can make you feel secured both physically, emotionally and financially.

6. Respect.
Go for someone who will not only respect you but also respect those who are important to you.

7. Good sense of humor.
Go for someone who will make life lively for you. Laughter heals wounds & act as catalyst in r/s.

8. Similarities.
Go for someone who shares similar hobbies, taste, preferences like you to avoid clash of interest.

9. Smartness.
Go for someone who is more intelligent and wiser than you.

10. Romantic & affectionate.
Go for someone who can make you feel special.

11. Easy to understand.
Go for someone who you can easily blend with.

12. Sensitivity.
Go for someone who is sensitive to your feelings and needs.

IF YOU HAVE GOTTEN ONE, PLEASE DON’T LET HIM GO.
By Paul M. Wakawa

Joke Joke Joke

Akpos’ father passing by Akpos’ bedroom was
astonished to see that his bed was nicely made and
everything was picked up. Then he saw an envelope, propped up prominently
on the pillow that was addressed to ‘Dad.’ With the worst premonition he opened the envelope
with trembling hands and read the letter. Dear Dad, It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing
you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I
wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you. I have been finding real passion with chioma and
she is so nice. But I knew you would not approve of her because
of all her piercing, tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes
and the fact that she is much older than I am. But it’s not only the passion…Dad, she’s pregnant.
Chioma said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of
firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of
having many more children. Chioma has opened my eyes to the fact that
marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone. We’ll be
growing it for ourselves and trading it with the
other people that live nearby for cocaine and
ecstasy. In the meantime we will pray that science will find a
cure for AIDS, so Chioma can get better. She
deserves it. Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15 and I know
how to take care of myself. Someday I’m sure that we will be back to visit so
that you can get to know your grandchildren. Your Son,
Akpos P.S. – Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at
Emeka’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse
things in life than the report card that’s in my center
desk drawer. I love you. Call me when it’s safe to come home.

By Ibrahim Gana Malgwi Posted in Jokes

Wacth Youtube Videos On VLC Player

You can not only Watch single Video in VLC  but also Watch Youtube Playlists in VLC to watch them in Sequence,Some More Advantages of Watching Youtube Videos In VLC Media player are:

Watch Youtube Videos without Ads, Means no Disturbance While Watching your Favourite Video.
Use Loop Button To Watch a Video Again and again Many times.
Increase or Decrease the Speed of the Video
Take Snapshots of any particular Screen of a Song or Movie.
How to Watch Youtube Videos in VLC Media Player

Now let us Get Started With Steps to Watch Youtube Videos In VLC, Follow the Below Simple Steps.

Step 1: Open VLC media player, Click on File > Open Network Or Simply Use CTRL+N Keys to Open up Network URL Dialog box.

Step 2: Open Youtube, Navigate to Whatever Video you want to Play in VLC, Copy the Url of that video and Paste it in the Dialogue Box. and Click on Play.

Step 3: Enjoy Your Video.

Simple Enough hah, Now Let us see How to Watch Youtube Playlist In VLC Media Player.

Step 1: To Watch Youtube Playlists in VLC we will be Using an addon, So Click here to Goto the Downloading Page of the VLC addon Called VLC Playlist Parser. Make sure you have Latest Version of VLC Running on your system.

Step 2: Download the addon, Copy it and Paste it in Videos Installation folder which in most cases would be C:\Program Files\VideoLAN\VLC\lua\playlist. 
Step 3: Everything is done, Now Open VLC, Press CTRL+N Paste Video Playlist URL Which need to be Public. Click on Play and Enjoy all the Videos.

I Just Hope this tutorial on How to Watch Youtube Videos in VLC Media Player Helps all you Youtube Lovers.

40 Quotes To Inspire The Greatness In You

Personal development is a fascinating and fun journey… most of the time.

Sometimes you become aware of aspects of yourself that you don’t like.
These are usually the things that need the most attention. If you find yourself
denying or dismissing some part of you that you KNOW needs changing but
you’re resisting it, it may help to read some personal development quotes to
keep you motivated.
After all, the work you put into yourself is for your benefit!

Personal Development Quotes

1. “When you want something,all the universe conspires in helping you to
achieve it.”- Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

2. “As soon as you stop making everyone else responsible for your happiness,
the happier you’ll be.” – Nina Guilbeau

3. “The word ‘listen’ has the same letters as the word ‘silent’” – Alfred Brendel

4. “It is more Important to be of pure intention than of perfect action.”
– Ilyas Kassam

5. “Even in the most peaceful surroundings, the angry heart finds quarrel.
Even in the most quarrelsome surroundings, the grateful heart finds peace.
– Doe Zantamata

6. “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a
perspective, not the truth.” – Marcus Aurelius

7. “Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never,
for whatever reason, turn his back on life.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

8. “If there is no wind, row.” – Latin proverb

9. “You are the way you are because that’s the way you want to be. If you
really wanted to be different, you would be in the process of changing right now.”
– Fred Smith

10. “The mind maketh good or ill, wretch or happy, rich or poor.” – Edmund Spenser

11. “What a folly the thought of throwing away life at once, and yet have no
regard to throwing it away by parcels and piecemeal.” – John Hove

12. “People do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.”
– James Allen

13. “What you subconsciously want, you will get. And what you subconsciously
do not want, you will avoid.” – Bo Sanchez

14. “Things do not change; we change.” – Henry David Thoreau

15. “Meditation is the soul’s perspective glass. – Owen Feltham

16. “What comes, is called.” – Ki Longfellow

17. “All things are possible to him who believes.” [Mark 9:23]

18. “The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” – E.E. Cummings

19. “The things that we love tell us what we are.” – St. Thomas Aquinas

20. “Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday.” – Don Marquis

21. “When you plant a seed of love, it is you that blossoms.”
– Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

22. “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done
without hope and confidence. – Helen Keller

23. “To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful.
It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst
the normal chaos of a hectic life.” – Jill Bolte Taylor

24. “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing
itself, but your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any
moment.” – Marcus Aurelius

25. “To love what you do and feel that it matters – how could anything be more fun?”
– Katherine Graham

26. “Learn how to fail intelligently, for failing is one of the greatest arts in the
world.” – Charles Kettering

27. “Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things,
or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The
way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do
what you need to do, in order to have what you want.” – Margaret Young

28. “I’ve never been poor, only broke. Being poor is a frame of mind. Being broke
is a temporary condition.” – Mike Todd

29. “Have you ever noticed that when there is a problem, you are always there?
The problem is yours – both in perception and in responsibility. Clear the beliefs in
you that see it as a problem, and the problem disappears!” – Dr. Hew Len

30. “Don’t look where you fell. Look where you slipped.” – Unknown

31. “The secret to my success is that I bit off more than I could chew and I chewed
as fast as I could.” – Paul Hogan

32. “When we give ourselves permission to fail, we at the same time give ourselves
permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad

33. “If it’s still in your mind, it’s worth taking the risk.” – Paulo Coelho

34. “The bolder the action, the greater the genius, magic and power that is likely to
flow from it.” – Robert Ringer

35. “An idea not coupled with action will never get any bigger than the brain cell it
occupies.” – Arnold Glasgow

36. “You either move toward something you love or away from something you fear.
The first expands, the second constricts.” – Tom Crum

37. “Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” – Raymond Lindquist

38. “Discontent is the first necessity of progress.” – Thomas Edison

39. “You will become as small as your controlling desire, as great as your dominant
aspiration.” – James Allen

40. “You can’t cross a sea by merely staring into the water.” – Rabindranath Tagore

Use these personal development quotes and the personal development tools
available to you within the Silva Method to help you on your path of personal
growth. Get inspired by the wise words of others. And if something doesn’t resonate
with you, put yourself in the author’s shoes and try to see things from his or her
perspective. You just never know what a quote can spark within you!

Read

TOUCHING STORY.

A King had a male servant who, in all
circumstances always said to him;My king, do not be
discouraged because everything God does is
perfect,no
mistakes. One day, they went hunting and a wild
animal attacked the king,the servant managed to kill the
animal
but couldn’t prevent his majesty from losing a finger.
Furious and without showing gratitude,the King
said;if
God was good,I would not have been attacked and lost
one finger. The servant replied; Despite all these
things,I
can
only tell you that God is good and everything He
does is perfect, He is never wrong. Outraged by the
response,the king ordered the arrest of his servant.
Later, he left for another hunt and was captured by
savages who use human beings for sacrifice.
In the altar, the savages found out that the king
didn’t had one finger in place, he was released because he
was
considered not “complete” to be offered to the gods.
On his return to the palace, he authorized the release
of
his servant and said; My friend, God was really good to
me. I was almost killed but for lack of a single finger I
was
let go.
But I have a question; If God is so good, why did He
allow me to put you in jail?. He replied; My king, if I had
gone
with you, I would have been sacrificed because I
have no
missing finger.
Everything God does is perfect, He is never wrong. Often we complain about life,and the
negative
things that happen to us, forgetting that nothing is
random, and that everything has a purpose.
God knows why he chose you to receive
this message today, If you Believe that God is on your side as u begin this
new
day, then write,”AMEN” if u mean it!!!
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11 Ways To Eliminate Bad Habits

Being able to eliminate bad habits can have a profound effect on your life. But habits can be challenging to change since they aren’t based on thoughtful choice, so it’s difficult to use logic to change your behavior. They require a multi-facet approach.

If you can’t shake your bad habits, try these tips to get you on the road to freedom:

1. Give it a month. In 30 days you can eliminate a bad habit and create a new, positive habit. Do your very best for a month. If you backslide after a month, it’s likely that your strategy is lacking.

2. Replace your bad habit. It’s almost impossible to just drop it and not replace what you’ve lost. So think about what your bad habit gives you and find a replacement that provides the same benefit. Replace the benefit or it will be a constant battle.

3. Deal with one challenge at a time. For example, avoid trying to overhaul your diet, exercise, spending, and smoking habits all at once. Pick one; give it a month. Then add another one once you’re used to not having the first bad habit.

You don’t have to be in a hurry. Consider what it would mean if you could just get rid of your 4 worst habits. That’s only 4 months away. Comparatively, that’s quick, considering that you’ve probably had them for a long time.
4. Be a scientist. Leave the big emotional struggle for someone else and approach the process like a scientist. Have an attitude of wondering if you can replace the habit. Hypothesize on how it might turn out. Be curious and have a perspective of doing an experiment. There’s less drama and bias that way.

5. Remove your triggers. For example, get the junk food out of the house. If you smoke, stay away from the places you always smoke. Avoid the places that tempt you to spend a lot of money. Habits don’t have a lot of thought behind them – they’re almost like reflexes. Don’t put yourself in harm’s way.

6. Avoid being too hard on yourself. It might take a couple of tries to get the new habit to stick. Just improve your approach and keep on going.

7. Remind yourself. It’s easy to forget to perform your new habit. If you’re going to start exercising every day, set up some reminders. If you’re going to floss, leave the floss out where you can see it.

8. Tell your friends. Your friends can help you reach your goal. They’ll say something if they see you eating a hot fudge sundae or smoking on your lunch breaks. Get all the help you can.

9. Be consistent. If you’re going to start exercising regularly, try to do it each day at the same time. This is much easier than trying to exercise 3 times a week. Try to do your replacement habit daily.

10. Remember the pain. Each day, ask yourself what it will mean if you don’t stop indulging in your bad habit. Visualize the likely outcome.

11. Focus on the pleasure. Every day, ask yourself what it will mean if you eliminate or replace your bad habit. Visualize the likely outcome of this scenario.

Bad habits really put the brakes on your progress.

Use the tips above and give yourself a great opportunity to eliminate your bad habits and replace them with useful habits. There’s no better feeling than knowing you have control over your life.

To Our Success,
Randy Mundt

http://unlimitedlifestyles.tk

7 Things You Should Not Do To A Woman.

7 Things You Should Not Do To A Woman.
1. Don’t beat her.
2. Don’t verbally abuse her.
3. Don’t disrespect her.
4. Don’t make her feel unloved. 5. Don’t rape
her.
6. Don’t cheat on her.
7. Don’t ignore her love languages.
Give her kindness, she’ll give you love.
Give her smiles, she’ll give you laughter.
Give her your heart, she’ll give you her life.
Give her a house, she’ll give you a home.
Give her an idea, she will give you a plan.
Treat her like a queen, she’ll make you a
king.
Love her, and she’ll submit herself!
Sin against her and she will make your life
miserable. Agreed???

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Give Thanks

Let’s thank God for seeing the last day of 2013. Many of those we started 2013 with have died, but we are alive, many are terminally ill but we are hale & hearty, many are homeless but we have a roof over our heads. Though we are far from perfect and definitely not better than the deceased & the destitute’s, we are highly favored. Many waters have passed under the bridge, many hopes dashed, many attempts on our lives and our families by the wicked ones but YET WE STAND, and HERE WE STAND.

For the good times & the bad, for the blessings & the lessons, for the goofs & the great uplifting in 2013, thank God.

\=D/ I am grateful for 2013 and hopeful for an incredible 2014. What about u?
By Gbenga Ogunbowale

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Top 10 Best Principles Of Life

Top 10 Best Principles Of Life

(1) Never think or speak negatively about yourself; that
puts you in disagreement with God.

(2) Meditate on your God-given strengths and learn to
encourage yourself, for much of the time nobody else will.

(3) Don’t compare yourself to anybody else. You’re unique,
one of a kind, an original. So don’t settle for being a copy.

(4) Focus on your potential, not your limitations.
Remember, God lives in you!

(5) Find what you like to do, do well, and strive to do it
with excellence.

(6) Have the courage to be different. Be a God pleasure,
not a people pleasure .

(7) Learn to handle criticism. Let it develop you instead of
discourage you.

(8) Determine your own worth instead of letting others do
it for you. They’ll short-change you!

(9) Keep your shortcomings in perspective – you’re still a
work in progress.

(10) Focus daily on your greatest source of confidence -
the God Who lives in you .. !!

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Facebook Joke

Teacher: What will u do after growng up?
Student: Facebooking

Teacher: No! I mean what will u Become?
Student: Admin of facebook pages

Teacher: O My God! I Mean what will u Achieve after u grow up?
Student: Facebook Admin Rights

Teacher: Idiot! I Mean what will u do 4 ur Parents?
Student: I create a page for them on facebooK. “I Luv Mom n Dad.

Teacher: Stupid! What do ur parents want from U? :(
Student: My facebook password.

Teacher: Oh God! What is the purpose of ur Life?;>
Student: Facebook but never face a book..

Student rocks….Teacher shocks

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

By Ibrahim Gana Malgwi Posted in Jokes

It is Christmas Not Xmas

I Literally cannot stand when people put Xmas. X was not born in manger. X didn’t give the blind sight. X didn’t heal the sick. X didn’t raise people from the dead. X didn’t feed 5,000 people with 2 fish and 5 loaves of bread. X didn’t live a perfect life. X didn’t take a cross so that we wouldn’t have to. Christ did, and people really have the nerve to replace his name with X. Really…..?
By: Made In His Image
@BlessedTeen

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

BE INSPIRED by “Sindali J. Mbahi”

MTN came to Nigeria at a time when
nobody wanted to invest in Nigeria, at
a time when Nigerians did not have
phones. Even Zenith Bank refused to
loan MTN cash to operate, UBA
rejected MTN’s offer but today see the
difference.
At least we all know the story of the
only civilian unelected President in
Nigeria – Good-luck Jonathan. We
know how the people said he was not
going to be President; they even made
him acting President. Today the rest is
history.
What about Cowbell? When they
came to
Nigeria, they made milk in a sachet,
Peak was laughing at them – they said
Cowbell was milk for the poor – but
they were right! 3-million poor people
could afford N10 a day for a sachet of
milk. Ok, do the math -3million
people buying milk at N10.00- that
was N30million every single day. In a
month they grossed N900million
(almost N1billion). Even Peak had to
make sachet milk in order to survive in
the market.
So what have people told you? What
have they said you can not do, or you
do not qualify for, or you do not have
experience for? They told Cowbell,
they told Goodluck, they told MTN, but
today the story has changed.
I have a feeling something is
changing for you today! They will
change their strategies just to keep in
step with you. Don’t listen to what
people are saying or what life is
showing you… YES, YOU CAN.
Success is not about where you
graduated from, or what grade you
graduated with, but what graduates
out of you.
If someone has pass through it
before then you/we/I will…
Keep the spirit UP..!
► BE INSPIRED You Will Make it By
God’s grace. By Sindali J Mbahi

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Am Blessed

Gen 12:1-3
The Lord had said to Abram(Ibrahim), “Leave your country, your people and your father’s household and go to the land I will show you.

2 “I will make you into a great nation
and I will bless you;
I will make your name great,
and you will be a blessing.
3 I will bless those who bless you,
and whoever curses you I will curse;
and all peoples on earth
will be blessed through you.(paraphrased)
NIV
I claim this prophesy in Jesus name and it shall be my testimony in Jesus name

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Learn To Say I Love You Quick

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.

Moral Lesson- Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”
From Search Nigeria

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Education In Nigeria

Education in Nigeria

Education in its general sense is a form of learning in which the knowledge, skills, and habits of a group of people are transferred from one generation to the next through teaching, training, or research. Education frequently takes place under the guidance of others, but may also be autodidactic. Any experience that has a formative effect on the way one thinks, feels, or acts may be considered educational.
Education in Nigeria is overseen by the Ministry of Education. And the local authorities take responsibility for implementing policy for state-controlled public education and state schools at a regional level. The education system is divided into Kindergarten, primary education, secondary education and tertiary education.
The Universal Basic Education, UBE, came as a replacement for Nigeria’s Universal Primary Education.UBE system is 6-3-3-4 .The UBE involves six years in primary school, three years in junior secondary school,three years in senior secondary school, and four years in tertiary institution.
The importance of education to human beings cannot be overemphasized. Globally, education is considered as a human right that should be accorded to all human beings, in facts it was the reason why a lot of international human right bodies consider education as a fundamental human right. Education is critical to the development of countries. Most of the first world countries are technologically advanced, and they owe their breakthrough and successes in the field of science and technology to robust and functional educational systems. Think of Japan and China, USA and Germany – these are developed economies. Their automobile and electrical products find markets in Nigeria and other African countries. They earn much revenue by exporting their products and goods to other countries, which boosts their economies. Their thriving economies are driven by both the implementation of prudent economic policies and technological innovations evolved by their citizens. But technological breakthroughs and inventions are achieved by students where the educational systems are virile and functional. Here in Nigeria, mechanical engineers can’t repair their cars, not to talk of manufacturing simple tools. The economy is solely based on crude oil revenues. The nation’s inability to diversify the economy is intrinsically linked to its dysfunctional education system.
Problems facing Nigeria Education is that of responsibility and control, the conflict between the Federal, State and Local Government in the management of education at various level. Take for example, the control of primary education is neither fully in the hand of federal government, nor state or local government this a great barrier for effective educational development at basic level.
In Nigeria today, one should not be talking of unavailable teachers but instability. The unstable condition of teaching staff in Nigerian primary and secondary schools has drastically crippled the system. The question is why instability? the answer is that, the condition of service does not favour them to stay in the profession as such looking always for alternative. Another problem of Education in Nigerian schools today is the politicization of Education; which seriously affected the development of education. Today many educational institutions are opened and run in many states on political ground or other flimsy reasons. In Nigerian schools today admission in universities, colleges, polytechnics, monotechnics, secondary and primary schools are sometimes guided by politicians not academic performance. Parent today used their political offices or influences for the education of their children. A sensitive issue that crippled the development of education is the manner and the why the politician influence the recruitment exercise of teachers. Many people today are after securing job for their children just to have meal ticket not bothering whether their wards qualified or not. This has contributed to recruitment of many unqualified teachers in our schools.
Another problem facing Nigeria education is government’s budgetary allocation to education falls short of the UN stipulation. Due to paucity of funds, lecturers can’t access fund to carry out researches. Educational problems can’t be addressed when there is little money for running the sector. Some state-owned universities are utterly neglected and grossly under-funded. These institutions are better described as “glorified secondary schools”. Are their libraries well-stocked with the most recent books in diverse fields of study? Do they have enough lecture-halls that can hold students during lecture periods? Do they have teaching facilities, instructional materials and equipment for running some science-based courses? These are issues that impede the smooth transmission of knowledge from lecturers to students. Acquisition of knowledge by students can’t take place in schools where there is a dearth of facilities.

This is a critical issue, let us have your opinion on how to make our education one of the best in the world.
Source form the Internet

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

That Challenge May Be A Blessing In Disgusise

When our plans are upset, we become uncomfortable. When our projections and expectations are disrupted, we became discourage. Men look at events superficially, using his past experience to judge the value of the even confronting him. God’s ways are higher than our ways Isaiah 55 v 8-9, Proverb 16 v 25, Proverb 3 v 5, Jeremiah 17 v 8 our past misfortunes dashed hopes, disrupted expectations cannot tie the hands of God. Isaiah 59 v 1, He loves us and can turn every adversity into blessing, Romans 8 v 31-39.

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

“Rev. Awotoye “

By Ibrahim Gana Malgwi Posted in Gospel

Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Top 5 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Let’s get straight to it.

Our actions create our life… Agree? Our thoughts create our actions…. Agree? Our thoughts are communicated to us in the form of language…. Agree? So…how can we live our largest, most expressive and most loving life if we are using vocabulary that makes us smaller, weaker and discouraged.

Do you know anybody, maybe even yourself, who loves to use phrases like: “This only happens to me”, “Life’s a b*tch“, “I caaaaaaaaan’t!”, “Never!”, “I just can’t win”, “I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t”.

The biggest problem with these phrases is not that they are negative or self centered, it’s that they stop you from taking action. Phrases like this paralyze us and fool us into thinking that we have no power and no choice. Which is nonsense.

What if our words always made us and who ever we are talking to feel inspired, empowered and re-energized?

I’ve created a list of some of the top five words and phrases you might want to delete from your vocabulary. I also included some replacements!

1. I can’t

You’re right! If you say you can’t, it’s over. Just that simple. The door is closed and locked. However, maybe you’re right. Maybe at this moment you can’t run 3 miles at once, maybe you can’t complete the project in 3 hours, maybe you can’t immediately forgive someone. With that said, you must learn to. I must learn, I will learn, I’m preparing myself to…is a much more empowering phrase that will propel you to take action, take risks and grow.

2. Failure

There is no failure, only feedback – only results. You might not get the results you want, but don’t confuse that with failure. And, please don’t ever confuse yourself with your results. You are never a failure but you are always learning. I’m learning, is a much more empowering phrases that let’s you know you are aware of the current results and also shows that you are invested in figuring out a way to get the desired outcome. Learning produces growth, while believing in failure produces hopelessness and stress.

3. I’m overwhelmed

Give yourself more credit! You are stronger and more durable than you think. You are not overwhelmed…you are in high demand! Doesn’t that feel so much better. Your self, school, family, boss, business and friends all need a lot from you because you have so much to give – give it. Being in high demand develops character and also helps you learn to prioritize. You might be challenged, you might be put to the test, you might be busy, but you are way too strong to be overwhelmed!

4. But

Stop. Stop! Stop! Please stop building a case against yourself. Stop rationalizing your excuses, procrastination or lack of productivity. “I want to do this but…” “I have always wanted to_________ but…” Stop making it so easy to talk yourself out of action. If you didn’t do something you said you would, or didn’t do something that you wanted to – own it, adjust, and move on. Don’t make excuses or rationales with the word ‘but’ because as we know, when we tell ourselves the same thing over and over again…we start to believe it. Don’t talk yourself out of your highest life.

5. I hate

Hate – a negative emotions that distorts judgement, tenses muscles, shortens breathing and puts us in a weak state of mind. Let’s not overreact and let’s focus on the positive. Why HATE peanuts, liars and traffic when we can prefer almonds, honesty and freedom. I prefer, is clear way of saying what you like, dislike and expect. I prefer is also empowering and will always lead the conversation or experience in a positive direction.

Take control of your words, thoughts, actions and life!

“The limits of my language means the limits of my world.”
― Ludwig Wittgenstein

Promises You Must Make to Yourself

Make these promises to yourself, and keep them.

Repeat after me: “I promise…”

1. “I will accept everything I am, and everything I am not.” – Self-worth comes from one thing: thinking that you are worthy. So be confident. Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren’t. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is only when you accept everything you are, and aren’t, that you will truly find happiness and success. Read The Road Less Traveled.

2. “I will appreciate others for who they are.” – Sometimes the way you think about a person isn’t the way they are. On the outside, maybe they laugh, and maybe they cry; but you would be surprised at everything they keep deep inside. So pay close attention, and love the people you care about for who they are, and not for who you want them to be. In the long run, this is how you will get the best of them.

3. “I will speak kindly and consciously to others.” – Open your mind before you open your mouth. Don’t mix bad words with a bad mood. Just be calm and deal with your emotions. You’ll have many opportunities to change your mood, but you’ll have an extremely tough time recovering the words you have spoken.

4. “I will speak kindly and consciously to myself.” – Wait, what did you just say to yourself? Were they the inspiring, comforting words you would speak to a friend? Or were they the belittling remarks you might shout to an enemy if you had no heart. Or the negative assessments about life you would utter if you had no faith? All day long we speak silently to ourselves, and a part of us believes every word. So stay mindful, and ask yourself, “If I had a friend who always spoke to me in the same way that I am speaking to myself right now, how long would I allow that person to be my friend?”

5. “I will stop trying to control everything.” – I hate to break it to you, but you can’t control everything in your life no matter how many safeguards you put into place. But thankfully, you don’t have to control everything to find peace and happiness. It lives with you always, deep within. More than getting into the nuances of control itself, you should be more interested in encouraging yourself to commit to giving it up, on purpose. See what happens when you loosen your grip, throw your hands into the air, and allow life to just happen and flow as it does, without constant micromanagement. Read The Power of Now.

6. “I will appreciate the beauty of small moments.” – Positive minds live positive lives. There is always, always something to be thankful for and something to smile about. The happiest people are not those who get everything they want; they are those who, while in pursuit of worthy goals, notice and appreciate the beauty and sweetness of everyday moments.

7. “I will do what I think is right.” – What comes easy won’t always last, and what will last won’t always come easy. So do the right things, not the easy things. Whatever comes your way, whatever battle is raging inside you, you always have a choice. In the end, it’s the choices you make that make you who you are. And no matter what, you can always choose to do the right thing.

8. “I will grow from my challenges.” – You can be stunned, awakened, and changed by what happens to you, but choose to grow from it, and refuse to be reduced by it. Repeat after me: “I am determined to live a happy life no matter my challenges. I will turn all my tales of fury into tales of glory. I will turn all of my tales of woe into tales of WOW!”

9. “I will realize and use my power.” – The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. In a world filled with doubt, you must dare to dream. In a world filled with anger, you must dare to forgive. In a world filled with hate, you must dare to love. In a world filled with distrust, you must dare to believe. And once you do, you will find that power you once thought you lacked.

10. “I will follow the path my heart longs to take.” – Life is too short to live with regrets. So love the things that make you smile, let go of the things that make you cry, and believe that everything happens for a reason. Follow the path that your heart longs to take; it’s your time to shine. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. You are far from what you once were, but not yet who you are going to be. Read The Last Lecture.

11. “I will have some fun while I’m doing it all.” – Some people frantically seek a predetermined definition of success as though their entire self-worth depends on whether or not they make it to the top. Their goals and routines are wound tight around stringent routines that they repeat every single day without stopping to breathe. And while discipline is important, think about how much better off they’d be if they unwound their vision just a little – like kite string – and ran with it like an optimistic youth, breathing and working, just for the joy of seeing if they can make it touch the clouds.

How to Generate Ideas Out of Thin Air

Coming up with ideas can be tough, sometimes impossible, or so it seems. I’ve never had a problem with generating ideas, but I’ve discovered that they often do not manifest themselves in the way I expect them to.

Whenever I feel like I’m stuck, I move onto something else, because if I try to force things, it never goes well.

I learned this while playing freeCell game.

I learned that when I let things unfold naturally, everything went smoother and the end results were better. In the end, you have to find your own way of doing things.

I’ve had a lot of time to get familiar with how my body, mind and soul conjure up ideas. I suggest you do the same!

Where Do Ideas Come From Anyway?

This is the part where I get all esoteric on you. If you’re allergic to this kind of stuff, jump over to the next section.

I think ideas come from a place we don’t see, but we know is there, we kind of feel it. Ideas aren’t something that belong to us, they float around until someone grabs them.

How often have you had an idea that you didn’t act on and then a few months later you discovered that someone had “stolen” your idea?

That’s what happens when you don’t use the inspiration you get. If you aren’t putting the ideas you get to good use, what is the point of sending you more?
A Note on Brainstorming

At the moment my favorite way of brainstorming is to take a topic and start writing keywords about anything that comes to mind.

The best way to do this is to use a voice recorder, because the last thing you want to do is censor yourself, which happens a lot if you’re writing.

We all have at least one thing we can do to allow ideas and solutions to appear. For the detective it was taking a drive.

The more you use your brain and solve problems, the better you get at these things. Here are a few of the ways I generate ideas:

1. Washing the Dishes. It’s amazing how many ideas I’ve gotten while washing the dishes. I’ve never been a fan of using a dishwasher. Why do I need one when I can wash everything by hand so much more quickly? Anyway . . . using the dishes helps me focus my mind on one thing. In that sense, it is kind of like meditation. Whenever I need an idea or a problem solved and if there’s dishes around, I go do them. Often it doesn’t help to think more, but to think less.

2. Befriend Your Bed. It’s not what you think. What I mean by befriending your bed is taking a break and lying there, relaxing. If you’ve been trying to come up with a great idea or solution all day, give yourself some time to cool off and take a nap or lie there thinking about whatever you want, but I do recommend making it something positive. If I go to bed, lie down and think about my problem, it doesn’t really work that well.

3. Allowing. Sometimes ideas come when the time is right. I view ideas and inspiration as something that comes naturally, so when I’m not receiving a solution to a problem, it’s me blocking it. When nothing else works, I meditate and release any resistance I might have in my body. I also like to use tools, such as EFT and the Sedona Method, which I talk a lot about on this blog.

4. Observing. I like to take walks with Ingela and our dog, Cleo. It helps me clear my mind. If you decide to go for a walk, stay as present as possible and remember to bring something to record your ideas on. I’ve noticed that once the flood gates open, I want to be ready to capture whatever is coming through. Don’t wait, jot everything down right away.

5. Being Present. I almost hate saying be present, be in the now and focus on what is, because they have been so overused in the last few years. But they have been repeated so many times for a good reason: they work. When you stop worrying and get your ass back to the present moment, you’ll improve your idea generation greatly.

6. Brainstorming. Like I said above, I’ve fallen back in love with brainstorming. Sometimes I use mind mapping software, sometimes I use notepad and sometimes I use good old pen and paper. The only reason I don’t use an audio recorder is because I like to see my ideas, so if I record everything, I’d have to transcribe it all and that takes time.

7. Exercising. Have you ever noticed how clear your mind is after you’ve exercised? I have too, it’s pretty cool. This again goes back to the theme of doing something completely unrelated to what you were doing and letting your unconscious come up with a great idea or solution to a problem you’re having. Our conscious mind is nothing compared to our unconscious.

Relationship Truths for Tough Times

These relationship truths may be a bit difficult to accept at times, but in the end, they will help you weed out the wrong relationships, make room for the right ones, and nurture the people who are most important to you.

  1. Some relationships will be blessings, others will serve as lessons. – Either way, never regret knowing someone.  Everyone you encounter teaches you something important.  Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you.
  2. When times get tough, some people will leave you. – When you are up in life, your friends get to know who you are.  When you are down in life, you get to know who your true friends are.  There will be lots of people around when times are easy, but take note of who remains in your life when times get tough, especially the people who sacrifice the resources they have in their life to help you improve yours when you need it most.  These people are your real friends.
  3. Life is full of fake people. – Sometimes the person you’d take a bullet for ends up being the one behind the gun.  It’s so easy to believe someone when they TELL you exactly what you want to hear.  But when a person SHOWS you who they really are, believe them the first time.  Some people are only nice for their own convenience – the type of people who only call when they need something or come around when it’s beneficial to them.  Not everyone has your best interests at heart.  But sometimes you have to be tricked and mislead by the wrong lovers and friends once or twice in your life in order to find and appreciate your soul mate and real friends when they arrive.
  4. People can easily be insincere with their words.  – When someone truly loves you, they don’t have to say a word.  You will be able to tell simply by the way they treat you over the long-term.  Remember, actions speak much louder than words.  A person can say sorry a thousand times, and say “I love you” as much as they want.  But if they’re not going to prove that the things they say are true, then they’re not worth listening to.  Because if they can’t show it, their words are not sincere.
  5. The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. – Don’t settle to just be someone’s downtime, spare time, part time, or sometime.  If they can’t be there for you all of the time, especially when you need them most, then they’re not worth your time.  Read Codependent No More.
  6. Harsh words can hurt a person more than physical pain. – Taste your own words before you spit them out.  Words hurt and scar more than you think, so THINK before you speak.  And remember, what you say about others also says a whole lot about YOU.
  7. A mistake is an accident.  Cheating and lying are not mistakes. – They are intentional choices.  Stop hiding behind the words “mistake” and “sorry” and stop putting up with those who do.
  8. Excessive jealousy doesn’t tell someone how much you love them. – It tells them how much you dislike yourself.  And no amount of love, or promises, or proof from them will ever be enough to make you feel better.  For those broken pieces you carry, are pieces you must mend for yourself.  Happiness is an inside job.
  9. When people get nasty with you, it’s usually best to walk away. – When someone treats you like dirt, don’t pay attention and don’t take it personally.  They’re saying nothing about you and a lot about themselves.  And no matter what they do or say, never drop down to their level and sling dirt back.  Just know you’re better than that and walk away.
  10. People will treat you the way you let them treat you. – You can’t control them, but you can control what you tolerate.  Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negative people.  Doing so does not mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.  Read Boundaries.
  11. One of the most difficult tasks in life is removing someone from your heart. – But remember, no relationship is a waste of time.  The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.
  12. Resentment hurts you, not them. – Whisper a small prayer of gratitude for the people who have stuck by your side, and send a prayer of good will for those who didn’t.  For should these people hear your prayers, those who have been there will know how much you appreciate them, and those who left will know that you appreciate your own happiness enough to not let resentment destroy your capacity to live with a compassionate heart.
  13. Silence and a half smile can hide a lot of pain from the world. – Pay close attention to those you care about.  Sometimes when a friend says, “I’m okay,” they need you to look them in the eyes, hug them tight, and reply, “I know you’re not.”
  14. True love comes when manipulation stops. – True love comes when you care more about who the other person really is than about who you think they should become, when you dare to reveal yourself honestly, and when you dare to be open and vulnerable.  It takes two to create a sincere environment where this is possible.  If you haven’t found true love yet, don’t settle.  There is someone out there who will share true love with you, even if it’s not the person you were initially hoping for.  Read The 5 Love Languages.
  15. Even the best relationships don’t last forever. – Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be.  People don’t live forever.  Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you.  You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.  And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.

The Day A Chicken Taught Us A Lesson of Easter

Originally posted on Good Time Stories:

Photo Credit: Paul Joseph via CC Flickr

Photo Credit: Paul Joseph via CC Flickr

The following true story shows to all of us how sometimes God uses things that we would never imagine, to teach us lessons. God works in mysterious ways…and sometimes we can learn lessons in ways that we never dreamed of. The following story is a sweet account of a lady, one of her pets, and how her little friend taught a lesson of faith to a group of people.

What do you think of when you think of Easter?

Eggs, of course. The symbols of new life come spring. How better to illustrate the season’s spiritual message?

I looked forward to teaching the lesson of the egg in my Sunday school class as Easter approached, but when I asked the children where eggs came from the answer surprised me.

“Bunnies!” all 12 students shouted.
Bunnies? I thought. Could these kids be so far…

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Morning Skin Care Routine #1

Originally posted on Pretty Pink Pout:

100MEDIA$IMAG0847 It’s spring break this week and since it is spring break, I am currently on day 3 of no-make up. Since I can’t be bothered to put on make up this week, let’s talk some skin care, shall we?

I am not a morning person. I am so not a morning person that I usually shower at night so I can use that time to sleep in the mornings. This little routine is something that does help me get out of bed and ready to face the world.

I picked up the My Chelle Fruit Enzyme Cleanser at Whole Foods and really like it. It’s a nice gel cleanser with a refreshing citrus scent. It’s got all kinds of good stuff pectins and AHAs to help exfoliate and encourage skin cell renewal. Another thing I love about it is that it’s a detergent free non-foaming cleanser (I find foaming cleansers…

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An Unimaginable Love: The Pain and Suffering of Jesus

Originally posted on Good Time Stories:

Photo Credit: Waiting For The World via CC Flickr

Photo Credit: Waiting For The World via CC Flickr

It is a sad reality in today’s world but more and more people have decided that having a relationship with God isn’t worth it. It is a waste of time and that there are other things in their lives that are more important. In addition, a good number of individuals don’t think too highly of God’s son, Jesus. They believe he was just a soft-spoken, wimpy-type man who didn’t have the guts to stand up to anyone and just had an easy life here on earth.

Most people know that Jesus was crucified on a cross but not many people REALLY know the unimaginable amount of pain and suffering that he endured before He died.

He following account is a vivid description of what it was like to be whipped / scourged then crucified on a cross…much in the same ways…

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The Difference Between Men And Women…Very, Very, True!

Ganzymalgwi:

The Diffrence Bettween Men And Women

Originally posted on The Journal:

couplegfLet’s say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.

And then, one evening…

when they’re driving home, a thought occurs to Martha, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: “Do you realize that, as of tonight, we’ve been seeing each other for exactly six months?”

And then, there is silence in the car.To Martha, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself: I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he’s been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I’m trying to push him into some kind of obligation…

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Blondie

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I refuse to give up

Originally posted on The Journal:

I ain't beaten yet wop logo 3 Hey y’all! In my career I’ve met a lot of achievers, both famous and not so famous and I loved collecting their stories. One thing they all had in common was an absolute blind refusal to give up when the load became too heavy.
The ability to pick oneself off the ground…(yet again!) and dust off the seat of our pants is in all of us. If you are experiencing tough times this little series of stories is for you. For some folk, who seem to have been handed it all on a plate, their stories will surprise you!

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WHO? : Blondie

IS? : A band

SAID? : ‘Music is wonderful’

Blondie’s story drew me to it not because it was one of those knock you off your feet type stories, but maybe because it isn’t. But it demonstrates something I talk about an awful lot…

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